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Connecting as a Couple Despite Your Differences

Connecting as a Couple Despite Your Differences

Focus on the Family President Jim Daly and his wife, Jean, offer advice and encouragement to couples as they describe how they worked through their differences in the early years of their marriage. They also offer insights from their new couples devotional, The Best Year of Your Marriage.

Opening:

Teaser:

Man #1: The thing that surprised me about marriage so much is how me and my spouse over the years, we’ve started out as such opposites and we’ve become so compatible over the years with each other.

Woman #1: I suppose the most surprising thing about marriage for me was, that it really did bug me that the toothpaste cap always came off.

Woman #2: The thing that surprised me the most about being married is that my husband stopped being a communicator once he had me.

Man #2: Well, I had no idea that there was a proper way to roll the toilet paper, that it goes a certain way. See, I thought it was just any way, but I found out quickly, no, it has to roll over the top.

End of Teaser

John: Well, if you’ve ever been taken back a bit by the differences between you and your spouse, there’s good news; you’re not alone. And you’re listening to “Focus on the Family” with Focus author and president, Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and we’re gonna be talking about differences in marriage. And Jim, you’ve volunteered to do this in a pretty unique way.

Body:

Jim: (Chuckling) Yeah, I guess so, John. You know, Jean is my best friend and of course, my spouse for I think 27 years. Is that right (Laughing), Jean?

John: You gotta ask? We’re not starting off on the best foot.

Jim: Hey, is it 27 years? (Laughing)

Jean: Uh …

John: She thinks so. (Laughter)

Jean: I think it’s 28.

Jim: Twenty-eight, good, okay, good.

Jean: Twenty-eight.

Jim: Twenty-eight years—

John: All right, well, thanks for—

Jim: –there you have it.

John: –listening to the program today. (Laughter)

Jim: Well, you get stuck on certain years. I can’t … 27 … is it—

John: A long time.

Jim: –28?

Jean: Twenty-eight.

Jim: Well that was just in August, right? So, the clock just ticked over.

Jean: Yes.

Jim: Thank you.

Jean: Absolutely.

Jim: You are so kind. I love you.

John: It’s just all been one long period of bliss. (Laughter)

Jim: Have you ever just had the same birthdate for two years? Somebody said that just the other day to me. They were the same age … they forgot they had, had their birthday. So, I guess in some ways (Laughter) I’m forgetting, it’s 28 years.

John: All the good years.

Jim: And those are good years.But we want to, you know, we want to come alongside you and talk to you today about how to strengthen you marriage, what are some things you can do to be purposeful about a stronger marriage. And so much of today pulls at us, whether it’s kids or vocation or whatever those strains in life are—

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: –they can pull our marriages apart. You’ve got to work at having a better marriage. And we’re gonna talk about that today.

John: ‘We are and just this note, that we have a wealth of resources to help your marriage thrive at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio. And one of those resources is a new devotional, Jim, that you and Jean have written, called The Best Year of Your Marriage. And it is rich with practical, biblical ideas about growing and strengthening that relationship and I think it’s a great project.

Jim: Well, we’re the editors of that book. We’ve put a bit of our thoughts into it, but we pulled from a lot of other authors to give us their thoughts and ideas on strengthening marriage, as well. So, I think it’s a great bedside devotional, that you and your spouse can do each and every night for the next year. And hopefully, it’ll give you insights on how to do this better.

John: And Jim, as we get going here and thinking back on that montage of some of those people that noted the differences in their marriage, how would you characterize some of the differences that you and Jean observed in your early years, that maybe weren’t apparent right away?

Jim: Well, the first thing is, that’s so true. I mean, that is a young couple, ’cause you think you’re so much alike. And then when you get married, you notice the differences far more.

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: But I remember Jean and I going to premarital counseling, which by the way, at Focus on the Family, we support all the way and we’re gonna release a curriculum that’s gonna release in the next few months, called Ready to Wed: 12 Ways to Start a Marriage You Love. And again, it’s intended to help churches take premarried couples through an experience to get to know each other better.

