Relationships and Marriage

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Keeping Marital Conflict Healthy

Can you help me and my spouse learn how to control our arguments so that they don't become overheated? Usually we are pretty good at having constructive disagreements, but sometimes things have gotten out of hand. What can we do to keep a lid on things?

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Understanding and Handling Marital Conflict

Are arguments and disagreements a sign of a bad marriage? I'm newly married and have been surprised and disturbed by the amount of conflict we've experienced in our relationship. This rarely happened when we were dating. Is something wrong?

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Afraid to Communicate With Spouse About Sensitive Issues

What's the best way to bring up sensitive issues with my spouse? I'm concerned about things that are going in our marriage, but I'm afraid to talk to my spouse about them because I don't want to start a fight and make things worse.

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Spouse Makes Insensitive Comments

What can I do to stop my spouse from hurting my feelings with careless and cutting remarks? He's always making what I consider extremely insensitive comments, and when I protest, he laughs and says he's only teasing or tells me I'm too sensitive. I can assure you it's no joke to me. Any suggestions?

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Husband Thinks Wife Is Obsessed With Communication

Why does my wife always want me to talk to her? When I'm tired and just want to relax, she launches into an emotional outburst about how we don't "communicate" the way we used to. I have to leave the house to get any peace and quiet. Why won't she leave me alone?

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Frequency of Sex in Marriage

How can a couple resolve arguments over how often to have sex? I'm frustrated because my wife would probably be content to make love once a month, which doesn't come close to satisfying me. Is she abnormal, or am I some kind of pervert? Is there any way to resolve this conflict?

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Sexual Conflict in Marriage

How can we fix an unsatisfying sex life? We've been married for more than two years, and our sexual relationship has never been mutually satisfying. For some reason sex makes me feel "cheap" and "used." My husband says I approach it as if it were a chore. That frustrates him and makes him angry. What are we doing wrong?

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Marriage and Finances: Guidelines for Investing

Should married couples sink a portion of their monetary assets into investments? I've always been of the opinion that playing the stock market isn't much different than playing the slot machines in Vegas. I believe in trusting God for our needs one day at a time. My spouse disagrees and says that investments are a way of planning for the future. What do you think?

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Marriage and Finances: Buying a House

When should a couple start thinking about purchasing a home? My spouse and I have been talking about this possibility. We both agree that we want to own our own home – eventually – but we're not on the same page when it comes to whether we're ready now. Do you have any recommendations?

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Dealing With the Strain of Debt in Marriage

Do you have any recommendations for couples who find themselves owing a lot of money to a lot of different creditors? I'm not quite sure how it happened, but my spouse and I have come to the realization that we're in deep debt and serious financial trouble. As you can imagine, this is putting a severe strain on our marriage.

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Surviving Unemployment in Marriage

How can my spouse and I survive my recent job loss? Without my income I can't see how we're going to make ends meet. What will we do if I can't find another employment opportunity?

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Guidelines for Establishing a Habit of Saving in Marriage

Is it important for a young couple to have a savings account? As a rule of thumb, how much money should we be saving out of our monthly earnings?

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Newlywed Fears She May Have Married the Wrong Person

What should I do if I fear that my marriage may have been a mistake? It's only been a short time since the wedding, and already I'm beginning to think that I've married the wrong person. Can you help me?

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Spouse Has Annoying Habits

Is it possible to change your mate? When we got engaged, I thought my spouse could do no wrong. Now that we're married, I've become aware that the person of my dreams actually has some very annoying habits. How do I deal with this situation?

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Spouse Resists Communication in Marriage

How can I get my spouse to open up and talk with me? We've been married for almost two years, and I don't understand him any better than I did before our honeymoon. Any advice or suggestions?

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Gauging the Need for Honesty and Transparency in Marriage

How much should my new spouse and I know about each other's past? I realize that honesty and transparency are important in any relationship, but I'm concerned that telling all of the "dirty details" might cause hurt or damage. Where do we draw the line?

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Focus on the Family's Position on Marriage and Divorce

What is Focus on the Family's position on divorce and remarriage?

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Young Single Adult Feels Hopeless About Marriage

When so many marital relationships end in divorce, why should I even bother tying the knot? It's hard to avoid the conclusion that the institution of matrimony has outlived its usefulness and doesn't mean much these days. Can you say anything to convince me otherwise?

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Grown Child Feels Like He's Still Treated As a Kid

Now that I'm in my mid-20s, how can I help my mom understand I'm not a child anymore? I'm the youngest of three. Because of my position in the family birth-order, my mom seems unwilling or unable to recognize that I'm now an adult. Is there anything I can do?

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Young Adult's Parents Disapprove of Romantic Relationships

How should I respond to my parents' negative feelings about the people I've been dating? I'm a young adult in my early twenties, living in my parents' home. I've had several relationships over the past few years, but my mom and dad haven't thought much of any of them – despite the fact that the individuals involved were serious Christians. I want to honor my parents, but I also need to live my own life. Should I put much stock in what they think?

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Wife Doesn't Get along With Husband's Friends

What can I do about my negative feelings towards my husband's "buddies"? We are very happy and have a great relationship, except for one thing: I don't get along with his friends. Is there a way to solve this problem? It's leading to arguments and tension between us.

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Pre-Engagement Counseling

Is there anything a couple can do to strengthen their relationship prior to engagement? There's a lot of material out there on pre-marital counseling, but not much on the pre-engagement process. How can you be sure you want to say "yes" when the person you're dating starts to talk about marriage? What should a couple do before they decide to get engaged?

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Difficulty Communicating in Marriage

I've had significant problems in the area of talking meaningfully with my spouse. This in turn is creating serious difficulties in our marriage. We've been going to counseling, and I've been trying hard to be more open and available to my wife, but she says she's ready for a divorce. How can I learn to communicate more effectively? Is there anything I can do to save our relationship?

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Divorced With Child, Wants to Reconcile

Should I consider remarrying my ex-spouse for the sake of our child? We are both Christians, but we recently got divorced. Over the past few weeks I've become increasingly concerned about the impact of this family breakup upon our preschooler. What do you think I should do?

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