When a Loved One Says, "I’m Gay" — Free Resource Guide

When a loved one says "I'm gay"

"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18, ESV

When she was young, you fed her and changed her diapers. You held her hands while she was learning to walk and held her close when she fell, drying her tears and wiping her nose. You drove her to practices and watched her compete, took her to church and Sunday school. The teen years weren't easy, but you survived. She's been on her own a while now, living and working in another city. You think of her and pray for her often.

Now, she calls and says, "Mom, dad, I've found someone special. I really want you to meet her."

How do you respond? What do you say? You love her. You also feel shocked, sad and alone. You love God and His Word, and you understand His design for relationships, marriage and family.

Many Christian parents feel devastated when their child says, "I'm gay." We hear from hundreds of them every year. With more and more young people experimenting with sexuality and identifying as gay, lesbian or bisexual, we suspect this number will increase. For those of you facing this situation, we've produced a FREE, helpful downloadable resource.

We trust God will use this resource to bring hope and encouragement to you, as you travel this road with your child. It includes stories from other parents; guidelines for maintaining a relationship with your child; information on your own recovery and links to many helpful resources.

If you are a spouse, friend or other family member, we believe you'll find helpful suggestions and guidance in this parent's resource, but we also have articles specifically tailored to spouses and children, as well as suggestions for friends.

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