Marriage provides motivation to learn how to manage anger, which often stems from other emotions: hurt, fear or frustration. Here are some healthy ways to deal with anger in your marriage.
Controlling Your Temper
Emotions — even anger and hurt — have a purpose. These strong feelings need to be appropriately understood, valued and utilized so you can better care for yourself and know your spouse deeply.
Marriages never thrive when we expect our spouse to be responsible for fixing our feelings. If we own our emotions, we’re free to be co-owners of the relationship. Then we can build something great.
People often adopt a reaction to stress when they’re kids, and the patterns continue into adulthood. But couples can learn to discuss nine points to deepen their understanding of each other.
Lying is almost always about protecting self. When we’re tempted to lie, we can ask ourselves, What does this fib do for me? Then we can ask, What are the personal and relational costs of this lie?
If you cultivate a cooperative attitude with your spouse, you will save yourself a lot of grief. And you will have found the secret to fighting a good fight.