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A Fascinating Perspective on Racial Issues (Part 2 of 2)

A Fascinating Perspective on Racial Issues (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Shelby Steele addresses racial division in America, examining the civil rights movement of the 1960s and comparing it to the campaign for social justice today. He reminds us of the importance of strong marriages and families as the solution to many societal ills. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 18, 2021

Excerpt:

Dr. Shelby Steele: We are at a place now where we don’t need fancy, uh, interventions, we need those old-fashioned traditional values. The institution of marriage somehow has to be brought back into the black community as the centerpiece.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Dr. Shelby Steele uh, recently joined us for a really interesting conversation about racial division in America and offered some very helpful insights reminding us that broken families are at the center of the problems we all face. This is Focus on the Family with your host Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, last time Dr. Steele gave us a lot to think about as he shared some thought-provoking viewpoints about race relations. When we see incidents like the tragic death of George Floyd last year, things spiraled out of control and we see protests and violence around the country. We saw a similar response in Ferguson, Missouri a few years ago, and I went there to meet with Christian leaders after the death of Michael Brown. Um, you know, one of the things I found in that city, uh, whether you’re black or white, there was still quite a bit of unity about the town that they all share and the desire for everyone to build a better future, and that’s a good thing. Unfortunately, uh, tragedies like these tend to divide us in that moment. Uh, Dr. Shelby Steele has produced, uh, a new documentary called What Killed Michael Brown? And we’ll talk about that today. These issues are certainly controversial, I get that. Shelby doesn’t believe racism is a systemic problem like some of the media are pressing today, and I get it, other good people, uh, will believe there is a systemic problem, and that’s why we need to talk about all perspectives. But we all need to certainly take a deep breath, step back and learn to honor and respect one another as God commands us to do and have that good dialogue, not shout past one another. And I know Shelby agrees with that and there should be more that unites us, especially as Christians than divides us, and of course there’s always more work to be done.

John: Well, we do hope that you’ll find this to be really uh, thought provoking. Dr. Steele is a senior fellow at the Hoover Institution specializing in the study of race relations and multiculturalism and affirmative action. And if you missed it last time, we do have a CD or free download of that first part of this two-part conversation. Uh, just start by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and hear part two of the conversation on today’s episode of Focus on the Family as Jim asked Shelby about racial division along socioeconomic lines.

Jim: It seems to me, you know, I, I grew up in a poor family. I grew up in part in Compton, California. I spent third grade and part of fourth grade there. My point is, it seems to me that whether you’re white or black uh, social economic issues are shared across racial lines, and that actually may be higher on your list uh, that you’ve mentioned that the, the issue of poverty, the issue of lack of opportunity may be higher on that list. Am I assuming that, or would you agree with that?

Dr. Steele: Absolutely. Absolutely. Um, those are serious profound problems. Racism again is simply, it’s just not there.

Jim: Yeah. In the, in that regard, um, I think that’s where we may have the most hope of moving forward in the future, would you agree with that? Around the social economic areas where, uh, some parity can come to the black community in terms of earning and, and home ownership and all those kinds of things that actually make uh, life in America far better, correct?

Dr. Steele: If we stop thinking about ourselves, we as blacks stop thinking of ourselves constantly as victims, we can begin to do that tomorrow. The society is open to us, the society, every, almost every institution in America today practices racial preferences, gives blacks and minorities an advantage, try those out and tries to hire more, does, uh, go makes a show of it. So ag- again, that’s the poverty in the other hand is a, is a much deeper and more profound, uh, problem.

Jim: Dr. Shelby, you received a lot of your education if I have this correctly from, uh, East St. Louis, that was a tough neighborhood, perhaps one of the toughest in the country. Describe that experience, and what did you learn in that environment?

