Marriage requires the same kind of thoughtful attention, planning and deliberate investment that we give to our physical health and financial portfolios.
A good way to start taking inventory of your marriage, assessing its strengths and weaknesses, is to consider your level of commitment.
Ask yourself the following:
Commitment is something many claim to have, yet few seem to understand. It is a concept that has been used, abused and improperly modeled for so long that we've lost sight of what genuine devotion looks like.
Where marriage is concerned, commitment is the decision to continue in the relationship. Dr. Michael P. Johnson, Sociology Professor at Penn State University, views the decision to continue in a relationship as a function of three different experiences, or levels, of commitment — personal, moral and structural. These three types of commitment can be described as follows:
Although one facet of commitment may sound "better" or more virtuous than another, our relationships benefit from having all three. The active presence of multiple facets, or layers, of commitment makes one's marital resolve stronger than if only one facet were present. Consider the words of Ecclesiastes 4:12 in this light: "A threefold cord is not quickly broken" (NKJV).
Another important aspect of commitment is that it must be made, or re-made, on an ongoing basis. There's more to it than just saying you're committed to your marriage or simply "feeling good" about your relationship. Commitment must be played out in your actions. Instead of allowing yourself to drift away from your spouse, make a deliberate move toward closer relationship. Strengthen and nourish your marital commitment.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
If you're struggling in the area of commitment or you're unsure how to begin strengthening the level of commitment in your marriage, try the following: