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Understanding Your Teen’s Digital World

Understanding Your Teen’s Digital World

Plugged In media analyst Jonathan McKee provides research-based insights on the impact of the digital world on children and offers parents guidance for setting safe, healthy boundaries for their kids' screen time.
Original Air Date: August 11, 2021

Preview:

Jonathan McKee: And if we can get kids to, you know, if we could start talking about who God is, and their identity in Christ, and have those conversations with them regularly, they’re going to be able to come to these, you know, when they are at TikTok going, “I don’t have enough followers,” they’re going to have that foundation of the word of God that their identity is built on.

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John Fuller: Jonathan McKee is joining us today on Focus on the Family. And your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: You know John, uh, technology is all around us. There’s no way to hide from it. Uh, I lost my phone a couple of days ago. I haven’t retrieved it yet. I have found it, but it feels odd not having that technology right there. I’m thinking, “Uh, what calls am I missing? What emails?” The whole bit. But our children have grown up in this environment. They’re called digital natives, that’s their name for that generation that was born into the technology world. And I think it probably is one of the main concerns that parents, uh, contact Focus on the Family for advice and help. And we’re going to cover this topic today.

John: Yeah. And there’s good reason that parents contact us. There’s so much in these devices and on screens. Uh, we’ve invited Jonathan McKee, as I said, to join us. Uh, he’s back again, he’s a social researcher, a popular speaker and author, and you can hear him on our Plugged In show, uh, the podcast and the radio reviews. Uh, he’s got a terrific new book, it’s called Parenting Generation Screen: Guiding Your Kids to Be Wise In a Digital World. And we’ve got copies of that book here for you at Focus on the Family. Call 800-A-FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Jonathan, welcome back to Focus.

Jonathan: Well, thanks for having me, always a pleasure.

Jim: It’s always good to have you here because you remind me of what I’m not doing correctly with my digital (laughs) assets with my kids. So thank you very much.

Jonathan: Oh, good. Well, yeah, I’m glad.

Jim: Um, you do these parenting workshops. You’re interacting with parents on this very specific topic of the digital age and what their kids are into, what is that most common question that you hear from parents who have that worried face?

Jonathan: Oh man. You know, there are so many of those questions that you get as a, as a mom comes up with that frantic look on her face after the workshop. And I think probably the biggest one is, you know, “How much screen time is too much?”

Jim: Yeah.

Jonathan: But the questions vary. Sometimes it’s, “How do I get my son to stop playing video games all day?” Or…

Jim: And what do you say to the question?

Jonathan: Oh man, (laughs).

Jim: Yeah, exactly. Since you raised it.

Jonathan: Yeah. Well, and that’s one of those things where I think we really start to talk. I think most of my conversations probably start with connection before correction.

Jim: And we’re going to get to that. I want to save that at the end. Uh, ’cause it’s just a great concept, but I’ll tease that out a little bit. You know, um, one of the common questions we receive here, I’m sure you do as well, and you, you touched on it, is what is the best age, or what’s the right age, or what’s the average age? However, a parent is couching that I should get them the phone. What’s your answer to that question?

Jonathan: It’s tough because even if we say here’s what the experts say, we could definitely talk about that, the pressure is still on because literally it feels like every single one of their friends at school already has a phone because so many parents are caving and giving their kids phone. So you’re a fifth grader, you’re a sixth grader feels like they’re the only kid out there without that phone.

Jim: When that pressure is mounting more and more, you know, my boys are now, you know, moving through teenager, Trent’s 20 and Troy is 18. But the truth of the matter is, I mean, we tried to delay it just as long as possible. Somebody gave me that great advice and said, you know, “Just delay it as long as you can.” And so, you know, when they came to me and said, “Hey dad, when do I get my phone? “I said, “Oh, you know, mom, and I will talk about that.” And six months later they’d go, “What. Did you guys talk about that?” (laughs) “Oh man, you know, I haven’t talked about it yet, but let me, you know, in six months.” But they weren’t, they weren’t terribly nagging about it, but it was 17 and 15 for Trent and Troy. And of course, Troy being the 15-year-old benefited from trans plan, (laughs) but it was late and I’m grateful for it.

Jonathan: Well, and you’re not alone. I mean, a lot of the experts out there who are studying this stuff all the time, it’s amazing. Their kids, they’re delaying that age as long as possible.

Jim: People in the business?

Jonathan: Absolutely. You look at like Jim Steyer, president of Common Sense Media, he waited till his kids were in high school. Bill gates, this guy who knows a little bit about technology, waits until his kids were in high school. A lot of the people who for, you know, their job is technology and they see the effects of technology, you go to Silicon Valley, the instruction that, you know, parents are leaving as they leave the house during the day is to the nanny’s, “Hey, take him to the park. Take him outside. Play with the kids. No screens.” Because they realize the effect of screen. So it’s good to not just hand your eight-year-old a screen and say, “Good luck.”

Jim: Now you’ve framed this in your book, uh, Parenting Generation Screen. So you’ve tagged them as the screen generation.

Jonathan: Yeah.

Jim: Um, in that context, you have a story in there about Christine’s mom, what was her story?

Jonathan: You know, it’s interesting when you think about this, because as I was thinking, if I tell that story, there’s probably several dozen moms who will listen and be like, “Oh, that’s my story.” Because that’s how common this story is. Christine’s mom, I remember her, she came up and she waited until everybody else was kind of gone and away from the table, ’cause I think, I don’t know if she was embarrassed or just scared. And she came up and she started telling me the story of her daughter, who she had given a phone when she was 12 years old. And this was a pretty conservative family. They were homeschooled kids, but the pressure was on. Sure enough, I mean, Christine was in sports. She was at church. All her friends had phones. So mom delayed as long as possible, finally 12 years old, gave her a phone and her instructions were, “Okay, no social media or any of that bad stuff.”

Jonathan: Because like a lot of parents, you know, I don’t really know what that bad stuff is, I just know it’s out there. So please, none of that bad stuff. And those were the instructions she left. And a year later she got a phone call from one of her friends, and Christine’s had been over at her friend’s house and, and basically everything came apart and it was through the parents calling that she found out Christine had met a guy on social media because…

Jim: Now she’s 13?

Jonathan: Yeah. Despite the instructions of no social media or any of that bad stuff, immediately she jumped on a social media account. She met a guy who was claiming he was a teenager, you know, and this guy said all the right things and you know, affirmed Christine, you know, and, and everything. And, and Christine, uh, you know, started talking to this guy. Had no idea that really she was talking to a guy that was 40 something years old. And as this happened and the story unveiled, the guy asked for a sexy pic. She obliged, sent it, as so many young girls do because they’re kind of under that pressure and they feel like, “He gets me. He understands me. This is what he wants. This is what will keep him.” And, uh, she was about ready to go meet the guy, and that’s when she told her friend, who friend told mom, mom told Christine’s mom, boom, this is how it all blew up.

Jim: Well, in fact, he said in that text to her, you know, “My uncle’s going to come and pick you up.”

Jonathan: And that’s the scary thing because…

Jim: Think of that. But it was him.

Jonathan: What happens, and you know what, every school I do an assembly at has a Christine’s story.

Jim: That’s the point.

Jonathan: And it’s not like some legend it’s out there, it’s like, “See that girl over there, you know, this is what happened to her. Because this is so common. This is generation screen.

Jim: Well, let’s dissect this, because that is so common. Um, what is the right parental approach? Uh, particularly from a Christian perspective, you know, let’s say that it was 12 or 13 and there’s not dozens, there’s thousands listening that may be the Christine mom’s story, and what is the right way for those moms and dads who haven’t experienced this yet to handle this?

Jonathan: Well, I think a lot of parents, because we don’t know what to do, our tendency is to just hand them this device and say, “Well, you know more about this device in me anyway-

Jim: That’s so true.

Jonathan: … so please be smart with it. Good luck.” And that’s kind of like the speech. It’s like, “Please don’t do anything stupid.” But we don’t train them ’cause we don’t know what the train them. And it’s so funny because when you look at like driving a car, we’re driving a car. If we’re going to hand them something that demands such responsibility, you know, well, they have to wait until a certain age, and then when it comes to that age, what do they have to do? They have to research about it. They have to take tests about it. They have to sit next to us for six months and actually practice using that vehicle with us saying, “Be careful as you merge there. Be careful as you do this.”

Jim: Yeah, with no friends in the car by the way.

