Mike Bechtle

Dr. Mike Bechtle is a writer, public speaker and senior consultant for FranklinCovey. He has authored five books including Dealing With the Elephant in the Room and I Wish He Had Come With Instructions. Dr. Bechtle has published articles for Writer’s Digest, Entrepreneur and many other media outlets. Learn more about Dr. Bechtle by visiting his blog, www.mikebechtle.com.

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How to Find Your Personal Blind Spots

Asking your spouse to help you find your personal blind spots can help you grow closer together. Discovering weaknesses and improving them can change your relationship for the better.

Focus on Parenting Podcast

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 9

Body language tells more of the story than the actual words that are said when parents talk to their kids. John and Danny explain that non-verbal cues including tone of voice can make a big difference in conversations.

Focus on Parenting Podcast

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 8

Technology can be great, but sometimes it gets in the way of a family’s ability to really engage with one another. John and Danny discuss ways to use tech like smartphones, laptops and video games as tools for enhancing relationships, not replacing them.

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Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 7

John explains how kindness works better than niceness every time.

parenting podcast

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 6

John an Danny challenge the notion that parents should have all the answers.

parenting podcast

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 5

John and Danny discuss how listening to understand and not always to respond can build a bond of trust with your child.

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What Should I Do After an Angry Outburst?

Imagine that your spouse hit one of your “buttons,” and you had an angry outburst. How do you repair the relationship? Read on to learn more about anger control.

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Want to Be a Better Husband? Hang Out With Good Friends

If you’re not sure that certain friendships are having a positive impact on you, consider the influence these guys have on your marriage. Do they encourage you to love your wife more?

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How to Get Your Spouse to Want Your Feedback

Persuading someone to accept feedback isn’t just about phrasing things the right way. You’re showing your spouse what he or she doesn’t already know. Both of you will grow through this trust-building process.

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 4

Sometimes we can feel like we’re taking one step forward, and two steps back when it comes to communicating in a meaningful way at home with our families. John and Danny emphasize how that dance doesn’t have to lead to disaster. Featuring Dr. Mike Bech …

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 3

John and Danny explain why it’s smart to deal with issues or points of conflict that come up sooner rather than later.

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Accepting Feedback Without Defensiveness

Feedback can reveal flaws that we don’t see in ourselves. It can be painful, but it’s essential. If we respond with defensiveness, we shut down a valuable tool for building an honest, thriving relationship.

When Your Spouse Won’t Support Your Great Idea

Independent thinking doesn’t automatically shut off after the wedding. So when your spouse doesn’t agree with your great idea, how should you negotiate a solution?

Nine Questions to Ask Your Spouse to Strengthen Your Marriage

The right questions asked in the right way can determine the trajectory of your relationship. It takes skill to use questions well — and that skill that can be developed. Here’s what you need to know.

When to See a Therapist Instead of Just Asking Friends for Help

When you have problems with your marriage, you might reach out to friends, who bring value that a professional can’t. But when should you get professional help?

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Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 2

You kids are listening closer than you think! Danny and John talk about how to make sure you are setting the right example for you children with your words. Featuring Mike Bechtle. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

parenting podcast

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family, Part 1

You kids are listening closer than you think! Danny and John talk about how to make sure you are setting the right example for you children with your words. Featuring Mike Bechtle. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

Don’t Let Your Spouse Make You Angry

Marriages never thrive when we expect our spouse to be responsible for fixing our feelings. If we own our emotions, we’re free to be co-owners of the relationship. Then we can build something great.

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Mike Bechtle offers insights on common barriers to communication within the family and how those obstacles can be removed in a discussion based on his book Dealing With the Elephant in the Room: Moving From Tough Conversations to Healthy Communication. (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating Tough Issues in Your Family (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Mike Bechtle offers insights on common barriers to communication within the family and how those obstacles can be removed in a discussion based on his book Dealing With the Elephant in the Room: Moving From Tough Conversations to Healthy Communication. (Part 1 of 2)

6 Tools for Healthy Communication in Marriage

Couples often don’t have a lot of communication tools when they enter marriage. When conversations get tough, they may need better tools than they have. Here are some basic skills they’ll need.

Living in Peace With People Who Drive You Crazy

Dr. Mike Bechtle explains how we can stop allowing difficult people to control our emotions, and how we can set healthy boundaries and extend the love of God to them.

When My Kid Doesn’t Like Your Kid

Three ways to help your child navigate challenging peer relationships.

Understanding How Your Husband Thinks and Acts

Dr. Mike Bechtle offers a light-hearted and insightful look at the differences between men and women in a discussion based on his book I Wish He Had Come With Instructions: The Woman’s Guide to a Man’s Brain.

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