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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Taking Courageous Steps to Save Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Taking Courageous Steps to Save Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Ann White’s marriage was in desperate trouble, but she was terrified to let anyone know. She discusses how God helped her to break through dysfunctional patterns and finally ask for help. Hear this courageous story about a marriage restored. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: April 26, 2018

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Ann White: And I just remember breaking down completely and just begging God and just saying, “Lord, I have no clue what to do. I don’t know where to go, where to turn, what to do.” And I said, “You’ve gotta help me.”

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John Fuller: You can hear the desperation in her voice. Their marriage was in shambles. In fact, it was one of the worst scenarios that their counselor had ever seen. And yet, God helped Ann White and her husband to work through their brokenness and to find healing together. You’ll hear about that today on Focus on the Family. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller, and your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, Ann White is an author speaker, a Bible teacher, Christian talk show host, and the CEO of Courage for Life. She helps others out of her own painful experiences in marriage. And I think that’s one of the best teachers. Someone who’s gone through the valley and come out the other side of it through God’s strength. And she’s written a great book called Courage for Life, which offers steps to finding courage to face our fears and be vulnerable and real with others. Ann struggled with being open with others for decades, hiding emotionally. And now she shares hope and strength in Christ.

John: Ann and her husband Mike met in high school, and they’ve been married for a number of years. They have two adult sons and Jim; here’s how you began the conversation with Ann White on Focus on the Family.

Jim: This is really hard to do. I mean, you do it with such grace, but to talk about the most painful areas of who you are and your relationship with your husband with the Lord, uh, it’s gotta be very difficult. Have you found that to be helpful to others? Is that why you do it?

Ann: That’s absolutely why I do it is because it is helpful for others. Because I think many of us walk through life veiled to the possibilities because we’re hiding what’s really holding us back. Fear comes into play and just keeps us tripped up all the time. And I know for myself for 40 years, I just kept it under the radar and pretended that everything was okay. So there was a difficulty in my marriage. I hid it. And I think everybody tends to do that.

Jim: Yeah. I was gonna say-

Ann: Afraid of what people would think.

Jim: … to some extent, I think everyone does it. If we’re honest.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: I mean, cuz there are things that you don’t lay out there. Uh, you know, and it’s not, there’s probably negative things that you shouldn’t hide, obviously.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Poor behavior, sinful behavior, those kinds of things, but there’s also courtesies that you would hide. You know, when you, uh, feel irritated, the right thing to do is to kind of bury that, I would think. There is a healthy bearing. Is there not?

Ann: There absolutely is and I was gonna say that because you know, I think we need to be transparent with our spouses, our family members, loved ones, friends. We need to come out and speak truth in love, but we don’t have to tell everything, you know? So that goes for like what you said, you know, if we’re agitated and we just need a moment to calm down and you know, gather ourselves back together. Or if we’re talking to a close friend or someone who’s come up to us and said, “You know, tell me what you’ve been through in your life, and you know how that might help me get through what I’m going through.” You don’t have to tell all the details.

Jim: Right.

Ann: You know, the important thing is that people understand, we’re fellow strugglers. We’re the body of Christ and we’re in this together. We don’t have to be alone. We don’t have to walk these difficult journeys by ourselves.

Jim: When I heard John talking about in the open there, your marriage and what the counselor had said, it was one of the worst marriages he’d ever seen. I mean, that, that’s kind of jaw dropping.

Ann: Well…

Jim: So what was going wrong that a counselor would say that. Paint the picture of your early marriage. What was happening?

Ann: Correct. He did say that. And what, but what he actually said was, “I’ve not seen a marriage in as much difficulty as what you guys are mess, as big a mess as what you guys are in that’s ever made it.”

John: Hmm.

Ann: So he had seen many difficult marriages, the majority of them had broken apart and split.

Jim: Well, that right there is the confidence people should have in what you’re about to share with us.

Ann: Amen. Yes.

Jim: So let’s get into it. Um, where were each of you in your walk with Christ, when you got married and in your early years of marriage? where, where was God in your foundation?