Jonathan: We give them these instructions. But yet with a phone, it’s just as if they go, “Can I have a car?” “Sure.” And we throw them the keys when they’re 10. You know, we don’t need to just throw our kids the keys, and we need to start realizing that there’s a lot of responsibility that comes with owning a phone. And we need start sitting next to them for six months and dialoguing about this stuff.

Jim: Well, and this brings us back to what you mentioned a moment ago, connection before correction. Um, so speak to that. I like the concept. Um, how do we do that well?

Jonathan: You know, it’s one of those things I don’t think parents like to hear, but we need to hear it. Because what we really want is we want to find out exactly what, you know, blocks are out there, what filters are out there, “Just give me the stuff, you know, how many hours should my kid be on the phone so I could set their phone on that, and magically it’ll all be okay.” But sadly it takes something much more than that. It takes us teaching them how to become screen wise. It takes conversations, like so much of parenting does. And connection before correction to saying, guess what, if you just apply a bunch of rules without a relationship, for sure they’re going to rebel. You cannot just slap down a bunch of rules. We got to sit down and talk with them about this.

Jonathan: So connection before correction is really a principle where if our kids do mess up or if they’re coming to us every day and going, “Please can I have a screen, please can I have a screen,” instead of just saying, “Okay, here it is and here’s the rules. Fill out this phone contract,” it’s actually sitting down and connecting with them and dialoguing about some of these important things. Talking about stories about the Christine at their school, ’cause there is one, you know, and saying, “Hey, how could she have avoided this situation? What are some predatory behaviors we need to look out for? You know, what do you think about screen limits?”

Jim: Well, let me, let me pitch this as well. One of the difficulties is to have that kind of relationship, to have that connection as you call it. You’ve got to refrain from, I think, penalizing their honesty. You want to foster your child being able to be honest with you-

Jonathan: Absolutely.

Jim: -and then discussing ways to, uh, you know, build a hedge of protection for that child and get them to participate in that and the reason why. And so again, I think one of the things for parents, and I’m only saying this because Jean and I experienced it, is that you need to engage your children, and you’ve got to probably say more than you would want to say about that subject of predatory activity. And you’ve got to, you’ve got to be honest with your kids and what those tools can do. Because the tools themselves are not evil, it’s what people do with those tools.

Jonathan: I call it creating a climate of comfortable conversation. It’s, it’s becoming that safe source that they know that if I come to mom or if I come to dad, I can bring up what I just saw on my screen without them freaking out. And these are some of the issues that, you know, we talk about in this book. You know, a lot of people are thinking it’s going to be just a bunch of rules you have. Really? This book is so much about how do you talk with your kids about this? How do you begin those conversations? How do you not freak out? And what are some actual tips you can use? Because I know that’s where I blew it. So big as a dad very often they think, you know, “I know dad’s just going to get mad with this.” How do we become that safe source that they can come and talk to?

Jim: Exactly.

John: And, and cultivating that conversation leads to the connection, which opens the door for correction. That’s what you’re talking about there, Jonathan. And, uh, our guest today on Focus on the Family, Jonathan McKee, has written a book Parenting Generation Screen. We’ve got that here and we’re happy to answer questions about the book or any struggles in this area. Our number’s 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Uh, Jonathan, I want to go to the idea that, okay, now your kids have screen capability, that decision is made, whatever age it is. We don’t have to be too frantic about that, as I said, and I think you would agree, delay it as long as you can. And high school is a good time, especially for phones. But they’ve also got iPads and, you know, screen accessibility at home. Uh, where do you go once they have that screen time? Uh, there’s many dangers for them to navigate. Uh, in fact, you talk about your son’s friend Brody, what happened in Brody’s circumstance?

Jonathan: Well, it’s one of those situations that happens so often as we try to control screens, um, and we think maybe we even, you know, are one of the minority of parents who actually say no screens in a bedroom because we live in a country where 79% of teenagers bring their screens to the bedroom.

Jim: But we did that. Do it, just do it. I’m sorry, they’re going to complain, just do it.

John: Draw that boundary.

Jonathan: And honestly, you know, if you want to walk away with just one thing from this show today, because parents sit there and go, “I’m overwhelmed and lost,” if there’s one thing, let me tell you how you could just solve a world of hurt. If you are overwhelmed and you don’t want to have a bunch of rules, have one rule, no screens in the bedroom.

Jim: Including phones in the bathroom.

