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Bill Arbuckle

Bill Arbuckle is the Special Projects Manager for the Marriage team at Focus on the Family.

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Marriage 911: The First Phone Call

The church is ready. Your mentor team is trained. And you’ve just had a couple request a Marriage 911 mentor. Now what?

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How to Forgive Your Spouse

Forgiving your spouse is never easy. It means letting go of an offense. It means giving grace instead of nurturing a grudge. How do you do that?

Marriage Conference Helps Couple Heal from Infidelity

Marriage conferences not only save marriages, they can help good relationships grow stronger. They made all the difference for this couple.

Marriage 911: Honoring Walls and Managing Resistance

Adobe Image Stock/@Grustock Mentoring and Emotional Walls So, there you are. You’re finally sitting down for a Marriage 911 session with your mentee. There’s a bit of small talk, a few questions about the previous week, and then it’s time to talk about …

Marriage Conferences – Focus on the Family

Interested in attending a Focus Marriage Conference? Visit us at one of these locations. 2022 Events SEMINARDATELOCATIONCHURCHResGen ConferenceJanuary 27-28, 2022Sioux Falls, SDRestoration GenerationLove Laugh PursueFebruary 18, 2021Fulton, MOHam’s Pra …

11 Characteristics of Married Roommates

Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming! (Song of Solomon 2:15, NLT). What are married roommates? The phrase “married roommates” can look very different depending on the couple. …

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At Home With the Smalleys

Join Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley on Facebook Live as they share ideas and insights to strengthen your relationship.

Reconnected Resources

Get the tools, assessments, articles and videos mentioned during the Reconnected Group Study.

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Intimacy — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

Intimacy is a lifelong invitation to let your spouse get to know the “real you” — your hopes, dreams, fears and secrets.

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Shared Responsibilities — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

While are no spiritual laws for vacuuming or dusting, the Bible has things to say about how couples can deal with chores. But it’s not easy.

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How To Survive Thanksgiving Dinner With Family

Two things bring a chill to the Thanksgiving holiday: an unexpected blizzard and an invitation to the annual family dinner. While you may spend a few days digging out from the snowfall, the fallout from a family get-together can last several years. So, …

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Marriage Meditation — Growing Together as a Couple Is Like Growing a Garden

Growing together as a couple is like growing a garden. Your spouse and your relationship need daily encouragement.

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Conflict — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

The sign of a healthy marriage is not the absence of conflict, but the love and respect shown amid the conflict.

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Pastor Appreciation: Three Ways to Pray for Your Pastor’s Marriage

Pastor Appreciation is more than a once-a-year event. Start by praying for your pastor’s family and your pastor’s marriage.

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Time Together — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

There is no secret formula to a lifelong love. It takes commitment. It takes work. And it takes time. Time spent together.

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Communication — A Perfect 10 Marriage Meditation

On a scale of one to 10 — with 10 being the highest — where do you rate your marriage? Good communication can make your marriage stronger.

Perfect 10 Marriage

Perfect 10

Join the Perfect 10 Marriage Event from Focus on the Family! Saturday, October 10, 8:30 p.m. EST. Premieres on YouTube.

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Marriage Meditation — Best Marriage Advice: You Can’t Change Your Spouse

The best marriage advice says you can’t fix your spouse. But God specializes in fixing broken things. He cares about your marriage.

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Marriage Meditation — Don’t Go to Bed Angry

Don’t go to be angry. You’ve heard it before. Why is it important? The Bible has much to say about anger and the damage it causes a marriage.

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It Wasn’t Supposed to End This Way

Life doesn’t always happen according to plan. This is our family’s story of an unexpected loss and the unexpected blessings we’ve received.

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Marriage Meditation – Love Is a Verb

Marriage begins with a promise to love. But promises are empty words unless the couple acts on them. Love is a verb. It requires action.

