Bill and Pam Farrel

Bill and Pam Farrel have been working together to help couples and families for more than 30 years. The Farrels are popular speakers, best-selling authors and the co-founders of Love Wise, a ministry dedicated to helping people build successful relationships. The couple has co-authored numerous books including The Marriage Code, Red Hot Monogamy and Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti. They have three children and two grandchildren.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 3

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 2

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

marriage podcast

Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage, Part 1

John and Greg are joined by Erin Smalley to talk about investing quality time in your marriage. Featuring Pam and Bill Ferrel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling authors Bill and Pam Farrel offer advice for building marital romance and sexual intimacy from their book Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle. (Part 2 of 2)

Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling authors Bill and Pam Farrel offer advice for building marital romance and sexual intimacy from their book Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle. (Part 1 of 2)

How to Keep Your Marriage Strong During Life Transitions

Pam and Bill Farrel realized that the quality of their love was going to be determined by how they handled the changing seasons that every marriage encounters.

Why Are Men Like Waffles? Why Are Women Like Spaghetti?

How are you to understand the differences between men and women? We like to think of them this way: Men are like waffles; women are like spaghetti.

Understand How a Man’s Brain Is Like a Waffle

If you look at a waffle, you see a collection of boxes all separate from each other. That is typically how a man processes life. His thinking is divided into boxes that have room for only one issue.

Understand How a Woman’s Brain Is Like Spaghetti

For most women, every thought and issue is connected to every other thought and issue in some way. Life is much more of a process for women than it is for men.

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Parental Intimacy

Raising kids takes time and energy, but it’s worth the effort to keep your romantic life alive and well.

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Financial Intimacy

You don’t have to be rich to have a sensational sex life.

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Social Intimacy

A social getaway might be just the ticket if you are looking for a renewed sense of adventure in your relationship.

Making Time for Romance and Intimacy

Couples that set aside time for rest and romance will experience more passion in their marriage.

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Recreational Intimacy

Research suggests that people who get regular aerobic exercise have more, better sex …’

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