Shana Schutte

Shana Schutte

Shana Schutte is an author and speaker. Find more of her work at shanaschutte.com.

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Discovering Your God-Given Purpose

Do you feel like a fish out of water? Your prolonged dissatisfaction, God-given gifts, passions and the voices of others could be telling you that you were created for another purpose.

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What is the Definition of Intimacy? What does it Mean to be Intimate?

What is intimacy? What is the definition of intimacy? Sometimes people will do just about anything to get close to someone they find interesting, intriguing or just plain irresistible. Is that being intimate?

How to Help a Friend Who Wants an Abortion

What can you do to help guide your friend away from abortion and toward choosing life for her baby? More than you might think.

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Honest to God: Getting Real With Christ During Adversity

Adversity has the potential to move us closer to God if we are willing to be honest with Him during trials.

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Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

You may be in danger from an abusive relationship and not even know it.

When God Doesn’t Give You a Mate

Because mankind has been created by God for intimacy, it’s no surprise most singles long for marital love. But like all of our deepest longings and desires, it has the potential to carry us to heights in God—when we allow Him to be in charge of it—or t …

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Intimacy With God: The Way to True Fulfillment

Having an intimate relationship with God means realizing that abundant life will never be found in another person.

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Obeying: God’s Way Is Always Best

Desperate longings can tempt us do desperate, disobedient things. Desire not submitted to Christ can make us to lose our sensibility, justify our behavior, and make excuses.

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Unfulfilled Intimacy: What Do I Do?

Remember that you are not alone; your ache is common to every human on earth.

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Loving: It All Begins With God

Can you imagine the freedom that would come to our hearts from having full confidence in the love of Christ? Would it help us love better?

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Verbs for Dynamic Christian Living

Discomfort and reward are not always exclusive. Discomfort sometimes accompanies me when I write. The blank page that must be filled and a prayer that I’ll somehow, some way have something worthy to say is behind every sentence, every semicolon, every …

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Developing Emotional Intimacy

Romance and Infatuation may initially require little effort, but experiencing deep long-lasting, intimate love requires a passionate pursuit.

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Idealizing Intimacy

Many singles idealize love and intimacy and make it into something that it’s not, nor can be.

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Trusting: Let God Do the Driving

I don’t know about you, but I have never had any success trying to boss someone around while attempting to trust them simultaneously. Trying to be in control and relinquishing control at the same time just doesn’t work.

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Forgiving: Receiving and Giving

God forgives you just because He loves you. But He didn’t have to forgive; He chose to forgive, compelled by an innate, deep and abiding love.

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How to Recognize a Safe Date

How do you break negative dating patterns and find respectful, responsible and loving spouses?

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Idealizing Love, Romance and the Opposite Sex

What causes someone to idealize love, romance and a mate?

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Story: Marrying Later in Life

The Vaughans and Elliotts understand better than most about the frustration of waiting to find a mate.

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When Thinking About Marrying a Non-Believer

If you’re thinking about marrying a non-believer, here are some future questions you may have to answer.

Dating Later in Life

The Challenges of Dating Later in Life

Encouragement, guidance and suggestions to help make your dating life a little easier

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Fishing For Men (and Women) Online

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you travel the ocean of online dating.

I Need, I Want: Infant and Toddler Anger

Anger can be a normal, and necessary part of your child’s development. He’s trying to express needs, trying to control his environment, and trying to become independent. He’s also trying your nerves!

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Two Truths About Your God-Given Purpose

Are you frustrated or discouraged because God has revealed His purpose for your life, but you feel it’s taking too long for His plans to unfold? Here are three important things to remember as you experience the journey of moving toward your God-given purpose.

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Post-Holiday Loneliness When You’re Single

I also know that for a few days my place will feel far too quiet until I get accustomed to being alone again.

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Dance With Jesus Into Christmas

Will you take the hand of Jesus this Christmas and dance with Him into the truth that you are never alone?

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Successful Single-Parenting During the Holidays

Like my grandmother says, it’s best to “do what you can where you are with what you have.‚”

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Overcoming Fear of Criticism to Fulfill Your Purpose

We often fear the criticism of others and when it does happen, we take it to heart. For this reason, even into adulthood, we’re often waiting for someone to tell us it’s OK to “cross the street” to our God-given purpose because we are afraid that if we blow it we’ll look like an idiot.