Ann: So we both grew up going to church occasionally. Um, my husband grew up Church of God. I grew up, uh, in the Methodist Church, but we would go occasionally. My parents were Christians. I believed I was a Christian, but I might be in church once a month. And uh, didn’t have a clue what God’s word said. Didn’t know other than to take my Bible to church with me on Sunday and listen to what the pastor had to say and then bring it back home and set it back on a shelf. That’s basically all I knew about God and his word. I believed in Christ. I believed he was real, but that was the extent of it. So I, I think that’s a dangerous place to be, but that’s where I was. And so there was no life change in my life because as a kid, I simply believed I was a Christian. I believed I had my ticket into heaven and that’s all I needed. And yet go ahead and just live life as it comes at you. My husband was going to church as well. Um, thought he was a Christian and you know, his mom would take him occasionally, but we both at 14 and 17, when we met, we were both very broken. We came from very broken homes with very broken relationships within our homes. So that obviously impeded our ability to have a healthy relationship.

Jim: Sure.

Ann: Even in high school.

Jim: What would people on the outside looking at your marriage, how would they have described that marriage that you’re living in?

Ann: Um, from the outside looking in, we hid it very well. And that was part of our problem.

Jim: Use some of the words that people you think and don’t be shy. I mean, what would people have said about Ann and Mike’s marriage?

Ann: They thought we had the perfect marriage.

Jim: Had it all together.

Ann: The perfect family. Had it all together. My husband started a business at 19 years old, knocking on doors, selling insurance. Became very successful. And so we had the two children. Uh, everyone was healthy, had a nice home, everything looked great on the outside and we got really good at hiding it. But that’s what we grew up learning that you’re not to show your weaknesses. You’re not to show that you’re struggling.

Jim: Well, take us back to that. Your family of origin, uh, you know, the scripture talks about how the sins of the father are visited upon four generations.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And when you think about that, it sounds almost not understandable, but a practical application of that is the things we learn as children through our parents and grandparents. We take ’em forward. Describe how you took the sins of your fathers and mothers before you into your marriage. What was your childhood like?

Ann: Well, when I was born, I was the baby. I was, um, my parents had, both had prior families before they divorced their spouses and married and then had me. So I was the, you know, product of the typical at that time, modern family, the, his, hers and theirs and-

Jim: Huh, his, hers, and theirs. Interesting.

Ann: Yeah. So started out, uh, that my father accepted my two brothers, my mom’s two boys. Um, and the first few years I remember mom telling me that things were really good, but by the time I came along, my dad didn’t accept my brothers. And so there was a lot of verbal abuse, a lot of emotional abuse of, um, just making them sit at the other table, not being able to have dinner with us.

Jim: Wow.

John: Wow.

Ann: My dad had lost a son. There’s, there’s a lot that goes behind this and my dad’s brokenness. So my dad grew up the baby of nine in inner city Charlotte with an alcoholic father that beat him.

Jim: Huh.

Ann: Things that I learned much later on in life, as a matter of fact, didn’t really learn it until I started writing this book and doing more research really on my family.

Jim: And that’s usually what you find.

Ann: Yeah.

Jim: That there is a history that’s gonna, you know, propel somebody in those bad directions.

Ann: Right. And so he became successful just simply out of a drive that he was gonna make it regardless. And so he was a fighter, strong personality. Dealt with a lot of, um, insecurities and a lot of anger. And so his first wife that he married, he lost their first son at two years old. And so there was, that compounded this hurt on top of there. So when he and mother married, he took in her two sons as his own, initially. But I don’t know if it was out of guilt or what the issue became, he decided that he couldn’t raise another man’s child.

Jim: Right.

Ann: And so that attitude, kind of, carried itself throughout my brothers’ lives.

Jim: So they felt rejected?

Ann: Absolutely rejected. Now they had their biological father who loved them dearly and they would go and see him. But they were growing up in a home with a man who rejected them.

Jim: Yeah. That’s really tough. How did that impact you? Uh, you talk about the anger. Did you bring anger into your marriage? Was that part of it?

Ann: Absolutely. I did. I did.

Jim: Well, how did that manifest itself?

