Before the Talk – Dealing with Our Past (Part 2)

Whether we like it or not, parents are God's designated messengers to share His design for sexuality with our children. Our past does not disqualify — or excuse — us from being the primary sex educators for our children.

The good news is your teen will hear about God's design from the person who loves them most — you, their parent. The difficult part is some parents may still be healing from their own sexual past, even as they talk with their kids.

Here are some suggestions to begin this process:

  •  If you have not yet done so, talk with your spouse about your past. This discussion will allow your relationship to become closer and free of secrets. (1 John 1)
  • Talk with your pastor about your past. Your pastor may provide wise counsel for support and healing.
  • Talk with a professional Christian counselor. Keep in mind that the healing process may require a series of counseling sessions. Find a Christian counselor near you.
  •  If appropriate, schedule counseling time for you and your spouse together.

Remember, this is your moment!

If you do not take the responsibility and time to teach your child, influences in the culture will.  


About the original author:  Linda Klepacki is a registered nurse and taught abstinence education for more than 20 years. 

Original article publish date 2004, and revised in 2010 and 2013. Copyright © 2013 Focus on the Family.

Next in this Series: Why Teach Abstinence?