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Words of Kindness, Source of Healing

Words of Kindness, Source of Healing

Florence Littauer describes how words of encouragement can be one of the most wonderful gifts you could ever give. Through several moving stories, she illustrates how words can literally change somebody's life for better or for worse.
Original Air Date: June 26, 2017

Preview:

Florence Littauer: One little girl, and I’ll never forget this little precious child, she stood up at the end of the row, she turned to all the people, and she said to them, “What she means is…”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: Amazing. Amazing how a little child… she’ll interpret it so the adults can understand.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: And she said, “What she means is that our words should be like a little silver box with a bow on top.”

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John Fuller: That’s our guest on today’s episode of Focus on the Family, the late Florence Littauer. Remembering a moment at church that led her on a quest to give others the gift of encouraging words. Welcome to our show. Uh, your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: And John, the world lost an amazing author, speaker, and encourager when Florence died in the summer of 2020, and our condolences go out to her family. Florence taught communication skills for over 30 years and wrote over 40 books, including the bestseller, Personality Plus, based on the Hippocratic theory of four basic personality types.

John: Yeah, and today’s content is taken from another hugely popular book called Silver Boxes: The Gift of Encouragement, and you can get a copy from us here at Focus on the Family when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Or visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Here’s Florence Littauer on Focus on the Family.

Florence: It was a couple of years ago that, uh, I was, uh, sitting in a church and I was just one of the people in the congregation. And as I was sitting there, the pastor looked down at me and he said, “I see that Florence Littauer is in our audience this morning. He said, “I think it would be nice if we had her come up front and say a few words.” Now for some of you that might be a shock to be called forward to say a few words spontaneously. For me, I have never been at a loss for words and I never mind being brought forth to say a few words.

Florence: So, I got out of my seat and started up the aisle. As I started up the aisle, he, uh, looked down and he said, “In fact, why don’t we have Florence do the children’s sermon this morning?” And all of the children came up front so that by the time I got to the front there was this whole group of children in front of me. So, as I looked at this little group, I thought to myself, uh, “What am I going to say to them?” Well, I thought right off, “A verse. I’ll teach them a verse.” The verse that came to my mind immediately was a verse that we had used with our children, and the verse is Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearer.”

Florence: And they all looked wide-eyed, and they said like, “Oh.” And I said, “Do you think you can understand that?” Oh, they didn’t know if they can understand that or not. Let’s start right at the beginning. It says, “Let no corrupt communication…” And I said, “Now what is corrupt communication?” One little boy spoke out and he said, “Being nasty to your mother.” I said, “That’s right. Don’t do that. That’s bad (laughs).” And, uh, they all agree that was bad to do. We shouldn’t try that one. And we went on and they pulled out little things what it meant, all kinds of bad things to say.

Florence: Then I said, “All right, that’s what the verse says we are not to do. Now let’s look and see what should we do. So, it says that we should let no corrupt communication proceed out of our mouths, but that which is good.” And I said, “Do you all know what good means?”

Florence: “Oh, yes. Good.” They knew good. I said, “Good to the use of edifying. What does edifying mean?” Well, they looked kind of wide about that. That’s a big word. And then one of the boys said, “Build up.” I said, “That’s right. Buildup. That our words are supposed to build up other people.” Then I went on to the next part of it. It says not only is it good to the use of edifying, but it is to minister grace. Now that’s heavy stuff for little children, minister grace. So, what does it mean minister grace? Somebody taking a class somewhere that said that grace was God’s unmerited favor. So, this little child spoke out, “God’s unmerited favor. ” I was amazed at the size of this child, that they knew that little phrase. They didn’t have any idea what it meant, but they knew the word. Somebody taught it to them.