Discovering Your God-Given Purpose

Do you feel like a fish out of water? Your prolonged dissatisfaction, God-given gifts, passions and the voices of others could be telling you that you were created for another purpose.

Your Purpose Matters for Eternity

Your Purpose Matters for Eternity

In his book, Driven by Eternity, John Bevere writes “. . . they live with purpose and know their eternal destiny is being written by how they live on the earth. This will provide them a grand entrance into the Kingdom of God, rather than them slipping in with all they’ve done burned up and destroyed.”

The Wonders of Reality Discipline

This clever discipline method is less exhausting and more successful than ranting, raving, blaming, pleading, begging or threatening.

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Dodging the ‘So You’re Still Single?’ Holiday Question

Do you wonder how you can handle questions about your singleness during the holidays?

Dating Later in Life

Dating and Singleness Later in Life

Jenna, Elisabeth, John and Suzanne all thought they would have found Mr. or Mrs. Right years earlier, but life didn’t turn out the way they planned. By now, these thirty- and forty-somethings have all been playing the dating game a lot longer than they …

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The Power of God-given Imagination

When imagination and excitement are mixed together, you will either not notice obstacles or they will be largely diminished—and, therefore, your courage will increase! This is important to remember as you pursue your God-given purpose.

Three Lies About Premarital Sex

Is Scripture becoming outdated and archaic in light of today’s cultural views concerning premarital sex? Here are three important things to consider when making a decision about sex and marriage.

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Facing the Holidays After Divorce

A first step is to be honest about your emotional pain and give yourself permission to grieve. After all, losing a mate to divorce can be compared to losing one to death.

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Communicating About Your Purpose Effectively

Has God shown you your God-given purpose? Do you want to communicate your vision to others effectively for emotional, financial, spiritual or physical support? No doubt, understanding how God created different people’s personalities is critical to communicate your ideas effectively.

Building Self-Esteem in Your Kids

This clever discipline method is less exhausting and more successful than ranting, raving, blaming, pleading, begging or threatening.

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Television: An Obstacle to Building Character

Is the do-as-I-say-not-as-the-TV-character-does approach to parenting working for you? Here’s why it probably isn’t.

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Dealing With Romantic Regret

Romantic regret can haunt some people for their entire lives.

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Five Ways to Celebrate Singleness

How do you ‘celebrate your singleness?’ Here are some ways to go on the offensive.

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Uncovering the Pain Behind Your Child’s Anger

Learn how to recognize the reasons for anger, and whether it’s appropriate or not.

Why Kids Misbehave

Here are three ways parents encourage their kids to misbehave.

Managing Tween Anger

Help your tween grow into a thoughtful, discriminating adult who rules his own emotions.

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Is My Teen Just Angry or Is She an Angry Teen?

How to recognize the causes of teenage anger, and whether it’s just pushback and a desire for respect, or perhaps a more serious discipline issue.

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Setting Goals to Fulfill Your God-Given Purpose

Because goals are the map that will guide you toward your God-given purpose, without setting them you will also wander in circles without getting where you need to go.

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Being Single and Faithful

Some vows can sabotage romantic love and hinder singles from making it the wedding altar.

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Embracing Romantic Grief

We need to learn to embrace heartbreak and grief in order to be able to love again.

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Spring Cleaning Our Messy Hearts

Spring cleaning our hearts, by confessing our sins to God and to others, can bless us in ways we’ve never imagined.

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Helping a Family Member or Friend Who Cuts

A former cutter shares how friends and family can help a friend or loved one who cuts.

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Hidden Abuse

Elder abuse happens regularly. Nursing homes are not the main perpetrators. Family members are too often the culprints.

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The Gift of Loneliness

Instead of running from loneliness, allow God to use it to draw you closer to Him.

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Conquering Cutting and Other Forms of Self-Injury

When my college roommate began cutting herself, I was afraid, concerned and didn’t understand why she hurt herself. Because of our friendship, I sought to understand who, what, why and how about the practice of self-injury.

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FAQs About Self-Injury

If you or someone you love cuts, the choice to stop can be challenging and scary. Still, change is possible.

Re-entering the Dating Scene After Divorce

Jennifer is a single woman who recently divorced. Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she’s confused about how to proceed. “When Madaline is out of the house I want to date, but I don …

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Reentering the Dating Scene After Divorce

When reentering the dating scene after divorce, it must be according to God’s standards.