Dr. Steele: Well, I had, um, uh, again, as I said, I’ve been in, had been involved my parents before me in the civil rights movement and so forth. So, when I graduated from college, went to a small college in Iowa, Coe College, I wanted to be a part, I wanted to be in the front lines of social change. So President Johnson was coming out with the Great Society, the war on poverty, and, and, uh, I went to East St. Louis, Illinois, which was the, the, literally the poorest black community in America, like 97% of the population was on welfare. It was really poor and inner city; it was a sort of a precursor to the black underclass in America.

Jim: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Dr. Steele: Family picked down drugs, crime, so forth, and we set up a school there. And so, I taught in that program for three years, and it was initiation for me. I began to, uh, while I was in college and I was the Black Middleton and the led the demonstrations in taking over the president’s office and all that sort of thing, uh, here suddenly was the naked reality, the real thing, um, re- the reality of black poverty in America. And it was the first time I had, uh, though I was poor, grew up poor and black, this was the, I had never seen anything quite like this, this sort of, uh, despairing-

Jim: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Dr. Steele: … uh, and, and kind of, and heartbreaking. And, um, it was emotionally difficult to, uh, start in that situation. What I saw there though, there were some people who did some really good work. I didn’t, I tried my best to do some good work myself, but the people who ran the program and some of the, the teachers, so much money became available, uh, from the federal government that people began to suddenly they were driving a Mercedes to work.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: Uh, suddenly things were, (laughs) we were writing, almost any grant we wrote would be funded. Uh, you just put East St. Louis there, the money would come-

Jim: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Dr. Steele: … from the federal government especially. Um, so I, I began this, then other corruptions, uh, became self-evident, people would teach their class and meet once a month and say that, um, it was more important that kids learn from the streets than from books, uh, and give them college credit for this. And, uh, you can bend the rules, and, and, and so it became clear to me that after my, really after my first year, but I gave it two more years anyway, and I, I could see that this was, this was a hustle. There was no, there was no future.

Jim: Uh, how do you, how do you respond when you look at the amount of money that government, uh, since Lyndon Johnson and his programs back then, and America’s programs that had to be voted on by Congress, but it, uh, when you look at it objectively, it seems like there hasn’t been the gains that you would have hoped for after $22 trillion being spent to help people out of poverty. That example you just gave about East St. Louis is that what’s broken, is that why government is ineffective?

Dr. Steele: It’s, it’s worse than ineffective. It took the place of segregation and racism and slavery, that liberalism what the, what, is what you’re talking about became, and is today the new oppressor of black people. All those programs in the Great Society on, that I just mentioned the moment or so ago, all those programs have one thing in common. They have no faith in the people that are trying to help.

Jim: Hmm. Huh.

Dr. Steele: They don’t leave that black people can lift themselves up out of where they’re at. They disbelief, they are selling faithlessness to the people that they’re trying to help. And so the more programs weaker blacks get, the more family breakdown, uh, the more disoriented, almost, neorealist, uh, worlds that they create in, in many inner cities today where the normal rules of human behavior just simply disappear where thousands and thousands of people, of young kids are shot and killed every year. That’s a, a society overcome by nihilism, by meaninglessness, by hopelessness. So that, that is, that’s the problem, it, it, there are no white people in the inner city killing all those people.

Jim: But how, how do we turn that around, how do we get more awareness, how do we lower the death rate for black young men in the inner city so they’re not shot by other black men in that same inner city?

Dr. Steele: Focus on the family.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Steele: (laughs) But I mean, we’re at a place now where we don’t need fancy, uh, interventions, we need those old-fashioned traditional values. The institution of marriage somehow has to be brought back into the black community as the centerpiece. We have to find a way to celebrate marriage, to, to support people in that institution, uh, a- as they make this, they struggle to make their lives, as they raise their children. Child rearing, we need to focus on. Education, my goodness, we have the worst education system for blacks uh, in, in the world, yet education is really the only way up and out of poverty. Uh, so we need to ask more, we need more of those traditional family focused, religious focused. Uh, I, I believe that black church, uh, is, has to be one of the insti- the institution that really leads the way here, but those are the only things that are gonna, are going to work in a, in a positive sense it seems to me.

