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Staying Married Through the Storms of Life

Staying Married Through the Storms of Life

Jeff and Sarah Walton have faced a series of crises that have severely impacted their marriage and family. Financial issues and mental and physical ailments have challenged the Walton family for an extensive duration of time, yet they remain faithful. In this broadcast, the Walton’s compare their journey to the Old Testament book of Job, outlining key passages about staying faithful to God despite unexplained suffering.
Original Air Date: April 12, 2022

[SFX of storm, failing engine of airplane]

Wife: Pull up honey! We’re going to crash!

Husband: Give me that radio! Mayday! Mayday! We’re caught in storm, losing altitude fast! Wife: It’s no use!

Husband: Come on, honey! You gotta help me here!

Wife: I just don’t know if this marriage is worth saving!

John Fuller: Well, sometimes the challenges that you and your spouse are facing seem impossible. And you might even wonder if it’s time to kinda bail on your marriage. Well, today on Focus on the Family, we’re gonna learn how hardships and suffering can actually strengthen your relationship and help you both grow closer to God in the process. Thanks for joining us today, your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, when a man and woman are preparing for marriage, they tend to focus on the positives and how wonderful their lives are going to be, uh, looking toward the future. That’s a good thing, a natural thing.

John: Yeah.

Jim: We even say the vows for better, for worse, for richer, for poor, in sickness and in health. And I think when Jean and I, when we got married, we were thinking a lot more about the better the richer, the healthier part of that equation. We didn’t anticipate the bumps that naturally come with marriage, but the fact is every marriage will pass through some kind of storm, maybe multiple storms, uh, in law issues, financial conflict, uh, maybe the baggage you’re bringing in from your past or all of it who knows. Uh, you have to choose to navigate those difficulties and to, uh, really come up with a strategy to make sure that your marriage stays intact.

John: Yeah. And too many couples’ kind of crumble in those moments of difficulty. They don’t have a strong foundation to stand on. They can’t see a way to work together and they just kind of give up on the relationship.

Jim: Well, and I- I definitely agree with that. And that’s why we’ve invited our guest today, Jeff and Sarah Walton to join us. Uh, they have a remarkable story about heartbreaking troubles, uh, that have nearly overwhelmed their marriage and family. But through God’s grace and power, they’re still together learning to trust God, uh, each and every day, more and more, and that’s the key. You know, I think of John 10:10, I love that scripture. It was the first scripture that I actually memorized as a new believer at 15 years old, but it basically says the thief, Satan, comes to steal, kill and destroy. And I’m telling you folks when you’re, um, you know, in the marriage business, so to speak, uh, he comes after us with a vengeance and, you know, things divide us and things disrupt our marriages, et cetera, but that’s true of each and every believer. And, uh, if you are a believer in Christ, I know that you understand what I’m talking about, and we need to understand that, realize it, and combat that each and every day.

John: Mm-hmm. Yeah, and so Jeff, uh, currently works as a real estate broker. And, uh, prior to that was a trauma consultant, assisting doctors with implanting medical devices during surgery and Sarah is an author and speaker and blogger. And they, uh, have four kids. She stays at home with them and, uh, together they’ve got a book called Together Through the Storms: Biblical Encouragements for Your Marriage When Life Hurts and will encourage you to get a copy. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Jeff and Sarah. Welcome to Focus on the Family.

Sarah Walton: Thank you so much. We’re so glad to be here.

Jeff Walton: Pleasure to be here.

Jim: Um, let’s get into it. Uh, when you first married, I think, like I said, Jean and I had those expectations of perfection, (laughs).

Sarah: Yes.

Jim: Everything was gonna be perfect.

John: Beautiful.

Jim: Beautiful.

Sarah: Yes, yep.

Jim: Uh, you know, I was the knight in shining armor, and she was my great, uh, damsel in distress that I saved somehow, some way. Uh, how did you envision it, uh, prior to you being married? What were you thinking?