Ann: Well, it manifested itself because, um, I grew up feeling isolated from my brothers. And I grew up watching my brothers be disrespected, um, rejected and mistreated. And I became very angry with my father.

Jim: Huh.

Ann: And yet I carried that anger into my relationship, but I learned to stuff that anger. That’s what I saw my mom do.

Jim: What does that look like? Um, I tend to be, kind of, just out there as John can attest to.

Ann: (laughing)

John: Yeah, you… (laughing).

Jim: So when you, you talk about stuffing anger, I, I think I understand that, but describe it for me more deeply. What, what does that look like?

Ann: You know, for me it was an internal, um, processing. So if I was ever hurt, disappointed, angry, whatever, I simply would just deal with it internally and allow it to continue to build up.

Jim: What’s the thought conversation you have when somebody would wrong you and you, that anger would… Let’s say your husband, Mike said something or did something that irritated you, what was the conversation you would have in your head?

John: Hmm.

Ann: Good question. Um, the conversation I think I would have in my head when I would be hurt or angry would simply be, I’ve got to deal with this. I’ve got to find a way to get through this.

Jim: So that would be the stuffing down?

Ann: To process it.

Jim: Yeah.

Ann: And I would think to myself, um, you know, “You can do this.” And it got to a place in my life at one point where I might even deny that things happened. So if Mike and I had a terrible fight or we had difficulty in our marriage, or we ran into a situation where we had hurt one another in some, you know, way, I might even say, “You know what, I can’t deal with that pain.” So I’m just gonna deny that it happened because if I want my marriage to continue, if I want my family to stay together, I need to just pretend that everything’s okay and just go on. Just put it behind me and just pretend it never happened and go on. And I became really good at that, but what happens is that it just continues to build up.

Jim: It doesn’t go anywhere. It just sits inside you.

Ann: It doesn’t go anywhere. You know, inside you feel like you’re building this big wall of protection.

Jim: Hmm.

Ann: And you’re putting those bricks up to where no hurt, no pain, nothing can penetrate you, and you just move forward and go forward and say, “You know, I can handle anything.”

Jim: How many years of wall building did you go through before God started to tear your wall down?

Ann: 25.

Jim: So 25 years of marriage. And then what was the precipice? What did the Lord use between you and Mike to, to get ahold of you to say, “This is unhealthy, you’ve gotta change.”? And did it happen to both of you at the same time or was it you first or Mike first or what happened?

Ann: Happened to me in 2012. Um, it’s kind of when the dam broke, and it was about eight years prior to that. And God had been working on me since about 1999. And, um, I talk about that in, in the book, Courage for Life. I kind of go back and tell that journey of where that part began, and God began to woo me in as he does. And as we go through difficult times and we stuff those hurts and we have no one else to turn to, or we feel that we have no one else to turn to, we obviously turn to God. But what that did for me, which is a good thing, is it drew me closer into Him. It drew me closer into a personal relationship with Him. And so about eight years prior to the dam break to that crisis moment, uh, where everything kind of fell apart, God drew me to His word.

Jim: Hmm.

Ann: I remember in 2004, we had just moved to, um, a new town that was about an hour and a half away from our church. And I had been really involved in our church, uh, there in Woodstock, Georgia and had been really, um, receiving a lot of benefits from being involved at church.

Jim: Well, describe that. Help us. What does that mean?

Ann: You know, being in choir…

Jim: Accolades?

Ann: You know, being in choir. No, I think it was just, it would make me feel good. So the more I would be at church, the better I felt.

Jim: Oh, okay.

Ann: The more whole I felt.

Jim: Right.

Ann: The closer to God I felt. And so when we moved about two hours, um, or about an hour and a half to two hours away from our home church, I really questioned God. And I said, “Lord, why did you take me here? I was drawing closer to you. I was getting fed.” And I remember the Lord saying to me specifically, “I don’t want you to be fed at church. I wanna feed you personally.”

Jim: Hmm.

