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Adding Some Spice to Your Marriage

Adding Some Spice to Your Marriage

Pastor and author Ted Cunningham combines humor with practical advice for enjoying more connection and intimacy in your marriage.
Original Air Date: September 30, 2016

Excerpt:

Ted Cunningham: Early in our marriage, I had to tell her, I go, “Listen, baby. There’s just not a lot of adventure left for men in the world anymore. Okay. So please let me find my own parking space.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “Okay. I want to do it all by myself.”

Audience: (laughs).

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: (laughs). Well, today on Focus on the Family, Ted Cunningham is going to share some really fun insights into how you can have a more enjoyable relationship with your spouse. Thanks for joining us today. Your host is Focus president Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: And John Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. So this is a great time to share a message from Ted Cunningham because he wants to bring joy into your marriage. That’s a good goal. And I really appreciate that perspective. And I think that mirrors God’s heart for our relationships. Uh, Ted is the author of a dozen books. And in this message, he’s talking to married couples about strengthening every aspect of their relationship, including physical intimacy.

John: And given that last point, if you have younger children nearby, we’d advise using earbuds or listening later, uh, via our daily broadcast app. Well, this message is from Focus on the Family’s Date Night Challenge event. And if you like what you hear today, you can get a copy of the entire date night DVD at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Here now is Ted Cunningham, founding pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church in Branson, Missouri on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Ted: Well, it is good to be here. Hebrews 13:4 says marriage should be honored by all. And the marriage bed kept pure. Now I grew up in an independent, fundamental pre-millennial King James Version only Baptist Church. And so I really shouldn’t even be here tonight-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … because you all got some, (laughs). Anyway, I, I grew up in a church in a home that taught me how to love Jesus, but I grew up in a church in a home that taught me how to honor purity, but not necessarily how to honor marriage. So you can imagine seven years into marriage, one night, my wife was in bed reading a book on how men think, it’s not a real thick book.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: You can read it in about a night.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And I remember her reading this book and flipping the pages and I could tell she was getting more and more mad.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Getting more and more frustrated. And I’ve told her for years, the problem with our marriage is you read too much.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: You’d stop reading, we’d have a better marriage. And she’s flipping these pages and she finally sets the book down and she goes, “I have to ask you a question and I need an honest answer.” She said, “Have you ever struggled with lust towards another woman?” Now let me teach you something.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: All right. You start by acting as though you didn’t hear the question.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Huh?

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Have you ever struggled with lust towards another woman? Tactic two, you act as though you didn’t understand the question.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: What do you mean?

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But then I knew we were going there. We are going to have a long conversation about the way men think. And, and for the week as we discuss this, we’d walk into stores and anytime a woman would walk towards me, Amy, would look right at me and I’d have to look right into the ground. That was the-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … for the whole week. The, the end of the week, this is a true story, she comes up to me and she said, “I’ve been getting some discipleship. I’ve been reading everything I can get my hands on.” For whose the first person she had to go here, right? She had to find out what Beth Moore said about the subject.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Because if Beth Moore said it, Jesus believes it.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And she said, “I’m going to tell you something right now, Ted Cunningham. I will be your only fantasy.” Okay. There’s a Hebrew term for that. You know what the Hebrew term is, [Hebrew 00:04:20].

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But I think Christians should be leading out in this. Husband and wife, the marriage bed kept pure. We, we can have a lot of creative ideas in the marriage bedroom without bringing anything from the world into it. And all God’s people said-

Audience: Amen.