Jeff: Yeah, I- I think I- I would relate exactly with what you’ve stated. So you walk into marriage, um, kind of have all planned out. I think I’m gonna have this type of career you wanna build and grow in your career. You wanna have a family and as you raise your kids, you think that they’re gonna follow suit, you know, and- and follow in line. And early in our marriage, we, uh, we faced kind of the complete opposite. We’re- we’re flipped upside down, but I think walking into that, it’s natural to think that you’re going to have better days than worse days. Um, but I guess as we look back on that, there’s so often that we, uh, I think as couples walk into marriage, not being fully prepared for the other side, for the w-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jeff: … for the worst, for the sickness. And so that’s something that I think has been on our heart and something that God has grown deeply in us, a- a passion for- for those couples and to prepare them for that.

Jim: Sarah, expectations. I think for women particularly-

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … when you get married, there are certain expectations sometimes unspoken-

Sarah: Yes.

Jim: … which makes it really difficult for us guys, (laughs). ‘Cause we- we- we don’t know-

John: No clue.

Jim: … how do you want us to behave, we didn’t know that.

Sarah: Yes.

Jim: Um, did you have those expectations of what day by day it would look like week by week, year by year.

Sarah: Mm-hmm, yeah. Yeah, you know, I don’t, I think a lot of times we don’t really realize we have expectations. They kind of just naturally come and so it’s not until something opposite of that happens that you’re like, oh, whoa, that’s not at all what I expected. So I think like Jeff said, you go into marriage, and we were young. I was 20, he was 23. So I think we were a little bright eyed and not totally aware of what was to come. So I think all I really imagined was I was excited to start life with him. I was in love. I, um, I’d come off of a rough few years. So I think I kind of in that, back of my mind, I thought I’ve gone through my hard stuff. God has brought me through that. He’s grown me now is the time to really enjoy what God has for me. This is almost the redemption of what I just came through. Um, and you know, we had a short period of time where we really did enjoy just each other as a couple, but really not long after we got married, the tension of work and long hours and me being home and trying to navigate that. It didn’t take long for me to start wondering, okay, well, he’s gone a lot later at night than I anticipated. He’s gone really early in the morning, I’m on my own a lot. That’s not how I thought marriage was gonna be. I thought this was like a team type thing. Um, and so while we loved each other, it didn’t take long for those expectations to start kind of, um, crumbling a little bit.

Jim: Yeah.

Sarah: Um, yeah.

Jim: Let’s help the audience because you mentioned that physical impairment that you-

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … had. What-

Sarah: Yeah.

Jim: … what took place and how did that, um, kind of become the first major obstacle for you?

Sarah: Yeah, well, I- I actually had dealt with a lot of health issues growing up. Um, but nobody could really figure out what was going on. It was really random things and so no one could connect the dots. So then we got married and it was, I think I was used to it. So it wasn’t really in the forefront. It was just kind of a nagging problem in my life. And then we got married not long after that. I started having increasing problems with stomach issues, kind of flu-like symptoms. And it kind of started to demand my attention a little bit more. It- it just couldn’t push it to the background. And so, especially with him having long hours, it just added a little bit of stress and that increased as children came, which is very common for health problems. Um, just the taxing, um, pregnancy and delivery and all of that started to increase those problems that had always been there. So they began to dominate life where I almost was not very functional. I was starting to be very fluish all the time, which if you know what feels like to have the flu, (laughs), you just don’t wanna do anything, you wanna lay in bed all day. So that started kind of come to the forefront in our relationship. And I started seeing doctors, but I still could not figure out what was going on with me. It- it took years until we started to figure that out. And in 2015 was when I was finally diagnosed with Lyme disease and the kids, other kids were starting to show different symptoms as well. And about a year later, they were diagnosed with the same thing that I had passed Lyme disease gestationally, which I did not know was possible.

Jim: Oh, wow.

Sarah: So that has manifested in all of them, which has created this to be a very difficult family journey.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Sarah: ‘Cause it tends to not be covered by insurance. So, um-

Jeff: Yeah.

Sarah: … that continued and then I started to have several more ankle surgeries. So it kind of felt like getting blows from every angle.

Jim: Yeah.

Jeff: Yeah.

Sarah: Layer upon layer. And um, yeah. So the layers, like you said are really, I think what started to beat us down.

