Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Pure Pleasure, Holy Available and Sacred Marriage. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 6

Every marriage walks through flourishing times, and times where it feels cold. No matter what season your marriage is in, you and your spouse need a healthy foundation. John, Greg and Erin share how you can build true intimacy with your spouse, regardless of the season you’re in.

Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 5

Your spouse may be amazing, but he or she still falls short from time to time. John, Greg and Erin share some practical ways to encourage your spouse, even when he or she disappoints you.

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Setting Boundaries in Toxic Relationships (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book When to Walk Away, Gary Thomas explains why it’s okay to disengage from people who relish negativity, control, and hatred, and he offers practical, biblically-based advice for doing so. (Part 2 of 2)

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Setting Boundaries in Toxic Relationships (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book When to Walk Away, Gary Thomas explains why it’s okay to disengage from people who relish negativity, control, and hatred, and he offers practical, biblically-based advice for doing so. (Part 1 of 2)

Good Parents, Prodigal Kids

Can you be such a good parent that your children won’t ever stray?

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Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 4

Keeping even little secrets from your spouse can create issues. Greg and John talk about how to remain transparent in your marriage. Featuring Gary Thomas. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 3

Keeping even little secrets from your spouse can create issues. Greg and John talk about how to remain transparent in your marriage. Featuring Gary Thomas. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 2

Loving your spouse starts with knowing that God already loves you more than anyone ever will. Featuring Gary Thomas. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Drawing Closer to God and Each Other, Part 1

Loving your spouse starts with knowing that God already loves you more than anyone ever will. Featuring Gary Thomas. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

How to Positively Influence Your Husband (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book Loving Him Well, Gary Thomas offers wives practical advice for influencing their husband when he seems unwilling to change. (Part 2 of 2)

How to Positively Influence Your Husband (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book Loving Him Well, Gary Thomas offers wives practical advice for influencing their husband when he seems unwilling to change. (Part 1 of 2)

What Cherishing Your Spouse Really Means

For 20 years, I had loved my wife — serving, sacrificing, persevering. But I had conveniently forgotten to consider what it meant to cherish her. To do that, I had to figure out what cherishing meant.

Discovering God’s Plan for Your Parenting (Part 2 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas explains how parenting can lead to spiritual transformation in a discussion based on his book, Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls. (Part 2 of 2)

Discovering God’s Plan for Your Parenting (Part 1 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas explains how parenting can lead to spiritual transformation in a discussion based on his book, Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls. (Part 1 of 2)

Drawing Closer to God and Each Other (Part 2 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas explains how a husband and wife can foster oneness in their marriage by pursuing God together.  (Part 2 of 2)

Drawing Closer to God and Each Other (Part 1 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas explains how a husband and wife can foster oneness in their marriage by pursuing God together.  (Part 1 of 2)

Cherish Your Spouse, Change Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas describes what it means to truly cherish your spouse, offering practical advice to help you build a more satisfying and fulfilling marriage. (Part 2 of 2)

Cherish Your Spouse, Change Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas describes what it means to truly cherish your spouse, offering practical advice to help you build a more satisfying and fulfilling marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

The Very Best Christmas Money Can’t Buy

When your oldest child is 30, and you ask him or her, “What’s your most treasured Christmas memory?” what do you want to hear?

A Fresh Look at Dating (Part 2 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas discusses several issues within the modern dating scene – character vs. romantic attraction, the neurological impact of infatuation, the idea of soulmates – while encouraging singles to be intentional in their pursuit of a godly spouse. (Part 2 of 2)

A Fresh Look at Dating (Part 1 of 2)

Author Gary Thomas discusses several issues within the modern dating scene – character vs. romantic attraction, the neurological impact of infatuation, the idea of soulmates – while encouraging singles to be intentional in their pursuit of a godly spouse. (Part 1 of 2)

The Spiritual Impact of Healthy Living (Part 2 of 2)

Gary Thomas emphasizes physical health and fitness as important spiritual values for Christians to steward appropriately for God’s service. (Part 2)

The Spiritual Impact of Healthy Living (Part 1 of 2)

Gary Thomas emphasizes physical health and fitness as important spiritual values for Christians to steward appropriately for God’s service. (Part 1)

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Nine Spiritual Temperaments

There are at least nine distinct spiritual temperaments that determine how a person worships and relates to God. See if you can recognize yourself (and your spouse) in these descriptions.

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Your Spiritual Temperament Quiz

How do you relate to God? Take this quiz and find out which of the nine spiritual temperaments best describes you.

Differing Faith Expressions

Scripture and Christian tradition present a wide variety of worship approaches, all equally acceptable because God makes us with different dispositions and personal preferences.

Am I a Bad Parent?

I could do better, and I make mistakes. But does that make me a bad parent?

How You May Be Betraying Your Wife

Every husband has inside information on his wife — a health issue, something from her past, a secret fear. We must hold that vulnerability as a sacred trust.

God’s Presence in Your Marriage

When we remember that God is always present, all the Scripture verses about how to treat each other take on an added importance. With His presence at the center of our homes, we can transform our marriages.

How to Find a Good and Godly Spouse

Author Gary Thomas outlines some important, biblically-based character attributes which singles should look for in a future spouse.

Passion and Pleasure

A couple can build such a satisfying sexual relationship, getting to know each other so well, growing in such intimacy, that the thought of an affair holds little appeal.

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More Than Conquerors

If you want to grow together beyond your natural limitations, consider adopting spiritual practices that can lift your marriage above its natural limitations.

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A Marriage Worthy of Our Calling

Building a marriage “worthy of our calling” means that we recognize our enlistment in the most glorious work ever known: the advancement of God’s kingdom.

Studying the Bible as a Married Couple

When couples read and study the Bible together, they increase spiritual intimacy and a general sense of togetherness.

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Spiritual Connection: Having a Proverbs 31 Marriage

The Proverbs 31 woman and her husband exemplify godliness and earnest commitment to God and to each other.

Finding Purpose in Everyday Life

Family is important, but have you ever wondered how you reflect its importance as you live out your life day to day?

Affirming Mothers Every Day

Wives and mothers desire expressed and demonstrated respect rather than the mere avoidance of disrespect.

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Anyway Love

To love anyway is to love like God – and to learn about God’s love for us.

Searching for a ‘Sole’ Mate

Our culture has embraced the absurd notion that there is just one person who can ‘complete us.’

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Soul Mates or ‘Sole’ Mates?

A sole mate is someone who walks with us as together we apply biblical love.

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