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Adoption: Making a Difference in the Life of a Child

Adoption: Making a Difference in the Life of a Child

Mike and Kristin Berry tell their inspiring story of adopting eight children and encourage listeners to consider how they might make a positive difference in the life of a child in foster care or an adoptive family.

Original Air Date: November 9, 2015

Opening:

Excerpt:

Mike Berry: All of us have been given the capacity to love somebody else or – or give our heart fully. It really comes down to a choice whether to love or to not love. It’s not a question of capacity.

End of Excerpt:

John Fuller: Well, sharing how God began to really work on his heart to care for needy kids and consider adoption, that’s Mike Berry. And he and his wife, Kristin, are on today’s Focus on the Family with Focus president and author Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, November is National Adoption Month, so that is one reason we’re coming to the microphones to talk about this today, but also just the heart of us as believers and are we willing to take care of the widow and the orphan. I think the Lord over 50 times says to do that. You know, it’s just like us as His children to say, “Lord, when I grow up, what do You want me to do with my life?” “Well, for the 53rd time, take care of the widow and the orphan.” And that’s one of the reasons why we want to cover this topic again today and I hope, no matter where you’re at, maybe you and your spouse are considering adoption. Maybe you’ve never considered it or maybe you’re in the thick of it. I think for any one of those three types of people, you’re gonna enjoy today’s broadcast.

John: Yeah, and you can find out about Wait No More and how you can make a difference in that space of foster care, whether it’s just helping a family adopt or helping a child who needs a temporary home at www.focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call us. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY.

Now I mentioned Mike and Kristin Berry. They live just outside of Indianapolis, Indiana, and they have a popular blog called Confessions of an Adoptive Parent and they get about 20,000 visitors every month to that site.

Body:

Jim: Mike and Kristin, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Mike and Kristin Berry: Thank you.

Mike: Good to be here.

Jim: It is, you know, intriguing. What kind of confessions pop up on that blog?

Mike: Oh…

(LAUGHTER)

…Yeah, that’s one of those things.

John: Your confessions or somebody else’s?

Jim: Let’s just start right there.

Mike: Well, the – yeah, that’s – I would assume you mean, by our confessions. We’re the writers, primary writers. Yeah, we – our intent is to be very honest and open, because we know that – that being an adoptive and foster parent is very difficult and…

Jim: Well, let’s start…

Mike: …very lonely at times.

Jim: Let’s start with that, I mean, that lonely aspect of it. How many children have you adopted?

Kristin: We’ve adopted eight and we’ve fostered 22.

Jim: Fostered 22? Now I love the beginning of your story. I mean, you’re a young couple. Where did you find the heart? Why did you go in this direction? What motivated you? What did that beginning look like? And you had to be what, like two weeks married? When this…

Mike: Not even married.

Jim: …issue popped up.

Kristin: Right.

Jim: How did that, what did that look like?

Kristin: Well, I think we both have a different perspective on this. For me, this came from a legacy that was handed down to me from my grandparents.

Jim: And what did that look like? What legacy did they hand you?

Kristin: My grandfather grew up in the foster care system and he was never adopted and neither was his brother and that was a pretty dark situation for him.

Jim: Did he talk to you about that?

Kristin: Yes, very minimally when he was alive, but I heard more of the story after he passed away. My grandma knew him from the time he was – she was a kindergartner and she described him as a kind of kid that nobody liked, just a mean, nasty kid. But what she described was a man that was changed and so he passed on that legacy by raising a different generation in his own children and then his children went on, my father raised myself, my brother and my sister and then adopted my youngest brother. And so, that’s generations of change…

Jim: So you saw that modeled…

Kristin: …for me.

Jim: …right there?

Kristin: Yes.

Jim: So your heart, did you think that was just normal? You’re gonna get married someday, and then you’re gonna adopt a child or two?

Kristin: Oh, yes, absolutely.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: Yeah, now enter the picture Mike.

Kristin: Right.