Jonathan: Yeah, no screen. And I say, screen on purpose.

Jim: We charge everything in the kitchen.

Jonathan: Yeah. Charge it somewhere else. And because that is just, I’d say probably almost every question I get after a workshop has the words, “Through the night, my kid is gaming through the night. My girl met a boyfriend in the middle of the night. You know, I can’t get them to stop. They’re on social media and they’re constantly looking at how many followers they have through the night. It’s keeping them awake and is leading to depression through the…” I mean, and that one simple thing, well, that was what happened with Brody’s dad. Brody’s dad said, “Hey, no screens in the bedroom,” took away the phone, but, uh, guess what? He has a laptop, you know? And he didn’t really think about it until he saw glow under the door, you know, like three in the morning, you know.

Jim: Right.

Jonathan: And this happens all the time. As I was writing this book, one of the things I do is I always send it out to a bunch of parents to read. And I say, “Hey, give me feedback.” Um, you know, and I usually send out to like 50, to a 100 parents. And then I say, “Come on, tell me what happened in your house, what didn’t.” And like, all these moms tell me, “Well, here’s what happened with my daughter.” And I remember a mom reacting to that story and saying, “Oh, exact same thing happened with me. With my daughter, I said no screens and she ends up pulling up this old thing we forgot to even has, like an old Itouch or something.” It’s basically like a phone without service, you know? Well, there’s Wi-Fi in the house. Boom, immediately jumped on, you know? And then other parents will say, “Oh, well we shut down the Wi-Fi.” You wouldn’t believe how kids are good at jumping on hotspots at all these…

Jim: The neighbors Wi-Fi, right?

Jonathan: Exactly. I mean, there’s so many different ways. And it’s just one of those things where, you know, where, and again, that shows, we need to dialogue with our kids about this and talk with them about this. Talk with them about no screens in the bedroom and why. Listen to their opinion on it. Hear them out on that. We need to create conversation about these issues because you know what, honestly, they’re going to be, you know, 17 and 20 someday, right Jim?

Jim: Yeah.

Jonathan: And they’re going to be out on their own, they’re going to be in a college dorm, an army barracks, they’re going to be making these decisions and you aren’t gonna be able to take their screen away. Have they made those decisions for themselves?

Jim: Correct. And that’s the right parenting goal, is you need to equip your kids to make these good decisions. And there’s no guarantee, there’s no formula, but if you do that, it’s more likely your kids will make those better decisions, and when they’re 18, 19, 20, and I can attest to that. Um, let’s go to, uh, how screen time can affect sleep, impact people? So we’ve gotten to the decision point, you get a phone, you get a screen, what have you, now how much time? Um, that can be a little out of control and a little more difficult to control for the reasons you’re saying. But what, with all the studies that you read, uh, what should parents be alerted to when it comes to the amount of time?

Jonathan: The thing I think I just really want to really emphasize is that most of the research out there, what researchers are agreeing on is not the amount of total screen time. What most researchers are agreeing on is that not all screen time is created equal. There’s a lot of positive screen time, you know, I mean, and, and we learned, you know, when the country was shut down, that screens were kids only access to education, it was their only access to socialization, so that made it of course more difficult because now wait, are screens a good thing are they bad? But you know, it’s, it’s hard to say good or bad. Let me tell you something, there’s certain activities we should really watch, and the biggest one is the amount of social media that young people are gleaning each day. And we’ve talked about this in, in, in other broadcasts.

Jonathan: But the research that I think is the most clear cut is the research that, uh, Dr. Jean Twenge and Dr. Jonathan Haidt, came together and they basically grabbed all the researchers and said, “Okay, we disagree on so much about screen time, what do we agree on?” And they did an open-source document where they said, “Everybody contribute your research,” and then they observed and said, “What do we agree on?” They agreed on two things. One, there is a mental health crisis going on right now. Literally pre-COVID, there was a mental health crisis that had to do with screens. The second thing they agreed on is it didn’t have to do with how much video game time, didn’t have to do a total screen time, it had to do with how much social media young people were soaking in each day, especially young girls.

Jim: Yeah.