Florence: So, I said, “All right, that’s good. That’s wonderful. That that means that God has given us a favor. That’s what grace is. So, if I’m to give you grace, I’m to do you a favor.” I said, “Now, how could I do you a favor?” Well, we went from favor into present into gift. And then we came up with, yes, every word that comes out of my mouth should be like a present. I should give you a present with my words. And I went on with that for a while with them and as I did one little girl, and I’ll never forget this little precious child, she stood up at the end of the row, she turned to all the people and she said to them, “What she means is…”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: Amazing. Amazing how a little child… she’ll interpret it so the adults can understand.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: And she said, “What she means is that our word should be like a little silver box with a bow on top.” I looked at her and I said, “That’s right. That’s what our word should be. That we should think of it like that. When our words come out, they should be like little silver boxes with a bow on top. Now, I loved what she said. It stayed in my mind. And I’ll never forget, even though I have no idea what the little child’s name was, but I’ll never forget her saying, “What she means is your words should be like a little silver box with a bow on top.”

Florence: Just the last year and a half that I’ve been working with this little concept, off and on, it’s made a difference to me. It’s made me measure my words in a different way. I began to think back, and I said to myself, “How have you spoken to your children?” And as I thought about it and I realized that, uh, it was easy for me to give silver boxes to my daughter, Marita. She and I have always agreed on everything. She’s so much fun. She’s just a laugh a minute. And if I ever feel discouraged or disheartened, my husband knows all he has to do is dial Marita and hand me the phone and life brightens up for me. No trouble giving silver boxes to Marita. Some of you may have a Marita. You may have a daughter or a son that just the sight of them lightens your life, makes you say good words, encourages you.

Florence: It was not hard for me to give silver boxes to Lauren. She always did everything right. Lauren’s very choleric and strong and she’s done it the right way. She always knew just how it should be done and she marched ahead, and she did it. Now sometimes she was telling me what to do along the process-

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: … but it was easy to thank her and encourage her because she was doing it right. Now you might say, “Isn’t that wonderful? She’s had these two perfect children.” But now I have an adopted son. Adopted son, Fred, is nothing like me at all. He and I have never had two thoughts in our entire lifetime that coordinated.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: When I would say to my daughters, “Run,” they would run. I’d say to him, “Run,” he’d stop. He never seemed to wanna do what I wanted him to do. He said to me one day, “It amazes me that people pay money to hear you talk.”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: That is not a silver box.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: And I began to think about what had I said to him. It’s amazing how usually they’re reflecting in a way what we’re giving. And if we’re not giving out silver boxes chances are they’re not giving ’em back to us. So, I thought about it, and I remembered one day when he came home and he said to me, “Mrs. Johnson said that I have a charming personality.”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: Now, I don’t know what you parents would have said, but before I even had a hesitation for a moment I shot out with the comment, “I’d sure like to see some of the charm around here.”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: Now when you put that in the context of the silver box, Mrs. Johnson had given Fred a silver box. And what had I done? I’d taken it away. I’d thrown away the silver box. It was gone. I had wiped out everything Mrs. Johnson had said. I, as the mother, had taken away the praise he’d received. I looked back at my childhood, and I wondered, “Where did I get the affirmation? How did I go from being a child in three rooms behind a store without a ghost of a chance to amount to anything, remembering the lady that looked at my two brothers and me during the depression as we stood in the store and as she looked at us, she said to my mother, ‘It’s a shame there’s no hope for those children because they appear so bright.’” That wasn’t a silver box.

Florence: But it was truth at the time. There was no money. There was no hope. And I remember that, and I remembered saying to myself when I heard that lady… And I can picture her today and where she stood and what she looked like. I remember those words, words that knocked my blocks down. And I remember them, and I remember saying to myself, “Florence, you’ll show that lady.” And I worked to get there. But I thought back, I thought, “How did you do it? Who encouraged you?” And, uh, as soon as I began to think about it, as you might begin to think about your childhood, I realized that even though my mother never gave me a lot of affirmation, and when I asked her why she didn’t compliment me, she said, “You never know when you’re gonna have to eat your words.”