Jim: Jeff, in that regard, I mean, expectations, uh, you know, we’ve heard from Sarah, what that looked like, but for you, I mean, you’re working hard, you’ve got this demanding job, uh, Sarah’s alluded to that, the hours that it required of you. Most of us men say, okay, we’re providing, that’s our main thing. And you should be speaking to your spouse. You should be pleased that I’m able to put food on the table and take care of the mortgage. And this is the number one demand of me. Some people might feel that’s old fashioned, but there’s a lot of us in the Christian in community that operate that way because we believe a parent should be at home with young kids, particularly. So as that husband, that father, you probably thought, hey, I’m doing all I can do, but don’t let me put words in your mouth.

Jeff: No, that is, uh, from the standpoint of the job that I had. So I was a trauma consultant, um, as- as John had mentioned, orthopedic trauma. So on call 24/7, and it’s a very demanding job. Uh, I think the first half of that time, I was in that for about nine years. The first part of that was more tolerable. And then once we started having kids, uh, the increase and the demand of that just became more of a challenge. And then with our oldest son that we do have some extra challenges, uh, mental health and special needs with him, continued to evolve and create tension and stress. And so all during those times I was continuing to try and be faithful, hard worker, providing for our family, thought I was doing the noble thing of continuing to go and doctors would call and I w- I had to be there. And so this tension of- if I was not there, business would be lost. Loyalty was very on a, on a thin thread between doctors being quick to change over to another vendor.

Jim: Yeah. I’d say demanding doctors.

Jeff: Yeah.

Jim: That’s- that’s fair.

Jeff: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, they, they’ve got pressure too.

Sarah: Yeah, yeah.

Jeff: Sure.

Jim: But I mean, that’s the reality of that profession.

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jeff: That’s correct. And so I think from that standpoint, that is a, an area that we didn’t really communicate well. I think internalizing, I thought, okay, I am providing for my family, I’m continuing to- to work hard and I’m trying to do the noble thing. There were a lot of instances or a handful of instances, I would say because of our home life, the challenges with our oldest son, uh, things that became verbal and behavior and destructive kind of in our home put Sarah in a tough position. And so at the core of it, it was starting to wrestle with, I think, subtly the fear of man.

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jeff: And so do I, what would it take for me to- to say no to a doctor when Sarah was crying out? And that was something that I wrestled with often. Um, you know, I think it was easier, kind of a tug and pull on one end. I was able to get out of the house, catch my breath and try and transition compartmentalize and- and go do work. And then I come back and then it’s entering into chaos. And how do I enter back in, how do we get back on the same path. And in our scenario, and this is just in ou- that situation, uh, the extreme we faced, uh, Sarah was waving the white flag a couple times and I walked out on her.

John: Mm.

Jeff: And you know, it still just eats at me because I know that, uh, in hindsight I should’ve stayed, but it was the fear of man. It was the fear of what doctors would think. It was the f- fear of boy, I’m gonna lose a chunk of my income if he switches over to someone else and doesn’t use me. And so it’s, I think there’s probably, hopefully a lot of listeners that can relate just between the work balance and the family balance.

Jim: Yeah, it’s so true. And you know, again, this is why we’re doing this program. I’m so grateful that you’ve written the book. And I wanna mention this because, uh, your book Together Through the Storms, you have designed it to help couples prepare for and work through the inevitable problems that marriage will put in front of you, those difficulties. And you put point to the Old Testament, we all love to go to Job. Good old, I’m so glad God put Job in the Bible, right?

Sarah: Me too.

Jeff: Yes.

Jim: Uh, but Job has some great lessons for all of us when we’re suffering.

Sarah: Yep.

Jim: How did you pull the lessons from Job and apply ’em to your marriage? Sarah let’s start with you.

Sarah: Well, I mean, it’s- it’s kind of funny, I think when people hear that we wrote I a marriage book on Job-

Jim: (laughs) It’s- it’s not as great starting point.

Sarah: … very clear the look on their face is like I have no idea how that makes sense, but-

John: It’s so aspiring.

Sarah: Yeah, exactly.

Jeff: Most people wanna skip past the book-

Sarah: Yeah, (laughs).

Jeff: … after the first two chapters.

Sarah: I know.

Jeff: Let’s skip past it.

