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Bill Arbuckle

Bill Arbuckle

Bill Arbuckle is the Special Projects Manager for the Marriage team at Focus on the Family.

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Six Scriptures to Help You Avoid an Angry Marriage

Learn how to avoid an angry marriage by memorizing these six verses and asking God to remind you of them when you’re tempted to lash out at your spouse.

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Is Financial Infidelity Hurting Your Marriage?

A growing number of Americans hide credit cards and bank accounts from spouses. Financial infidelity can damage your bottom line and destroy your marriage.

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Marriage Devotional: Honor God With Your Very Best

God asks you and your spouse to trust Him with by giving your very best. Will it make a difference in your marriage?

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How to Forgive Your Spouse

Forgiving your spouse is never easy. It means letting go of an offense. It means giving grace instead of nurturing a grudge. How do you do that?

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MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL: Sacrificial Love

Robertson McQuilkin was at the peak of his career when his wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Her condition worsened, and he chose to care for his wife full time.

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How To Survive Thanksgiving Dinner With Family

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How to Avoid a Politically Divided Marriage

How do you avoid a politically divided marriage when the person on the other side of your bed is also on the other side of the political aisle?

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Your Marriage: Treasure Beyond King Tut’s Gold!

Maybe folks need a reminder that marriage is a “wonderful thing.” Maybe they need to see a married couple – you and your spouse – treat each other as valuable as King Tut’s gold.

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No One Said Forgiving Your Spouse Was Easy

If you believe in Jesus, forgiveness is a mandate. Especially when it comes to forgiving your spouse. You don’t get to opt out.

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How to Build a Fortress of Faith for Your Family’s Future

No one ever really outgrows their childhood fort. We all long for safety. As a dad, you can help your child build a fortress of faith.

The Secret to a Lasting Marriage From a Tree

Trees grow because they’re connected to a source of water that sustains them. Just like the tree, your marriage needs to stay connected to the Source — Jesus Christ.

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Your Spouse’s Flaws – How and When to Give Grace

What should you do if your spouse’s flaws drive you crazy? Give grace? Or should you confront it because it’s missing God’s mark?

Marriage 911 – Caring for Yourself as a Mentor

As a Marriage 911 mentor, you spend time caring for others. Make sure you’re practicing godly self-care as well.

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Marriage 911 – The First Phone Call

The church is ready. Your mentor team is trained. And you’ve just had a couple request a Marriage 911 mentor. Now what?

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Embrace Vulnerability for Lasting Relationships

You know your spouse because you’ve experienced life with them. You don’t just know them intellectually; you know them as an individual.

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True Intimacy Is the Heart of Marriage

Today’s culture may claim it offers sex-positive lifestyles and entertainment. But that’s not true intimacy. Intimacy involves safety and security.

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Shared Vision: A Remedy for Loneliness

One way to fight loneliness in marriage is to have a shared vision of life together.

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Marriage Devotional – United in Marriage and Ministry

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Marriage Devotional – Secrets to a Lifelong Love: Commitment

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Marriage Conference Helps Couple Heal from Infidelity

Marriage conferences not only save marriages, they can help good relationships grow stronger. They made all the difference for this couple.

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Marriage Devotion: Graduation and Life Seasons

If you and your spouse feel overwhelmed by the changes you’re facing, here’s some encouragement: You don’t face these changes alone.

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Marriage Devotional: Spiritual Intimacy

Aquila and Priscilla were united in spiritual intimacy. They shared a faith and a mission. They served God together. As one.

Marriage Devotional: Could Your Husband Be God’s Most Admired?

Boaz was not a national leader or great general. He was just an ordinary man who honored God and the people around him. God blessed him greatly.

Marriage Devotional: The Importance of Fun in Marriage

When was the last time you and your spouse did something fun together? Laughter and fun can bring you closer together and make life enjoyable.

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Marriage Devotion: Mighty Warrior

God sees us for who we will become. Sometimes we need a reminder. At other times, we should remind our spouse of God’s calling.

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Marriage Devotional: Spring Cleaning for Your Marriage

It’s time to do some spring cleaning, decluttering, and clearing out all the junk you’ve accumulated in your house and your marriage.

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Marriage Devotion: Marriage Needs a Solid Foundation

The Tower of Pisa leans because it was built on a bad foundation. Like the tower, your marriage needs a strong foundation.

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Marriage Devotion: Checklist or Treasure Hunt?

You are blessed with a priceless treasure. Proverbs 31:10 says, “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.”

Marriage 911 – Honoring Walls and Managing Resistance

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At Home With the Smalleys

Join Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley on Facebook Live as they share ideas and insights to strengthen your relationship.

Reconnected Resources

Get the tools, assessments, articles and videos mentioned during the Reconnected Group Study.

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Intimacy — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

Intimacy is a lifelong invitation to let your spouse get to know the “real you” — your hopes, dreams, fears and secrets.

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Shared Responsibilities — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

While are no spiritual laws for vacuuming or dusting, the Bible has things to say about how couples can deal with chores. But it’s not easy.