Jim: And how did Mike…

Kristin: So…

Jim: …feel about that?

Kristin: …you know, I – I said that to him. You know, he listened, “So when – when we get married, I’d really like to adopt children.” He could probably take it from there ‘cause…

Mike: And I said, “No. No, no, no, no, no. That’s not how we’re gonna do it.”

John: Because…?

Mike: Well because in my family growing up, nobody adopted. Nobody fostered. Everybody was born into the family the old-fashioned way, biologically, and so it wasn’t that I was against adoption, it’s just that I didn’t understand it. And plus, I had an idea of how I wanted my family to look like, you know. And that’s how we – you know, we get out of college, we all have these visions or these ideas, and we realize how small those are compared to the story that God is writing. And that’s what I really didn’t realize. And so, really, the long story short is that God changed my heart.

Jim: How long did that take?

Mike: Oh, it took, see, the – the first conversation when she said, “We’re gonna adopt,” and I said, “No, no, no, no. Let me tell you how we’re gonna – it’s gonna go.” That was in November 1998 and our first daughter, Jayla was born April 2002. Now what happened in the – in the course of that time is that Kristin, we had arguments about this, but Kristin received some valuable advice and the advice was, “You need to stop fighting him on this and just start praying for him, praying for his heart.” And again, it wasn’t hard-hearted, it was just kinda – it was just being a guy, let me put it that way. And you know, it – God changed my heart. There were people that came into my life at different times who were adoptive fathers or foster parents and they spoke truth. And I didn’t even realize they were speaking truth to me. It was just, they were sharing their story and it made me realize, “Wow, this is really cool.” This is something that – that you know, it just – my heart was changing, you know?

Jim: Well let me talk to you, Kristin, about that feeling. I mean, you had these deep desires. Some people, some wives at that point might get frustrated and actually apply more pressure to their husbands, which probably won’t get the outcome that they’re looking for. How did you discern what to do and to, like in some ways, back off and begin to pray? That takes a lot of maturity.

Kristin: I think that that is directly the Holy Spirit. I’m a fighter, so that’s me. I win everything, so – and it was my mom that said, “This is not one you want to win that way.” So it was her advice to back off…

Jim: Was it hard?

Kristin: …and to pray. You know what? It was hard at first, but I realized that she was absolutely right. If we brought a child into our home, I wanted it to be our child together, not just another battle that I won. And so, it was easier as time went on, because when he talks about his heart changing, he didn’t realize his heart was changing, but I did. I could see. Um, CCM Magazine, Steven Curtis Chapman did an article about adopting his first child and I could see him reading it and I thought, “Oh, I’m so excited,” but I didn’t say anything. And so…

Jim: Oh, that’s great restraint.

Kristin: …it was – but to see the Lord moving in him was better than to see myself winning. So, yes it was difficult, but at the same time, it wasn’t, because backing off allowed me to see God creating our family in a way that, you know, in the end really, I didn’t think we would have eight children, so God did more in our family than what I would’ve expected.

Mike: You know, the – one of the things that I wrestled with in that time that a lot of men will wrestle with, ‘cause I’ve spoken to – I’ve been at conferences and had men ask this question. It’s that, “Well could I love a child who biologically was not mine?” And I responded by saying, “You can. You have to choose to do so. You have to choose to open your heart,” and that’s with anybody, not just…

Jim: Well, and I…

Mike: …with raising children.

Jim: Absolutely, and I love that statement and I’m not sure where I heard it, but an adoptive parent who had biological children, as well, but when that child that was adopted was old enough to kind of figure out what was happening and begin to talk to their adoptive mom and dad, they handled it so brilliantly saying, “Listen, we couldn’t choose our kids. We chose you.”

Mike: Yeah, absolutely.

Jim: “And that makes you special.”

Mike: Yeah.

Jim: That’s an interesting way to do that, because it does build up the – I think the confidence of that child ‘cause it’s in their little heart somewhere. “Am I really part of the family?”