Ted: You’re like, “I don’t know.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: It depends on how far he’s going to go with this.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I’m going to start with the guys just to help you out. ‘Cause I love you. And I care for you. And this is pastoral, uh, care tonight.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I want to give you a list on how to prepare your wife for a night of romance. Okay. And if you’re not having taken any notes, this is the time to start.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And get your phone out and you start writing down because we believe in our home, men are microwaves, women are crockpots.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: That’s number one. We actually got a candle that we call the crockpot candle.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And when that candle is lit, it means tonight’s the night.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I taught my kids to play with matches. You guys light that thing anytime-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … you want.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But the candle can be lit, and it means, okay, we have all day. So guys, this is all day. We’re preparing her for a night of romance. Okay. Number one, it starts early in the morning. Number two, give her a non-sexual touch before you leave the house. That’s what we call an NST, okay.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Dr. Greg Smalley says you need 12 of those a day and it’s not 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: You know what a non-sexual touch is, right? It’s the hair over the ear. It’s a hand on the back. Is it the, maybe opening a door and the hand on the small of the back, driving down the road, a hand on the thigh, holding hands, a gentle kiss on the cheek. That’s a non-sexual touch. Okay. Call her during the day is added to the list. Call her during the day for no purpose other than to connect with her, just to say, “Hey, how you doing?” Just calling to say, “I want you to know I’m at work, but I’m thinking of you.” Hmm.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Get home a little bit early, do something domestic.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: If you beat your wife home, get the dishwasher started. You, the key here is you don’t even need dishes in it. Just get-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … the dishwasher started. The sound of the dishwasher going on does something to my wife. I can’t explain it. But when I do any sort of cleaning around the house, she’s like, and when she just looks at me, we don’t even have to communicate with words anymore. She looks at me like you are my man.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: The candle is lit.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Download a lovemaking playlist. Oh, this is good. We got songs. You got songs. We grew up in the ’80s. We got songs. All I have to do, and if I don’t even play it, if I sing it, it’s even better.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And I want to give you permission to join me as I start singing this song. Okay. So some of you know, it’s going to be good, but it’s good. Listen, all I have to do is walk into the kitchen and start singing this, (singing).

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: (singing).

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: (singing). And she jumps in the air, I grab her.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And off we go. Now see, all of this is building, right? And I, I try to help my brothers along in this because they’re like, “Well, we don’t really connect all day. And we’d been tired. And while she’s working and I’m working and we’re doing the kids’ activities and we’re getting home, but, but I always like to go into the kitchen about nine o’clock and tap her and be like, “Hey, maybe you want to go.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And she says, “No-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … right? You haven’t prepared me.” Right? For a woman, sexual interest is driven by, by energy. This is why, this is why you have to remove distractions. In our home right now we’ve got a ten-year-old distraction and a twelve-year-old distraction.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And most light the candles lit, I have to run the house, going, “Stay away from your mother, right? Leave her alone. Go to your room right now.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “I just have to say something to mom.” “No, you’re going to say nothing to mom.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “You’re going to leave mom alone.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “You can talk to her in the morning.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Amy, honestly, after a couple of hours, she’ll come out of the bedroom after taking a bath or something, she’d be like, “Hey, where are the kids?” “They’re safe.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “That’s all you need to know. You focus.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “You stay.” I bet that you guys know what I’m talking about. See, you’ve done all this work, you’ve worked for 12 hours.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And the kid can say or do something, “I’m not really in the mood.” “You stay focused.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “I’ll take care of the kids.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: You gotta bring some candles into the bedroom. And this is where the lady start to go, “I’m kind of insecure about my body.” Well, put a boat in the far corner of the room, make him squint, but get a candle.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Okay. That’s enough for the guys. Ladies, here’s my list for you on how to prepare your husband for romance. Show up naked. That’s it.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: We don’t need no calls during the day just to see how we’re doing.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: We’re fine. The house doesn’t even need to be clean. You’d be amazed at how dirty it can be.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Marriage should be honored by all. That, you know, that means every single, every married, young, old, it doesn’t matter. All of us are called to esteem marriage as highly valuable.

John: You’re listening to pastor Ted Cunningham on Focus on the Family and we have a CD or audio download available of this broadcast or the entire date night challenge event is available on DVD. It’s intended for mature audiences given some of the topics they cover. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY, if you’d like to get the DVD or the CD, again, 800-232-6459 or donate if you can and request your copy focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and return now to pastor Ted Cunningham.