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Marriage Meditation — Growing Together as a Couple Is Like Growing a Garden

Growing together as a couple is like growing a garden. Your spouse and your relationship need daily encouragement.

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Conflict — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

The sign of a healthy marriage is not the absence of conflict, but the love and respect shown amid the conflict.

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Pastor Appreciation: Three Ways to Pray for Your Pastor’s Marriage

Pastor Appreciation is more than a once-a-year event. Start by praying for your pastor’s family and your pastor’s marriage.

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Time Together — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

There is no secret formula to a lifelong love. It takes commitment. It takes work. And it takes time. Time spent together.

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Communication — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

On a scale of one to 10 — with 10 being the highest — where do you rate your marriage? Good communication can make your marriage stronger.

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Marriage Meditation — Best Marriage Advice: You Can’t Change Your Spouse

The best marriage advice says you can’t fix your spouse. But God specializes in fixing broken things. He cares about your marriage.

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Marriage Meditation — Don’t Go to Bed Angry

Don’t go to be angry. You’ve heard it before. Why is it important? The Bible has much to say about anger and the damage it causes a marriage.

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It Wasn’t Supposed to End This Way

Life doesn’t always happen according to plan. This is our family’s story of an unexpected loss and the unexpected blessings we’ve received.

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Marriage Meditation – Love Is a Verb

Marriage begins with a promise to love. But promises are empty words unless the couple acts on them. Love is a verb. It requires action.

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Marriage Meditation — The Fruit of the Spirit Is Self-Control

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Marriage Meditation — The Fruit of the Spirit Is Gentleness

The Fruit of the Spirit is gentleness. Gentleness is often misunderstood, but when applied to your marriage, gentleness can strengthen your relationship.

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Faithfulness

The fruit of the Spirit is faithfulness. Faithfulness means more than keeping your wedding vows. It involves being consistent, reliable and trustworthy.

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Goodness

The fruit of the Spirit is goodness. What does goodness look like in our marriage? (Hint: It might be tougher than you’d think!)

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Kindness

Kindness is “goodness in action.” You spouse has areas in his or her life where they need to see your kindness. Are you willing to give it?

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Peace

If peace means resting in another’s promises, we can bring peace to our marriage by trusting our spouse and by becoming a trustworthy husband or wife.

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Patience

It’s easy to be angry. But God challenges us to live differently. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us “The fruit of the Spirit is … patience.”

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Three Ways to Invest in Your Marriage (and Have Fun Along the Way)

Investing in your marriage doesn’t have to be difficult. Start with a simple conversation every day, plan a weekly date night and then an annual adventure!

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Joy

Joy is a gift from God that — when we choose it — can fill our marriage with contentment, confidence and hope.

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Marriage Meditation – Devotional Library

Grow your marriage with these marriage devotions from Focus on the Family.

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You Might Feel Hungry After Reading This

It’s hard to imagine, but there’s a significant number of families who don’t have enough to eat. Maybe that’s an opportunity for couples who want to help.

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Love

Love is essential to marriage. It’s also one of the fruits of the Spirit. A life-long love requires God’s help to stay together when the feelings fade.

A happy couple sits closely together with their young daughter, sharing a warm moment while looking at a small box. The wife, with a gentle smile, leans on her husband’s shoulder, while he grins as he interacts with their child. Their expressions and body language convey affection, security, and mutual understanding, symbolizing the importance of building trust with your husband in a loving relationship.

This Father’s Day, Give Your Husband the Gift of Trust

Trust is scary. It’s never easy to trust your husband. What should you do if God is asking you to trust your husband?

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A Marriage Meditation: Kind Words

Kind words are important to our marriage. We can use words that encourage our spouse or we can use words that hurt them. Which words will you choose?

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Married to a Front-line Worker

If you’re a front-line worker, you and your spouse may be dealing with the extra stress caused by the coronavirus. Need help? Here’s where to start.

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A Marriage Meditation: Time

Your marriage needs commitment. Especially a commitment to time with your spouse. Make the most of the little moments and watch your marriage grow.

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A Marriage Meditation: Disappointment

When your marriage isn’t what you expected and you feel disappointed, how can you get back the spark?

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Family Finances and COVID-19: Five Helpful Tips

Family finances are taking a hit during the COVID-19 crisis. If you and your spouse are facing financial changes, here are five tips to help.

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Will Divorce Rates Jump Because of Coronavirus?

Divorce rates in China have increased since the coronavirus lockdown was relaxed. Will America see a rise in divorce rates as well? What is the real story?

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Emotional Self-Care Is Important to Your Marriage

Marriage takes two, but for a marriage to succeed, both spouses need to practice emotional self-care. Here’s how to start.

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Coronavirus and Domestic Violence

As more people are quarantined because of the coronavirus pandemic, authorities expect the number of domestic violence incidents to increase. Here’s what you can do.

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Coronavirus: How to Keep Your Family Finances Strong

COVID 19 — the “coronavirus” — …

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How Respecting Your Husband Can Make Him a Better Leader at Home

It’s not easy to see your husband’s imperfections and then choose to let him lead your family. But respecting your husband can make him a better man.

