Focus on the Family

Talking To Your Kids About Sex

By Chad Hills

Teaching your child about sex

Parental direction is a powerful influence in our children's lives and the future choices they will make, especially when it comes to minimizing dangerous behaviors.

As parents, it is not only our privilege to share God's design for sexuality, it's our responsibility. It's also our obligation to keep watch over what is being taught to our children in school and to speak up if they are being misled or given instruction contrary to our family's values at school.

Proverbs 22:6 instructs parents to, "Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it."

For parents, that means talking to your children about sexuality in a way that reflects biblical standards and also applies to the cultural pressures of today. And, in too many homes, that conversation is not taking place.

Many parents are surprised by research showing that many teens are becoming sexually active before their parents discuss sex with them, and less than one-third of parents had ever talked to their children about the reasons to delay sex until marriage.

What's the rush? When two in every five babies are born to unwed mothers (not including aborted pregnancies), it's never too early to introduce God's design for sex. The good news is the majority of high school students (52.6%) have not (yet) had sex, so let's capitalize on — and encourage — this healthy trend!

Focus on the Family is here to help you connect and talk with your kids about sex in a way that honors God, upholds His design for sex and equips your children with healthy boundaries and a biblical worldview.