The Challenges of Dating Later in Life
Jenna, Elisabeth, John and Suzanne all thought they would have found Mr. or Mrs. Right years earlier, but life didn't turn out the way they planned. By now, these thirty- and forty-somethings have all been playing the dating game a lot longer than they'd care to admit.
But first let's set the record straight: This group may feel frustrated with their dating choices, but they're still a happy, emotionally well-adjusted bunch who all want to marry. What's more, they have good jobs, attend church regularly and are responsible, civic-minded citizens. Still, their marital status begs each one to confront the one maddeningly elusive question: Why haven't I found my true love?
Any dating newbie can find the suggestions we want to share with you in this series of articles applicable, but we're especially wanting single adults who have been around the dating block a few times to sit up and take notice.
Remember Jenna, Elisabeth, John and Suzanne? See if their dating bios and circumstances resonate with you:
- Jenna has typically dated "unsafe men" who have never respected her boundaries. What she's learned over the years is to look for positive, Godly men who respect and encourage her.
- Elisabeth's standards have always been a little too picture-perfect. God's grace has helped her to see that only Christ was perfect. Now, instead of honing in on her date's flaws, she works hard to fixate on his heart and his relationship with God.
- John wants to finally settle down and date a "good Christian woman." The problem, he realizes, is that he has never really stopped sowing his wild oats. Frustration and dissatisfaction mounts when his lifestyle choices impede healthy, long-term relationships.
- Then there's Suzanne. Deep down, she knows marrying a non-Christian will cause spiritual problems for her down the road, but she’s so tired of being alone that she’s considering compromising her faith.
Do you feel like you've turned a corner in your dating life, like Jenna and Elisabeth? Or, like John and Suzanne, are you struggling to find peace in your marital status? Perhaps you're experiencing other dating-related struggles, like feeling concerned about growing older without a mate. Maybe you're wondering how you can become more interesting and attractive to men and women now.
Dating is tough at any age, so we'd like to help. While we may not be able to make your marital dreams come true, we can give you the next best thing: encouragement, guidance and suggestions to help make your dating life a little easier.
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