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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Examining Your Part in a Difficult Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Examining Your Part in a Difficult Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Former Major League Baseball player Darryl Strawberry and his wife, Tracy, talk candidly about the past troubles they experienced in their personal lives and in their marriage, and offer hope to struggling couples as they describe how God brought them restoration and redemption. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: September 28, 2015

Opening:

John Fuller: He was a power hitting eight-time All-Star outfielder with four World Series rings, but his career and his life were derailed by substance abuse, prison time and dysfunction all around. And on today’s Focus on the Family, you’ll discover the hope that he’s found and he and his wife say it’s made all the difference. Our host is Focus president, Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.​

Jim Daly: John, you know, when you look at people, it’s amazing how we have such similarity. I mean, we may do different things. We may attain different heights, but when you peel it all back, we’re just human beings that struggle. And today we’re gonna talk with someone, actually a couple who have come from struggle.​

And I’m reminded of that great verse that talks about God being close to the brokenhearted and saving those crushed in spirit. We may not be able to connect with the heights that this man achieved, but I think we’re gonna connect to the depths and it will be a very interesting conversation.​

John: Darryl Strawberry is our guest, along with his wife, Tracy and Darryl played for a number of Major League baseball teams during 17 seasons, including the New York Mets and the Yankees. And as I said, he and his wife, Tracy are here joining us today.​

Body:

Jim: Let me welcome both of you to Focus on the Family.​

Darryl Strawberry: Well, thank you. Thanks for havin’ us. It’s great to be here with you guys.​

Jim: Darryl, I mean, what achievement with baseball. I mean, we talked a little bit off mic about it, but what does it feel like to get to that mountain? I mean, most people, sports figures in our culture are lifted up and vaulted in such ways. I mean, what did it feel like to go everywhere and everybody pullin’ on you and asking for an autograph? It has to be a little daunting.​

Darryl: Well, yes, it is; it is. It’s a … it’s a great feeling to be able to achieve something that you strived for as a … as a kid. When you watched baseball on television, you go, “I want to do that one day.” And then you realize that you have the talent to go out and be able to play at … at the level, from starting from high school and you get better and then you go on to professional ball and you get in there and you realize that, you know, this can happen. And when I talk about that, it really did happen, but I think I was driven because of my pain. I think a lot of times you … you see athletes and you see athletes be successful. Well, what’s really goin’ on down inside of ’em, most people never know.​

Jim: Well, let’s start there. Let’s talk about your childhood, being a boy growin’ up in L.A. I grew up in L.A. Tracy, we’re … think about it, ’cause we’re comin’ to you next. Both of you have powerful stories about growing up. Darryl, talk about your background. What was happening in your life as a young boy?​

Darryl: Well, as a … as a young boy, my life was very dysfunctional. My dad was a raging alcoholic and you know, coming to know that his father was a raging alcoholic, so he ended up seeing his father being abusive, so he ended up turning to bein’ very abusive to us as kids, you know, in our family and our mom. And you know, he’d just come home night after night drunk and just in a rage of everything. And you know, he would beat us and you know, I grew up with a lot of pain dealing with that.​

And I think most people don’t really realize that. They only see the fact that I put on the uniform and I became great as a baseball player, but before I ever put the uniform on, I was already scarred inside, because my father said I’d never amount to nothin’. I’d never be nothin’. And you know, he came home one night, pulled out a shotgun and said he was gonna kill all of us and we went into action at the age of 13 and we almost … we almost killed him and … and it would’ve been a tragedy in my life, had not my mom allowed us to get out of the house and … and get away from the situation. So, it was already … we were already embedded with some things that … that most people didn’t ever see, because they were behind closed doors. And that’s what happens behind closed doors of people’s homes. You don’t see the abusive stuff that goes on and … and the negative stuff that goes on. All we see is when one come[s] out and … and he becomes someone famous and important. Then people go, “Well, what’s wrong with him?” You … the scars are already deep inside, and if those scars had never healed, those scars would carry into your adulthood, and … and you … you’re just gonna act ’em out in life and that’s what happened to me.​

Jim: Your mom had faith in Christ, is that right?​

Darryl: Yes.​

Jim: And how did that play into your understanding of the world? I mean, did that make a difference for you? Did … did you see something in your mom that, of course, you didn’t see in your dad?​

Darryl: Oh, of course. I mean, [it] made a big difference in … in how I viewed things about life, because I knew she was someone who was a Christ follower and not just only a Christ follower, but she lived it. I saw her help other people. I saw her do things that most people would never imagine. You know, here she is, she had a son that was being successful and was blessed and … and I poured into my mom’s life and blessed her with everything and she would bless other people—​

Jim: Ah.​

Darryl: –that were hurting. So, that was a sign there that she was different, you know, than anything else I’ve ever seen, ’cause the opposite of what my father was.​

Jim: And did they break up that night when you were 13 and you had that struggle? Was that the end of your family? Or did your mom and your dad stay together longer?​

Darryl: No, that was the end. My mom—​

Jim: That was the end.​

Darryl: –reali … my mom realized there that he had to go because now my children have been put into a situation of danger. And as a … as a … it was a totally different mind-set for me and my brothers that after that night, because we came very close to killing my father; there was no question about it in … in our minds that he was no longer gonna come in this house and he was no longer gonna come in here and …​

Jim: Ah, Darryl, when you look at that experience as a young man, and you think of all the broken homes today, you and I both came from tough neighborhoods in Los Angeles. Does your heart break for those kids that are goin’ through similar and sometimes even more severe things than you went through, and I went through?​

Darryl: No question. My heart breaks tremendously, and my wife’s heart breaks tremendously,and we’ve always decided to empower young people, because of some of the struggles that we had to overcome. We know the importance of young people who are in homes and who are in broken situations and their struggles and their pain. We know that.​

We know it’s real and my wife has been so gracious to have so many young people at our homes and … and taking care of ’em and tryin’ to raise ’em and havin’ them live with us, because we … we know it’s real.​

We know that if someone don’t capture them and lead them down the right road, we know that the enemy is gonna deceive them and take them to a place where they could never imagine. And some may never make it back, you know, and that’s what we need to understand about who we are in Christ. You know, our … our job is to really help people know that their life matters to God and God cares and empower young people with that and don’t shove it down their throat and love ’em right where they’re at, you show them the love of God and … and they’ll know the way back. You know, they will always return back to that way regardless of how difficult it gets.​

Jim: And again, these are things that you learned over a period of time and we’re gonna get into more of that detail in a minute, but Tracy, I want to get you into the conversation here obviously. Talk about your upbringing and what happened as a teenager and what were you dealin’ with? You were comin’ from a Christian home, right?​

Tracy Strawberry: Yes, I have … my parents were beautiful people. I didn’t come from dysfunction at all, which is just proof there that the enemy has a plan for your life and God has a plan for your life and we have a choice. And my parents loved me. I had opportunity. We were a middle-class family. I went to Christian school and we went on vacations. We did all of those things.​

Jim: You have three sisters?​

Tracy: Yes, I had three sisters.​

Jim: Where are you in the birth order?​

Tracy: I’m the second one.​

Jim: Okay.​

Tracy: I’m one of the middle children–​

Jim: Okay. (Laughter)​

Darryl: Yeah, right.​

Tracy: –as they say.​

Jim: The negotiator.​

Tracy: Yes, the (Laughter) negotiator, that’s me.​

Jim: And what happened? I mean, it sounds like you had a good environment. It’s so interesting if you look at the contrast of what Darryl just talked about and you know, the rage and the anger that you have as a young boy growing up with that kind of shame and that kind of pain when your dad is beating your mom, beating you.​

Tracy: Uh-hm.​

Jim: But you had a different environment, yet…​

Tracy:  I did.​

Jim:… the enemy was still able to get ahold of your soul.​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: Describe that.​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim:  Why was it dark for you?​

Tracy: I never got ahold of Jesus. I just never embraced Him for myself and we can only go so far livin’ on our parents’ faith before we make a decision where we embrace it for ourself and we begin to have an experience with Jesus Christ ourself. And my attention was drawn to the world–who am I, and why am I here?–very early on, just losing myself. I wanted the excitement. I wanted the world, and I know that now. When I was younger I didn’t understand what was going on with me and my parents tried to love me every which way they could. They tried the tough love. They tried, “Let me walk through this with you” kind of love. Um… gravitating to boys at a very young age. I loved the attention, just started to try to find my identity and just gave … a rebellious spirit gave birth to me very young.​

Jim: There … there was something that occurred and you mentioned it in the book. It’s a delicate subject—​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: –but you had physical abuse when you were a girl, right?​

Tracy: Yes, I was molested when I was young by a neighbor, not by my parents, not inside of my family, nothing of that nature. And that was something that I had just put away in the back of my mind for … for a lot of years and just didn’t address that or deal with that and never thought until I was older, to take a look at that, to see well, maybe that contributed to some of the choices I made. It definitely changed my thinking.​

Jim: Right.​

Tracy: It changed my thinking at 8-years-old. It changed my thinking dramatically, and I remember that clearly. I remember just being a completely different person from a mind-set perspective—​

Jim: Sure.​

Tracy: –and tryin’ to figure that out and live life through that. And the way I did that when I was younger is I just shut it off.​

Jim: Right.​

Tracy: I just shut it off. I didn’t deal with it.​

Jim: Well, you, yeah, emotionally you shut down.​

Tracy: Emotionally.​

Jim: And you start to control it and I could, you know, see that. That’s a pattern that happens—​

Tracy: Right.​

Jim: –with young people, both boys and girls.​

Tracy: Right.​

Jim: So, move us forward in your story that led to a lot of brokenness, right?​

Tracy: Uh-hm.​

Jim: You married, and then that was difficult. Just—​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: –fill in those blanks for us.​

Tracy: Yes, just when you run, I ran in the world and I embraced the world, so I embraced the thinking. I embraced the strategies of the world. I embraced the … the selfishness—me, myself and I. I’m in this world now to make it on my own. What is my purpose? And my life was defined by my own opinion. I’m gonna be successful, so I’m gonna have a great career, a great job. I’m gonna meet this great man, who’s gonna look good and we’re gonna live a great life. We’re gonna have excitement. We’re gonna go on vacation. We’re gonna be successful. We’re gonna have some kids and I am going to make my life work according to this pattern that I’ve developed in my own mind and in my own way.​

Jim: So, what was that—​

Tracy: That’s what I thought.​

Jim: –formula gonna do for you?​

Tracy: That formula is gonna—​

Jim: I mean, it sounds like a formula.​

Tracy: –bring me success.​

Jim: And that was gonna make you happy.​

Tracy: That was gonna make me happy. That was gonna settle my soul. That was gonna make me happy, find the man of my dreams, the fairytale concept, if you will. And I had my own thought of how you men should be and exactly how you should treat me. (Laughing)​

Jim: I think you’re speaking for most women right now–​

Tracy: (Laughing) Right–​

Jim: –actually.​

Tracy: –which we find out later on in the story is that plays out, that’s not reality. That’s denial. That’s a lie. And it’s very unrealistic and God played no part in my life. He just played no part in my life, and the Bible certainly was not the direction manual for my life.​

Jim (steps over): When you look back, because a lot of parents are listening right now—​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: –and they have that 19-year-old Tracy—​

Tracy: Uh-hm.​

Jim: –or that 23-year-old Tracy—​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: –or that 13-year-old Tracy. They’re struggling. They don’t know what to do. They’ve tried tough love. They’ve tried gentle love, and it just seems like this daughter or this son of mine does not want to hear the wisdom that comes from me as a parent or from God. What would you say to them? What could have made that different? Could anything have made that different in your relationship with your parents?​

Tracy: Sure, it’s … when I look back, my parents did the best they could. So, sometimes we can’t change the past. That’s what I would say first. So, let’s not stay there too long, because that can be a very dark place. If there was somethin’ that you could’ve changed, and it comes to your mind quickly, and you know you could’ve changed that, then you need to bring that to the Father and deal with yourself in that area.​

But looking at a child, people cannot change people. And we can love them, we can lead them and we can give them direction, but they’re gonna come to a place where they embrace their own way. And it’s free will. There’s free will there, and it’s not at … this is not a comfort answer, a patted answer in a way of there was something that you could do to change that individual. My parents tried everything. There was nothin’ they could do to change me.​