Ann: And I didn’t know what that meant. I didn’t know what it looked like. But shortly after that it was within a month or two, uh, we were living in Rome, Georgia, and we were just maybe 45 minutes from Chattanooga. And I had someone tell me about Precept Ministries. And I went to a women’s conference there and learned that Kay Arthur was, um, still doing pilot studies during the week on Tuesdays. And that you could go and, and she’d give you the workbooks to work through a particular book of the Bible. So in 2005, I started going on Tuesdays and I could not get enough. And it changed my life. God began to feed me.

Jim: Yeah.

Ann: Like he said, he would. And so I learned I could do that. And that’s what led me to the point in 2012, where I think God got me to that point where He said, “You can no longer live like this. You can no longer hide your pain, your sin, your brokenness, um, all of the difficulties, all of the, all the stuff, all the hurt from childhood, you can’t go any further with that. It’s time for you to come out and be open and get this dealt with.”

John: Hmm. Well, Ann White is our guest today on Focus on the Family. And your host is Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller. And you can find out more of Ann’s story and some great encouragement in her book, Courage for Life. And the subtitle is Discover a Life Full of Confidence, Hope, and Opportunity! We’ve got the book and a CD or download of our conversation today. You’ll find those and much, much more at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Ann when you look back on that, it’s not that long ago, actually, you know.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, that surrender to God what you were going through. Um, and I think there are many churches that are great churches. That are, people are gonna be fed in those churches.

Ann: Yeah. Absolutely.

Jim: Like you went through Precepts. So the church plays a critical function as well.

Ann: Absolutely.

Jim: But I want to concentrate more with you and Mike and where you were at. Was he, what was his attitude seeing you move more closely into God’s orbit, reading the word, reading the prophets? Were you having discussions about it? Was Mike intrigued or was he like, “What has happened to my wife?”

Ann: (laughs) You know, I think Mike has always loved the Lord. You know, we both have loved the Lord. We just didn’t know, kind of, where we were and I can’t speak for him certainly, but what I can say, what I observed was he was busy growing a business, a very successful business.

Jim: So he had those pressures.

Ann: He had a lot of those pressures. And so while he loved the Lord and he would go to church with me on Sunday mornings, I was growing deeper and closer to the Lord. And I think it put, probably put a little pressure on him. Probably made him feel a little, um, no, the right word.

Jim: Outside?

Ann: Maybe so. Yeah, probably so. Yeah.

Jim: Just a little outside in your relationship with the Lord.

Ann: Yeah.

Jim: I could understand that.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: In fact, you went to Israel. I think that was the trip that, that surrender actually occurred. Set that up for us and and speak to the environment. What you and Mike were dealing with, the phone calls you were having and how God used that separation time you being in Israel, I think with your son, right?

Ann: Mm-hmm. With our, with our oldest son.

Jim: Yeah. What, what happened?

Ann: He was 24 at the time. So that’s actually how the book Courage for Life starts out. I start out with that crisis in Israel because I had gotten there, I think right before we left the night before I left for Israel with this trip, it was a church trip and there were about 40 other church members. We headed to Israel. The night before, Mike and I were in our typical argument.

John: Mm.

Ann: Because our, our relationship, not simply because of him, not simply because of me, but simply because of our brokenness and what we were doing to each other. It was a duel, you know, we were both responsible for allowing our marriage to deteriorate and we were arguing. And we both knew that our marriage was on life support. And we both knew that divorce was in our future.

Jim: Huh.

Ann: So as I left for Israel with my oldest son who knew very little about what was going on in our life, cuz we’d hidden it from our kids as much as we’d hidden it from everyone else.

Jim: Right.

Ann: Left with, um, my pastor and his wife, my son and 40 other church members. We get to Israel, and after our first day we come back that evening. And as I talk about in the book, I came back, Blake was on the phone with Mike and uh, Blake, as he intuitively would’ve done and did said, “Hey dad, do you wanna talk to mom?” And of course, that puts Mike and I both on the spot. You know, we had been arguing and um, probably needed that break from one another. But I got on the phone with Mike. Blake went, uh, back to his room to take a shower and we proceeded to continue to disagree and talk about what we were gonna do about the mess of our relationship and really how we were going to amicably divorce.

Jim: Yeah. Ann, what stopped that from happening? I mean, when a couples at that point, in fact, you know, one of the things John, that we have is Hope Restored, which is an intensive marriage counseling experience for people.

