"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."
— The Apostle Paul, Philippians 4:8 (ESV)
Here are stories of men and women, who identified as gay or struggled with homosexuality, but who believed — or came to believe — homosexuality was not part of God's design for human sexuality and relationships. So, they began to move away from homosexuality and to steward their relationships and sexuality in a biblical manner.
Typically, this is a process of growth and change, not an instantaneous transformation. Nor is it easy or without relapse for most. But, their lives — identity, behavior, thoughts, goals, attitudes, motives and feelings — are no longer dominated by homosexuality.
In addition, it's good to note that many of these men and women have been out of homosexuality for years ― even decades. And the transformation in their lives has helped bring greater wholeness to others in their families, churches and ministries. We hope you are encouraged and uplifted by the healing and freedom they've found.
And check back with us, as we'll be adding to this list. In fact, if you have a story of coming out of homosexuality, tell us about it at firstname.lastname@example.org ― send us a link!
Please note: Inclusion in this list does not imply endorsement or recommendation by Focus on the Family of an individual, a ministry or resources. This list is for informational purposes only. Many of these links deal with difficult and mature sexual and relational subjects and may not be appropriate for children. Parental discretion is advised. Not all those in this list are Christian ministries or individuals.
- "Just a 'Good Christian Boy'" tells Jeff Johnston's story of struggling with homosexuality and finally finding help through counseling, Christian ministries and his church. Jeff serves as a ministry expert on this topic at Focus on the Family. Focus' Thriving Values YouTube videos about homosexuality also feature his story (47:54 minute mark) along with those of others who chose to follow God's design for sexuality.
- Focus on the Family has featured counselor and author Joe Dallas on our broadcast and at numerous conferences. His insight and teaching have helped thousands move toward Godly sexuality.
- God transformed songwriter and worship leader Dennis Jernigan with His deep love. You can hear Jernigan's story on this Focus on the Family Broadcast, watch a documentary of his life or read his book to find out more of his change from homosexuality to child of God, husband and father.
- Restored Hope Network is a coalition of ministries for men and women who want to overcome relational and sexual sins, especially homosexuality. The website has a number of stories from men and women who've walked away from homosexuality, including their executive director, Anne Paulk, who writes and speaks about leaving lesbianism.
- Frank Worthen was one of the first leaders of a Christian ministry to those with unwanted homosexuality. His articles, books and ministry have helped thousands walk away from homosexuality.
- His Wonderful Works has posted a video with clips of 15 testimonies from men and women who tell of their healing and pursuit of sexual purity. Dee Barnes, the director, has written her story of leaving homosexuality and now calls others to experience the transforming power of Jesus Christ.
- Matt Moore is a Christian writer who tells about his struggles with homosexuality – including a very public fall and restoration. He explains that the goal is not to become "straight" or "heterosexual," but writes, "Being in relationship with the true, living God of the Bible through his Son, Jesus Christ, is what you're made for."
- The Hope for Wholeness Network brings together ministries, counselors and churches helping those struggling with homosexuality to find freedom. McKrae Game, president of the organization, recounts his struggles with homosexuality and of following Christ, no matter the cost. The website offers more than two dozen testimonies from women and men who experienced change from homosexuality.
- Jean Lloyd tells her story about struggling with same-sex attractions and gender identity and finding freedom.
- Charlene Hios tells about leaving lesbianism on her ministry site and in Leadership Journal.
- "Unicorns, Aliens & Bigfoot-My Post Gay Life" is a blog written by Matthew Aaron, who lived as gay for 10 years but no longer does. He mentors other men leaving homosexuality.
- Garry and Melissa (Coffey) Ingraham both came out of homosexuality. They run the Love and Truth Network, which features stories from several people choosing to steward their sexuality according to God's design.
- Referring to his same-sex attractions, Pastor Allan Edwards told NPR, "I think I made conscious choices along the way to say this is something I experience, but this isn't the thing that defines who I am personally."
- Rosaria Champagne Butterfield was a feminist English professor involved in a lesbian relationship. While researching the "Religious Right," she began reading the Bible and connected with a pastor and his wife. She tells her story of leaving lesbianism and following Christ in her book and in numerous articles and interviews.
- One-by-One is a ministry within the Presbyterian Church (USA) that lists several testimonies on their web site, including the stories of Tom, Kristin, Brad, and Maria.
- Where Grace Abounds has been ministering for years to those with sexual and relational issues. The stories at their site tell of people who've learned to trust God, worked to develop healthy friendships and found healing from past hurts.
- D.L. Foster founded Witness Freedom Ministries and tells his story of leaving homosexuality in his book, Touching a Dead Man: One Man's Explosive Story of Deliverance from Homosexuality. His blog Gay Christian Movement Watch lists and links to 225 videos of former homosexuals.
- Exodus Global Alliance is a world-wide network of ministries helping people overcome homosexuality. Their site features 22 stories from men and women around the world who have found freedom from homosexuality. The site has books, testimonies and articles in other languages such as Chinese, Italian, French, German, Korean, Spanish and more.