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Should You Always Apologize for Words That Hurt Your Spouse’s Feelings?

Many spouses refuse to accept responsibility for hurtful words. But when those words create emotional barriers, it’s difficult to communicate.

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Can Guys Watch Hallmark Movies and Keep Their Man Card?

Love is in the air, and Hallmark movies are on the air this Valentine’s Day. Is it possible to sit down and — gasp! — actually enjoy a romance movie with your wife?

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4 Things Guys Need to Know Before Buying Valentine’s Day Gifts

Stressed about finding the right Valentine’s Day gift? Start with these four helpful hints that will remind your wife how much you love her.

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A Film Reviewer’s Thoughts on Marriage Story and Real Marriages

Critics praise the way Marriage Story portrays a couple in crisis, but film reviewer Paul Asay says there’s a powerful message behind Marriage Story.

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The Church of England Said This About Marriage

The Church of England announced its stance on sex and marriage. You might be surprised how they define it.

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How to Find Work-Life Balance for Your Marriage

Finding work-life balance isn’t easy. But it’s important for the health of your marriage. Here are four ways to start.

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Marriage 911 – Getting Started as a Lead Mentor Couple

Follow these steps to get started as a Marriage 911 lead mentor couple.

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Marriage 911 – Finding Mentors

After identifying a lead mentor couple for your Marriage 911 program, seek couples in your church who can mentor others.

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Marriage 911 – Finding a Lead Mentor Couple

Finding a lead mentor couple is the first step to creating a successful Marriage 911 ministry in your church.

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Marriage 911 – Weekly Planning

Mentors and mentees should schedule time each week to read through lessons and prepare for weekly meetings.

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Marriage 911 – Dealing with Domestic Violence

Two-thirds of pastors see signs of domestic violence among attendees. Does your Marriage 911 team have a plan to help victims and families?

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Marriage 911 – Mentoring or Counseling?

What is the difference between a Marriage 911 mentor and a counselor?

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Harry and Meghan and Marriage

Harry and Meghan are special, but you don’t have to be a prince or princess to treat your spouse like royalty.

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Oprah, Marriage and Sacrifice

Did Oprah get it right? Does marriage mean sacrificing your goals, plans and identity? Or does marriage offer something more?

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Is Online Cheating Really Infidelity?

It’s just a TV show. Nothing t …

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How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage If You Just Got Engaged

Your wedding is a one-day event. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Divorce-proof your marriage by answering these three important questions.

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Married … With Household Chores

Couples come clean about household chores and share what they’re willing to trade to avoid cleaning house.

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How to Avoid Money Mistakes in Your Marriage

Once you identify these money mistakes in your marriage, you can take steps to get your finances — and your marriage — on track.

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The State of Florida Wants to Mandate Premarital Counseling. Will It Help Couples?

Surveys find that divorce rates drop by 30 percent or more when engaged couples seek premarital counseling.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples: Week 4 – Love

All lovers know there is a price for love. And God – who is love – knows more than anyone else the cost of great love.

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How to Stop Fighting Your Spouse: Seven Steps to Win-Win Solutions in Marriage

If you and your spouse want to stop fighting, then it’s time to remember that you and your spouse are a team.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples: Week 3 — Filled with Advent Joy

What difference might the joy of seeing Christ make in your home?

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Advent Devotionals for Couples – Week 2: Advent Preparation and Waiting for Jesus

Though He came to earth already, we’re waiting for Jesus to return. Waiting is difficult but not passive. It should involve preparation.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples – Week 1: Advent Hope

Focus on the Family invites you and your spouse to celebrate Advent. To pause from the hectic pace of the holiday season and remember those who waited for God’s promised Son, to hope in His Word and to rest in His love.

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Advent Devotionals — Readings for Couples

Focus on the Family invites you and your spouse to celebrate Advent. To pause from the hectic pace of the holiday season and remember those who waited for God’s promised Son, to hope in His Word and to rest in His love.

Couple’s Devotional: Shared Goals

Has God given you and your spouse a shared goal or a vision for your marriage? It’s time to identify it and act on it together.

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Couple’s Devotional: Godly Self-Care

Your spouse can’t meet all your needs. The remedy is godly self-care — seeking Him as your source of fulfillment.

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Couple’s Devotional: The Healthy Marriage Model

A healthy marriage flourishes when both partners support each other’s growth while seeking God’s guidance.

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Couple’s Devotional: God’s Design for Marriage

When the world asks us about marriage, let’s respond by pointing them to Jesus’ timeless words. God’s design is not just relevant; it’s essential.

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Marriage Devotion: Memorial Day

When we tell the stories of those who have served our nation we honor their sacrifice. Whose story can you remember this Memorial Day?

Marriage Devotion: Mend Your Moccasins

You can’t serve God or your spouse if you’re constantly running in worn-out moccasins. Is God nudging your heart and whispering that it’s time to tend to some personal needs?

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Marriage Devotion: Mother’s Day

The best gift a husband can give is to accept his wife’s influence and support her.