Jonathan: So that’s huge. That’s for us to be thinking about, hey, how much time specifically are kids putting themselves out there and posting stuff, hoping to get likes, hoping to get followers? Eight out of 10 young people right now want to be some sort of social media influencer. They want to have their own YouTube channel, maybe in an innocent way. Maybe they want to have their own channel, you know, doing a Bible study. You know, it could be completely innocent, but when they’re putting themselves out there and they need likes, they need followers, that starts to do something to your psyche. “Am I good enough? How come I don’t have as many followers as them?” And it’s affecting them and that’s where researchers are saying, “Watch that kind of screen time, limit that.”

Jim: Jonathan, you’re raising such a good point here. And let me connect the dots for the Christian community listening. When we look at teen girls and teen boys too, but differently, they’re both trying to figure out what’s my identity. And I think social media is where that understanding of your identity can get so twisted. It’s how many people like me. And that idea that somebody likes you because they’ve pressed a button is not what human relationship is built on. That’s not like, you know me, it’s just, hey, I like what you posted. I like you. Um, and then we, we need to address that, where do children… How do they develop a good identity in Christ as their core? Not social media, not, you know, Snapchat, that’s not their identity.

Jonathan: I think one of the biggest mistakes I made as a dad was I put so much focus on what things to block, so much focus on which things I was saying no to that I didn’t spend enough time affirming the behaviors, the good stuff. You know, it was like, “Okay, here’s the stuff to not do.” You know, I was so focused on blocking out the lies that I didn’t spend enough time talking about the truth. And this is where we need to, as we create these conversations with our kids, we need to talk about the truth. Some of the biggest questions in life are, is who is God and who am I? Almost every issue a kid is dealing with falls in-between those two questions. And if we can get kids to, you know, if we could start talking about who God is and their identity in Christ, and have those conversations with them regularly, they’re going to be able to come to these, you know, when they’re TikTok going, “I don’t have enough followers,” they’re going to have that foundation of the word of God that their identity is built on.

Jim: Uh, Jonathan let’s move to the parental control discussion because that’s something Jean and I did that. Uh, sometimes I was having to calm Jean down. I mean, that’s one of the problems with parental controls, they do provide a service, but they also provide, uh, you know, some fear, uh, dependent upon what the kids are looking at, et cetera. You have a story in the book about Don and Brian. (laughs) What happened with Don and Brian with parental control?

Jonathan: Yeah, those, those the two extremes, and I, and I changed their names to protect them. (laughs)

Jim: Okay, Jim and John. Let’s get their real names. (laughs)

Jonathan: Although, although if they listen to this, they’d be like, “He’s talking about me.” You know, it’s this two dads I knew it. And it was just funny because there were the polar opposites. You know, the one, was the dad who just pretty much allowed it all. I mean, just, you know, his kids could watch anything, listen to anything, do anything. They had phones before anybody else. And you know that if your kid saw something bad, it was at their house, you know, (laughs) because they’re allowed to watch everything on every cable channel. You know, we all know someone like that, right?

Jonathan: Well, then there was the opposite extreme, you know, so there was no rules over there at all. But the opposite extreme was this other friend I had who literally monitored his kids so much. Like he had like these apps that followed them through. I mean, he, he would literally know what aisle they are in at Walmart and what foods they were shopping for. You know, he had every item. And it was interesting to see those two extremes. And I feel like a lot of parents kind of feel like, “Well, I’ve either got to let my kids, you know, you know, let them go and do their own thing.” And a lot of parents do just, “Hey, good luck,” and they hand them the device, and others feel like, “No, I’ve gotta, you know, I’ve got to have all this software and I’ve got to do all this different stuff.”

Jonathan: And really, I don’t think there needs to be a pressure to be either extreme. As a matter of fact, I don’t think either extreme is super healthy. I think, you know, it’s kind of a balancing where we as parents, we really need to be doing, you know, that biblical model of, uh, Deuteronomy six, which is walking with our kids. And as they get up, as they walk along the road, and as they go to bed at night, having conversations, that if our kids come and ask us about an app, maybe we go, “I don’t know, let’s check it out together.” And we look at it. And we’re not becoming, you know, mom and pop spyware. You know, we aren’t becoming, you know, where we have to get all this. I do believe in parental controls. I’m kind of a bad guy when I say, guess what moms and dads, I think you should wait to give your kids screens as long as possible. I think you should not have screens in the bedroom. I think it can be helpful to limit their social media by going onto their device, and whether going onto TikTok itself or YouTube itself, or on the device and having downtime, limiting the amount of social media.

