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Pastor Addicted to Pornography

Do you have any help for ministerial professionals who find themselves addicted to pornography? I've finally come to the point of realizing that I have a serious problem. What makes my case especially painful and shameful is that I'm a pastor of a local church. If anyone were to find out, my ministry would be destroyed. I don't know where to turn or who to talk to. Can you help me?

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Addicted to Pornography

Can you help me overcome my obsession with pornography? It's really hard to admit this, but I think I might even be addicted. Is there any hope for a person in my situation?

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Singles and Sexual Desire

If I'm meant to live a single life, why do I have a sex drive? Let me explain why I'm asking this question. I'm a forty-something male, never married and with no kids. Through prayer and practical circumstances I've come to believe that it's God's will for me to remain single all my life. There's just one problem: He hasn't taken away my sex drive. What's the point of having a strong and healthy sex drive if I can't use it?

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Lust vs. Normal Sexual Desire

Why would God plant within a man the uncontrollable urge to look at every attractive woman he sees and then say, "Oh, by the way, lust is adultery and adultery is sin. So good luck struggling with that for the rest of your life!" If lust is a sin, why did He create me with sexual desires? This just doesn't make sense to me. It's hard to believe that a God who says we are "overcomers" and "more than conquerors" through Him would set us up for failure in this way. Can you help me sort this out?

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"Sexual Immorality" and Physical Intimacy before Marriage

When it comes to physical expressions of affection before marriage, how far is "too far"? My boyfriend and I are struggling in this area and wondering where to draw the line. Can you help me understand what the Bible means by "sexual immorality?"

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Homosexuality in God's Created Order

If God is opposed to homosexuality, why did He invent it in the first place? I'm deeply confused about this. If everything God makes is good, then homosexuality must be good too. What's your response to that?

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Love, Sex, and Same-Sex Orientation

Does God expect gay people to live without love? I'm a Christian, and I have a sincere and earnest desire to live a holy life. At the same time, I struggle with intense same-sex attractions. Other believers have told me that my obligation in this area is the same as that of a Christian heterosexual single: that God expects me to keep myself pure by refraining from immoral sexual behavior. This seems terribly cold. Am I condemned to live my whole life alone, without the joys of love and human partnership?

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Biblical Perspective on Homosexuality and Same-Sex Marriage

Is it true that the Scriptures don't really have anything to say about homosexuality and the legalization of gay marriage? I've heard this argument advanced many times – so often, in fact, that I've become seriously confused about the issue. What's your perspective?

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Explaining Porn Addiction to Kids

Is there a good way to talk with children about a spouse's addiction to sexually explicit material? My husband is in the process of recovering from this problem and is making good progress. Our marriage is stronger than ever, but our kids are starting to ask questions about all the meetings we've been attending. I'm not sure what to say in response.

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Child Exposed to Pornography by Mom's Ex-Husband

How should I talk to my child about the images of naked women she saw at her dad's house? She's always had a close relationship with her father – my ex-husband – but the other day I discovered that she's been exposed to pornography at his house. What should I do?

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Masturbation and Widowhood

Does God condemn a widowed woman who engages in self-stimulation as a way of relieving sexual tension? My husband passed away within the past year. As you can imagine, his death has brought a lot of pain, anguish and practical readjustment for me. I've been able to get through most of this with the assistance of friends, but there's one area where they can't help me – namely, the sudden loss of my sex life. It's embarrassing to say, but I've masturbated sometimes as a way of dealing with the pressure. I feel horribly guilty about this, but I don't know how to stop.

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Empathy and Advice for Chronic Masturbator

How do I overcome my ongoing struggle with sexual self-gratification? I can't seem to resist the temptation to masturbate, but I feel terribly guilty afterward. Again and again I'm haunted by the words of Romans 7:15 - "I do not understand what I am doing, because I do not practice what I want to do, but I do what I hate." I honestly have no idea how to lift myself out of this pit. Can you help me?

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Questions and Concerns about Masturbation

Is sexual self-stimulation a serious sin, or just a harmless and natural way of releasing sexual energy? What can a person do to break the habit of masturbation if he or she is feeling guilty or uneasy about it?

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Preparing for Adolescence: Girls

How can I help my daughter get ready for the physical, emotional and psychological changes that adolescence brings?

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Preparing for Adolescence: Boys

How can I help my son get ready for the physical, emotional and psychological changes that adolescence brings?

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Discussing Puberty and Sexuality With a Pre-Teen

Do you have any advice for a parent of a pre-teen who's trying to gear up for "the talk" about sexuality and "the facts of life?" It's time we got around to discussing puberty and sex, but I'm worried the conversation will be awkward. Can you help me?

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Parents Raising a Boy As a Girl

Are parents justified in choosing to view their son as a "gender-creative child" - or, to put it plainly, in raising him as a girl? This is exactly what some close friends of ours have decided to do. Their son is now six years old. They claim that he was actually supposed to be a girl, and is, except for the male genitalia. Needless to say, we're rather shocked by all of this. What's more, we don't know exactly what to tell these friends when they ask for our opinion or advice. Do you have any insights to offer?

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Concerns About Getting a Marriage License in a Same-Sex Marriage State

Would it be wrong for my bride-to-be and me to submit our relationship to the regulations of a government that has seen fit to legalize same-sex unions? Would we be endorsing sin by applying for a marriage license in a state that has moved in this direction? We believe in biblical marriage, and we plan to tie the knot at church in a God-honoring ceremony in the presence of family and friends. At the same time, we're thinking seriously about not getting a marriage license. How do you feel about this?

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What the Bible Says about Public Nudity

What's wrong with nudity and nudism? I'm a committed Christian, but my question is sincere. Recently I've become involved with a group of people who practice nudism as a way of promoting good health and getting in touch with nature. They've convinced me that it's a wonderful way of life. Why should this be a problem? Nudism isn't a sexual thing. It actually helps break the connection between nudity and sex. Besides, it wasn't until Satan came along that man started wearing clothes. Can you give me a good biblical reason why I shouldn't continue my involvement with this group?

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Christian Morality vs. Sexual Repression

Is Christian sexual morality unhealthy or unnatural? I'm young woman who is trying to live a chaste life, but my boyfriend is always pressuring me. He says that my concerns about sexual morality are just an expression of an unhealthy "fear"-that in trying to live by God's standards, I'm basically rejecting the beauties of creation and avoiding the joys of life in the flesh as God intended it. I'm finding it harder and harder to answer him when talks this way. Can you help me?

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Discussing Transgender Issues with Teens

Howcanwehelpourteenagesonanddaughterwhentheyrunacrossinstancesofgender confusioninhighschool?Aclosefriendofmydaughternowidentifiesasaboyandwantstobetreatedasone.Onthesurface,mykidsaretryingtobecoolaboutthewholething,butIcantellit'sthrownbothofthemforaloop.Andhowshouldwerespondtoschoolofficialswho seemtopromotetheideathatthesesituationsarenormalandshouldbetakeninstride?



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