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: Mother was always afraid she’d have to eat a few words. She felt it’s better not to say any than to have to eat them. So, I thought about it. I thought, “Well, where did I get my affirmation?” And I realized I had a father who was affirming. I had a father who was constantly giving us positive words, who was positive every single day, who was lifting people up. Who, during the depression in our little store, people would come to our store just to hear my father’s encouraging words. I remembered back to my senior year in college, and I came home at Christmas vacation. And my father who was 72 at that time, he was 20 years older than my mother, and as, uh, I came home, he said to me one day, right after Christmas, “Florence, come in the back room. I wanna show you something.”

Florence: So, I went into the back room with him. He never took me there. He never left out of the store. And we went back into this little, tiny den, which was the only little haven we had. A little den with two pieces of furniture, a piano on one wall and a couch on the other that opened up. And when you opened it up, you could sit on the end of the couch and play the piano. That’s the size of the room. So here it was, you had wall to wall bed. And we went in there that day and my father reached behind that piano… You know, those upright pianos that have all the little holes in ’em. My father reached behind the piano, brought out this little box, little cigar box, and he opened it up. And I looked down and I said, “What’s that?” He said, “It’s a box that I had, and I hid it away.” And he said, “Somehow today I felt like showing you this box.” And I looked in there because I’m a curious person. If I’d known there was a box tucked away, I would have been looking at it.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: But I didn’t know was there. And he showed it to me. It was full of clippings. And I looked in there. There were newspaper clippings. And I said, “What are these?” He said, “These are articles that I’ve written.” I said, “You can write?” You see my mother had always told me, “Your father didn’t have any education. You’ve got to get education so you can do better than your father.” My mother had fed me words like that. So, when my father said he’d written something, I was dumbfounded. I didn’t know my father was very bright. And I looked at him. I said, “You wrote these things.” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Why didn’t you tell me you could write?” It was almost like I deserved to know I had a smart father. Why hadn’t he told me before? And I said, “Why didn’t you tell me that?” And he said, “Because your mother always said, ‘Because you don’t have an education you shouldn’t try to write. What if you tried and it wasn’t any good? We’d all be humiliated.’”

Florence: My mother was always afraid we’d be humiliated so she never encouraged us to do anything, to take any risks or any chances. So, my father, he said, “I knew I could write.” He said, “I knew inside of me there was an ability to write.” So, he said, “I would write when your mother was out. And I would write, and I would send it into newspapers. And I’d watch the newspaper until it came out, and then I’d cut it out and I put ’em all in this box. And he said, “Somehow, today, I wanted to give you the box.” And I took that box and I looked through it. I couldn’t believe all these things my father had written. Important things.

Florence: And as I got to the bottom there was a letter in there from the United States Senate. I always have been interested in politics. I’ve always been interested in personalities. And it was from Henry Cabot Lodge, Sr. And I opened up this letter and it was to my father, and I said, “What did Henry Cabot Lodge write you for?” And he said, “Well, I wrote him a letter telling him how he shou- should run his campaign better, more efficiently and effectively next time.” And he said, “Because of that, he wrote me back a letter, and it was a personal letter. Two pages typed. And it said, ‘Dear Walter Chapman…’ And then it went down. ‘This idea was very good. I will implement that in my next campaign. This idea I cannot use for this reason.’” And he enumerated everything, two pages, answering my father’s letter, sharing with him what he liked about what he had said, and how he had thanked him and appreciated what he’d done for him. My father had written silver boxes to a senator, and he’d replied.

