Adoption: Talking Points

The Purpose of Adoption

  • Adoption provides children with a mother and a father in situations where the original family structure is not functioning.
  • Adoption is meant to serve the best interests of children.
    • Adoption placements should be based on children's needs and well-being.
    • Consistent with children's best interests, preference in adoption placements should be given to married, mother-father households.

The Importance of Adoption

  • Adoption provides an important pro-life alternative to abortion, allowing pregnant women who don't think they are ready or able to parent to confidently choose life.
  • Adoption provides orphans with the family relationships that God intended for all of us.
  • Adoption positively impacts those involved with the process.
    • Children placed for adoption gain a loving, stable and permanent family—ideally with both a mother and father—and often receive greater financial support and educational opportunities.
    • Adoptive parents experience the joy of parenting and the satisfaction of helping children in need.
    • Birthmothers who are not ready to parent gain the opportunity to both move forward with their lives and have the assurance that their children are growing up in stable and loving families.
    • A birthmother's decision to provide her baby with a loving, stable family signals a responsible consideration of her child's best interest.
  • The success of adoption promotes the social and economic well-being of our nation.
    • Every child adopted is less likely to grow up in poverty, more likely to obtain an education, and more likely to have a participating father.
    • Adopted children mature with better social, economic and behavioral outcomes than they likely would have without adoption.

The Problem of Same-Sex Adoption

  • Ideologically-motivated initiatives, such as the push for same-sex adoption, often negate the purpose of adoption: serving the best interest of children.
  • Proper child development requires that children have daily access to the different and complementary ways mothers and fathers parent. Same-sex caregivers cannot provide both the unique father-love and mother-love children need:
    • Mothers and fathers parent differently, and their distinct styles of interaction teach children how to deal with contrasting relational styles.
    • Mothers and fathers play differently. A father's tendency to roughhouse and a mother's tendency to nurture provide a unique balance of both confidence and security to their children.
    • Mothers and fathers communicate differently. Children need exposure to both a mother's personal, encouraging and sympathetic style of communication and a father's brief, directive and stern style of communication.
    • Fathers push limits while mothers encourage security. These contrasts help children remain safe while expanding their experiences and independence.
    • Fathers model male behavior and mothers model female behavior for their children in unique ways that cannot be replicated by the opposite sex.
    • Fathers and mothers teach their children respect for the opposite sex and model how to confidently and lovingly interact with the opposite sex.
  • Research on various family structures calls into question the health of same-sex families for children.
    • Children do best in every important measure when raised by two married, biological parents.
    • Due to our nation's relatively recent experience with this issue, no long-term studies with sound methodologies that have examined the well-being of children in same-sex homes.
    • Children raised in mother-only homes often suffer harmful consequences, including increased likelihood of suspension, emotional problems, delinquency, abuse and drug use.
  • A loving society comes to the aid of motherless or fatherless families but does not intentionally create them.
  • While children in the foster care system are waiting to be adopted, the solution remains to encourage married couples to follow through on adopting these children.
    • There are more than 500 married couples in the United States for each child waiting to be adopted out of foster care.
    • Married couples should be encouraged to consider adopting older and special needs children who are often in the foster care system for extended periods of time.
  • Freedom of Conscience laws need to be enacted.
    • Adoption agencies should not be forced to decide between closing their doors and violating deeply-held beliefs by facilitating placements with homosexual couples.

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