Mike: Yeah.

Kristin: Well, I think, too, one of the things we said to our children is that, you know, “Daddy and I love each other and we’re not biologically related either.”

(LAUGHTER)

So…

Jim: That’s good.

Kristin: …there is not a person in our home that’s biologically…

Jim: I like that, yeah.

Kristin: …related, so we all choose commitment to one another.

Jim: That’s fantastic. Let me ask you this. With the counseling that you’ve done and you’ve heard that typical question, what’s another question or another barrier? In your case, I think it’s important to let people know if you’re okay with that, that it wasn’t that you couldn’t have biological children.

Mike: Correct.

Jim: You were choosing to adopt and that’s important. Talk about that decision making, ‘cause that’s powerful.

Mike: Well, I guess that would be, we decided together, but you want to take that one?

Kristin: Yeah, I would say…

Jim: I would hope so.

Kristin: …we did make that decision together.

Mike: We did, yes.

Kristin: I would say that we have now faced both. We did decide to adopt our first child. I really think that’s the Lord moving also. I think that Jayla was meant to be our daughter, because we just came to the conclusion at the same time. We went to the agency. We filled out the paperwork. They told us to hurry because they had a mom waiting for us and she was born two months later. So, I think that the Lord put us in that place at exactly the right time, because that is our daughter.

However, as time went on, you know, we did continue to talk about it, but once you open your home, children just kind of start tumbling through the door and so, we had many, many, many more before we discussed the possibility of having a biological child again. We did lose our um – we had a miscarriage a couple years ago and that was pretty devastating. That was something that we sort of – we never thought about having a biological child and then we did think about it and then it happened and then it didn’t happen. You know…

Jim: Oh, that must have been difficult.

Kristin: …so we’ve kind of faced both now, but we sort of did it backwards from other people. And so, for us, it didn’t make it any less devastating. We felt very, very sad, but at the same time, we grieved that alongside of eight children who loved us very much.

Jim: And those eight kids were already in the home?

Kristin: Yes.

Jim: Wow.

Kristin: And so, as we grieved over that together as a family, it opened up a lot of that discussion about how much we love them and how unique they are and how they were created by God to be exactly the person that they are.

John: Well, you’re listening to the story of some hearts that had to kind of come together and the change that occurred in Mike Berry’s heart, and I appreciate the story that Mike and Kristin are sharing on today’s Focus on the Family. And it may be that God is using this discussion, this conversation to move your heart along. And by the way, shout out to Steven Curtis Chapman. He’s been used by God in so many people’s lives, including mine. And we’re gonna invite you to stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to find out more. We have resources, information there, and we’ll connect you with the various websites as well. That’s at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: One of the things that springs into my mind and of course, we’re doing foster respite, Jean and I and we’ve had foster children in our home, as well, we have such a – a passion in this culture for comfort and safety. And oftentimes, I don’t want to paint a pristine picture of foster situations – either foster adopt or just fostering or respite, like we do. There can be some very wounded children coming into your home in that environment. Talk about that distinction between our hearts looking for comfort and safety, protecting our biological kids, versus having a heart, what I think is the heart of God to reach out to kids in all of that mess and to bring them into an environment where they can, you know, they’re gonna act out. They’re going to test to see if you really care about them by doing things that push you. Talk about that tension.

Mike: Well, you know, we for us, all of our children are adopted, but we have, you know, one of the things that we experienced along that nine-year journey of foster parenting was that we realized that our children who were permanently a part of our family, you know, really faced, could face that same – those same struggles that a biological child, who was standing there watching their parents go through this. We – we kinda ran head into that, I think it was right around 2008 when we were dealing with a situation with a – a – we had two children in our care who were “failure to thrive,” high medical needs. It – they required a therapeutic home, which we were not.