Florence: I was so amazed. I put that back in the envelope. Put all the clippings back in there. And I said to my father, “Let’s, let’s put it back behind the piano.” So, we did. We put it back behind the piano and I said, “But I’ll know it’s there.” As we left that little room to go back into the store, my father put his hand on my shoulder and he looked at me, he said, “Florence, I think I tried for something too big this time.” And I said, “What’s that?” He said, “Well, I wrote into our denominational magazine, and I told them how they ought to change the way they chose the nominating committee for the National Convention.” Now see, my father didn’t write trivia. He cared.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: He had the big picture. And he said, “I wrote in and told them how they should do it differently.” He said, “Good suggestions.” And he said, “It’s been three months now and they haven’t published it yet.” And then he looked at me again and he said, “Florence, I guess I’ve tried for something too big this time.” Those were the last words my father ever said to me because the next day my mother and he took the first day off they’d had in 20 years. I stayed home and took care of the store with my two brothers. My mother and father went into Boston at four o’clock in the afternoon, walking through the subway station in Park Street in Boston my father dropped to the pavement.

Florence: At the morning of the funeral, I was sitting in the store opening up the cards that had come. For those days, many cards had come, because you see, everyone loved my father because he gave them encouraging words. And as I opened up these cards of sympathy from all the people that came into our store, I noticed the magazine, our denominational magazine. I never would have looked at it at such a time except my father told me. I opened up that magazine and look through it, and inside, there was my father’s article. For More Democracy, Walter Chapman. It came the day of the funeral.

Florence: I’m so grateful today that my father showed me that box. Because you see, I have those clippings. And I have framed on my wall at home, I have the article from that magazine and a picture of my father. And I also have the letter from Henry Cabot Lodge. Sr. And I went back to Boston, and I got a picture of him. And I have Henry Cabot Lodge and his letter and my father and his article. And I have those framed on the wall in my study so that every day as I pass by, I’ll remember the value of an encouraging word. Because you see, my father had a box of broken dreams. Things he could have been if only someone had encouraged him.

John: You’re listening to Florence Littauer on Focus on the Family. And you can get her book, Silver Boxes: The Gift of Encouragement, as well as a CD of this entire presentation when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or you can donate t-… and request those at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and return now to more from Florence Littauer.

Florence: One time I sat down with my husband’s mother. We’d never had anything much to say to each other. She seemed to be a superior being. She seemed to be above everybody else. She was elegant and beautiful. Said the right things, did the right things, had the big home, knew how to pour tea out of silver pots. All the things I never learned. I looked at her with envy all my life. I was afraid of her because she was so put together. Because she knew how to do everything with such style and flair, and I wanted so much to do that. So, I’d never really had a one-to-one conversation with her until this one night just a number of years ago when I sat with her in her living room and I didn’t know what to say to her and I, I asked one of those trite questions. I said, “Mother, what was it like when you were young?” You know, you’re getting old when people ask you that. People have started asking me that.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: My grandchildren. “Grammy, what was it like when you were young?” They think I knew Abraham Lincoln personally.

Audience: (laughs).

Florence: So, I asked my husband’s mother, “What was it like when you were young?” not knowing what I’d get for an answer. And she said, “Oh…” Immediately she said, “Oh, I remember when I was in college, I had this boyfriend that I was so in love with him. We were going to get married.” And she went on telling me about this and I looked at her wide-eyed. I’d never thought of my mother-in-law having a boyfriend. Somehow it just didn’t seem to make sense. And as I looked at her… And so, I said to her, “Well, tell me about him, Mother,” and she told me that she and he were going to get married, and when they graduated from college… And she graduated from Cornell when she was 19… And she said, uh, “When we graduated from college, we went two separate directions for the summer. He was going to call me in the fall, and we were going to get married.”

Florence: I said, “Well, what happened?” She said, “Well, when the fall came, he never called me.” She said, “He never called.” I looked at her. I said, “You mean he never called you?” She said, “He never called, I never heard from him again.” I said, “What did you do?” She said, “Well, I cried a lot.” Tears came down her cheek. I’d never seen my mother-in-law relaxed. I’d never seen her real. And you may have some person that you deal with that, you know, is not real. You’ve never really gotten in there behind who they appear to be, behind the wall they built around themselves and… for protection. I’d never noticed it or realized that was what it was, but as I turned to her, she cried and she said, “He never called me, and my mother didn’t like him anyway because he didn’t come from a rich enough family.”