Jim: Yeah.​

Tracy: I had made up my mind– this is what I was gonna do. One thing my parents did do, even through the dysfunction of it all, they loved me through it all, but they had very strong boundaries.​

Jim: Uh-hm.​

Tracy: They did not enable me. They did not allow me to live in their home at a certain age. If this is what you’re gonna choose, you’re gonna have to do that somewhere else. We love you and we’re always here, but we can’t change you. We can’t make you, but we also cannot tolerate this in our home.​

Jim: Wow, I mean, that … that is well-said. I mean, those are the right things to do. So, I would think that love made all the difference, maybe not in the moment—​

Tracy: Right.​

Jim: –but certainly later in your life when you could—​

Tracy: That love—​

Jim: –realize it.​

Tracy: –brought me back and allowed me to have an open mind to Jesus Christ. It brought me back.  ​

Jim: You’re listening to Focus on the Family. Our guests today are Darryl and Tracy Strawberry, their book, The Imperfect Marriage: Help for Those Who Think It’s Over. And we’re gonna get to that aspect of the story in just a minute.​

John: And call us if you … if you’re one of those parents that Jim just described, if you’re scratching your head saying, “We’re trying to do everything right,” here at Focus we have parents in that very same situation on staff, but we have a great counseling team and we can help you get some first steps toward containing and managing that situation and releasing it perhaps to God as you need to. Our number here is 800-A-FAMILY; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.​

Jim: Darryl, let me come back to you now. I could be wrong, but it seems like you may be a little uneasy talking about your 20’s and your baseball career. You were a great player! And you could hit a ball like few other guys could hit it.​

Darryl: Well, I’m not really uncomfortable with it. It just doesn’t exist anymore in my life. My career was a … a career that I played and had a lot of fun and done a lot of great things, but I don’t really look back on it and say I wish I could’ve, I think ’cause a lot of times I looked back on it before when I was in the midst of all the struggle and all the issues I was goin’ through and was thinkin’, I wish I could’ve done this different. But after really giving my life over to Christ, I … I realized that I’ve done something different, so that’s probably what you mean is where it’s uncomfortable, because, you know, most people and I think athletes and movie stars and people that are public figures, they could never get past what they used to do.​

Jim: Right.​

Darryl: And that’s why they can’t never enter in on the other side.​

Jim: Right.​

Darryl: And … and that’s what 2 Corinthians 5:17 talks about, “Old things are passed away; behold all things have become new.” You … the old … if you don’t let the old pass away, you can’t walk into the new.​

Jim: Boy, that’s interesting putting it that way, ’cause what I … what I’m thinking about is the Apostle Paul. I never thought about that, but think of what he brought in to the big leagues. He was that Christian crusher. He was the guy that went out and was killing the Christians. And you know, news didn’t travel fast in those days, so I’m sure when he came to the scene, it was all about his past—​

Darryl: Right.​

Jim: –and not who he was today. But let me ask you about that in terms of the moment, what you were dealing with as a human being. You have all this fame. You’re goin’ out every night, playin’ for the Yankees. That’s where, you know, that’s where everybody wants to play. And what was going on personally for you with the drugs, and what was goin’ on?​

Darryl: Well, fame is only what you make it, and I think a lot of times we look at fame as being the most important thing. What was goin’ on inside with me was, who am I? You know, regardless of how many home runs I hit, how many championships I win, how many, you know, millions of dollars I make, or how successful I … I am, but the real question inside of me always wants to know, who am I? Why was I created? What’s the purpose of my life? There’s a great purpose. See, a baseball career is just a career. Baseball … I could tell you what’s gonna happen in baseball. Somebody[‘s] gonna win; somebody[‘s] gonna lose. (Laughter)​

Jim: That’s pretty much it.​

Darryl: And … and somebody’s gonna, you know, somebody’s gonna be more successful than another player. And some’s gonna have deep-rooted issues. Others are not. Some are hidden. That lifestyle of fame brings a lot of secrets in a person’s life and my life was no different from the secrets of … of trying to fill the emptiness that was inside. I had all the money. I had beautiful homes, $2 million homes sittin’ on the golf course, but I had nothing, because all I was doin’ was accumulatin’ a lot of stuff. Inside I had nothin’. I was empty inside. I was bankrupt inside, you know, and I needed to fulfill what was goin’ on inside of me, so I used … I used drugs. I was a liar. I was a cheater. I was a womanizer. I was an alcoholic and I was a drug addict.​

And I was a sinner, saved by grace, because God’s grace is sufficient. But that’s who I was until I came to the place of knowing, you know, who God was. See, God’s grace is sufficient for all of us. God … that’s the thing about Jesus. Jesus don’t care about, you know, what you are. He cares about redeeming you and liberatin’ you and bringing you to the place and purpose of why you have been created, so you can walk in the fullness of what He’s called you for.​ See, all that, what I was when I was a baseball player, was all true, because the separation from knowing who God was didn’t allow me to actually enjoy the fact that I was a good baseball player.​

Jim: Huh.​

Darryl: You know, I … I did it out of frustration, out of dealing with what the media said about me and what people said about me and said I couldn’t do this and couldn’t do that, they … ’cause they were just like what my father had said.​

John: Uh-hm.​

Darryl: And I heard the voice of one of ’em sayin’, I … my father said I wouldn’t amount to nothin’, so I … my thing was, I’ll show you. And that’s what most of us do. We say, “We’ll show you” or we’ll stuff this pain down inside of our self or we’ll keep that and deal with that in our … in our actions the way it acts out. ‘Cause it … the pain of a person’s life will play out in this life. Eventually it will play out in this life or it will kill him.​

Jim: When you look at … and it’s beautifully said, and what comes to mind is nobody is beyond the reach of God.  How did God get ahold of you? I mean, where was that first inkling where your mom may have come to your mind, her faith?​

Darryl: Well—​

Jim: Where did God get ahold of you and say, “I’m right in front of you; come with Me”?​

Darryl: –of course, it was my mom, watchin’ her, watchin’ her life and the way she lived her life for Christ. But it was 1991 when I came to Christ, but I didn’t get discipled. There was no discipleship.​

Jim: Right.​

Darryl: ‘Cause I … if you don’t get … if you don’t go through the discipleship after you come to Christ, you will go back to the familiar.​

John: And what was that familiar for you?​

Darryl: Oh, the same lifestyle—the women, the drugs, alcohol. I went right back to it, just that quick. I remember … I remember clearly, I got hurt, and I ran into the wall, made a play and dislocated my shoulder and it was my first season in L.A. and I … I was saved, and I dislocated my shoulder and I kinda like, oh, well, it’s no big deal. I … I’m out, you know.​

And all of a sudden, you know, it was like I was … started to get leery about everybody who’s comment about, “Well, he wasn’t playing well, and it’s the beginning of the season,” and stuff. So, you know, I didn’t stay on board with, you know, going forward with God and bein’ disciple like I should have. And I got lost. I got lost back into, you know, my … my old ways, because I wanted to prove them wrong once again myself.​

Jim: Right.​

Darryl: The second half of the season, I played great and it was a sign of I was back, so there it was. I didn’t really need God, ’cause I was back at what I was doing, what everybody wanted me to do, play baseball well. And I didn’t take a stand for Christ. And I took a stand for, you know, what everybody[‘s] opinions was, instead of taking a stand for who Christ was in my life and … and I had to go through this process of … of learning. And I’m grateful for God. I’m grateful for His grace, grateful for His mercy, ’cause I don’t deserve it, but He gives it to me daily.​

Jim: Oh, yes.​

Darryl: And … and I’m grateful that I do know, you know, through that whole process of my fall back then would bring me to a greater place in my life today that I would be able to see who Jesus is and would be able to go out and … and minister to people and help people come to know who Jesus is.​

Jim: Okay, so, the Lord has gotten ahold of you, but you’re not quite walkin’ with Him yet. Tracy, I want to turn back to you quickly as we end today, but I’m gonna ask you guys to keep goin’ and we’re gonna come back next time and fill in the story. But where were you, kind of about this time? You had gone through one marriage.​

Tracy: Yes.​

Jim: And then a second marriage.​

Tracy: Yes, quickly.​

Jim: And what was God doing to get your heart? And you were trying to work your formula of success–​

Tracy: I was.​

Jim: –which so many people are, so I appreciate that honesty and—​

Tracy: Sure.​

Jim: –that transparency. But where was God working in that spot of your heart to say, “Tracy, I’m here?”​

Tracy: Yes, at that time I couldn’t see God working on my heart, so I refused to even acknowledge Him, because I was in so much pain.​

Jim: Did you get bitter?​

Tracy: I got bitter. I was broken. I yelled at Christians like you. If I heard another person come up to me and say, “Jesus loves you,” it’s … when you say “love” to a person, we need to use discernment. When you say “Jesus loves you” and that … to a person who is suffering severe pain, it doesn’t add up. They do not add up, because the two don’t go together.​

Jim: Right.​

Tracy: So, if you serve this loving, almighty, powerful, great, amazing God, and if I ask Him to come upon me right now, He’ll deliver me from drugs. He’ll take away this pain and by the way, where was He when I was 8-years old when this was goin’ on? Where was He? And these are the questions that people of the world have. And–​

Jim: That’s a good warning.​

Tracy: –we have to be ready to answer those questions and that’s exactly where I was when God was working on my heart. But a beautiful woman would come into my life and she wouldn’t even address any of those things. She just simply would invite me and love me and just simply allowed me to be okay. She said, “God can handle your pain.” She wouldn’t even go there with me. She just loved me, invited me to Bible study, she fed me, and that’s the quick introduction of how God really showed up in my life, and I finally started to get a glimpse of possibly saying yes to Him.​

Jim: And it … to paint a picture for what you were struggling with at that time, very much like Darryl, drugs had taken a hold of you, as well, right?​

Tracy: Yes, absolutely, I just ran so far and how does a woman like me who comes out of a beautiful home…? So, I think we need to come to a place where horrible things happen to people. I want to focus on the choice, the choice, whether it was a great upbringing or it wasn’t, regardless of where you are today or where you are not today, where you believe you can be or where you think you can’t be, you have a choice. And Jesus lays before us a choice and He gives us the choice—chose life or death—to come to Him, to come into a new life, a redeemed life, a healed life, a whole life, a new life. Eternal life is presented.​

And He is a good and an awesome, amazing God that will lead you into a new way of living. And it takes a fight, but we all have that choice. You have the choice to be well. You have the choice to be redeemed. That choice is right before you, right now today. You make that choice; now you can begin again. If you never make that choice, you can never begin again.​

Jim: You’ll be stuck in that trap.​

Tracy: You’ll be stuck forever.​

Jim: Tracy, I couldn’t … I mean, that was beautiful the way that you said that and again, we’re right at the end of today’s program, but I want to come back next time and talk more about how God did exactly that for you, and for you, Darryl, and how you came together and what you have learned in marriage and in life from that point forward. Can you stay with us?​

Darryl: Yes.​

Tracy: Yes.​

Closing:

John: What a great visit that we had with Darryl and Tracy Strawberry on Focus on the Family and you’ll hear more of their story next time as they share about their relationship and God’s work in their lives. And their book, once again, is called The Imperfect Marriage.​

Jim: John, I so appreciate this great testimony that we’re hearing.  If you’ve been discouraged in a difficult marriage—maybe you’re feeling without hope, we can assure you that there is hope, as we’ve seen with the Strawberrys’ marriage, as they’ve overcome great odds through God’s work in their lives. It takes humility, I think that’s one of things you are hearing here.​

I want to encourage you to contact us and learn more about Hope Restored, it’s a marriage intensive program that takes place over several days.​

At Hope Restored, a team of highly qualified, committed marriage counselors provide couples the biblical tools to begin the healing process. And we have a post two-year 80% success rate. It is an incredible program.​

So, please call us to find out more, and also, ask for a copy of The Imperfect Marriage.​

John: We are a phone call away.  Our number is 800 the letter A and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast for more information about Hope Restored, and that great book by the Strawberrys.​

And we’d ask, if you’re able, to send a monthly gift to Focus and help us extend ministry to others. We rely on your generosity to see thousands of marriages strengthened every year through this broadcast.  So when you donate any amount, we’ll send you Darryl and Tracy’s book as our thank you gift. ​

On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back next time, as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

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Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

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Rhonda Stoppe

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

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A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

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In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

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You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

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Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

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As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

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Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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