How Family and Friends Can Help
If someone you know is facing the loss of a baby, don't retreat. They need to know you care.
Perhaps someone you know and love is facing the impending death of their baby. Naturally, you want to be very sensitive to their pain. Families often feel isolated and abandoned after receiving a lethal prenatal diagnosis. They may feel awkward trying to explain their baby’s condition and therefore pull away in an effort to protect their emotions.
As a family member or close friend, you may feel equally uncomfortable. You are afraid you will say the wrong thing or create an awkward silence. These situations can sometimes cause you also to retreat, but don’t. Your loved ones need you. They want to know that you care about them and their baby.
Simple ways to show you care:
- Acknowledge their baby and call him or her by name.
- Be supportive of the family. Accept their decisions without expressing judgment.
- Prepare a meal.
- Offer to run errands or clean the house.
- Offer child care so Mom and Dad can have a night out.
- Ask if you can help to coordinate the efforts of others wishing to help.
- Remember to listen, be gentle, and be available when needed.
- Tell them that you are praying for them and think of them often.
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