And I think one of the things that we really – we were very intentional about, was to make sure that we – I mean, this sounds simple, but it’s profound when you really think about it, was to be intentional about paying attention to the children who were permanently a part of our family and making sure that we were – we set aside time. We guarded time, because to not do that, you can – your children can go through trauma, which ours did, to watch what we went through as parents.

And so, that was kinda that “aha” moment, to steal a line that’s been used a lot, you know, that “aha” moment for us that, man, we need to be really intentional, because these children over here are forever a part of the Berry family, you know. So – so it’s about being very intentional, guarding that time and we’re a very open family, so I mean, gosh, we could go on for hours about some of the stories that we’ve dealt with or situations we’ve dealt with, you know, with children in our care through foster care, who pushed us to the limit.

Jim: Let me ask you though: so you’ve adopted eight children. People listening go, “Wow, that’s overwhelming.” I mean, I – you know, if we could adopt one child or foster one child, that would be something that we could do. Talk about the difference with some of the people that you counsel. I mean, that is pretty amazing. You have a heart for this, a calling perhaps…

Mike: Yeah.

Jim: …versus someone who wants to do the right thing as a believer, a follower of Christ, who feels compelled rightfully so, because it’s right there in Scripture. What would you say to them about the amplification of it?

Kristin: Right.

Jim: Should they adopt one or should they adopt eight or ten?

Kristin: I would say whatever you do makes a difference. So, when I go back to the story of my grandpa, my grandma was also adopted, what you do makes – there’s a ripple to that, there is change that happens then that you won’t even see. My grandfather passed away when I was 16-years-old. He had absolutely no idea – or maybe he does now – that the stories that he told me when I – he was still alive, affected not only me, not only my father, my father’s son, who’s also adopted, but now all of my children are adopted. My sister’s children are all adopted, so that has caused a ripple of change. It’s caused an effect over generations now. So whatever you do, if you have the capacity to open your home for respite to provide something for another family, you are providing a change. You’re making a change in the future, so…

Jim: Well, and there’s something everybody can do. Even if you don’t feel called to do this, you can come alongside another family. I think research has shown that an adoptive family needs about five other families to be that support base…

Mike: Absolutely.

Jim: …around them.

Kristin: That’s right.

Jim: You know, that means weekend breaks; maybe bring in meals sometimes or doin’ laundry for ‘em.

Kristin: Right.

Jim: Those things really do make a difference and it’s a beautiful way for you to help a family that is called to this.

Mike: One of the things that, believe it or not, there’s actually been a lot of scenarios where people have wanted. They either have adopted multiple children or they – they look at their home and they think, “I’ve got all this space. I’ve got all these resources. I want to adopt more.” In fact, last – this past winter, we were at Refresh conference out in Redman, Washington, which is a fantastic conference for adoptive and foster parents. And we actually – I was on a dad panel where I answered questions from fathers in the audience, who were just sayin’, you know, what about this, what about that, you know. And one – a couple of the questions had to do with, you know, “Well, tell me, should we be adopting more?” And my response is, “Yes, do it.”

(LAUGHTER)

It sounds reckless, but it’s like, that’s kind of the invitation that God has on all of our lives. You know, like – I mean, God never like walks you along and says, “This is exactly how your life’s gonna go.”

Jim: Right.

Mike: He says, “I want you to trust Me and follow Me.” When Jesus called His disciples, He didn’t tell ‘em, “Hey, by the way, here’s where we’re goin’. Here’s the home we’re gonna live in.” He didn’t say any of that. He said, “Come, follow Me.”

Jim: Well, and that’s that safety and comfort factor.

Mike: Exactly, yeah, yeah, which you had asked before and we, for us personally and this would be almost a whole ‘nother broadcast, we made the – the choice to live small, to live extremely below our means, sell our big comfortable home, live in a home that was crazy too small and there’s a reason behind that, that we – our hearts were moved about a year and a half ago to do that, but we tend to be, you will find us telling people, “Jump. Do it.” Which I know, some listeners are out there thinking, ah, there’s no way. But listen, I believe the Holy Spirit empowers us in ways that we can’t even begin to imagine, that God is at work in the background of our lives in ways we can’t even believe or even understand with our finite minds. Yes, if you feel you should be doing this, do it. If you look at your home and think, “I could take eight children, 10 children…”

Jim: Well…

Mike: “…15 children.” That might be getting crazy, but…

Jim: This is spoken by the guy who, when first married said, “There’s no way we’re gonna adopt.”