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Marriage Meditation — The Fruit of the Spirit Is Self-Control

Getting Started Watch today’s Marriage Meditation video.Read today’s marriage devotion.Share today’s question with your spouse. Today’s Devotion Scripture Reading Galatians 5:22-23 — “The fruit of the Spirit is … self-contr …

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Marriage Meditation — The Fruit of the Spirit Is Gentleness

The Fruit of the Spirit is gentleness. Gentleness is often misunderstood, but when applied to your marriage, gentleness can strengthen your relationship.

Shadows of a man and woman arguing against a red wall. They have a lot of anger problems in their marriage and need to meditate on Bible verses for aid.

Six Scriptures to Help You Avoid an Angry Marriage

Learn how to avoid an angry marriage by memorizing these six verses and asking God to remind you of them when you’re tempted to lash out at your spouse.

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Faithfulness

The fruit of the Spirit is faithfulness. Faithfulness means more than keeping your wedding vows. It involves being consistent, reliable and trustworthy.

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Goodness

The fruit of the Spirit is goodness. What does goodness look like in our marriage? (Hint: It might be tougher than you’d think!)

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Kindness

Kindness is “goodness in action.” You spouse has areas in his or her life where they need to see your kindness. Are you willing to give it?

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Peace

If peace means resting in another’s promises, we can bring peace to our marriage by trusting our spouse and by becoming a trustworthy husband or wife.

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Patience

It’s easy to be angry. But God challenges us to live differently. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us “The fruit of the Spirit is … patience.”

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Three Ways to Invest in Your Marriage (and Have Fun Along the Way)

Investing in your marriage doesn’t have to be difficult. Start with a simple conversation every day, plan a weekly date night and then an annual adventure!

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Joy

Joy is a gift from God that — when we choose it — can fill our marriage with contentment, confidence and hope.

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Marriage Meditation – Devotional Library

Grow your marriage with these marriage devotions from Focus on the Family.

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You Might Feel Hungry After Reading This

It’s hard to imagine, but there’s a significant number of families who don’t have enough to eat. Maybe that’s an opportunity for couples who want to help.

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Marriage Meditation: The Fruit of the Spirit Is Love

Love is essential to marriage. It’s also one of the fruits of the Spirit. A life-long love requires God’s help to stay together when the feelings fade.

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This Father’s Day, Give Your Husband the Gift of Trust

Trust is scary. It’s never easy to trust your husband. What should you do if God is asking you to trust your husband?

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A Marriage Meditation: Kind Words

Kind words are important to our marriage. We can use words that encourage our spouse or we can use words that hurt them. Which words will you choose?

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Married to a Front-line Worker

If you’re a front-line worker, you and your spouse may be dealing with the extra stress caused by the coronavirus. Need help? Here’s where to start.

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A Marriage Meditation: Time

Your marriage needs commitment. Especially a commitment to time with your spouse. Make the most of the little moments and watch your marriage grow.

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A Marriage Meditation: Disappointment

When your marriage isn’t what you expected and you feel disappointed, how can you get back the spark?

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Family Finances and COVID-19: Five Helpful Tips

Family finances are taking a hit during the COVID-19 crisis. If you and your spouse are facing financial changes, here are five tips to help.

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Will Divorce Rates Jump Because of Coronavirus?

Divorce rates in China have increased since the coronavirus lockdown was relaxed. Will America see a rise in divorce rates as well? What is the real story?

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Emotional Self-Care Is Important to Your Marriage

Marriage takes two, but for a marriage to succeed, both spouses need to practice emotional self-care. Here’s how to start.

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Coronavirus and Domestic Violence

As more people are quarantined because of the coronavirus pandemic, authorities expect the number of domestic violence incidents to increase. Here’s what you can do.

