Drug-Proofing Your Kids

When it comes to teen drug abuse, some parents seem to have their heads in the sand. Others simply prefer to avoid talking about the issue. This is unfortunate, since ignorance and denial only increase the dangers associated with this problem. The fact of the matter is that no child is immune from the drug epidemic. It spreads without regard to economic, racial, geographic, educational, religious or family boundaries. Even in households that are closely knit and hold strong values there are no guarantees that substance abuse won't affect one or more of the kids. Parents have no choice except to educate themselves about this issue and take an aggressive, pro-active approach to preventing drug abuse in their homes.

There are several reasons kids start using drugs. Parental attitudes toward tobacco, alcohol and other substances can be a major factor – after all, children learn what they live and imitate what they see at home. Then there's the attractiveness of drugs as they're perceived and presented in popular culture, as well as the pleasurable "high" they provide. Other influences include peer pressure, simple curiosity, rebelliousness, a desire for thrills, and a perceived need to escape from the painful realities of life.

How can you minimize the risk that your children will be drawn into this destructive mode of behavior? We have a number of suggestions:

  1. First and most importantly, make a determined effort to build a strong family. Create a home environment based around a corporate identity and shared attitudes that are resistant to drug use. Get involved in your children's lives. Take an interest in the things they like to do. Share meals together as frequently as possible. A strong feeling of belonging to a loving family builds accountability and helps prevent loneliness, which can be a set-up for drug experimentation.

  2. Next, model the behavior you want your children to follow. Think carefully about the role of alcohol, smoking and drugs (including prescription medications) in your own life. Remember that the smoking, drinking and other drug-related behaviors of parents will usually be duplicated by their children.

  3. Begin talking early about smoking, alcohol and drugs, and keep talking about them as opportunities arise. Be aware of current trends in your community. If you hear that a group of kids are smoking, drinking, inhaling or injecting drugs, discuss it as a family. Most importantly, make sure that you have the time and energy to carry on these conversations. If you're too overworked, overcommitted or overtired to keep tabs on the home front, you may wake up one day to find a major drug problem on your doorstep.

  4. Meanwhile, don't hesitate to do everything you can to protect your children from direct contact with drug use. If your adolescent has a long-time friend who has become involved in the drug culture, have the courage to impose limits on that relationship. Don't allow a teen to go to a party, sleepover or other activity that isn't supervised by someone you trust. Keep track of the influences to which your kids are being subjected on a day-to-day basis.

  5. Finally, create significant consequences to discourage alcohol and drug use. If your adolescent confesses that she tried a cigarette or a beer at a party and seems genuinely remorseful about it, a heart-to-heart conversation and encouragement would be far more appropriate than grounding her for six months. But if your warnings repeatedly go unheeded, you will need to establish and enforce some meaningful penalties – for example, loss of driving, dating or even phone privileges for an extended period of time.

If you have further questions, call us. Our Counseling staff would be happy to talk with you at greater length. They can suggest additional drug-proofing strategies over the phone. In the event that you should ever encounter a real drug addiction problem with any member of your family, Focus can also provide you with referrals to certified treatment programs or a list of qualified therapists in your area who specialize in dealing with this problem.

 

Resources
Boundaries With Teens

Practical Advice for Drug-Proofing Your Kids

Referrals
National Clearninghouse for Alcohol and Drug Abuse Information

Articles
Parenting Challenges

Abuse and Addiction

This information has been approved by the Physicians Resource Council of Focus on the Family.

Excerpted from The Complete Guide to Baby and Child Care published by Tyndale House Publishers. Copyright © 1997, 2007, Focus on the Family.