Sarah: Yeah. But I found, I think when we were going through and we had both been in Job a lot in that timeframe. And so I think we started to notice little things that actually jumped out to us that related how Job and his wife interacted, how we tend to respond differently to suffering, Job and his wife were in the same situation. They both lost all that they lost, but it shows how differently we can respond to that suffering. Um, I think it shows how much the enemy is at work to really tear us apart and how much he uses that and sees that as a way that he can gain ground in your marriage is by just simply turning you against each other. And what’s the best way to do that is to throw arrows at you that are going to send you maybe reeling into different types of directions, grieving differently, struggling, not communicating all those things naturally come up. And so if you’re not grounded in the word and you have not been prepared for that, it tends to kind of flip us on our heads.

Jim: Well, and for those listening and viewing that, you know, may not be as familiar with the story. This is where Job’s wife says in his despair, “Why don’t you just curse God and die?”

Sarah: Yep.

Jim: I mean, you don’t wanna hear that from your wife.

Sarah: No-

Jeff: No, thank you.

Sarah: … no, what I would say-

Jim: (laughs) It’s like what?

Sarah: … I really love it- it, something stuck out to me when we were going through that, of how Job responded to her and he said, “You are speaking like one of the foolish women.” He wasn’t saying you are a foolish woman, Job’s wife, you are speaking like one of them, this is not who I know you to be.

Jim: Mm.

Sarah: And so even in him calling her out on what he knew was not correct, he did it with graciousness and he was not tearing down her character, he was saying, no, that’s not what you believe. I don’t believe that’s what you are believing, but that’s what these other women would say, who do not follow the Lord. So I appreciated that because I think that can be a very, very small difference in the way that we-

Jim: Yeah.

Sarah: … approach each other.

John: We’re talking today on Focus on the Family with Jeff and Sarah Walton. And, uh, they’ve written a book, Together Through the Storms. This is applicable to all of us who are married, pretty much anybody that walks in life, whether you’re single or married, you’re gonna find some storms. You’ll find some great encouragement in this book. And you can call us to get your copy. Uh, our number is 800-A-FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Let’s get to that breaking point in your marriage that you highlight in your book. What was that moment and how did you both feel emotionally and spiritually at that time?

Sarah: Yeah. Well, I will say, I and this is actually one of my favorite chapters in the book is titled, You Can’t Change Your Spouse’s Heart. And-

Jim: Hold it, say that again.

Sarah: (laughs) I know we all need to be reminded of that a lot. Um-

Jim: It’s like what we all try to do first thing, I know, let me try to change you.

Sarah: That’s definitely the natural response is we kind of think the other person is the problem in this situation. Only thing I’m always right about is that I always think I’m right. I mean-

Jim: (laughs).

Sarah: … that is just the natural instinct of man. But I remember sitting in the couch one day and we had, part of our stories Jeff had walked away from that job, which was an incredibly difficult situation. It was to the point where our family was in crisis. Um, our marriage was literally falling apart. We were barely communicating without crying together, like either anger or tears. And I remember sitting on the couch one day, we had just moved, left our home that we had sold, had downsized. We were in the smaller rental home. And there had been so many instances where I had felt so hurt when I was in literal crisis in, at our home and he would have to walk out. And I knew what I’d signed up for. It had been many, many years, I was really okay with it. I always told myself he’d be here if he could, but I know that he can’t, but there were a handful of times where it was serious stuff that I felt really terrified that he’d be leaving. And so when he would leave and he would not be present with me to see what went down in the house and to see the hurt that I experienced, he would come home and I could try to explain it, but he had never been there in that really, really hard place. And so that started to kind of buildup in me. I started to build little bits of resentment of like, he can’t even experience what I’ve walked through. It’s not fair that I’m the one bearing this burden. And so we were trying to work through it, and I kept trying to explain to him, Jeff, this is how much I felt hurt. This is how much it hurt when you walked out in that one instance. And every time we had a conversation, it was worse, (laughs). It was like, I kept trying to rephrase it. You know, how we women like to do. Um, and every conversation left, I think just with more frustration, he was not understanding what I was trying to get him to grasp. I was just, I was angry. I was hurting and I wanted him to be able to enter into my pain. And finally, one day after many, many of these conversations, I felt the Lord just pressed on me, “Sarah, stop looking to Jeff for your comfort and for your satisfaction and start turning to me.” And I, it was a sacrifice. I really wanted him. I felt like, “But Lord don’t, to have a good marriage, don’t we have to be on the same page. Doesn’t he have to somewhat understand. And it was like, he said, “That is my job is to work on Jeff’s heart. I want you to come to me first.” And so I started praying, I started bringing the hurt that I felt to the Lord. I started to realize how much Christ was the only one that was in that room with me during those really scary times. Even if Jeff had been there only Christ knew what it felt like to be in me, to be-

Jim: Yeah.