Ted: I think we’ve gotten away from this next key, uh, verse in the scripture it’s, it’s found in Ecclesiastes. I, I love the bookends of Ecclesiastes. Ecclesiastes one, life is hard. Ecclesiastes 12, then you die.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: That’s a, that’s why a lot of people avoid that book. But generations come and generations go, but the earth remains forever. And then you get to chapter 12 and it says what? Remember your creator in the days of your youth before the days of trouble come where you say, I find no pleasure in them. It’s old age. Here’s the bookends. Life is hard, then you die. But in the middle of this book is Ecclesiastes 9, 7-9, it says this, go and eat your food with gladness, drink your wine with a joyful heart. We were independent, fundamental pre-millennial King James Version only Baptist. We never did that part. We left that part out.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: It says, eat your food with gladness, drink your wine with a joyful heart. For now God favors what you do, but not the independent Baptist, but God favors it.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Always be clothed in white and always anoint your head with oil. Speaking there of joy and festivity. And then verse nine says this endure life with your wife, all your miserable days.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I love going to churches where Bibles are closed. And I misquote that verse like that. I’ll say in your life with your wife all your miserable days, and I’ll always get a few, hmm.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: It’s good. It’s good.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And I’d say, “That’s not what it says.” You know what it says? And it’s the only place in your Bible where it says enjoy life with your wife, whom you love all your meaningless days, for this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. In other words, you can enjoy life and marriage at the same time. Part of esteem marriage as highly valuable is reminding all of us that you don’t have to choose between life and wife.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I want you to think about this for just a second, just a second, eHarmony, Match.com, Farmersonly.com comes on the screen.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But think about the guy who’s sitting at home right now in a bad marriage or in a stuck marriage, or the wife is in a bad marriage, a stuck marriage. They see the twirling couple on the screen. You’ve seen them. Guy comes on. They found their soulmate. They found, we have an algorithm that all you have to do is take a test to put you with the perfect person and he’s going, “Oh, look how happy they look. They’re enjoying life. I’d like to enjoy life like that maybe again, one day.” I did for our marriage-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … but now I’m married. And our problem is we never took a test.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And you know, our culture really is falling for this idea that compatibility is something you find or something you test for. And that’s just not true. Compatibility is something you create. It’s a, you learn to enjoy one another. You learn to be compatible. My wife and I, we are different. I grew up in a home that taught savings was money you put away for a rainy day. She grew up in a home that taught savings was the difference between the actual price and the sale price.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Does anybody know what I’m talking about? But with our money, we’re learning to become compatible. She grew up-… the holidays. We weren’t compatible with the holidays. They’re coming up again. My wife grew up in the White House, right? Tree in every room, garland over every door, lights everywhere. My family decorated for Christmas on a commercial break. Does anybody know what I’m talking about?

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Dad would go over to the crawl space, pull out a three-foot pre-decorated tree and put it on the deal, pull off the garbage bag and we’d sing Joy to the World and back to that’s incredible. That’s how it worked.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But not my wife. And so you can imagine every Christmas early on, especially by the time I’m getting the 57 box down out of the attic that says Christmas decor. I’m in no mood to celebrate the birth of my Lord and savior.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Anybody with me? Am I the only one? I’ve ticked off. But we’re finding ways to be compatible. And here’s one of the little tools that we’ve picked up. And actually I’ve picked this up from my friends, Jason Earls and John Branyan they’re comedians. And they have what’s called in comedy, the callback. The callback, it’s what makes your favorite comedian, your favorite comedian. It’s what makes your favorite sitcom, your favorite sitcom. And here’s how it works. Something happens. There’s an event. You put a little space between the event, but then you bring the callback in at a later time.

Ted: It’s Jeff Foxworthy, right? Anytime he says, you might be a redneck, we all die laughing. Bill Engvall: Here’s Your Sign, right? Those are the callbacks those guys have. And we’ve decided we need some callbacks in our marriage in order to enjoy one another. My wife, she, she’s a foodie. Do we have any foodies in here? Let me see the hands of all the foodies. Okay. I’m not a foodie. What a foodie means is you go into a restaurant and you never leave full. That’s the definition of a foodie.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Small portions, big prices. We’re in New York. She walks me into this restaurant and I sit down like, “Oh, this is going to be bad. I’m not going to get enough food.” Waiter walks over.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: He has a plank and there’s a mint leaf sticking out this side and a mint leaf sticking out that side. And I ask him, “Is that the salad?”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “Is this where we’re starting this thing?” And I kid you not. He says, “No, here’s what the chef recommends that you take the mint leaf, you begin rubbing it over your lips and under your nose and on your chin. You just really begin. It’s going to prepare you for the meal.” I look over, my wife’s totally into it.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I’m still holding mine.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And I told the guy, I said, “You know, I grew up in Illinois-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … where we grew a lot of produce, we just never once thought about rubbing it on our faces.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “And I think of a husband and a wife are gonna rub vegetables on their face together-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … I think it should be done in privacy. And you don’t even need to be here right now.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: He wouldn’t leave. So ’cause he wouldn’t leave I decided I’m going to wear this mint leaf out. So I’m-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … I’m rubbing I hand it back to him and he takes it off. But now watch the callback. ‘Cause my wife knows that is just not a comfortable situation for me. And, and I hear guys say this to me a lot. They’ll say things like, “You know, that’s her thing. It’s not my thing.” But compatibility is her thing becoming your thing and your thing becoming her thing, of finding ways to enjoy it. So here’s the callback on that one. Now when we’re at my favorite restaurant [le 00:17:57] Cracker Barrel-

