Don't Leave the Blessing to Chance
How you decide to bless your kids isn't as important as deciding to be intentional about blessing them.
Before you actually get to work on your written blessing, there are a few more things I would urge you to keep in mind. First, don't assume your children will automatically know your heart or "just figure out" what you think about them. How you choose to bless a child is not nearly as important as making that choice — being intentional about the blessing.
A Lifetime of Blessing
But don't stop there.
The kind of planned, formal blessing we have described can be wonderful and life-changing, but if you really want your child to thrive, you will not only give the blessing but also live it, seeking out ways to include meaningful touch, spoken and written words, messages of high value and a special future, and evidence of active commitment in every day you spend together, every moment.
At the breakfast table and over bedtime prayers, some parents memorize a little blessing to say or sing to their children at these moments.
In the car on the way to school (that can be the perfect time for an offhand conversation with a teen).
While on the soccer field, in the movie theater, at church, at the park or in the backyard, look for ways to inject little words of blessing in everyday conversation.
Make it a habit, and the blessings will flow through your life.
Reprinted by permission. The Blessing, John Trent and Gary Smalley, 1993 and 2011, Thomas Nelson Inc. Nashville, Tennessee. All rights reserved.