Unspoken communication—a raised eyebrow, a folding of the arms across the chest, a hand on the shoulder, an e-mail—can be at least as powerful as words. It can help build your marriage—or chip away at it.
Communicating without talking can be tricky. You may not always realize what you're "saying." And your silent messages may contradict your spoken ones, confusing your spouse.
It's no wonder some wives begin to ask early in their marriages, "Why does my husband say one thing and act totally different?" Some husbands, on the other hand, ask, "If she's really attracted to me as she used to be, why does she act like a cold potato every time I approach her?"
The unspoken can be very difficult to interpret properly. Nevertheless, nonverbal communication has its positive side. To help you and your mate make the most of those silent messages, here are some principles to remember: