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Shining a Light on Depression

Shining a Light on Depression

Drs. Gary Lovejoy and Greg Knopf clear up misconceptions about depression as they highlight its symptoms and explain how it can be treated.
Original Air Date: March 7, 2012

Teaser:

Woman: The depression was my pit that I was trapped in and I was longing for rescue, yet my rescue took over 6 years. And so, living a life of darkness and um … the lack of joy and I think more important for me, was the lack of hope.

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John: That woman there is describing a deep despair that she faced in the midst of untreated clinical depression.  This is “FOF,” with Focus president, Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and depression affects a lot of people and women in particular.

Jim:  John, it does and I’ve read that as many as 1 in 4 women will experience depression at some point in her life.  And they are 70 percent more likely than men to be diagnosed with depression. We want to come alongside you if you’re feeling that way today.  If you’re in that spot where the world looks overwhelming and your circumstances look overwhelming, today’s program is for you.

John: You know, Jim, uh … as we were preparing for this broadcast, I was thinking about the … the familiarity that so many biblical characters probably had with depression. As you read through the Scriptures, time and again it seems this … these times of darkness just–

Jim:  Hm.

John: –descended on a lot of the people of biblical history.

Jim:  Uh … that’s true, John and you look at Psalms and when you start reading the Psalms, it is filled with those moments. David obviously had a sense of … of the depths of despair, as well as the mountain top of joy. And he probably is one of the characters that encapsulates what we’re talking about today.  Uh … and let’s get to it. Our guest today will shed some light on this issue of the valleys and depression.

John:  Hm.  Well, with us we have two guests. The first is Dr. Gary Lovejoy.  He’s a licensed counselor and then also, Dr. Gregory Knopf, who is a family practice physician.  And for over 30 years, these men have been helping hundreds of people work through depression and find wellness. And uh … they’re the co-authors of Light on the Fringe: Finding Hope in the Darkness of Depression.  And gentlemen, it’s great to have you here today.

Gary:  Well, it’s great to be here.

Greg:  It’s great to be here, John.

Jim: It is good to have you here.  Let’s start with this question of, what are the signs of depression?  And what’s the difference from just having a bad day or feeling what we used to say “bummed out?”

Greg:  Jim, that is the starting point, when people need to realize that the normal emotion of depression that we can all have, say your favorite football team loses the game at the last second, you know, you’re gonna be bummed out for a day or two. That’s normal to feel a feeling of depression and discouragement and sadness. But that’s temporary and transitory.  And even if a mom has a son who’s playing a baseball game and the pitch is thrown and he strikes out and the game is lost, that will resolve by the next game.

But what we’re talking about is something that is now going on for more than two weeks.  And those symptoms primarily can be divided up into issues of sleep. Um … and there’s eight of ’em in addition to feeling down, that medical personnel use to try to confirm the diagnosis.

And the first one is sleep and it’s generally not a problem of getting to sleep.  It’s a problem of staying asleep. They can get to sleep, but then they get … they wake up for no reason at 2 or 3 o’clock in the morning.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Greg: If patients tell me that, a light goes on in my head that says, “This person could be experiencing depression,” which actually can affect the neurotransmitters in the brain.  And then there’s a loss of interest in normal joy and pleasure of life.  “I don’t want to go to church.”  “I don’t want to be in my small group.”  “I don’t want to go hunting this year. I just want to chill out and “veg” out and … and sort of cocoon.”

Jim: Would that be kind of a pulling in then that–

Greg:  Absolutely.

Jim:  –you … you’re just more comfortable–

Greg:  Withdrawn.

Jim:  –being at home.

Greg:  I just … I … I want to avoid things, this … and leads into the condition called “Social Anxiety Disorder,” where people just sorta say, “I … you know, I don’t want to be around people.”

The next one is feeling guilty and it’s a false guilt in the sense that it’s inappropriate because it’s oftentimes related to, “I’m not measuring up.  I haven’t done what I should do and I could’ve done more and I didn’t.  And I’m disappointing God and I’m disappointing my family.”  And people begin to have these self-condemning ideas and thoughts that they can’t get away from.  Then probably the most prominent one is fatigue–

Jim:  Hm.

Greg:  –and just lack of energy.  And if somebody comes in to see me and their chief complaint is, “Doc, I’m tired. Do you think I could have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome?”  And I’ll check them for low thyroid and for, you know, uh … anemia and a whole variety of medical issues. But 60 percent of the time when people come in with that complaint, that the ending up diagnosis will actually be depression.  And as–

Jim:  Hm.

Greg:  –you treat that, their fatigue will then resolve and their energy will return.

Jim: So, 60 percent of the time.

Greg:  Sixty percent of the time, those are the clear statistics.

Jim:  Hm.  Dr. Lovejoy, uh … in addition to the things that are being expressed in terms of diagnoses, uh … depression in your book, Light on the Fringe, it talked about depression being an alarm system.

Gary:  Uh-hm.

Jim: I found that fascinating.  What … what did you mean by that?

Gary:  It is an alarm system.  Uh … many people who experience depression feel that sense of meaninglessness and purposelessness. And it’s … seems counterintuitive to them to think that depression itself has a purpose. You know, how …. how I can feel so bad and yet, maybe there is a good purpose.

And uh … the purpose of depression is, that it’s a signal.  It’s an emotional alarm system that tells us that something is wrong.  Something is missing, either within ourselves, which could be either physiologically or psychologically or more often, both.  Or it could have something to do with uh … something amiss in our relationships, particularly and … and in relationships.

Or it could have to … to do with our circumstances and oftentimes all three. But it is a signal and as a signal or as an alarm, it is protected in its primary function.  And in the same fashion the depression fulfills that it’s an emotional alarm system that says something is wrong that requires … that may be damaging you, has damaged you in the past, may continue to be damaging now, that if you don’t pay attention to it, it could wound you further.

And so, if you think of depression as an emotional alarm, as a signal, it is not the problem. Depression is not the problem. It is a signal to that there is a problem.

Jim:  Well, what …

Gary:  And as such, it’s your ally, not your enemy.

Jim: Right.  Uh … also, you mention in the book; you talk about this idea that depression is rooted in this idea that we’re … we’re seeking significance and meaning. Uh … that was intriguing to me, that a root of depression can be caused by a lack of significance. Talk to me about that.

Gary:  Well, um … a lot of people really struggle in general with the whole issue of significance.  Uh … they want to be specifically significant to another person. They feel unloved. They feel unimportant, that what they have to say is dismissed as uh … as unimportant.

And so, when they experience rejection from others, they then move into self-rejection. But this significance issue is … also has greater significance itself and that is, uh … it relates to spiritual issues, because many, many people who are depressed, feel that they are um … they actually believe in the myth that … that depression is a sign of spiritual deficiency, that somehow they failed God, that as Greg was saying, that they’re a disappointment to God.  In fact, I had one woman say to me, “I feel like I’m a stench in the nostrils of God.”

John: Hm.

Gary:  And they’re unaware that uh … as you were talking about, John, about depression in the Bible. In fact, depression is the most common disorder discussed in the Bible and they’re unaware of that.  In fact, if you stop and think about it, it’s not even preached very often.

Jim: Hm.  It … it seems to be a bit of a taboo in the Christian community and uh … all of us know people perhaps or are married to or we ourselves deal with some issues of depression.  Let’s talk about this gender differential, because it’s very intriguing to me and I’d like to know if you see in the research a rationale for it.  But women tend to experience depression uh … more often than men. Why?  And uh … help illuminate that for us.

Gary:  Women have certain stressors that uh … and I’m … I’m gonna talk about the environmental stressors now, that distinguish them from men.  Uh … let me first of all give men and then I’ll compare it.

For men, there are three basic things–financial reversals, where they feel that their own sense of ability to produce a living and so forth is effected and they have a fi … uh … they may lose a lot of money on the Stock Market.  Their retirements funds are gone. That’s been happening in … more recently lately.

And then um … uh … there are difficulties with vocational identity, where they fail to get a job promotion, especially if they’re passed over by younger men or they hate their careers and they’re only about halfway through and they … they see no end to it and they’re … they’re miserable.

Or uh … the third is failing physical powers. For example, the classic 50-year-old guy goes out and tries to play basketball and … and commands his body to do the same thing a 20-year … when he was 20-years-old and he pulls ligaments and muscles and wonders what happened.

Jim: That’s a little–

Gary:  And he gets–

Jim:  –too close to home–

Gary:  –depressed.

Jim: –here. (Laughter)

John:  Never … never happens around her.  (Laughter)

Gary:  Because one thing that ties all these together for men and that is, anything that’s … deals with a sense of adequacy–

Jim:  Hm.

Gary:  –and competence.  Uh … for a woman on the other hand, it’s attacks … uh … anything that is a[n] attack on their sense of femininity. It may be a mastectomy, a hysterectomy. It may be their sense of their attractiveness.  We live in the society where it’s a cult of beauty. And uh … I remember hearing a story just recently on the … on the radio, where they were having a … a beauty pageant, believe it or not between uh … little girls from ages 7 to 12.

And uh … they announced the winner of the pageant and the … the mother of the runner-up became hysterical and … melt down, began accusing the sponsors of corruption and so forth. And her little girl began to cry and says, “Mommy, does this mean I’m not pretty?”

Jim: Hm.

Gary:  And if you look at the women in television, they’re … news anchors, news reporters, they’re all beautiful and they’re young.  Men can vary in attractiveness, but women don’t, not in [the] public eye.  And it gives a message to women, that beauty has an inordinate effect and uh … on their life. And if they’re not, then they think, “Oh, my life is gonna be a failure.”

The second thing is uh … feelings of loss or abandonment by important men in their life, starting with their fathers and then graduating to boyfriends, husbands and even male friends. Uh … and then thirdly, that has an effect is any trouble in the home.  Even though there are many women now who the past 20 years have moved out into the world and … and have careers of their own and so forth, still domestic issues still are more likely to arouse depression in women than in men.

The common thread between these three is issues of security, a feeling of love and security. And … and oftentimes, when I have a couple come in and they are having struggles, he will say something like, “Well, you know, I never really measure up. She’s never happy with uh … whatever I say or do. She’s always criticizing me and I’m just uh … tired of it.”  And that’s his view of the problem.  What is he talking about?  Feelings of inadequacy, I don’t measure up in her eyes.

And then I ask … I turned to her and I said, “Well, how do you see the problem?” And she’ll say, “Well, he comes home and he doesn’t hardly pay any attention to me.  He goes right to the computer or right to the television and “vegges” out and … and I feel so alone and I …”  And she’ll say things like uh … uh … “And I just wonder if he even loves me anymore. He doesn’t show me the affection that he used to,” and so forth.

And I’ll turn to her and I’ll say, “Sounds to me like you’re feeling very, very lonely and abandoned.” And when I say that, more often than not, tears start rolling down her eyes.  And so, here you have two people, one who feels inadequate and therefore, he feels angry that he feels inadequate. And the other one who feels deeply … the woman who is feeling deeply depressed, because she feels her security is wrapped … uh … being pulled from underneath her and her husband’s about ready to leave her or doesn’t care about her anymore and she feels unloved and disrespected.

Jim: So …

Gary:  So, that … those are powerful differences.

Jim: Yeah and so much of what you’re talking about as we do shows here at FOF, you’re really talking about communication.

Gary:  Yeah.

Jim: And uh … you know, the male and the female knowing how to uh … meet each other’s needs in a deeper and deeper way.  Uh … but …

Gary:  Could … can I–

Jim: Yeah, but … yeah.

Gary:  –make a comment about that? It’s really interesting.  An author was … put it uh … when a man comes home from work, he’s looking for a report, that they give uh … uh … a report of the day.

Jim:   … something.

Gary:  And if there’s a problem–

Jim: Yeah.

Gary:  –to solve, he’ll solve it, even if she’s not asking for that and she usually isn’t. But on the other hand, a woman is looking for rapport–one letter difference, but all the difference in the world.  She’s looking for connectedness, closeness, intimacy.  That’s what she’s looking for.

Jim:  Let’s talk about the young mom, because I  uh … see in the research that young moms who decide to stay at home, can tend to have the … the onset of depression.  It might be they’ve given up a career and … and whatever.  But talk to that and some of those periods in a woman’s life particularly where depression is a little closer to the heart than at other times. Uh … is it being a young mom at home one of those moments?

Gary:  Oh, absolutely and I’ll … I’ll let Greg address the postpartum issues, that … ’cause there are some biological issues involved there that can occur, but absolutely, because when a … a … in fact, depression peaks oftentimes early on when a … a … you have a young mother with young children in the home.

And part of the reason for that is, maybe em … embodied in uh … in a client I recently had.  It was … really showed a lot of the risk factors that are involved. She was a … a young mother. She was 28-years-old. She already had three children, one 4, one 2 and one 2 months of age.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Gary:  She felt desperately lonely.  She felt overwhelmed by her tasks. She looked absolutely like she had been through World War III.  She was exhausted.  And fatigue is a major factor, as Greg was talking about earlier.

And her friends, most of her friends didn’t have children. Some of ’em weren’t even married, so they couldn’t relate to her problems.  So, she began distancing from them and withdrawing from then. And then her husband didn’t help matters any, because he worked long hours and he came home and he was exhausted. And so, he’d go and sit down in front of the television and ve … “veg” out, basically uh … oblivious of crying children and so forth.  And all the efforts of childcare fell on her.

And she resented that and uh … and I asked her, has she ever asked him to do more?  And she said, “Well, I feel guilty.” I said, “What do you feel guilty about?”  And she says, “Well, I feel guilty, ’cause he already works long hours and he’s tired and … and I don’t want to ask him to do more.” But she resented it at the same time, because her expectations were that he would help, that it would be a joint venture, that he would uh … help change diapers, take care of the kids and give her a break.  And she’s–

Jim: So what does–

Gary:  –lost for time.

Jim: –a couple do?

Gary:  Pardon?

Jim: What does a couple do?

Gary:  Well, a couple has to utilize their resources. First of all, a husband has to recognize how his wife is starving for adult conversation and adult companionship. She’s been working with little kids all day, talking kid language. She needs that. So, they need to … have times where they go out and … and develop their alone time together. Oftentimes that’s one of the first things that gets sacrificed.  And marriages are not gonna remain strong unless you have the nurturing time to devote to it. It takes effort and energy to … uh … be placed into that marriage.

Jim: Dr. Knopf, as a medical physician, uh … talk about postpartum, because that’s in the news. Often you hear these horrific stories of women who have done things to their children. Uh … what is postpartum?  And how does it manifest itself?

Greg: After having a baby is a very high-risk time and sometimes it’s described as the “Baby Blues.”  And the mother will cry for days at a time and uh … it has to do with this incredible hormonal flux that occurs after now no longer having the baby inside the womb.  And that’s to some degree again, it’s a continuum.  Some of that is pretty normal, but at … sometimes it can be extreme.

I believe that there is a connection now that appears to be a real issue and that is, if some people have severe postpartum depression, it can be one of the first signs of a bipolar disorder which was unrecognized before.  So that, now a woman can … can actually become … lose touch with reality and believe that her children are somehow evil and she must get rid of them. And that would be the extreme.  And fortunately, it’s not that common, but there is a continuum and it has to do with that hormonal flux.

Jim: Hm.

Gary: I might just add with that, that in terms of postpartum depression, if a woman has a history of mood disorders, she’s two to three times more likely to develop depression during or after her pregnancy. And often when they’ve had a postpartum depression, they increase their risk for a depression later on by about 70 percent.

Jim: And in that context, what can a woman do who finds herself self-diagnosing perhaps a postpartum?  What should she do as a next step?

Greg: She should see her physician and talk about the treatment options and say, um … you know, “Is what I’m experiencing, is this normal?  Or should we uh … engage in some sort of therapy, some protection?”  Involve the family and support those issues.

John:  Uh … you know, as you’re speaking, Greg, I’m thinking about the door that was opened for my wife to depression. You know, Gary, you mentioned that postpartum depression can lead to depression later on. And after our third child, Dena was really struggling. And I remember being in the office with … with her physician and … and he said, “I think we might want to consider some medications.” And she just looked at her in shock.  She had the “baby blues,” but she couldn’t believe that he [sic] would suggest medication.  And uh … she actually did try some things out a little bit there and then went off them. But it came roaring back.  Uh … talk to how common that is and what a couple should be looking out for.

Greg:  I describe it, John, this way.  If you were to walk into your home on a winter evening and it was 50 degrees in the house, you would go, “Something is wrong. Either the furnace is no longer working or somebody left all the doors and windows open.”

And our brains must have enough of the neurotransmitters, primarily serotonin and norepinephrine functioning for us to have a normal mood and normal thinking processes.  Now if you are experiencing extreme stress, then it’s like the windows were left open and now you’ve got to shut those windows and crank up the heat again. And one of the ways to do that is … medication simply helps your body conserve what is already made.  It does not become addictive in any way when we’re talking about antidepressants. And so, I think some people have the fear that if I take this medication, I’m somehow gonna change my personality or it’s somehow like taking an addictive drug. And antidepressants are not addicting.

Jim: Hm.  And to show you how common it is, I think in both John and I, in our families, I think Jean along with Dena has suffered depression from time to time. In her case, there is a family history there.  And uh–

Greg:  Uh-hm.

Jim:  –in fact, one of her brothers committed suicide.  And that … that was a very difficult time for the entire family obviously, but it was a wake-up call for Jean. The difficulty there though, the struggle, I think particularly for Christians and perhaps Christian women more so, is this idea that um … being a Christian, if I have this situation, I … I should be able to expect the Lord’ll take care of it. And they can and I can say that Jean has given me permission to talk about this.  Uh … they want to push medication away because it … it kind of uh … defeats them in their faith. Does that make sense?

Gary:  It … it’s interesting that people even tell them when they’re depressed, “Well, if you just had more trust and faith in God, if you prayed more and read more uh … the Bible, that … that He would heal you and then He’d do this.” I had a woman who practically had calloused knees from praying and her Bible was dark from fingering the passages. And yet, her depression persisted and she thought, “My, I must really be repulsive to God, ’cause I’ve done it all. I’ve done everything and then, I … I still … I’m struggling with depression.”

I think there’s a lot of stigma uh … attached to a … certain stereotypes of depression, that somehow it has to do with a lack of trust and faith in God. And if I only just exercised it more, that it would go away. But the thing is, uh … as you were talking about the … the characters in Scripture, uh … whether it was … it’s Moses, Elijah, Jonah, Jeremiah, Job, Peter and Paul, they all experienced depression.

But God did not respond to them as unfaithful.  Didn’t even respond to the … He responded with compassion and care and mercy, but He did not respond to them this way, “You’re not being My faithful servant.” He never did that. You go back and you read the stories.  It’s remarkable how God dealt with their irrational thinking.  He corrected their misconcepts and He also dealt with them with great compassion, but He never once reproved them saying, “Well, you don’t have enough trust and faith.”

In fact, uh … you know, when we were talking about the biological and the environmental factors, sometimes we think of it this way.  The genetic factors and biological factors are the gun and the environment pulls the trigger. That loads the gun and this pulls the trigger.

Jim:  Hm.

Gary: And uh … and so, the two are intimately connected. And so, sometimes it’s just issues.  That’s why it’s an alarm system. It’s pointing out issues that need attention, maybe that have been neglected, maybe they don’t want to look at them. I always … my clients who come into my office, I always salute them for the courage for them to come in and face some of the darkest parts of their lives and deal with some of the issues that maybe ha … is still hurting them, but they have ne … they’re for the first time tak … turning around and taking a look at the skeletons in their closet. And I salute the courage to do that.  It’s not easy.

Gary:  Our desire is that people recognize that God wants us to see ourselves in our fullness and as a whole person, recognize the vulnerabilities of our body and the genetics that we have, recognize our family systems and the stresses that we’ve come about, recognize the spiritual dynamics that may have had uh … influenced us in our false concepts of God. And now as we understand that, to understand God and appreciate Him in a new way.

And that’s why we’re so excited of the ministry of FOF, because you are able to come alongside people as they call and ask for help in these areas, to sort of say, “What can I do to find resources that will enable me to understand the love of God in a deeper way, so that I am not trapped.”

I tell people that the most toxic environment that they can experience is that they feel trapped.  I can’t move here.  No one will accept me there.  I can’t go that way.  I am stuck.  God not only listens; He is actively engaged in your freedom and in your release from being in the bondage of this emotional turmoil that you’re in, that is affecting your body, your soul and your spirit.

Jim: Can I ask you to pray for those who are suffering from depression?  Will you do that for us now?

Gary: I’d be honored.

Jim:  Let’s do that.

Gary: Loving Father, as we come into Your presence, we never need an appointment. So, Father, You know the devastation that depression can cause on the hearts and lives of people, that causes them to be withdrawn and to doubt you and to live a life of lack of hope and hopelessness.

So, Father, would You companion and come alongside those who are hurting and give them uh … the courage to take the next step, to break free and to find hope and to find help, because we are never closer to You than when we acknowledge our need for You. And each one of us needs You and thank You that You will meet us in our time of need and that You will give us the hope and the healing that can only come from You, for You are the Great Physician.

So, Father, we thank You for the God that You are, Who listens and responds actively and intentionally in our behalf.  In Jesus’ name, amen.

Jim: Amen.  Dr. Knopf, Dr. Lovejoy, author of the book, Light on the Fringe: Finding Hope in the Darkness of Depression, thank you for being with us here at FOF.

Gary: Thank you so much.

Greg:  Well, thank you.

John:  And as I mentioned earlier, we’ve dealt with depression in my own family and I’ve really appreciated the encouragement and uh … the practical advice that you’ve offered us today.

You know, here at FOF, we want to come alongside you if you’re journeying through depression.  And a couple of resources that might help get out of that depression include a book by both of our guests here. It’s called Light on the Fringe and then Dr. Knopf has written Demystifying Depression for Christians

We also have some additional conversations with them about medication and its important in treating depression and then one about the impact of low self-worth on depression.  And then, uh … we do have audio downloads and CDs.  We have links to a couple of other broadcasts that we’ve had.  Recently we featured Sheila Walsh on this program, talking about her journey through a very deep depression.  And uh … not too long ago, we talked with Jerusha Clark about postpartum depression. So, a lot of good resources in print and audio form and you can find details about all of this at
www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Now perhaps today’s discussion has really resonated with you because you or someone you love is in the midst of a dark depression. Please know that we’re here for you and we have caring Christian counselors who can talk with you and direct you to somebody locally to offer ongoing assistance.  That’s as easy as a phone call during business hours to connect with our counseling department: 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY; 800-232-6459.

By the way, last year we fielded 66,000 calls for counseling help. And you can make that possible when you pray for and donate to this ministry.  Your gift of $28 today provides one struggling family with help. And of course, we’ll accept a gift of any amount.  After you’ve met the obligations of your local church, please do reach out; help us to continue coming alongside those who are hurting and uh … often need this ministry most, but can’t always afford to support it.

Our program today was provided by FOF and on behalf of Jim Daly, Dr. Juli Slattery and the entire team here, thanks for listening in. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back tomorrow, when we’ll talk about pregnancy, the joys and the challenges and once again, turn our hearts toward home.

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Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!