Focus on the Family

Coping with Grief

The healthiest way to cope with the loss of a child is to accept and embrace your grief.

by Tammy Tate, R.N., L.C.P.C.

Grief is a powerful and intense emotion, and it is especially painful when it involves the anticipated loss of a much-wanted child. There will be days when you are tempted to deny or run away from the pain, but the healthiest way to cope with your grief is to embrace it.

Be aware that women and men respond to grief differently. Women tend to cry and share their feelings openly, while men often hold their emotions inside. This difference, if not recognized, can create frustration and distance between partners. Open communication and the ability to accept and respect one another’s grief response is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Ways to relieve stress:

Find spiritual comfort by praying, reading encouraging Scriptures, and by talking with a friend, pastor or spiritual advisor.