We understand why you’re worried about your family’s situation. Though there hasn’t been any physical violence up to now, things could take a turn for the worse without much warning.
That’s why we believe it’s important for your whole family to get professional help as soon as possible. You or your mother could start by contacting our Counseling department here at Focus. After discussing your concerns with you over the phone, our counselors will provide referrals to licensed family counselors in your area.
If your dad is not willing to participate in counseling, it would still be a good idea for you, your mom, and any siblings in your home to get individual and family counseling. Among other things, this could help you learn how to appropriately respond to your dad’s behavior and prevent uncontrolled conflict. You should also find an adult male mentor – possibly an older man in your church – who will be able to encourage you and guide you in your life decisions.
In the meantime, we’d like to recommend Boundaries in Marriage, by Drs. John Cloud and Henry Townsend, which may provide your mom with some much needed emotional support during this challenging time.
Resources:
Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse
Mending the Soul (Student Edition)
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them
Referrals
Hart Institute
Articles:
Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse
