Gary Smalley

Gary Smalley (deceased) was a best-selling, award-winning author, a popular public speaker and a renowned family relationship expert. He was the founder and president of the Smalley Institute, which provides practical relationship help through conferences, resources and counseling. Gary passed away on March 6, 2016, at age 75. He is survived by his wife, Norma, their three children and several grandchildren. Learn more about Gary, his ministry and resources by visiting the Smalley Institute’s website.

Marriage Notes: How do I truly forgive?

You might think you’ve forgiven your spouse, but true forgiveness comes with a sense of peace. And the ability to forgive others — and yourself — only comes from God.

Remember How It All Began

Few things prepare your children for success more than growing up with a mom and dad who thoroughly enjoy each other. They need you and your spouse to be great parents and great lovers.

You Can’t Give To Others What You Don’t Already Have

The great commandment teaches that self-care is not selfish — it’s actually foundational to a healthy marriage.

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Parents: Protect Your Child’s Heart by Guarding Your Own

Every parent needs a deliberate, strategic and measurable plan to guard his or her child’s heart.

Four Key Beliefs From Scripture

Learning these four biblical principles will help you reap the wonderful consequences of a much closer walk with God and harmony with others.

How to Bless Your Child

Learn about the actions and attitudes involved in giving your child a blessing.

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Strengthen Your Child’s Faith With Scripture

The life that Christ promised is what we all want for our children. I want to help you teach your children to memorize and meditate on Scripture as a part of their everyday lives.

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Do You Have a Plan?

How have you prepared your children for the attacks of Satan? Do you have a written plan to protect your children?

A Written Blessing

Here is why you should write down your blessing for your children, and how to compose a written blessing to affirm them.

Memorize and Meditate

Find creative ways to make Scripture memorization fun. Here are some tips about times and ways to help your family memorize.

Finding the Best Solution to Any Conflict

Avoid power struggles by getting on the same team as your teen.

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Meaningful Touch in Marriage

The same need for meaningful touching we see with our children is equally important in a marriage.

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An Active Commitment to Your Mate

What every man or woman owes his or her spouse is the willingness to stay committed, even if the other person fumbles the ball.

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Picturing a Special Future for Your Spouse

Our mate needs to hear positive words that picture a special future in the same way that our children do.

Giving the Blessing to Your Spouse

The five elements of the blessing are not just limited to the parent/child relationship. Let’s look at how the blessing can and should be given to a spouse.

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A Spoken Message/Attaching High Value to a Spouse

When we decide to place high value on our spouse, and then back that up with spoken words, it can do wonders for a relationship.

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The Daily Citizen

The Daily Citizen from Focus on the Family exists to be your most trustworthy news source. Our team of analysts is devoted to giving you timely and relevant analysis of current events and cultural trends – all from a biblical worldview – so that you can be inspired and assured that the information you share with others comes from a reliable source.

Alive to Thrive is a biblical guide to preventing teen suicide. Anyone who interacts with teens can learn how to help prevent suicidal thinking through sound practical and clinical advice, and more importantly, biblical principles that will provide a young person with hope in Christ.

Bring Your Bible to School Day Logo Lockup with the Words Beneath

Every year on Bring Your Bible to School Day, students across the nation celebrate religious freedom and share God’s love with their friends. This event is designed to empower students to express their belief in the truth of God’s Word–and to do so in a respectful way that demonstrates the love of Christ.

Focus on the Family’s® Foster Care and Adoption program focuses on two main areas:

  • Wait No More events, which educate and empower families to help waiting kids in foster care

  • Post-placement resources for foster and adoptive families

Christian Counselors Network

Find Christian Counselors, Marriage & Family Therapists, Psychologists, Social Workers and Psychiatrists near you! Search by location, name or specialty to find professionals in Focus on the Family’s Christian Counselors Network who are eager to assist you.

Boundless is a Focus on the Family community for Christian young adults who want to pursue faith, relationships and adulthood with confidence and joy.

Through reviews, articles and discussions, Plugged In exists to shine a light on the world of popular entertainment while giving you and your family the essential tools you need to understand, navigate and impact the culture in which we live.

Have you been looking for a way to build your child’s faith in a fun and exciting way?
Adventures in Odyssey® audio dramas will do just that. Through original audio stories brought to life by actors who make you feel like part of the experience; these fictional, character-building dramas use storytelling to teach lasting truths.

Focus on the Family’s Hope Restored all-inclusive intensives offer marriage counseling for couples who are facing an extreme crisis in their marriage, and who may even feel they are headed for divorce.