Ann: Yes.

Jim: With an 81% post two-year success rate.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And this is one of those things that many of the people that go have actually signed the divorce papers.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And this is a critical point because some listening right now might be there, Ann, that they’ve just had that conversation. They may not be in Israel. Uh, they, they may be at work and one at home and they’re at this point where they’re saying, “Okay, how are we gonna amicably end this thing as believers?”

Ann: Yes.

Jim: And that’s not the will of God.

Ann: Amen.

Jim: That’s not His heart for their relationship. How does a person pull back? What happened in your life as an example and as a, a witness to the others listening who might be at that same point?

Ann: Well, you know, um, Jim, I think we often try to control our situations. And I know I did. I know Mike, um, has a very strong personality and a very successful man. He, you know, is in control’s life.

Jim: Hard charger. I’m sure.

Ann: Yeah. We, we had no problem controlling many situations in our life. So we tried to control our marriage, but we knew at that point, I knew at that point, I could no longer control the situation. I had no control. I couldn’t save it. I couldn’t do anything in my power to save it or to allow it to dissolve amicably. I knew, I had no clue what to do.

Jim: Let me ask you this, was that in hindsight when, in that moment, could you see that was a good thing or did you feel it was a bad thing that you couldn’t control your marriage anymore?

Ann: Of course, at the moment, I thought it was a bad thing. You know, I thought that I could control anything.

Jim: And it was a God thing.

Ann: But it was a God thing. God allowed me to get to the end of myself. To where I couldn’t control anything anymore. So, Mike and I actually ended up hanging up. I don’t know who hung up first.

Jim: But it wasn’t friendly.

Ann: It wasn’t a friendly end to that phone call when I was in Israel. And I remember just sitting there on the edge of my bed, Blake, um, had an adjoining room. So he was over in his other room, and I just remember breaking down completely and just begging God. I remember being face down on the floor and just saying, “Lord, I have no clue what to do. I don’t know where to go, where to turn, what to do.” And I said, “You gotta help me.” And I think that’s the sad thing. Sometimes we wait until it’s so bad before we turn to the Lord and say, “God, tell me what to do.”

Jim: Yeah. Well, that’s so true. And, and for those that are experiencing desperation, that’s really what you’re describing.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: The Lord is there. I mean, that’s the-

Ann: And He is.

Jim: … that’s the truth of everything and, uh, it’s a matter of recognizing it and turning toward Him. You wrote a note though. Uh, I, I would say reading the book, your first step was the vulnerability step to share with somebody. Who was that somebody and was it during the Israel trip?

Ann: It absolutely was. So at that very moment when my face was on the floor and I was asking God what to do, He immediately gave me the answer. He immediately, I knew immediately what I was supposed to do. I felt the Lord speak to my spirit and tell me to write down the reality of our situation on a piece of hotel letterhead and take it to my pastor and his wife.

Jim: The, and their, they would’ve seen you as a together couple back to our description before?

Ann: For 15 years, we were great. We, we’re still great friends with him obviously, but for 15 years prior to that moment, we’d been great friends, traveled internationally with them, traveled many times, spent vacations with them.

Jim: Huh.

Ann: They had no clue.

Jim: Yeah. Wow. You were good managers of the pain.

Ann: We were.

Jim: I mean, really. So you-

Ann: Unfortunately. (laughs)

Jim: … you slipped the note. How did you get the note to the pastor and his wife and what, what did you do that took that kind of courage? In fact, your book, Courage for Life.

Ann: It’s exactly…

Jim: This is the beginning.

Ann: It’s exactly the beginning.

Jim: Yeah.

Ann: Of where it all started.

Jim: So describe that for us.

Ann: So in that moment, I wrote on the front and back of this letterhead and just, really just told them kind of where we were. Our marriage was on life support. And, um, and I knew if I didn’t deliver that letter, if I waited until in the morning when we’d be getting back together as a group, I wouldn’t give it to them. I knew I would chicken out. So I called their hotel room and uh, Janet, my pastor’s wife answered the phone. Dear friend of mine. And I said, “Are you in your room?” And she said, “Yeah.” And I said, “I need to bring you something. Uh, I’ll be right there.”

