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Changing Relationship with Teen

Is it normal for a parent's relationship with a child to take on a different tone during the teen years? I was always close to my daughter in the past, but things aren't the same since she became a teenager. I can't connect with her anymore - she's always texting or talking to friends on her cell phone. I feel as if I've lost something precious. What should I do?

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"Dirty" Teenage Dancing

Can you help us deal with the with the issue of sexually suggestive teenage dancing? My teens have been asking to attend parties and school dances, but when my wife and I got a glimpse of some of the lewd activity that goes under the name of "dancing" nowadays we told them "no." Are we being unreasonable?

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Single Mom Seeks Male Role Models for Kids

How can a single mom find a man (or several men) capable of providing the masculine influence and guidance her children need as they approach puberty? I feel it's important for them to have good male role models to look up to and learn from. Any ideas on how I should go about finding one?

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Young Child Has Never Known Dad

How do I answer my preschooler's questions about his father who left the family when I was three months pregnant and hasn't been in touch since? Lately my son has been asking why his dad doesn't live with us. What should I tell him?

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Christian Parents Uncomfortable with School's "Diversity Training"

How should we respond to pro-gay curriculum in the public schools? The administrators of our child's elementary school have announced that they will soon be implementing a course of study in "tolerance" and "diversity training" for students in the lower grades. While we expect and have always encouraged our children to respect everyoneincluding gay and lesbian individualswe resent the school's attempt to undermine the biblical values we teach at home. This is difficult because our family is deeply involved in school sports, student council, PTA, and other extra-curricular programs. We don't want to make waves or to be labeled as "bigoted" or "hateful." What should we do?

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What to Look for in Daycare Options

What factors do we need to consider - what should we look for and what should we avoid - when selecting a daycare facility for our child? Some of our friends and family have had bad experiences in this area. Naturally, we'd like to avoid that if at all possible. Do you have any suggestions?

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Concerns About Daycare

As a working mother, should I be worried about placing my child in a daycare facility? Personally, I have some serious misgivings about this option, but my husband thinks it's fine. Are you aware of any research on this subject or other choices we might consider?

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Ideas for an Inexpensive Spring Break

Do you have any suggestions for things families can do together while the kids are out of school on Spring Break? We don't have a lot of money to spend, but we would like to take advantage of the time off to strengthen our relationships and have some good old fashioned fun. Any ideas?

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How Dads Teach Daughters About Modesty

How can fathers help their girls learn about modesty? I want my daughter to get a handle on this concept before she becomes a teen, but I feel awkward about raising this subject with her. I realize that as a dad I can either be a big asset to her in this area or embarrass her and make her feel uncomfortable. What's the right role for a father here?

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Parent Concerned About Teenage Prom

What's your perspective on high school proms? They sure have changed since my day, and I'm a little nervous about allowing my teenager to go. Can you offer me any practical guidance?

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Dad Concerned About Preteen Girl's Interest in Boys

Is twelve years old too young for a girl to be expressing a keen interest in boys? My husband and I have a difference of opinion on this point. Our daughter and her best friend like to talk about "cute" boys and often tease each other about who has a crush on whom. To me this seems like normal preteen behavior. My husband, on the other hand, feels that she is too young and that such activity will lead to worse behavior when she is older. I respect my husband very much and want to maintain solidarity with him. At the same time, I can't help wondering whether he's being too strict. What do you think?

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Child Angry About Dad's Out-of-Town Job

How can we help our daughter adjust to the stress and strain associated with my husband's new job in another city? We only see him on weekends, which makes her very angry and depressed. Despite our reassurances, she insists that her Daddy doesn't love her anymore. What should we do?

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Santa Claus and Other Christmas Traditions

What's your perspective on the celebration of Christmas? How do you understand the meaning of the holiday, and what are your feelings about some of the more "fanciful" symbols and traditions, including Santa Claus, that have become such a big part of it?

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Making Family Memories

How can we be more intentional about doing things together that will strengthen relational bonds and family ties in the future? I know it's important to make good memories, but it's tough to find time for it with so much going on in day-to-day life. Do you have any suggestions or advice?

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Talking to Young Kids about Santa Claus

How should I talk to my elementary-grade child about Santa Claus? She's been asking a lot of questions about him. I am ready to tell her the truth, but I'm hesitant because I don't want her to think that we've been "lying" to her all these years.

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Adolescent Son Is Shy and Awkward around Girls

How can I help my fifteen-year-old son feel more confident around girls his age? He's still very shy and nervous in mixed company, and I'm looking for ways to give him a boost in this area. Any suggestions?

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Preventing Teens from Running Away

What should we do if we suspect that our adolescent son is making plans to run away? Is there something we can do to prevent this from happening?

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Confronting a Rebellious and Promiscuous Teen Daughter

Do you have any advice for dealing with a teenage daughter who's recently gotten involved in premarital sex and other destructive activities? While hunting for an extra set of car keys in my daughter's purse I came across a condom and a cigarette lighter. Needless to say, I was devastated. Should I confront her about my discovery?

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How to Handle Working Mom Guilt

How can I stop feeling guilty and resist the temptation to be "Superwoman"? I'm a working mother with a preschooler and a couple of school-age kids who are also involved in lots of extra-curricular activities. I have to admit that I feel bad whenever I'm not doing something "productive." My family's schedule is so tight, and there's so much to be done, that I feel compelled to "work" and sometimes that involves multi-tasking all the time. If I don't, I quickly become gripped by the fear that things won't get done.

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Toddlers and Media

As parents of a two- to three-year-old, how do we begin placing healthy limits on our child's exposure to television, video games, and the Internet? We've heard a lot about the negative impact of electronic media on adolescents and pre-teens, and we want to start encouraging good habits in this area as early as we can. What can we do?

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Advice on Teens and Online Chat Rooms

What's your opinion on teens getting involved in social networking and online chat rooms? I've read some of the teen conversations on the sites my daughter wants to visit, and they seem relatively harmless. But I'm still afraid of losing control over my child's interactions with her peers. Should I be concerned?

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Cell Phone Guidelines for Kids

Should children be allowed to have smart phones or mobile devices? Our oldest has started driving and all of our kids are constantly on the move. My spouse thinks they need phones in order to stay better connected with us. Do you think this is a good idea?

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Child Exposed to Violent and Sexual Movies at Friend's House

Can a one-time viewing of a violent or sexually explicit film or TV show have negative long-term effects on children? I just learned my grade-schooler saw an inappropriate cable movie while spending the day at a friend's house. What should I do and how can I prevent this happening in the future?

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Helping Kids Develop Good Eating Habits

Do you have any tips for parents who want to inspire their children to maintain a healthy diet? Our two children are still very small, but we want to start training them early to develop good eating habits.

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