As a Christian, do I always have to make things right with someone I've offended? In Matthew 5:23 and 24 Jesus tells us to mend broken relationships before turning to God in worship or prayer. This verse has been weighing on my mind these past few days. I did something that may have been hurtful to a person in my class at school. The problem is, I'm not really sure. I'm also afraid to ask because I don't know the individual very well. It's embarrassing, and I'm really feeling guilty. What should I do?
It sounds like you're struggling, and we'd like to help. Of course, it's hard to offer advice without knowing you or the person you might have offended.
Has the other individual given you a reason to think she feels hurt? If not, there's a chance that she wasn't upset by your behavior. It might be a good idea to relax and cut yourself some slack. Try not to worry about the situation unless it becomes clear that there's a real problem.
If you continue to be uneasy, it might be best to talk to the person about your concerns. This could be difficult, but it's the only way to completely resolve it and find peace of mind. Better to risk some temporary embarrassment than to go on feeling anxious and guilty.
If you'd like to talk to someone about this, call our staff counselors here at Focus on the Family. There's no cost to you for this; it's our way of showing that we care.
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