Jim: Hmm.

Ann: So I walked outta that room with a note in my hand, scared, scared to death. And I, and I say scared to death. I mean, at 46 years old, you know, 47, 48 years old, I was scared to death. I was trembling-

Jim: Hmm.

Ann: To tell someone the reality of my brokenness and my situation.

Jim: Well, for the first time, it sounds like you were doing something against your nature.

Ann: Yes. Um-

Jim: The nature that you had learned as a little girl.

Ann: Absolutely.

Jim: What you had learned as a young wife.

Ann: Yes.

Jim: That bearing and hiding.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And the Lord’s pulling you out of the weeds.

Ann: Yes.

Jim: Saying, “Okay, take this step.”

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: It’s marvelous to hear how God wooed you into that in a loving way.

Ann: He did. He gave me the courage to be able to get that note into their hands. And, um, as I talk about in the book, I talk about that moment as I handed that note to her and the elevator door, um, opens up like 20 feet away and I hear the bell and then out of the elevator comes to my pastor and his two grandkids that they’ve brought on the trip with him and they’re holding ice cream and saying, “Hey, come on in let’s…” And I’m like, “No, I just need to give y’all this note and I just wanna ask you to pray for Mike and I. Uh, love you guys. I’ll see y’all tomorrow.” And boom. I was outta there. (laughs)

Jim: Yeah. But still an amazing step courage that the Lord used, obviously. It cracked your heart open, didn’t it?

Ann: Absolutely.

Jim: I mean, that’s the key thing and you know, again, for people listening, um, hopefully we all go through that experience where we have to do something that takes us out of our comfort zone. And what I mean by the comfort zone is the cover up zone.

Ann: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, it might be that vulnerability in your marriage where you’ve done something you need to share with your spouse. And what is amazing with that hopefully, and it doesn’t always work out that way, but that vulnerability ends up developing even greater trust and a platform for that relationship to be stronger than it’s ever been.

Ann: It is. And, and it has been, and it is. And I was very fortunate, you know, I could have been the only person to take that step of courage in my marriage. Uh, we knew we couldn’t go any further. It was literally gonna be over if we didn’t do something. But I remember coming back to the room and in a short time, after that, letting Mike know that I just uncovered our brokenness to two of our very best friends.

Jim: And Ann, we are out of time.

Ann: (laughs)

Jim: I mean, this is a horrible place to end. I, I need to quickly hear though, Mike’s response.

John: Yeah.

Jim: In three words, what would it be?

Ann: In three words at first, he was not happy, but God worked on his heart and he, as a man of courage came forward and said, “Let’s get help together.”

Jim: Let’s get help. Three words. Ann, uh, you have a wonderful story, a powerful story. We’re in the middle of it. Um, let’s continue the discussion next time. And I want to talk about the steps that you offer to others that can begin their healing journey in your wonderful book, Courage for Life and we’ll do that. If you can make a gift to Focus of any amount, we’ll send you Ann’s book as our way of saying thank you. If you can’t afford it, we’re, we want your marriage to thrive. So get ahold of us. We’ll get it into your hands. Others, I’m sure will cover the expense of doing that. Uh, the bottom line is, we’re in this together on behalf of the Lord, Jesus Christ to help marriages thrive. And Ann, I so appreciate you and Mike’s story and how it’s unfolding. Let’s come back again and, uh, continue the story. Can we do that?

Ann: We absolutely can. Thank you for having me.

John: Well, get ahold of us here at Focus if you’d like a copy of Ann’s book, Courage for Life. And if you can, please make a generous donation as Jim said, to Focus on the Family so we can continue our efforts through these broadcasts and various resources and Hope Restored, uh, the marriage intensive, Jim noted a few minutes ago. Uh, that’s an incredible opportunity by the way, for couples to see God work and rebuild their relationship. Now we do need your partnership to continue Hope Restored and other outreaches. So please, donate as you can at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 1 of 2)

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Abortion Survivors Tell Their Stories (Part 2 of 2)

Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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