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Remaining Positive When Facing a Chronic Illness

Rebuilding your life with chronic illness begins by seeking God. Learn other ways you can help manage chronic pain or illness.

by Mary J. Yerkes

A diagnosis of chronic illness can bring with it feelings of denial, anger and grief. But, at some point, the emotions subside and you are faced with a harsh reality—you are no longer the person you once were. Chronic illness has robbed you from your sense of identity and purpose. Do you even stand a chance of rebuilding a meaningful life?

According to Judy Gann—a breast cancer survivor who suffers from fibromyalgia and other autoimmune disorders—you can. She took her experiences of living with chronic illness and her desire to comfort others and wrote The God of all Comfort: Devotions of Hope for Those Who Chronically Suffer.

"God has transformed a shy, quiet woman into one who shares His comfort and hope with chronic illness support groups throughout the United States," she says.

Mari Eronen discovered her "creative side," after reducing her work hours due to complications from Type 1 Diabetes.

"The part-time work hours may be a drain on finances, but they are definitely enriching my quality of life!"

Judy and Mari have rediscovered joy and purpose in their lives, and they are not alone. Many with chronic illness have rebuilt their lives and have gone on to launch new ministries, careers and friendships. Others have developed gifts and talents they never knew they had.

Making this life transition yourself can be easier if you know how other sufferers of a chronic illness dealt with it. The key is to keep it in perspective.

"Rebuilding or redefining normal is a long process," explains Georgia Shaffer, a psychologist, professional speaker and life coach. "It can take years."

Given just a 2 percent chance to live in 1989 after a recurrence of breast cancer, Georgia lost her job because she was too weak to work, and her husband walked out on her. After piecing her shattered life back together, she wrote A Gift of Mourning Glories—Restoring Your Life After Loss, to serve as a guidebook to help others rebuild their lives.

Here are a few of her suggestions:

Volunteering builds self-esteem, contributes to feelings of value and worth, helps overcome social isolation and gives you a sense of belonging. To learn more about volunteer opportunities, visit Rest Ministries* or Christian Women Today.

Rebuilding your life while living with a chronic illness can seem like a daunting task. Take heart. With a little knowledge, creativity and encouragement from others, it's possible.

Just remember that God has a plan and purpose for your life, and he will lead you each step of the way.