Florence: And her mother’s theory always was you could marry and fall in love with a rich man as well as a poor man. That was her family motto. She said, “My mother didn’t like him anyway.” She said, “After a while my mother introduced me to Fred Littauer,” and she said, “I married him on the rebound.” And then she looked at me and she said, “I never was in love with him.” This is Fred’s father. And I looked at her and I said, “You weren’t?” She said, “No. I did the right things. I played my role.” And she said, “I had the five children, and I was the good wife,” and as she said this she was crying. And she said, “But I never was in love with him.”

Florence: What did that make me feel about my mother-in-law that I had been judgmental and negative about? That I thought this is a cold lady. I never knew she’d had a problem like that before. And I looked at her with a different feeling. And then she said, “But that’s not the end.” She said, “A couple of years ago I went to a party.” She’s in her 70s and she said, “I went to this party.” She said, “I looked across the room and there was this man standing there.” And she said, “I looked at him,” and she said, “He looked like that young man that I’d been so in love with.”

Florence: She said, “I walked across the room to get a view so I could look at him,” and she said, “When I got near him, he turned and he looked at me and he said, ‘You are Marita.’” And she said, “I looked up at him and said, “You’re John.” And she said, “I started to talk with him.” She said, “I looked at him and I said, ‘Would you answer me one question? Why did you never call?’” She said, “He looked at me and he said, ‘Oh, I called many times and each time I got your mother. And each time your mother said, ‘She doesn’t love you. She doesn’t wanna hear from you again. Please don’t call.” And he said, ‘The last time I called your mother said, ‘She’s engaged to marry someone else. Don’t ever call again.”” She looked up at me and she said in tears, “My mother’s words ruined my life.”

Florence: What a different feeling I had about my mother-in-law that day. How bad I had felt for the judgment that I had put upon that lady in years past. How aloof I’d felt she was, how cold, how artificial, when all the time she was hiding a broken heart. I said to her, “Mother, what would you have been if you could have been anything you wanted to be in your life?” She said, “Oh, I would have been an opera singer.” I said, “An opera singer? I didn’t even know you could sing.” She said, “That’s because I’ve never sung since I got out of college.” I said, “Did you sing before?” She said, “I majored in music.” I’d never known that. Of course, I’d never asked her. She said, “I majored in music.” And she said, “I wanted to be an opera star.” I said, “Why didn’t you go and do it?” She said, “Because my mother said, ‘There’s no money in that. You’ll never make it. You don’t have enough talent. Come into the family business and that way you’ll be secure. That way you’ll have money.’” And she said, “So I gave up singing.” And she said, “But inside, I’ve always wanted to be an opera singer.”

Florence: I never knew that about her. I didn’t know she had any hidden desires. And then she got up from the chair and she went down the hall. She came back with a box, a big suit box. She opened up the box. She pulled out some pictures. And in it was this picture. She said, “I want you to see this picture.” She said, “This is a stage set.” She said, “Because I want you to know that I did once have the lead in an opera.” She said, “It was my senior year in college.” She said, “Here I am, right here in the center.” She said, “I’m that one in the wing chair.” And she said, “These are all the cast around me.” She said, “I had the lead in the opera.”

Florence: Now she gave it to me, and she said, “Here. You take this picture. Your daughters named after me. Give this to Marita. I want her to have it. I want her to know that her grandmother could have been something if she’d ever had the chance. If she’d ever had an encouraging word. If someone had given her a silver box.” Oliver Wendell Holmes once said many of us die with the music still in us. Fred’s mother died with the music still in her. My father died with the music still in him. Each one of them had a box of broken dreams. A box of clippings, a box of pictures, memories of what they’d done that no one knew about that had never become fulfilled. Both of them died with the music still in them.

