Let's say that deployment is fast approaching, and you're bracing yourself for the separation. The spouse at home will serve as both mom and dad as well as "officer in charge" of all domestic affairs. In her book When Duty Calls, Carol Vandesteeg suggests holding a "Change of Command" ceremony in which you reassign household tasks and clearly state your expectations for the children's behavior.
Regardless of which spouse holds down the fort, he or she should be well-versed in the following areas before the deployment begins:
Husband and wife should be equally able to pay the bills and handle family finances, since a short-notice separation may not allow time for additional training.
Save yourself time and energy by organizing legal and personal documents.
Keep the following documents in a special binder, file cabinet or fireproof safe:
Know the routine for basic household maintenance.
*For comprehensive pre-deployment checklists, check with the service member's unit as well as USAA for its Deployment Assistance Advice & Assistance Checklist.
Even when deployment takes the husband out of the home and mom is clearly in control, a father can still maintain his leadership position in the family.