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Bill and Pam Farrel

Bill and Pam Farrel have been working together to help couples and families for more than 40 years. The Farrels are popular speakers, best-selling authors and the co-founders of Love Wise, a ministry dedicated to helping people build successful relationships. The couple has co-authored numerous books including The Marriage Code, Red Hot Monogamy and Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti. They have three children and two grandchildren.

Making Time for Romance and Intimacy

Couples that set aside time for rest and romance will experience more passion in their marriage.

Financial Intimacy

You don’t have to be rich to have a sensational sex life.

Social Intimacy

A social getaway might be just the ticket if you are looking for a renewed sense of adventure in your relationship.

Parental Intimacy

Raising kids takes time and energy, but it’s worth the effort to keep your romantic life alive and well.

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Navigating Midlife Transitions in Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Every marriage goes through some predictable and unavoidable transitions like “baby makes three” and then the “the empty nest”. Other transitions also come along that will significantly impact your time, energy, and your relationship with your spouse. Bill and Pam Farrel help you learn how to handle these transitions and offer ways you can approach them to strengthen your marriage. They offer some tools to help you identify those transitions and come out stronger on the other side! (Part 2 of 2)

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Navigating Midlife Transitions in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Every marriage goes through some predictable and unavoidable transitions like “baby makes three” and then the “the empty nest”. Other transitions also come along that will significantly impact your time, energy, and your relationship with your spouse. Bill and Pam Farrel help you learn how to handle these transitions and offer ways you can approach them to strengthen your marriage. They offer some tools to help you identify those transitions and come out stronger on the other side! (Part 1 of 2)

A young couple sits with a mature couple in fellowship around a couch. Marriage mentoring can be important in helping young couples navigate the issues they will face together. Here are five ways to find a mentor couple.

Marriage Mentoring: Five Keys to Help Find a Mentor Couple         

Marriage mentoring can be important in helping young couples navigate their lifelong journey together. Here are five ways to find a mentor couple.

A mature couple walks hand-in-hand near some boats in a marina. The goal of you marriage vows is to build a lasting love in marriage

Enduring Bonds of Marriage: Building a Lasting Love

Authors Bill and Pam Farrel look back on some of life’s storms that helped them build a lasting, enduring love in their marriage. They offer some tips that will help you do just that.

A male and female couple walk hand-in-hand into an orange sunset. Soul mates are not mentioned in the Bible, but the bible offers all kinds of advice on how to build a lasting relationship with your spouse.

Soul Mates: What Does the Bible Say About Discovering Love?

The term “soul mate” does not appear in the Bible. However, the Bible does provide us with plenty of guidance to help us form lasting relationships.

“A couple shares a romantic moment at sunset, silhouetted against a dramatic sky, embodying the idea of what the Bible says about soulmates.”

What Does the Bible Say About Soulmates?

Don’t get swept away with the exciting notion that your soulmate has arrived. Check what the Bible has to say about soulmates first.

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How Waffles and Spaghetti Can Build a Stronger Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Bill and Pam Farrel discuss differing approaches men and women take on marriage. They offer practical marital advice on how spouses can understand one another’s differences and even delight in them. The Farrels discuss communication challenges couples face — how women tend to address multiple topics and emotions all at once while men want to address one subject at a time. They describe how men and women can learn to relate to each other’s different styles and needs. (Part 2 of 2)

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How Waffles and Spaghetti Can Build a Stronger Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Bill and Pam Farrel discuss differing approaches men and women take on marriage. They offer practical marital advice on how spouses can understand one another’s differences and even delight in them. The Farrels discuss communication challenges couples face — how women tend to address multiple topics and emotions all at once while men want to address one subject at a time. They describe how men and women can learn to relate to each other’s different styles and needs. (Part 1 of 2)

Care for Your Marriage While Caregiving for Parents

Care For Your Marriage While Caregiving For Parents

Caregiving is a season, so it helps to have regular getaways for empathetic listening, caring conversations, essential evaluation, and the ongoing need for flexibility and modifications.

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Strengthen Your Marriage With a Meet Up

Bill and Pam Farrel describe how you can strengthen your marriage by affirming your spouse, cultivating healthy habits, and planning time for romance.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 9

Guarding your marriage from sexual temptation is a daily choice, but with God’s help, you can overcome. Your marriage is worth it. John, Greg and Erin discuss ways to build intimacy with your spouse outside of the bedroom.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 8

Allowing pornography to invade your mind will rob your marriage of the precious gift of sexual intimacy. But if you deal with it, it doesn’t have to destroy your marriage. Greg, Erin and John give some tips for confessing a pornography problem to your spouse.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 7

God wants you and your spouse to have an exciting sexual relationship. When you treat this area with honor and respect, you can experience intimacy the way God designed it for your marriage. John, Greg and Erin discuss the spiritual aspects of a sexual relationship.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 3

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 2

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 1

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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How to Keep Your Marriage Strong During Life Transitions

Pam and Bill Farrel realized that the quality of their love was going to be determined by how they handled the changing seasons that every marriage encounters.

Understand How a Man’s Brain Is Like a Waffle

If you look at a waffle, you see a collection of boxes all separate from each other. That is typically how a man processes life. His thinking is divided into boxes that have room for only one issue.

Recreational Intimacy

Research suggests that people who get regular aerobic exercise have more, better sex …’