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Same-Sex Parenting, Child Sexual Orientation and Sexual Experiences

A central question regarding same-sex parenting is how it might impact the sexual orientation and identification of children raised in such homes.

Only a few published studies have examined this question and nearly all involve lesbian-headed families.

These studies consistently show a markedly greater likelihood of children raised by same-sex parents to identify with and experience same-sex or bi-sexual contact than children raised in heterosexual homes.1

A study published in late 2011 by the US National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS) reported that, "daughters of lesbian mothers were significantly more likely to have had same-sex contact" compared with their peers from heterosexual-parented homes. 2 Boys were not as likely to identify as homosexual as the girls, but more so than boys raised by heterosexual parents.

Girls from planned lesbian-mothered families were:

  • Dramatically more likely to have used emergency contraception.
  • Significantly less likely to have used other forms of contraception.
  • More likely to identify as bisexual. 3

Contrasting Young Adults Identifying as Exclusively Heterosexual by Parent-Type4

Lesbian-Parented

Hetero-Parented

Girls

51%

89%

Boys

78%

96%

Adolescent Use of Emergency Contraception5

Lesbian-

Mothered Girls

Hetero-

Mothered Girls

35%

5%

Girls Reporting Sex with Other Girls6

Lesbian

Mothered Girls

Hetero

Mothered Girls

15%

5%

Boys raised by lesbian moms were less sexually active in all categories, compared with boys raised in mother/father homes, which is consistent with other studies below.

Biblarz and Stacey, 2010

This study only addresses family type and child sexual practice/identification briefly by referring to an unpublished working paper from the University of Amsterdam. While not offering exact data, the authors report that daughters of lesbian mothers were less likely to report "heterosexual identity" than daughters of heterosexual couples. 7 Sons appeared to show similar outcomes with other studies of greater sexual reticence.

Stacey and Biblarz, 2001

The next major study was a review published in the prestigious American Sociological Review by a lead author strongly sympathetic with GLBT causes. Her team describes the outcomes from the two different family types as "striking": 64 percent of young adults raised by lesbian mothers reported considering having same-sex erotic relationships (in the past, now or future). Only 17 percent of young adults in heterosexual families reported this.8

Likewise "girls raised by lesbian mothers appear to have been more sexually adventurous and less chaste." Boys raised in such homes tended to be more sexually reticent. 9

Tasker and Golombok, 1997

One of the first major studies to examine this question – comparing outcomes among lesbian and heterosexual moms – found "significantly more young people from lesbian mother families than from heterosexual mother families reported having experienced a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender." 10

The study shows more young adults raised by lesbian mothers experienced each of the following attitudes and behaviors than peers raised by heterosexual mothers by the following differentials. 11

Attitude/Behavior

Greater Likelihood of Lesbian-Parented Young Adults

Same-Sex Attraction

>2x

Identify as Gay/Lesbian/Bi

2x

Considering S-S Relationships

3x

Considered Such in the Past

7x

Had S-S Relationships

6x

They also reported a mild trend in the data "suggesting that mothers who reported…that they would accept their child's developing a non-heterosexual orientation tended to have children who at follow-up were more likely to report same-gender sexual interest." 12

Such findings seem to indicate a developmental nature for same-sex practice and identification among young adults.

Glenn T. Stanton is the director of family formation studies at Focus on the Family and the author of five books on various aspects of the family, his two most recent: Secure Daughters Confident Sons, How Parents Guide Their Children into Authentic Masculinity and Femininity (Waterbrook, 2011) and The Ring Makes All the Difference: The Hidden Consequences of Cohabitation and the Strong Benefits of Marriage, (Moody, 2011).

Originally published February 2012


1Gartrell, Bos and Goldberg, 2011
2Nanette K. Gartrell, Henny M. W. Bos and Naomi G. Goldberg, "Adolescents of the U.S. National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study: Sexual Orientation, Sexual Behavior, and Sexual Risk Exposure" Archive of Sexual Behavior, 40 (2011):1199-1209, p. 1199.
3Gartrell, Bos and Goldberg, 2011. See Table 3, p. 1204; Table 4, p. 1205.
4Gartrell, Bos and Goldberg, 2011, Table 3; National Survey of Family Growth, Cycle 6, Table 3.5.
5Gartrell, Bos and Goldberg, 2011, Table 4, p. 1205.
6Gartrell, Bos and Goldberg, 2011, Table 4, p. 1205.
7Timothy J. Biblarz and Judith Stacey, "How Does the Gender of Parents Matter?" Journal of Marriage and Family 72 (2010): 3-22, p. 15.
8Stacey and Biblarz, 2001, p. 170.
9Stacey and Biblarz, 2001, p. 171.
10Fiona L. Tasker and Susan Golombok, Growing Up in a Lesbian Family: Effects on Child Development, (New York: The Guilford Press, 1997), p. 111.
11Tasker and Golombok, 1997. Table 6.1, p. 107
12Tasker and Golombok, 1997, p. 117.
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