Mike: Yes, yeah.

Jim: So, God has obviously changed…

Mike: Yes.

Jim: …your heart.

Mike: And when I looked at that little girl, you know, Jayla in the eyes and she first called me “Daddy” in the fall of 2002, there was never a question in my mind again, could I love a child that wasn’t biologically mine.

Jim: Oh, that’s beautiful.

Mike: So, yeah, it’s – I – you’re gonna find me saying, almost recklessly, do it.

Jim: Yeah.

Mike: Go for it.

Kristin: Well, and so we just did. We were leaving a conference and we were there to encourage foster parents here in Colorado actually and we go on the plane and I said, “I just am feeling like we’re supposed to be doing something else.” He said, “No, we’re not.”

(LAUGHTER)

I said, “No, I really feel like we’re supposed to be doing something else.” But our house is too small under Indiana laws; we have too many children under the age of 12, so we can’t be foster parents. We really don’t – I don’t know how we’d pass a home study. We’ve got kids jammed in every corner. So, what would that look like? What is it we’re supposed to be doing? And we talked about it a little more, but our daughter’s biological sister lives with their birth mother and she visits all the time on weekends and stays for a week, stays for a month in the summer. And just after having that conversation, we – my daughter and I both on the same night, woke up and said, “I’m thinkin’ about Dazia.” And so, we stopped and we prayed for her and the next day, the biological mom called and said, “Could you keep Dazia for the weekend?” So we said, “Yes, of course we can.” So we went to get her, thinkin’ we’re havin’ a sleepover and it turned out that the next day, biological mom had a stroke and had a car accident while she’s driving. Dazia would’ve been in that car. So really and because she’s had a stroke now, she’s really working on her recovery, but we have guardianship now of, we call her our niece, but she is the biological sister to two of our children. So I think that when God is really tugging at your heart, when you’re having that thought of, “I think I might be supposed to, maybe I’m supposed to do something,” you probably are. So…

Mike: That’s the way the Holy Spirit works.

Jim: Ah, it’s so true. You know, someone said to me, if we were to – if you think about the 100,000 children in the U.S. that are in foster and have no parents, think of the Christian community, the ripple effect that you talked about, the statement that it makes for pro-life.

Kristin: Oh, yes.

Jim: I mean, just that and then actually, changing the heart, the direction, the – the pattern of 100,000 children.

Kristin: Right.

Jim: That’s powerful.

Kristin: That’s right.

Jim: That would be a powerful movement and that’s what I love. That’s typically how the Lord works. As we wrap up, can I ask you if I’m listening to this saying, “Okay, how do I start to know if God is tapping my heart?” What does a call of God in this area sound like? What would you say to a couple who now are sitting over dinner tonight saying, “Did you hear that Focus program? What do you think we should do? Should we do anything?” What does…

Mike: Yeah.

Jim: …a call of God in the adoption space sound like?

Kristin: I think that’s exactly what it sounds like. If you walk away from this program and you’ve sat down with your spouse and you say, “Did you hear that? What do you think?” I think that’s probably your answer. You’re thinking about it. God’s speaking to your heart and like you said, come alongside of an adoptive family. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you adopt 8 or 10 or 12 or 15 children or even one. But we are all called to be a part of this change. So if you’re listening to this and God’s tugging at your heart in any way, if you have any question about that, come alongside of another adoptive family.

