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Mom Pumping Breast Milk in Order to Return to Work

Is there some way to work breastfeeding into my schedule once my maternity leave ends and I return to the office? I've heard that I might be able to manage it by pumping and saving my own milk, but this sounds like a lot of work and trouble. What would you suggest?

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Evaluating the Pros and Cons of Breastfeeding

Would you or would you not recommend that a first-time mother consider nursing her newborn infant? What are the advantages and disadvantages of breastfeeding? I'm anxious to do what's best for my baby, but I'm also a little worried about becoming "tied down" by nursing. What do you think?

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Helping a Struggling Adult Child

Should we allow our struggling grown child to move back in with us? Our son recently got divorced. Then he lost his job and started drinking heavily again. He seems to have no sense of direction and now he wants to move back in with us. We're not sure if this would be the best thing for him. What should we do?

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Dealing With Lazy Teenagers

How can I motivate my two lazy teenagers? They won't help me around the house, and they consistently wait until the last minute to do their homework. As a single parent, I usually don't have the energy to make them get down to work. Is there a way to break this negative pattern?

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Asking a Grown Child to Move Out of the House

How do I know when it's time to ask my adult child to leave? After graduating from high school, our oldest son elected not to attend college. In the beginning, he had a part-time job, but it ended over a year ago. That's when all the trouble started. Since then he's been sleeping till noon every day, lying around the house, and eating up all our food. He refuses to look for another job, won't help with chores, and defies our wishes by bringing tobacco and alcohol into the home. And he's constantly stirring up trouble with his younger siblings. We don't want to push him out into the street, but we can't allow this to go on much longer. What would you suggest?

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Parenting a "Boomerang" Child Together With Younger Kids

How should we parent a grown child when there are also two younger children in the home? We have three kids altogether: a boy and a girl who are still in high school, and an older son in his mid-20s. The oldest has had some tough luck recently and needs to move back home for a while. We realize that he's an adult and that we'll have to treat him differently in terms of rules and expectations, but we're concerned about the effect this might have on his younger brother and sister. Do you have any advice?

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Dad Frustrated Because Son Wants to "Do It Himself"

Why doesn't my son want me to teach him things? From the moment he was born I've been looking forward to the time when I could teach him how to do all kinds of fun "guy" stuff. But now that he's old enough, he doesn't want me to teach him anything. When I try, he just says, "Dad, I can do it myself!" This isn't how I envisioned fatherhood. Any advice?

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Postpartum Depression

How can I deal with the "baby blues"? The birth of my child was one of the highlights of my life. However, in the weeks since that mountaintop experience I've found myself struggling through a dark valley of depression and emotional exhaustion. Is this normal? What can I do about it?

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Parents Don't Like Son's Long Hair

Should we allow our son to have long hair? There's constant conflict in our household over this issue. My husband and I constantly have to tell him to go and get his hair cut. If we didn't, I think he'd let it grow down over his shoulders. He usually complies, but not without a lot of resistance and complaint. We've told him over and over again that the Bible specifically forbids men to wear long hair (1 Corinthians 11:14), but he doesn't seem overly impressed with that argument. What do you think we should do?

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Parental Concerns About "Dungeons and Dragons"

Should I allow my teenage son to continue his involvement with the role-playing game "Dungeons and Dragons?" I don't know a great deal about it, but I do know that it's beginning to eat up more and more of his time, and that concerns me. Am I worrying too much?

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Teens and Horror Stories

How can we steer our adolescent son away from media that portray gruesome violence and help him make better entertainment choices? He's fascinated with horror stories - both books and films. We're concerned that he's filling his mind with disturbing ideas and images, but he says it's all just harmless fun. What do you think?

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Broadening Christian Homeschool Curriculum Beyond the Bible

Would you agree that homeschoolers need to branch out and study subjects other than the Bible? My spouse and I have decided to begin home schooling our children. In researching various curriculum options, we've encountered some groups who advocate teaching kids strictly from Scripture to the exclusion of other academic texts or disciplines. We are committed Christians who take our faith seriously, but I can't help feeling that this approach is misguided and inadequate. I believe that a well-rounded education involves a lot more than Bible study. I'm also convinced that Christians need to be familiar with the broader culture. How do you see it? Does Scripture have anything to say about this?

