Focus on the Family

Warning Signs of an Affair

Though affairs are often unpredictable, there are recognizable symptoms of a troubled marriage.

by Beth J. Lueders

Elena discovered that her husband wasn't just shopping on eBay® all those late nights on the computer. Steve just happened to see his wife kissing the kickboxing instructor in the gym's parking lot.

Most extramarital affairs do not start out with the candid revelations: "my husband is out of town" or "my wife won't suspect a thing." Generally something has gone awry in a marriage before a dissatisfied spouse utters these seductive lines.

Factors That Can Lead to Unfaithfulness

The following are factors that can lead to marital unfaithfulness:

Quick Infidelity Quiz

If your marriage partner exhibits several of these following behaviors, your marriage may be in danger of an affair:

Many factors can drive a marriage to the rocks. Help ensure an enriching relationship for a lifetime by taking steps today to guard the fidelity of your marriage.

One of the best recommendations for troubled marriages is enlisting the help of a licensed, Christian counselor. Often, involving a third party — especially one who's trained to counsel — can force root issues out into the open and guide you and your spouse on the road to healing. Focus on the Family donors have also made it possible for us to offer limited live counseling support over the phone. To find out more about speaking with our counselors at Focus on the Family, please visit our Counseling FAQ.