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Coronavirus: How to Keep Your Family Finances Strong

COVID 19 — the “coronavirus” — is changing how we live, work and connect with others. It’s also affecting family finances as businesses close or reduce hours to help lower the risk of spreading the virus. Because the changes in the market will affect f …

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How Respecting Your Husband Can Make Him a Better Leader at Home

It’s not easy to see your husband’s imperfections and then choose to let him lead your family. But respecting your husband can make him a better man.

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Is Financial Infidelity Hurting Your Marriage?

A growing number of Americans hide credit cards and bank accounts from spouses. Financial infidelity can damage your bottom line and destroy your marriage.

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Should You Always Apologize for Words That Hurt Your Spouse’s Feelings?

Many spouses refuse to accept responsibility for hurtful words. But when those words create emotional barriers, it’s difficult to communicate.

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How to Avoid a Politically Divided Marriage

How do you avoid a politically divided marriage when the person on the other side of your bed is also on the other side of the political aisle?

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Can Guys Watch Hallmark Movies and Keep Their Man Card?

Love is in the air, and Hallmark movies are on the air this Valentine’s Day. Is it possible to sit down and — gasp! — actually enjoy a romance movie with your wife?

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4 Things Guys Need to Know Before Buying Valentine’s Day Gifts

Stressed about finding the right Valentine’s Day gift? Start with these four helpful hints that will remind your wife how much you love her.

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A Film Reviewer’s Thoughts on Marriage Story and Real Marriages

Critics praise the way Marriage Story portrays a couple in crisis, but film reviewer Paul Asay says there’s a powerful message behind Marriage Story.

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The Church of England Said This About Marriage

The Church of England announced its stance on sex and marriage. You might be surprised how they define it.

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How to Find Work-Life Balance for Your Marriage

Finding work-life balance isn’t easy. But it’s important for the health of your marriage. Here are four ways to start.

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Harry and Meghan and Marriage

Harry and Meghan are special, but you don’t have to be a prince or princess to treat your spouse like royalty.

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Oprah, Marriage and Sacrifice

Did Oprah get it right? Does marriage mean sacrificing your goals, plans and identity? Or does marriage offer something more?

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Is Online Cheating Really Infidelity?

It’s just a TV show. Nothing that happens on “Real Housewives” is “real.” Right? Meghan King Edmonds seemed to think her husband’s problem was real. Real enough that it led to the couple’s separation. Edmonds announced via podcast she had separated fro …

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How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage If You Just Got Engaged

Your wedding is a one-day event. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Divorce-proof your marriage by answering these three important questions.

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Married … With Household Chores

Couples come clean about household chores and share what they’re willing to trade to avoid cleaning house.

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How to Avoid Money Mistakes in Your Marriage

Once you identify these money mistakes in your marriage, you can take steps to get your finances — and your marriage — on track.

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The State of Florida Wants to Mandate Premarital Counseling. Will It Help Couples?

Surveys find that divorce rates drop by 30 percent or more when engaged couples seek premarital counseling.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples: Week 4 – Love

All lovers know there is a price for love. And God – who is love – knows more than anyone else the cost of great love.

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How to Stop Fighting Your Spouse: Seven Steps to Win-Win Solutions in Marriage

If you and your spouse want to stop fighting, then it’s time to remember that you and your spouse are a team.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples: Week 3 — Filled with Advent Joy

What difference might the joy of seeing Christ make in your home?

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Advent Devotionals for Couples – Week 2: Advent Preparation and Waiting for Jesus

Though He came to earth already, we’re waiting for Jesus to return. Waiting is difficult but not passive. It should involve preparation.

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Advent Devotionals for Couples – Week 1: Advent Hope

Focus on the Family invites you and your spouse to celebrate Advent. To pause from the hectic pace of the holiday season and remember those who waited for God’s promised Son, to hope in His Word and to rest in His love.

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Advent Devotionals — Readings for Couples

Focus on the Family invites you and your spouse to celebrate Advent. To pause from the hectic pace of the holiday season and remember those who waited for God’s promised Son, to hope in His Word and to rest in His love.