Jim: Shelby, when you look at the rage that we saw this past year with the death of Mr. Floyd, which was a travesty, and with the other deaths that you’ve talked about in terms of Michael Brown, it, there, there is a, a repeat scenario that occurs, a white officer shoots a, a black young man, and sometimes even the evidence isn’t sufficient that everybody jumps to conclusions, everyone’s, you know, concluding that that officer was guilty of racism. Sometimes that might be true, sometimes it’s not true, but again, uh, the culture just moves quickly to the conclusion that this was racially motivated. Speak to that reality, and then that rage that we’re seeing, the looting, all of the outcome of it. What do we need to understand as the white community about what’s happening there, because many people are scratching their head, they don’t see the linkage, they don’t get it. If a white officer shoots a, a African American young man, why are people then looting at Sears or, you know, some other store?

Dr. Steele: Well, it makes, it makes the point of how, um, fraudulent that impulse is that boils down to looting. There’s no, there’s no re- what’s interesting about incidents like that is that the trigger finger that shoots and kills the black teenager is white. If the trigger finger is black, you never hear about it. So one is, it’s uh, again, thousands and thousands and thousands. In, in 2016, there were, uh, in, uh, Chicago alone, there were 3,000 people shot in one single year. President Obama said almost nothing about it, no one came to the city. Michael Brown is shot uh, one kid in Ferguson, Missouri, and the whole world descends. The trigger finger in Michael Brown case was white, the trigger finger in Chicago, all those trigger fingers were black, that tells you where America sees power. The white trigger finger means white guilt, black trigger finger doesn’t touch white guilt. The white one does-

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: … and so it explodes. And, uh, we then the whole society goes into a convulsion and we renegotiate whether there’s racism or whether there isn’t racism and, and what we should… What we have lost as a society is the capacity to tell the truth, to look blacks in the face and say, where’s the racism, and what do you owe to yourself? How would you, uh, why would you allow yourself to live this way, to suffer in this way? You see what happens to your children.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: It’s one of the things we tried to get to in the film, Michael Brown was the victim not of white racism, but of liberalism if anything that destroyed the institution of the family, it destroyed the public schools that he went to, the housing that he lived in. Every area of his life was defined by white guilt rather than by what he really needs, needed as a human being. He needed to be loved, he needed a father, he needed a stable family, he needed what everybody needs. That’s not racism, that’s liberalism.

Jim: Let me ask, uh, in the documentary, which again was really well done and you talked about Michael Brown in Ferguson, and that incident, you mentioned something that you called poetic truth versus objective truth, uh, describe those two and how they play out in the race issue.

Dr. Steele: Well, poetic truth is, is a narrative of an incident that serves mind leverage against white people. So here’s a black teenager walking down the street in the hot afternoon, policemen asking, please would he step onto the sidewalk, and this goes, escalates, goes onto where finally the policemen to save his own life has to shoot this, this poor kid, tragedy, uh, by any accounts, silly tragedy. When you have to do that, when you have to look at a situation like that, what happened in Ferguson was that right of way people began to say the trigger finger was white, the motivation was a racist, uh, racial animus, that this policeman hates black people and disregards the value of their lives and shoots and kills them, and so this proves Michael Browns death therefore proves that America is a systemically racist society. That’s why I call it poetic truth. It’s a complete distortion of the actual objective truth that serves my leverage as a black with larger white society. I can use Michael’s death to say, this proves that you really are guilty, and whites bring their hands and they anguish over this and so forth. Uh, and so the poetic truth is a grab for power, it’s an exercise for, for racial power and, uh, with race relations pretty much functions around the poetic truth that blacks are victims of white racism.

