Robert Paul

Robert Paul

Robert Paul is Vice President of the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute. He’s also a licensed, professional counselor and a popular public speaker at conferences and enrichment events around the world. Robert is a co-founder of Focus on the Family’s Hope Restored program that ministers to couples experiencing difficult marriage problems. He has appeared on numerous radio and TV programs and has co-authored four books, the most recent of which is titled 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage. He and his wife, Jenni, reside in Missouri and have four grown children and six grandchildren.

Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on their book 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage, Drs. Greg Smalley and Bob Paul describe how cultural myths and fairy-tale expectations about marriage have a detrimental effect on couples, and how knowing and applying biblical truth can help those couples develop a thriving marriage. (Part 2 of 2)

Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on their book 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage, Drs. Greg Smalley and Bob Paul describe how cultural myths and fairy-tale expectations about marriage have a detrimental effect on couples, and how knowing and applying biblical truth can help those couples develop a thriving marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

Illustration of the equation 1+1=1 as a symbol of marital unity

A Marital Unity Myth: 1+1=1

Uncover the lie that distorts true marital unity

How to Create an Emotionally Safe Marriage Environment

Three journeys fill the scope of marriage: the husband’s, the wife’s and the united (or marital) journey. The only journey you can walk without your spouse’s consent is your own.

How to Care for ‘Negative’ Emotions in Your Marriage

Emotions — even anger and hurt — have a purpose. These strong feelings need to be appropriately understood, valued and utilized so you can better care for yourself and know your spouse deeply.

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How Self-Care Can Turn a Good Marriage to a Great One

Roadblocks to self-care affect marriages because a spouse who isn’t cared for comes to the marriage depleted instead of ready to give. A marriage thrives when each spouse is seeking his or her own care.

How Couples Can Agree on Parenting Issues

Parenting disagreements strain even good marriages. The danger is letting differing perspectives wear down marital unity, especially if you side with the child’s desires instead of your spouse’s.

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‘Submission’ May Not Mean What You Think It Means

One Scripture verse keeps couples at odds even though its intent is to teach unity. If you consider the context, culture and language in the book of Ephesians, you can better understand this verse.

What does self care look like

Excellent Self-Care Requires Finding A Healthy Balance

The great commandment teaches that self-care is not selfish — it’s actually foundational to a healthy marriage.

You’re on the Same Team

In a marriage there is no such thing as a win/lose scenario when you are on the same team.