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Glenn Lutjens

Glenn is a licensed family therapist who’s been on the Focus counseling team for 23 years. Prior to joining Focus, he spent time in church counseling and pastoral ministry. He and his wife, Elizabeth, have three young adult children. Glenn loves Jesus, has an affinity for lasagna and cheers for the Oakland Raiders.

A young bride and groom sit in a field, holding a cut-out of a house, signifying their marriage hopes and dreams. But what if your marriage is not meeting your expectations?

Navigating Marriage Expectations When Marriage Isn’t How You Thought It Would Be

The fairytale wedding is over and the realities of married life are sinking in. Are you missing the “happily ever after?”

Why Isn’t My Husband the Person I Thought He Was?

When you were dating, he was attractive and neat. Now he doesn’t even pick up after himself. What should you do?

A couple holds hands on an autumn afternoon.

Viewing Your Husband in a New Light

After the wedding, it’s common to view your spouse in a new, perhaps disappointing light. Here’s what you can do about it.

Wife ponders whether she married the wrong man as he sleeps in background

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

Marriage is not primarily about finding the right spouse. It’s about being the right person.

A woman sitting on a couch with a thoughtful expression, looking away from a man in the background who appears to be talking. This scene could represent red flags in a relationship, where communication might be strained or there could be underlying issues.

Red Flags in a Relationship

When we’re excited about a relationship, it’s easy to overlook the red flags that at least need to be explored.

Spiritual Red Flags

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