Sarah: … a woman to be dealing with what I was dealing with. And he’s ultimately the only one that can truly comfort me.

Jim: Well, in many ways, we’re- we’re at a point where we started, which is that idea of expectations again.

Sarah: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: You know, the expectation that Jeff could meet that need and he was incapable. A good concept that you bring up in the book that I totally agree with is this idea of building bridges instead of walls.

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jim: It’s such an obvious illustration but describe it.

Jeff: Yeah. I think from a standpoint of, it’s very easy to build walls within the marriage and often those are subtle and before we know it, they’re popping up left and right,

Jim: To me, it divides between emotion and- and spirit. Building a wall is emotional response.

Sarah: Yeah.

Jim: Building bridges is a spiritual response.

Sarah: Yeah.

Jeff: Yeah, that’s- that’s uh, helpful. And so I think when we look at building bridges, uh, we have to continue to rely on the spirit. I think we have to come and be able to recognize that we can’t do this apart from him. And so it’s that humility that is that struggle, that all of us have within our flesh. We want to take control. We want to have our lives look a specific way, but when we are up against the wall and we face suffering and we see that with Job finally at the end, where he comes from the turning point of- of hearing to seeing then the- the beautiful part of that is the bridge has been built when we continue to not look just at our circumstances and what’s across the table with our spouse, but then we’re able to have that open communication, that bridge, that first needs to start with the Lord and not putting up a wall between, uh, myself and him.

Jim: Yeah.

Jeff: So that bridge, once that is built, then we can have the bridge that’s better with our- our spouse and continue to talk to them and work through these because it’s gonna be inevitable that we’ll continue to go through cycles.

Sarah: I’d also say, I think one thing that helps build that bridge is to stop seeing our differences as a negative thing. There’s so much that I have grown because Jeff is different than me and vice versa.

Jim: (laughs) I’m laughing just because it’s so true.

Sarah: It is. I mean, you- you naturally, at the beginning, like you were saying expectations, you think your way is right. You think your perspective is right. But Jeff and I are very different people. We have a lot of things we enjoy together, but we are very different in many ways at the same time. And so those things that used to be major contrasting things as we’ve gone through these difficulties, and we have gradually built those bridges and seen, oh, Jeff, it’s kind of good that he can hold himself together at times emotionally when I’m falling apart, because he kind of helps keep us both afloat during that season where my emotion and helping him express that has been a beneficial thing for us to be able to communicate that together. So there are so many different parts about us that we have to remember that we’re teammates, we are enemies in this. We are on the same page. And really, if you think about it, you and your spouse are the only ones that can understand just how much you are walking through. It’s a gift that you have each other, you’re not gonna respond to it the same. And that’s where we have to realize that’s not always a negative thing. We can help gradually come together closer as we understand how we both process those things, differently and can actually strengthen both of us.

Jim: I wanna make sure we give, you know, handles to people that are saying, oh my goodness, this is where my marriage is at. This is what we’re experiencing to some degree.

Sarah: Yeah.

Jim: One of the takeaways that you have in the book is grieving with hope.

Sarah: Yeah.

Jim: Describe that.

Jeff: Yeah. I think understanding, again, it’s the expectations that there are going to be different cycles of that within the marriage, Sarah grieves differently than I do. Uh, we process things differently and that’s part of, again, working through that, it’s not all pretty, and it’s something that by God’s grace we’ve grown in. And so when we can grieve our losses and give each other space, I think as we look at the story of Job, we see beautifully Job walk through that process of bringing his pain, his confusion, all of his questions to God. And he even says that, you know, that’s kind of the complaining aspect of it in a healthy, biblical way. It doesn’t stop there though, because that’s what the world does. Worldly lament stops there.