Mike: Yeah, I typically – the way that I – if I’ve looked over the course of my life, the moments where God has called me to do something, to join a cause or to go to a different place to serve in ministry, it’s always those moments that keep coming back. You know, it’s not just a fleeting thought. It’s not just a, you know, “Oh, wouldn’t that be cool?” It just keeps coming back. That’s how it’s worked for us.

We actually have some really good friends who live out in the Pacific Northwest. Their names are Peter and Christa. And we just interviewed them a couple – a week ago for our new podcast. And that was their story. They felt called. They – there was this idea to adopt internationally and I think the story goes that Christa had the thought. She brought it to Peter and Peter was like, “That’s so weird. I’ve been thinkin’ the same thing.” Then they kept coming back to it and you know, it’s – we see this throughout Scripture, too, that God leaves people restless, you know. He’s not gonna leave you. It’s not like God taps on your heart and says, “Hey, do this” and then He’s like, “And good luck with that,” you know.

Jim: No.

Mike: God will continue to – to wake you up and continue to leave you in a restless place, almost where you can’t live with yourself if you don’t do this. Now that – that’s not always the case, but for us, you know, I think Kristin, I agree with Kristin. If you’re sitting over dinner tonight and this is all of a sudden, you can’t get this broadcast out of your mind or the idea that there are 100,000 children in the United States and the Christian community could wipe that out if we all bonded together and – and took action, then you are supposed to step off.

Jim: Yeah.

Mike: That you trust your heavenly Father and He will never, ever leave your side. Now there are gonna be moments where you feel lonely and like, “Oh, my gosh, did I do the right thing?” But if you are holding on to your heavenly Father, He promises to never let go. So step off.

Jim: Step off, that’s a good word.

Mike: Yeah.

Jim: Mike and Kristin Berry, adoptive parents of eight, fostering 22, it’s great to have you with us.

Kristin: Thank you.

Mike: Great to be here.

Closing:

John: What a super conversation on Focus on the Family today. And I hope you’ve been inspired to get involved in orphan care. There are a range of ways you can do that. We have a list of 22 ways from little baby steps to big steps, and you’ll find that list and other resources related to what we do here at Focus on the Family to help foster children at our website: focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: When the Berry family started their journey, they had no idea they’d end up adopting eight children, John. I mean, it may sound mind-boggling, but it’s doable. They simply said, “God what do you want us to do?” Then they took that first step in finding out more information. Focus is here to help you with that first step, whatever that looks like for you. Take a look at the list John referred to – those 22 points – to get started. And see what the Lord says to your heart. Through our Wait No More program, you’ll grasp God’s desire for you to care for one of those 100,000 children in foster care who are waiting for that “forever family” as we like to call it.

John: And Wait No More helps Christian families better understand the need for adoption from foster care and the process that families need to follow to get there. And once you initiate that process, we connect you to the adoption agencies and community assistance needed to continue the journey. And then after finalization, we’re there to help provide resources and counseling on an ongoing basis.

Jim: And it’s not just about kids who need forever homes, as important as that is, it’s about each of us doing something like the Scripture says, “For orphans in their distress.” Ask God’s direction and follow His leading to be a voice for the voiceless, whether that means adoption, helping support adoptive families, or some other opportunity in this area. Frankly, we need your help through prayer and financial support to equip these families. $50 is all it takes to help another family do this job. And I believe in what we’re doing to help these children. And I invite you to join us in providing forever homes for them. And beyond that, if you can make a monthly commitment to Focus on the Family, perhaps four, fifty dollars, you’ll further our reach and enable us to help even more children find homes. When you make a monthly pledge of any amount today, we’ll send you a copy of Mike Berry’s book, Confessions of an Adoptive Parent, as our way of saying thank you for getting involved. And if you can’t afford that commitment, we’ll send you that book for a one-time gift of any amount. 

John: And make that contribution right now to support Wait No More, preparing families to adopt children from foster care. You can donate online at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

I hope you’ll join us again next time as we hear from Mac Owen and his wife, Mary, as they talk about the heartbreak of drug abuse.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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