Making Time for Romance and Intimacy

married couple enjoying a cool beverage outside
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We often think of a romantic getaway as a vacation to escape the responsibilities of life and get some rest. In reality, however, couples are wise if they look at all areas of their lives and set aside time to meet the key strategic need of that season.

We are multifaceted human beings, and life occasionally throws in curves of change and roller coasters of rough circumstances. As a result, the kind of getaway you need this year may not be what you’ll need next year. In addition, the couple who establishes a certain type of traditional getaway every year or two will experience more passion than those who wait for their interest to grow spontaneously.

For example, we always try to get away for 24 hours to just recover physically after a book deadline. We always push ourselves and are sleep and fun deprived, so we head to a hotel with room service and nice workout facilities. We take off our watches (and our clothes) and sleep until our bodies wake us. We set no alarms. We eat when we are hungry. We enjoy one another sexually when we want to. The goal is to have absolutely no agenda.

Another consistent getaway we have included is part of our summer vacation. Sometime during our family vacation, most often the second day out because day one is sleeping and resting, I interview Bill about our life. We touch base on our ministry, family, and home goals. Once the year’s plan is in place, I can relax, and that means Bill can relax.

There are many levels upon which a couple needs to build unity and intimacy. It is like looking at a diamond with its many facets. We are more than one dimensional in the way we, as couples in love, relate to one another. We suggest you develop intimacy in these areas:

  • Social
  • Financial
  • Recreational
  • Vocational
  • Parental
From Red-Hot Monogamy, published by Harvest House Publishers. © 2006 Bill and Pam Farrel. Used by permission.

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