Jim: Yeah.

Jeff: Why the anger, taking it on God, blaming God. But when we can move past that and bring our pain and our hope, and remember back to who God is, that’s the beauty of-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jeff: … Job is-

Sarah: Mm-hmm.

Jeff: … we don’t get a answer to his question of why, but yet what we come away with is a better understanding of who God is. We see God in chapter like 38 to 40 come to mind of saying, where were you when I created? And then there’s a long list of all those things.

Jim: (laughs) Those are big questions, right?

Sarah: Yes, they are. They’re laying the foundation of the world.

Jim: When you, when you mention the why, I do wanna wrap up in that area, because I think most people relate to the why question, God, why have you allowed this to happen? And you mentioned in the book, uh, a better phrase is to say, what we know is better than what we don’t know, explain that.

John: Mm.

Sarah: Yeah. This is where it’s so important, um, to have, to be planted we’re in the streams of water. In talking about how, if we, our roots are not growing deep, we’re just constantly be fed, being fed by God’s word, being fed, um, by being with the body of believers, having that foundation, then we’re easily gonna be swayed. And so when suffering comes, it immediately shakes our foundation of who we think God is. We all come with these preconceived notions of what does it mean that God’s good? What does it mean that he’s faithful? Well, I might think God’s goodness means he gives me something I think I really need. So when that thing doesn’t come, that belief is shaken to say, okay, well, if that’s not true, then what does it really mean that God is good. And that’s what we see through the entire, um, book of Job. When Job goes from hearing of who God is to now seeing, it really everything that he believed about God was put to the test. So, whereas the beginning, he was faithful, and he believed that God was good, but it wasn’t until the end of Job when he’d walked through losing everything till, he knew and had seen God’s goodness, in a way he couldn’t have understood at the beginning. And the only reason he was able to do that is by holding onto the promises of what God has said is true. He could not fix his hope on the fact that God would restore, which he graciously did, but he still did not restore his 10 children he lost, he was still gonna grieve those. They were not gonna be returned even though he had more children. So I think it’s just helpful to see that, um, how we can end up knowing and keeping our foundation and keeping our footing by looking to what can I fully grasp onto is true. Only the promises of God can I fully grasp onto, I cannot guarantee that I will have this thing I desire. I cannot guarantee I will be better and healed. I don’t have that promise. I will eternally, but I don’t have that promise in this life. So if I fix my hope on me getting better physically, or my son being healed mentally, and if that’s where my hope is, I’m gonna constantly being swayed by the winds that are coming.

Jim: Yeah. And what a great place to end. Uh, Jeff and Sarah, this has been so good.

Sarah: Oh, thank you so much.

Jim: And I hope, I hope people that are in difficulty really do get a copy of your book and, uh, we’ll make it available to you. Um, we realize that you may not even be able to afford that. Just, uh, get in touch with us. We believe in the content. We believe it will help you and we’ll trust others will cover the cost of that, if you can make a gift of any amount, uh, perhaps even join us as a monthly, um, sustainer, we would appreciate that. That really helps us continue to minister together to those marriages that are truly hurting. And I wanna mention too, Hope Restored.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: That’ one of our wonderful intensive, um, marriage programs where, uh, y- y- usually is a four-day process where people who have signed divorce papers, uh, for the most part, really, uh, stuck in their marriage come and we have thankfully a post two-year 80% success rate-

Sarah: Mm, wow.

Jim: … where those marriages are thriving and doing better. So if you’re in that spot, call us, uh, to ask about hope restored.

John: You can learn more about Jeff and Sarah’s book, Together Through the Storms, and you can also find out details about Hope Restored our marriage intensives, when you give us a call. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Next time you’ll hear a great presentation from Dr. Bill Lile, uh, a medical argument for the sanctity of life in the womb.
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Dr. Bill Lile: The only biologic sense is that we’re created in the image of God at that moment of conception. When oneself from the mom and oneself from the dad got together, that’s when we were created in the image of God.

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Being a Champion to Your Grandkids

Pastor Carey Casey explains how grandfathers can utilize their unique role to have a positive and lasting influence on their grandchildren in a discussion based on his book Championship Grandfathering: How to Build a Winning Legacy.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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