Florence: During Fred’s mother’s latter years, when Fred and I went to visit her, her mind had totally left her. She could not communicate. She couldn’t say a word. We had no idea whether she could hear what we were saying or not, whether she understood anything. She was unable to articulate a word. I asked the nurse one day when I was down visiting her in Miami here in Florida and I said, “Does Mother ever talk?” She said, “No. She never says a word.” And then she looked at me and she said, “But that’s the strangest thing. That every once in a while, she’ll stand up and she’ll sing opera.” Oh, isn’t it amazing what’s still in our minds? Many times, our minds have forgotten what our heart still remembers. Her heart still wanted to be an opera singer. And the last night before she died, she stood up at the dinner table and the nurse told us that she stood there, and she sang opera. And she said, “When she’d finished, I clapped for her, and she held her hands and she bowed, and she bowed.” You see, the opera was still in her. And she said, “When I went in the next morning, she was asleep with her hands like this and a smile on her face. She died with the music still in her.”

Florence: In the Song of Solomon it says, “Yes, the winter has passed. The rains are over and done. The flowers appear on the earth. The season of singing has come.” Is there someone at home waiting for you to give them a season of singing? Is there someone there who’s just waiting for a silver box? Who’s waiting for word of encouragement from you? Yes, there may be somebody you know who has a song waiting to be sung, perhaps who has a race waiting to be run. Maybe a piece waiting to be played. Perhaps a scene waiting to be staged. A tale waiting to be told or a book waiting to be sold. A rhyme waiting to be read or a speech waiting to be said. If you know such a person, don’t let them die with the music still in them.

John: The late Florence Littauer on today’s Focus on the Family. And Jim, uh, what a good reminder, to reach out and spend time encouraging those around us.

Jim: It really was, John. And what a great way to bless others. Uh, you know, the Bible talks a lot about the power of our words, especially in the book of Proverbs. Here are just two examples. Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” And Proverbs 12:18 says, “Rash words like the thrust of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” And you know, these are great verses to post on the refrigerator, on your bathroom mirror as a reminder to use encouraging words rather than critical ones.

John: That’s a really good idea, Jim. And as we’ve noted before, being careful about our words is especially important in marriage.

Jim: Whoo, it’s so true, John. And supporting marriages is one of our primary goals here at Focus on the Family. Our surveys tell us that over the past year over 600,000 couples built a stronger relationship using Focus resources. And an additional 100,000 couples say that Focus helped them through a major crisis in their marriage. Here’s one example from a man named David. He wrote, “After I admitted to having an affair, my wife was devastated and turned to alcohol to escape our broken marriage. We lived like strangers for two years while the devil urged me to get a divorce. Fortunately, we started listening to the Focus on the Family podcast, which was like a healing balm.”

John: Hmm.

Jim: “If it wasn’t for the hope you provided, I would be a divorced husband and an estranged father. Thank God for your ministry. You saved my marriage and my family. God bless you.”

John: Wow, what a story.

Jim: That’s a great example of what the Lord is doing through our collective efforts. So, let me ask you: if you’ve benefited from the ministry of Focus on the Family, would you please consider making a generous donation today? We are a nonprofit ministry, and we rely on your support as we continue our mission to provide help and hope to families around the world.

Jim: And when you make a donation of any amount, I’d like to send you a copy of Florence’s great book, Silver Boxes, which has much more encouraging content than we were able to share on this program. Get in touch with us today and take advantage of our matching opportunity before it runs out. Your gift will be doubled so that you can have twice the impact.

John: Yeah, it’s hard to believe that Friday marks the end of the year, so please get in touch with us this week, uh, today, as Jim said. Call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or you can donate online and request the book, Silver Boxes, at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Next time, another of our top broadcasts of the year, as we hear from Debra Fileta. She’ll explain the different seasons of marriage, like spring.

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Debra Fileta: It’s the season of planting good seeds- … and uprooting weeds, the things that we don’t wanna see in our relationship. So, in nature and in relationships, the season of spring is really important.

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John: On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

 

 

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

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Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!