Jonathan: I think there’s controls like that we can have, but those are only after we’ve had countless conversations where we’ve taken them through books, where, you know, just like as if we were them to drive.

Jim: Well, I want to restate this again, the goal in your parenting journey is to help your kids make good decisions.

Jonathan: That’s right.

Jim: And whatever tool you need to help train them in that way, it doesn’t guarantee they’re not going to wander into some stuff that they shouldn’t, they probably will, but then how do you get them back on track? If you keep that as the high goal, I think you’ll have a far better relationship with your child and I think they’ll learn the wisdom that you’re talking about. Uh, Jonathan, we’re coming in for a landing. You speak about seven tips for correcting without destroying that connection. Uh, we’ll list those at the website, John, but just pick a couple to give people idea of what you’re looking at.

Jonathan: Well, and this is where I really speak from the heart. Because as I look back at times where I feel like I just overreacted, and we as parents we need to change that overreaction into interaction. We really need to watch, you know, that freaking out because they’re looking for someone safe. And sadly, when it comes to them seeking out predators, a lot of young people seek out predators because they don’t feel love at home. They feel like there’s nobody they can talk to.

Jim: It’s affirmation.

Jonathan: Yeah, they’re going and they’re seeking somebody else to talk to. So one of the things I really talk about is, is trying to create that climate of comfortable conversations. But if there’s one piece of advice I can give the parents is don’t ever, ever correct in the moment. I don’t care how good of a parent you are and how much time you’re spending in your Bible, and, but just always use that delay because it’s so awesome. And what that could look like is if you find out that your kid, you know, jumped on that website you told them not to, or they snuck that device in the bedroom, I actually go as far as to say, rehearse a speech to where it doesn’t sound rehearsed, where you literally say, “Hey, let me have that device.” And you look at them and you say, “Hey, you know what? Jennifer, I love you. I love you so much. And I messed up so many times as a kid. I don’t want to overreact right now and I don’t want to say anything stupid. Trust me, I’ve done this too. I’ve messed up. So I just want to walk away for a little bit. I want to go pray. And, um, I’m going to take the screen away. Let’s talk tomorrow. Um, just know that I love you and there’s nothing you can do that would take that love away.”

Jim: Yeah, I know it’s good and you’ve packed it in there, Parenting Generation Screen, the do’s and don’ts really for parenting this screen generation. This has been really insightful. And we have, uh, many great resources like Jonathan’s book, Parenting Generation Screen: Guiding Your Kids To Be Wise In a Digital World, and I think we’ve given you a flavor, a taste of what it’s like, uh, to apply biblical approaches and attitudes in your parenting. Uh, this isn’t about simple correction, this is about equipping your child to make better decisions in their digital choices. And I, you know, again, I just so appreciate the way Jonathan has approached this, uh, with his humility, et cetera. Let me say, this is one of those resources that we want to get into your hands. And if you can make a gift of any amount today, we’ll send it as our way of saying thank you for that support and helping other families do the same thing. If you can’t afford it, we’re going to trust others will support Focus. Maybe instead of a latte today, send $5 to Focus and that’ll help minister to a family who can’t afford the book. I hope you can do that and be a part of the team to minister, not only to your family, but to so many other families.

John: Yeah. Get in touch, let us know how we can help donate as you can and request Jonathan’s book, Parenting Generation Screen, uh, our number’s 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, 800 232 6459, or you can stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Jonathan, again, thanks for being with us. Thanks for your contribution to Plugged In. You do voice those, uh, radio spots and you do a lot with the team at Plugged In. Thank you for that contribution.

Jonathan: Oh, I always enjoy the dialogue. Thank you.

John: And again, we’ve got lots of resources, including Plugged In for you. Uh, just stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or give us a call. And coming up next time on Focus on the Family, the remarkable reunion of a birth mom and her son, 48 years in the making.

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Nina Hendee: And when I thought of the baby, I had such peaks because of choosing love. And then God said, “And here he is.”

Jim: Yeah.

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In a discussion based on her book I Can’t Believe You Just Said That!, Ginger Hubbard offers parents a Biblically-based three-step plan for dealing effectively with their children’s back talk, whining and lying. She also stresses the importance of dealing with matters of the heart, rather than simply addressing outward behavior.

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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