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Helping Children Understand God

How can I teach my kids anything about God when I don't fully understand who He is? This is something that most Christians seem to take for granted, but I have to confess that it's always been hard for me to grasp. Given my own difficulties in this area, how can I possibly be of any help to my children?

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Dad Wants Relationship With Children He Abandoned

How can I reconnect with my children after divorcing their mother and abandoning them? I regret to say that I walked out on my wife and family several years ago. Since then, I've found the Lord and realized my mistake. Now I'd like to get back in touch with my kids, but they don't want anything to do with me. What should I do?

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Pregnant Woman Is Afraid of Having Another Miscarriage

Is there anything I can do to improve my chances of carrying a baby to term after losing my first pregnancy? My doctor told me that about one in four pregnancies ends this way. But he didn't run any tests to find out what went wrong, and I can't bear the thought of having another miscarriage. Can you help me?

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Parent Suspects That Child Might Be Gay

If I have reasons to believe that my teenager might be homosexual, how should I approach him about it? He's made references to the subject on several occasions, so I'm beginning to have concerns. Should I just come straight out and ask him? What do you recommend?

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Relating to an Imprisoned Adult Child

How do we relate to an adult child in prison? It's painful to admit this, but through a series of unfortunate circumstances and poor choices, our grown son has been incarcerated. I can't even begin to describe how horrible we feel. How can we reach out and support him without enabling or appearing to condone what he's done?

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Understanding Teen Sexting

As a parent of a teenager, is "sexting" something that I need to be concerned about? I've heard a few stories about this on the news, but I've never felt that my daughter would be susceptible to temptations of this kind. We haven't talked about it because I'm really not up to speed on the technology, nor do I know exactly what's involved. Besides, she's a really good kid. Do you think I should bring up the subject with her?

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Teen Daughter Obsessed With Texting

Am I right to be concerned about my 16-year-old daughter's obsession with texting? In the past two weeks she has sent or received over 3,000 text messages. So far it hasn't affected her school grades, but I worry that this much texting is excessive and unhealthy. What should we do?

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Parent of Teen Involved in Sexting

What's the best way to stop a teenager from using her cell phone to send and receive sexually explicit messages and photos? We recently discovered that our daughter has become involved in "sexting." When confronted about this, she claimed that this kind of activity is harmless since it doesn't involve any physical sexual contact. How would you respond to this argument?

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Dealing With the Fallout of Teen Sexting

Is there anything my husband and I can do to undo or minimize the devastation our teenage daughter has experienced because of her involvement with "sexting"? Her life – and our entire family's – was turned upside-down when nude images of her were electronically circulated around her school. As you can imagine, the resulting emotional trauma has been overwhelming. On top of that, she's facing the possibility of criminal charges. Is there any help out there for us?

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How to Prevent Teens From Sexting

What are some things I can do to discourage my teen from engaging in "sexting"? I've become increasingly worried as I've read about the rise in this kind of activity among kids. I'm also aware that the consequences can be extremely serious. At the same time, I'm not sure that there's anything I can do to prevent it. What do you think?

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Teen Attitudes Toward Intercourse and Oral Sex

Is oral sex really sex? We stumbled upon an entry in our daughter's journal and discovered that she's been involved in oral sex. That was disconcerting enough, but when we confronted her she argued that oral sex isn't really sex at all, and that it's "safer" than vaginal intercourse. She even claims that she's still a virgin! What's your response?

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Contraception and Sexually Active Teens

Should I get my adolescent daughter started on birth control now that I know she's been having sex with her boyfriend? Needless to say, I'm extremely upset about this. They're both Christian believers, and they understand that pre-marital sex is wrong - they're just unable to control themselves. I don't want to appear to be condoning her actions, but I don't want an unplanned pregnancy either. How should I handle this?

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Dealing With a Sexually Active Adolescent

How should we handle the discovery that our teenager has been sexually active for the past several months? We're not happy about it, but we want to deal with the problem without alienating our child. What should we do?

