Focus on the Family

Sex Education: Where Do I Start Looking for What's Being Taught?

Do you ever wonder what is being taught to your children during sex education in the classroom? Let Focus on the Family help you find out.

by Chad Hills

First, start by looking at what your state requires schools to teach regarding sex education. Note whether the school requires parents to "opt-in" (meaning your children can't receive sexuality instruction without your written permission) or "opt-out" (meaning you can remove your child from class, by submitting a request) of sex education classes and if adequate parental notification occurs.

Next, learn about your specific district's policy on sex education by visiting your district's website.

Once you are educated on state and district requirements, you can confidently speak with your school's administrator or committee members, who oversee the selection of sex-education materials.

Don't Be Afraid To Ask

Now that you know what your state and district require for sex education in public schools, the next step is to contact your child's school and ask to speak with the Principal. He or she will know who oversees the sex-education process and can put you in contact with that person or committee member. Since Christians are called to be “salt and light” (Matthew 5:13-16) in this world, it's important display your desire to work with this person, not against them. So ask questions with a friendly, courteous demeanor and maintain a kind, considerate, civil and professional tone.

Questions to ask:


This article is a 2013 extension of the article originally posted on in 2012.