What You Can Do
Discover what you can do to defend your values at your child’s school and how you can express your viewpoint and be heard.
Be aware. As parents and taxpayers, you have the right — and responsibility— to know what your child is being taught in public school classrooms.
- You can ask to see the curriculum being used to teach your child about such topics as "family diversity," bullying prevention, "tolerance," "social justice," and other topics that are often used in schools to introduce homosexuality.
- Check out what's in the school library. For examples of what you might find, see this list of "recommended" resources. Most schools now have an online library catalogue that makes it easy to search for certain topics. The content of your child's school library often provides a good indicator of what you may also find in classrooms and curriculum.
- You can also ask to preview any videos being used to address family issues or sexual topics in the school classrooms or during general assemblies.
Be proactive. Don't wait until inappropriate material gets into classrooms, or your child's hands, to do something about it. Once bad policies and curricula get in, it's hard to get them out.
- Educate school personnel and elected officials. Focus on the Family has created the website TrueTolerance.org to help you provide the best information and data available on this issue to your school officials. In fact, you can email information to them from the website's "Take Action" page.
Promote the right solution. Recognize that bullying and peer abuse is wrong and should be stopped. But this can and should be done without politicizing classrooms and introducing controversial, sexual topics to children against their parents' wishes.
- Use Statistics to Make Your Case: Statistics clearly show that bullying is widespread among children for a myriad of reasons. That's why children are best served by a policy that gives equal protection to everyone and puts the emphasis on where it belongs — on prohibiting the wrong actions of the bullies. See "Fast Facts on Bullying."
- Counteract bad policies by offering an effective and legally sound alternative like the model anti-bullying policy developed by the Alliance Defense Fund. Download it from TrueTolerance.org. See "Latest Issues" and "Take Action."
Counteract deception with facts. Use facts to expose deceptive teaching that may be inappropriate for children or violate parental rights and religious freedoms.
- The "Educate Yourself" section of TrueTolerance.org provides concrete examples of "tolerance" and other lessons that homosexual-advocacy groups use to teach young children about things like gay marriage. Use this information to provide documentation to your school officials and concerned citizens.
How to respond to the school
- If you are concerned about what your child is being taught on any subject, express those concerns starting first with the classroom teacher or appropriate educator in charge of the program of concern. Then, if necessary, request a meeting with the principal. Be sure to keep your tone respectful and civil, even if you are understandably upset.
- If you are unable to receive a satisfactory answer from the teachers or the school principal, raise the issue with the school board. Organize other concerned parents to go to the school board meeting with you. Present your concerns in a clear and concise manner, emphasizing that attempts to work with school administrators have failed.
- If the school board does not adequately respond to your concerns, make calls to the local news media about your concerns. Submit letters to the editor to your local newspapers. Get the issue out in front of the public – make others aware of what your school is doing (or not doing).
- If all else fails, consider removing your children from the school and either home-school or enroll the student in a school that will respect parental authority in issues of sexuality.
- Consider serving on school committees that review textbooks and other classroom material.
For more tips on approaching school officials with your concerns, see "Do's and Don'ts for Approaching School Officials."
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