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Parent Believes Teen Is Involved in Premarital Sex

What's the best way to confront our teenage daughter with our discovery that she has become sexually involved with her boyfriend? We found an entry in her journal describing a sexual encounter. We can't allow this behavior to go unaddressed, but we don't want to create a wedge and close the door to future communication. What do you suggest?

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Taking Young Children to a Funeral Service

Would you recommend that we take our three young children, ages three, four, and six, to their grandfather's funeral? My father-in-law is terminally ill and is not expected to live for more than a few weeks. As my husband and I begin preparing ourselves, both practically and emotionally, for his passing, I'm wondering what arrangements we should make for the kids. Should we have them attend the services?

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When to Tell Your Kids You're Pregnant

When should I tell my children that we're having a baby? We have two daughters, ages 2 and 4, and my husband and I are anxious to share the news with them. At the same time, we have reasons for being concerned about the possibility of another miscarriage (I had one about six months ago). When is the best time to bring it up? And what should we say if a miscarriage occurs?

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Parenting After Divorce

How can I parent my child most effectively when our family has been divided by divorce? I'm a single mother of a four-year-old son. He goes to stay with his father, who left me when I was pregnant with him, every other weekend. When he comes home, he cries for his dad. This really hurts me because I've raised him alone, and as a result I've had all the hard work (like discipline). I also have two other children by another man, so it's harder for me to give this child as much love and attention as my ex-husband does. To tell the truth, I think he spoils him. After these visits I end up crying and feel emotionally devastated for several days. I would appreciate your help with this.

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How a Father's Presence Affects the Status of Women

Does your emphasis on the importance of a father's presence in the home imply that the mother's role is less crucial in raising children? There are many single moms raising children by themselves, and I can't help wondering if you view these families as "inferior" or "second-class." Doesn't your high regard for the father's role diminish your assessment of the mother's? Isn't mom just as important as dad? How can women ever hope to better their lot in the world if we always expect them to stand in the shadow of their men? These questions are important to me as a woman who wants to make a positive contribution to the life of her community.

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Fathers and the Influence They Have on Their Sons

As a dad, what are some of the key roles that I play in the life of my son? What areas in his life should I focus on and what are some things I can do to cultivate a healthy relationship between us?

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Praying Together As a Family

How can we make family prayer a priority? We're a Christian family and my spouse and I are eager to raise our kids in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Can you give us some helpful pointers in this area? Our children are small, and it's been a real struggle to make prayer times engaging for them. Do you think we should keep trying? Or should we just wait until they're older?

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Parents Fear Child Is Struggling With Faith While at College

How can I help my son hold on to his faith in college? He's a junior at the university, and I'm very concerned about the state of his relationship - or lack thereof - with the Lord. His faith doesn't seem to mean as much to him as it did during his high school years. Now he's thinking of taking a philosophy course in metaphysics. I don't even know what "metaphysics" is, but I'm worried. How can I encourage him in his faith?

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Grown Child Has Made Poor Decisions

What can we do to encourage our adult son to grow up? He's made some very poor choices in terms of lifestyle, jobs, living arrangements, and friends. After raising him in the Christian faith, we're deeply disappointed. At the same time we can't help feeling guilty and wondering where we went wrong. Is there anything we can do to reverse the situation without overstepping appropriate boundaries?

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Sexually Active Adult Child Bringing Partner Home

Should we allow our unmarried adult daughter to share a room with her boyfriend in our house? She lives out of town, and she plans to bring this man home with her for Christmas. To our disappointment, they have been sexually active for some time, and I know they'll expect to sleep in the same room while they're here. How should we respond?

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Parental Authority Over a Grown Child

Now that our son is past eighteen, should he still obey us? The Bible says that children should "obey" and "submit to" their parents (Ephesians 6:1; Colossians 3:20), but he says that because he's an adult, this commandment no longer applies to him. How do you feel about this? At what point does an adult child become fully independent of his parents' control?

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