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Parent Concerned About Cohabiting Grown Child

Are we right to be worried about our daughter's decision to move in with her boyfriend? When we found out she that she was living with him, we told her we felt it was immoral. She said our values were "old fashioned" and argued that living together is the best way to test a couple's marital compatibility. What do you think? Are we really that far out of touch?

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Grandparent Concerned About Health Conditions in Grandchild's Home

Is it my place to get involved if I'm convinced that the physical environment in my son's house has become unsafe and unhealthful for my grandchild? I love my son and daughter-in-law, but I'm worried about their ten-month-old daughter's health. The house is piled with trash, the floors are filthy, there's month-old pizza stuck to the carpet and dirty diapers are left lying in every corner. To prevent my granddaughter from getting into these messes, they keep her in an infant seat most of the time - even though she's old enough to start crawling. Should I express my concerns over these troubling health conditions? If so, how can I help change the situation?

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Friends Have an Aggressive Preschooler

How should we handle it when a friend's child kicks or whacks one of our kids? Our best friends have a habitually mean and aggressive preschooler about the same age as our children. We try to keep visits short and supervised, but one of our children always ends up getting hit. Is there a way to put a stop to this without offending our friends?

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Little Girls and Fairy-Tale Princesses

Is it okay for a young Christian girl to look up to the "Disney Princesses" for example, Cinderella, Snow White, Jasmine, Belle, and Mulan? My daughter is so infatuated with these characters that she has covered the walls of her room with their pictures. This makes me nervous since I'm not sure how it all lines up with truly biblical ideas of femininity and godly womanhood. What's more, I don't think it's healthy for her to go through life waiting for "Prince Charming" to come along and sweep her off her feet. What do you think?

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Talking to Children about the Death of a Relative

What's the best way to help a child work through the passing of a relative or close family member? My father died this year, and our grade-school-aged son has been asking questions. For example, he wants to know where grandpa has gone and whether he has become a "guardian angel." How do I respond without confusing him?

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Taking Children to Visit Terminally Ill Relatives

Is it a good idea to expose children to the reality of death, disease, and mortality by taking them to visit terminally ill relatives? My grandmother is in the final stages of cancer and her illness has dramatically altered her physical appearance. Recently she expressed a desire to see my two young children. Should I allow the kids to visit her? Would they find the experience too upsetting?

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Worried That Son-in-Law Isn't Caring for His Family

As a parent and grandparent, should I step in to help if I feel that my son-in-law is not caring properly for my daughter and my grandchildren? What makes this especially difficult is that his actions (or lack thereof) could put his family's safety at risk. For example, he constantly forgets to put oil in their car which leaks like a sieve so I end up doing it. Basically, I end up doing almost everything that needs to be done in order to make sure that my daughter and her kids are safe and cared for. Am I overstepping my bounds?

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Divorced Parent Concerned That Grown Child Is Skeptical About Marriage

How can I convince my adult son that matrimony is valuable and worthwhile when his own parents couldn't make it work? My ex-spouse and I split up when my children were still small, and I thought it was all water under the bridge. Now I find that my son blames me and his dad for his negative view of marriage. He doesn't intend to marry his live-in girlfriend, since, in his words, "marriage is a valueless, old-fashioned institution," and "divorce is inevitable anyway." What should I tell him?

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Parent Fears That Child May Be a Victim of Human Trafficking

What should we do if it turns out that our child has actually fallen under the control of criminals who market vulnerable teens to customers in the "sex trade?" Without going into details, I can tell you that we have good reason to believe our daughter has become a victim of human trafficking. As you can imagine, this discovery has turned our world upside down. We realize that this is an extremely dangerous situation, and we have no idea where to turn for help.

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Recognizing Autism in Toddlers

How can I know if my child might be in danger of developing autism? He's one year old and starting to walk, but he hasn't begun talking yet - no "mama," "dada" or anything else. If he wants something, he just points and screeches. I've also noticed that he often stares off into the distance and seems to slip into his own little world for a moment or two several times a day. He usually snaps out of it eventually, but if he doesn't we really have to work hard to get his attention. Is this normal?

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Dietary Treatment of Autism

Is a gluten-free/casein-free diet helpful in treating autism? Our son was diagnosed as autistic several years ago. We've been using behavioral therapies with him, but a friend suggested that this kind of diet might also be helpful.

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Help for an Overly Critical Parent

How can I undo the damage I've caused by being too harsh with my children? I realize that I've been overly critical in my attitude toward them, and the results are now beginning to surface. How do we turn this around?

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