Scott Stanley

Scott Stanley, Ph.D., is a research professor and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver. He has authored/co-authored many books including Fighting for Your Marriage, The Power of Commitment and A Lasting Promise. To learn more about Dr. Stanley, visit his blog:

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Arguing Well in Your Marriage

Dr. Scott Stanley offers couples practical advice on establishing patterns of healthy conflict in their marriage.

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Dealing With Your Differences: Decide, Don’t Slide

Learning constructive ways to handle your differences is one of the most important things you can do to protect your marriage. You can decide to take control of your issues.

Dealing With Your Differences: Do Your Part

We will all blow it sometimes. But if you really strive to limit your reckless words, you will create a climate that fosters openness and closeness in your marriage.

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Dealing With Your Differences: Make it Safe to Connect

Differences can be part of what draws two people together, but the ways couples handle conflict are strongly related to how they will do in the future.

Commitment Is The Foundation For A Deeply Connected Marriage

Choosing to invest in your marriage helps to strengthen the lifelong commitment that is foundational to your relationship.

Your Marriage Needs Regular Relational Investment

Only you know the best relational investments for your marriages. Thriving couples proactively invest in each other and in their marriages.

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The Half-Hearted Marriage

Commitment means making a choice to give up other choices.

Looking for Weeds and Noticing Your Green Grass

When you are attracted to another, use these two strategies to protect yourself and your marriage.

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Taking Care of Your Own Lawn

A fulfilling marriage does not drop from heaven into your lap. It becomes fulfilling when it’s tended like a beautiful garden.

Understanding Biased Perceptions

If you are seriously attracted to someone other than your spouse, chances are you’re seeing that person in an unrealistic light.

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Is the Grass Really Greener?

When you commit to a particular decision or path in life, it’s natural to wonder about the other paths you could’ve taken. This is especially true when the path you’ve chosen gets rocky. In marriage, it’s important to guard yourself against greener grass fantasies and temptations. Here’s how.