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: … all I have to do is lean over, grab a piece of her broccoli and go like that a little bit.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And she’s ready to go.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: We’ve become more compatible in this area too. Early in our marriage, I had to tell her, I go, “Listen, baby. There’s just not a lot of adventure left for men in the world anymore. Okay. So please let me find my own parking space.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “Okay. I want to do it all by myself.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: “I want to provide it for my family.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: She’d point a spot three spaces in, I drive 20 spaces down.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And she used to look at me with those eyes said, “You stubborn, stubborn man.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But not anymore. You know what part of becoming compatible requires and enjoying life together requires you have to fire one another as the source of life. Jesus is our source of life-

Audience: Yes.

Ted: … not one another. So here’s what we did. I’m going to ask you, I’m gonna invite you to be a part of doing this with us. I’m going to have you raise your right hand and repeat after me. Go ahead. This is the participatory part of the night.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Raise your right hand. Repeat after me. I-

Audience: I.

Ted: State your name.

Audience: State your name. (laughs).

Ted: Everybody’s part of the comedy tour now.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Do hereby resign.

Audience: Do hereby resign.

Ted: As general manager of the universe.

Audience: As general manger of the universe.

Ted: And my spouse.

Audience: And my spouse.

Ted: Okay. Now watch this. This is the best part. Take your finger for the very last time. That finger that has been pointing blame at your spouse for years for your unhappiness, point at your spouse for the very last time. And say these words that will set you free in Jesus.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Say, you’re fired.

Audience: You’re fired.

Ted: You will no longer suck the life out of me.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Jesus is my source of life, not you.

Audience: Jesus is my source-

Ted: You don’t have to keep repeating, I’m teaching now.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: But some of you are really getting into that. And I’ll say another thing.

Audience: (laughs).

Speaker 5: Say another thing.

Ted: The way you, okay, so stay with me we’re almost done for the night. So now, because we fired one another as a source of life, no more, you will not do, so now guess what that does, it turns conflict into fun. It turns it into that callback. We’re able to enjoy one another, even in a parking lot. And so now we pull in and she points, I’ve told her the rules of the parking lot have not changed. I can’t, from the foundations of the earth, God set up the rules when a woman points out a spot automatically disqualifies that spot.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: It’s no longer an available spot.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: So I’ve go past her third space in, 20 spaces down in there and I sit. And you know what, she does know when I love it. She leans over and she starts massaging my bicep.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And she’ll say, “You did this all by yourself.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And I can’t fully explain it, but it does something to me.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: You know what I caught her doing a couple of years ago? She knows those Andes Candies at the end of an Olive Garden meal are like crack to me. I love those Andes Candies.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: She bought a bag of them. She keeps them in her purse for when I do something good.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And it was in a parking lot I received my first one. She pulled it out.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: She handed it to me. I grabbed that out of her hand. I’m opening up and I realize.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: My wife just gave me a tree.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: She is rewarding my good behavior.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I, I’m a dog!

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: I was all right. I opened it up and I enjoyed it anyway.