Jim: Right, right. And it’s so true. And I think that’s one of the core reasons this perspective that you have that I wanted to hear from you. But let’s look at the two futures, uh, the future that we continue on kind of the path we’ve been on with that idea of grievance and victimization, where does that go 60 years from now? We’re 60 years away from, uh, the Great Society and things of that nature and we’ve spent the 22 trillion trying to lift people up out of poverty, et cetera. And I think a fair assessment would be that we haven’t made, in some respects, we haven’t made much ground, but like you say, you feel racism has declined substantially, with outliers of course. But if we continue down the grievance victimization pathway, what does, what does the society look like with that continued polarization versus what could be the better future and how do we get there?

Dr. Steele: We have to stand up to the fact that, that, uh, this country has actually made some moral progress around racism, it’s not the, the barrier it once was. And then we have to, we have to, instead of just figuring out what to give minorities, we need to figure what to ask of minorities.

Jim: Huh.

Dr. Steele: There has to be an ask in here. And from this point on, if we wanna have a positive future as you put it, the, the only way to get there is to begin to ask for it, just spell it out to say, here’s what, you’re in freedom now, here’s the kind of level of responsibility one has to bear in freedom. One, you, you, you know, you can focus on the family and so forth, is, those, that, what you’re talking about there is how to make a, a family strong and healthy, and they’re gonna have to take a lot of responsibility, they’re gonna have to bear some burden. Well, that’s, is true for blacks as it is anyone else. So, if we’re gonna somehow get beyond this, this sort of pit that we fall and get out of this pit, we’re gonna have to ask blacks to take more… We as blacks have to get to the point that where we say, we are responsible for our fate entirely. And when, when America went to war at various points from the Revolutionary War on up, we said, that’s it, we have to, we have to go to the end, we have to give everything we’ve got. Well, I think black America is in that point, we, stop assuming the world is our enemy, most of the world is our friends these days. Uh, there’s an openness in America that is amazing. And I know it’s amazing because I remember when it wasn’t there. Uh, you know, I remember when blacks couldn’t play baseball (laughs) and I’d go back that far. Uh, well, that, you know, we, it’s, that’s not our problem anymore and we just have, have got to accept the, the responsibilities of freedom. Uh, don’t get married if you are not in a position to support a family. Don’t have, have children if you can’t raise them, if you’re not accounting for their development, if you’re not being responsible for them. You can’t ask society; they’ll never be able to do that. They’ve tried for 60 years now and we’re farther behind whites than we were in the 50s-

Jim: Well, yeah.

Dr. Steele: … by every socioeconomic measure.

Jim: That’s sadly the result, and that’s why your message is so intriguing about, um, self-respect and, you know, uh, being accountable, et cetera. In fact, in the documentary, there was a story a pastor gave about a mule in a well that you elaborated on in the documentary. Describe that for the listeners, what, what was said, and, and why was it so illustrative of the point you’re making right now?

Dr. Steele: Well, I love that point. Uh, it’s Pastor Corey Brooks is the, the minister in church right in the South side of Chicago, right in the Woodlawn area, which is the, the heart of uh, of the, the inner city. And he tells the story to his congregation farmer, uh, a mule falls into the well, and farmer comes, oh my God, my great mule is down there in the well, what am I going to do? And so he looks at the situation and he says, okay, what I will do is I will take, I will fill a truck full of garbage and dirt, (laughs) and I will dump the dirt and the garbage down in the well on top of the mule. So, he goes, he does exactly that. He goes and gets a truck he drops the, the, the dirt, the garbage on the mule, the mule sees and shakes off the, the garbage and steps up on the dirt and moves up. Farmer brings another load of garbage and dirt, mule does the same thing, shakes it off steps up, on and on and we go until the mule finally steps out of the well and into freedom. And so this is Pastor Brooks’ way of, of about talking about persistence, of taking a bad situation and making it good, of, of not asking for fancy, it’s dirt and garbage that the mule uses to free himself, to liberating himself. This is the metaphor that we as black Americans need to build an identity around, is that our, our ing- ingenuity in discovering possibilities to move ahead, rather than constantly using our inge- our creativity, to come up with ideas about how we co- we continue to be oppressed.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: We’re, we’re, we’re, we’re poetic in talking about our, you know, uh, how victimized we are, how racist America is and on and on, uh, we’re poetic. No, let’s, we need to get and, and use a little garbage and dirt and move up and move into freedom.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: Um, and again, I think a dangerous idea that blacks suffer from is justice. It’s the idea that we somehow can’t be motivated to move ourselves ahead, take responsibility until we get justice. That’s a delaying tactic. That’s a way of not facing uh, reality. We may or we may not get justice. The fact is, there’s a, as I say in, in the film, we will never get, ever, enough justice to somehow equate to all the suffering we endured for four centuries. There’s no pay off that, there’s no way that, that we’re gonna all, we’re gonna get a check and it’s gonna be repra- This is all, all illusion and it keeps us from seeing that we have to be the motivators, the activators, we have to do it ourselves, we, no matter what. God gave us life, He gave us infinite possibilities, despite history.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: Uh, and our, and He’s asking us to take advantage of our freedom of our life. Um, we’re blessed. What is available to black Americans is, is the whole world. We are blessed, and, uh-

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Steele: … we have to accept that we’re blessed and, and revel in that, and let that be a motivator.

Jim: Well, again, uh, Dr. Shelby Steele, you’ve brought some objective truth to this issue of race in America. I so appreciate it. I’d encourage people to watch the uh, documentary on Michael Brown and Ferguson. I think you bring a lot of truth to that scenario, and the reality that, uh, even with George Floyd that that was, uh, overt police brutality. And I think many people would agree with that. That’s the statement you make. Uh, thank you for being our guest here at Focus on the Family. Thank you for your emphasis on the importance of the family. We wake up every day coming into the offices here and uh, fighting for the family and for that importance of the family. Thank you for reinforcing that, and it’s good to have you on the program. Thank you.

Dr. Steele: Well, thank you. I enjoyed myself and I, I, I wish you and your focus, uh, all the best.

John: You know, Jim, I really found that to be a, a fascinating conversation, and I do hope that our listeners have been helped in some way. And certainly, we want to direct you uh, in our audience to some excellent resources on this topic.

Jim: John, I too appreciate Shelby’s insights and his admonishment to take a positive and thankful approach. That’s refreshing. Uh, he’s emphasized the importance of strengthening African American families through marriage and parenting, the need for educational opportunity, and for black churches to help lead the way. And then I think we all have a responsibility, I liked that point as well. I hope that you will pray and seek God about what He wants you to do, uh, to bridge any racial division that you may see right in your neighborhood, that begins uh, in your own heart and goes to your community. Uh, you know, when I think of Michael Brown, I wonder how things might’ve turned out differently if a good Christian man had come alongside him and mentored him, and maybe you could be that positive influence for another troubled youth. Also, there’s a great book I wanna encourage you to read on the subject from, uh, my good friend, Dr. Tony Evans. Uh, he was the first African American to graduate from Dallas Theological Seminary. Uh, his book, Oneness Embraced will challenge us to come together as brothers and sisters in Christ with the Bible as our guide. And I want to urge you to get it from us today.

John: Yeah. Dr. Evans is certainly a gifted communicator, and, uh, we’d love to send this book to you as our thank you gift when you join the support team, uh, make a donation of any amount today, and we’ll send that book, Oneness Embraced: Reconciliation, the Kingdom, and How We are Stronger Together. You can donate and get the book when you call 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or you can donate at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And I’ll also mention the link we have for Shelby’s compelling documentary, What Killed Michael Brown?

Jim: And John, let me also say that we’ll continue these discussions about healing racial division. Uh, we’ll have future programs expressing various viewpoints and ideas to help us seek racial harmony that can only be found through Christ.

John: And I do hope you’ll find those beneficial as we come to those programs. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family today. I’m John Fuller inviting you back next time as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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