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: That’s turning conflict into a callback. And, and you just have to make the decision, right? The decision to stay married flows from your character. That commitment flows from character and character trumps compatibility. Compatibility flows from your character. And we have received some great callbacks from those out on tour. And one of my favorite ones comes from a guy. He sa- he said, “My wife called me at work one day and the toilet was running. And I, I told her to go over take the lid off the top and look down the chain is probably on the bottom, just reach down, grab the chain, put it back.” And he go- and he’s explaining it to her. And she goes, “Ew.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: She says, “I’m not reaching my hand in there. Disgusting.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And he goes, “Honey, it’s clean water. It’s like the water that comes out of the sink.” And he has to talk her into it. So he finally talks her into reaching her hand in there. But right before, (laughs) right before she does, she asked him the question, “Am I going to get electrocuted?”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: And he came up with the most brilliant callback. He said, “Honey, you have to unplug the toilet first.”

Audience: (laughs).

Ted: Thank you very much, Day Night Comedy Tour, it’s been great being with you. You’ve been a lot of fun tonight. Thanks.

John: We’ve been listening to pastor Ted Cunningham today on Focus on the Family and, uh, what an enthusiastic crowd, Jim.

Jim: Well, what a great way to share encouragement for marriages. And I want to emphasize what Ted there, right at the end, he had everyone resigned from the position of general manager of the universe and-

John: Hmm.

Jim: … my spouse. (laughs). And man that hits me right in the heart. I hope you caught that. Uh, it reminds me of the saying, you can’t be your spouses Holy Spirit.

John: Yeah.

Jim: How many times do we try to do that? Uh, I think this is one of the critical challenges in marriage and Ted said it in a funny way, but it is deeply true. We really, uh, can’t change our spouse, so stop trying. But we can change our own attitudes and behavior toward our spouse, especially with the help of the Holy Spirit. And if we take Ted’s advice, we can relax a bit and accept our husband or wife and their flaws and hopefully they’ll accept ours and work on those things that are within. And John, I got to tell you, this is a real recipe for a peaceful home.

John: And I’m going to have to take this message to heart next time I’m just itching to tell Dena how to-

Jim: (laughs).

John: … load the dishwasher-

Jim: (laughs).

John: … properly.

Jim: Yeah, yeah me too.

John: (laughs).

Jim: Now, Jean and I, I mean, she does most of that and I’m grateful to her and I do chip in.

John: Yeah. I just need to let Dena do it her way. And if I really-

Jim: (laughs).

John: … feel the urge to say something to add in a little humor as Ted might advise you.

Jim: Yeah, that’s right. And you know, humor helps in any relationship, especially when things get tense.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Uh, well you can start improving your marriage by creating your own date night event right there at home. Get the date night challenge DVD from us, put the kids to bed and then watch it together and laugh together. The DVD is over two hours long and is hosted by Greg and Erin Smalley. It features Ted Cunningham’s entire message plus presentations from comedians, John Branyan and Jason Earls. And let me just add a thank you to the faithful givers who support the ministry, allowing us to produce marriage strengthening materials, like the date night challenge DVD. If you haven’t given lately, let me encourage you to join our team today to support marriages in all stages, from engaged couples to those in the retirement years. Here’s just one success story from a listener. She wrote, the Focus on the Family broadcast has helped restore my marriage. I began listening several years ago when we were on the brink of divorce. I’ve been applying suggestions from your program and our marriage is now thriving.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Thank you so much for being a channel for God’s truth. Man, that is good stuff. And that impact is thanks to faithful donors. And of course the Lord working through all of us. And I want you to be a part of this marriage building team. And the best way to do that is by becoming a monthly donor. It doesn’t have to be a big amount. It’s the consistency that really helps us month to month. And when you partner with us with a monthly pledge of any amount, I want to provide you with the date night challenge DVD. And if a monthly commitment won’t work for your budget right now, we understand that we can send the date night DVD to you for a one-time donation of any amount.

John: And you can reach us by calling 800-A-FAMILY 800-232-6459, or donate online and request your DVD at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And let me point out that, uh, the DVD is intended for a mature audience. It’s, uh, covering topics of course, of interest to couples. And so if you just want what you heard on the air today, request the CD or the audio download. When you’re online with us, check out our free marriage assessment. It takes just a few minutes and it’s going to help you identify the strengths and maybe a few weaknesses in your relationship. More than a million have taken this free marriage assessment, it’s online at our website. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Pastor Dave Carder offers couples practical advice for protecting their marriages from adultery in a discussion based on his book Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them. (Part 2 of 2)

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

Headshot photo of author Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

Author Wendy Speake smiling as she holds up her book "The 40-Day Social Media Fast"

Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!