What we found through the research, if a couple gives 10 to eight hours of premarital counseling, they have a far better chance of a life-long marriage. And that’s what we’re about here at Focus on the Family.

But Jean and I in our experience, we went in thinking we were two peas in a pod; we were so much alike. That’s why God drew us together, ’cause we were both the same size shoe.

John: Naturally (Laughter) compatible, right?

Jim: But we got into this experience and it was called Becoming One Ministries. It was Jerry and Donna Lawson and I think we went for a weekend retreat, so it was two days, about eight hours and eight to 10 hours and about 12 couples were there and three or four of the couples the first morning, he talked ’em out of getting married–

John: Oh.

Jim: –which I thought was really unique. But as Jean and I went through that weekend, we realized maybe we’re not so much alike.

Jean: I agree, Jim. I remember how I felt going into that and even probably the first day of it. I remember thinking, oh, it’s just so great that Jim and I are so unique and we don’t have to deal with what all these other people have to deal with. We … we are just so compatible and spiritually compatible and everything in our lives lines up and we’re (Laughter) great communicators. And I really, really went in to our marriage thinking, you know, it was Cinderella and Prince Charming. It was perfect.

Jim: It was, wasn’t it? What happened? (Laughter)

John: You mean, it’s not now? Well, there is something (Laughter) … there is something that happens though.

Jim: It’s called “reality.”

John: You both walk in with expectations and that’s what good premarital counseling does, is it surfaces what those expectations are. And it sounds like the two of you went in pretty level headed and yet, things do change. And those little personality quirks that we’re attracted to can kinda get under my skin after a while, it seems.

Jim: Yeah, I think level headed’s fine, but I think you go in with expectations. And so, when you go in with the kind of expectations that we had in marriage, which everything was perfect and then you do realize, you know, I don’t really appreciate the fact that she squeezes the tube from the middle. And she never puts the cap back on. And it’s toothpaste around the counter and that’s messy and it should go back in the drawer. And I’m sure you got one or two for me.

Jean: Well, yes (Laughter). Yeah, but that’s the whole dating experience. You know, we do that very subconsciously, that we’re putting on our best airs. And we’re not trying to be dishonest in that, but—

Jim: Best foot forward.

Jean: –yes, but the whole dating experience, we’re not trying to be dishonest, but it’s all fun. And the experts talk about this in the book, that you know, you go out together. You’re doing only fun things together and you talk with one another. But then you’re separating. You go back to your homes. And you’re not working through who has to take out the trash and who needs to clean the garage and who needs to do this.

Jim: Well, and I think one of the biggest differences we experienced was … and again, the Lord typically attracts opposites and I think there’s great wisdom in what He’s done there, so that we become more selfless. I do think that’s the purpose of marriage, is to become more like Him, more selfless and it’s a hard lesson to learn.

But for Jean and I, too, she’s the scientist. She’s the one that, you know, she’s got lists of things she wants to accomplish. She checks them off. I am far more spontaneous. I’m more extroverted. She’s more introverted. I remember when we first got married, we had an opportunity to travel. In fact, that’s a funny story.

John: Talk about that.

Jim: That spontaneity—

John: It’s pretty funny.

Jim: –so, you know, differences. I’m just very spontaneous and so, a friend of mind from Australia called and he was coming to work here in the U.S. and he was looking for couples who could travel the U.S. for PepsiCo and do an anti-drug and alcohol abuse program for high school. And you had a custom van. You went out in teams of two. And I kinda covered the phone and Jean happened to be over at my brother’s house. I was living with my brother at the time.

And Jean was there having dinner with us. And I covered the phone. I said, “Jean, you want to get married in the next few weeks and go travel the country together?” (Laughter) And her response was, “Could we call him back tomorrow and think about it overnight?” (Laughing)

Jean: Well, and this is—

Jim: How were you feeling?

Jean: –this is a great example of our differences, because I am a planner. I had a four-year engagement planned. (Laughter)

Jean: Four years.

Jean: That we were going to date for two years, be engaged for an additional two years.

Jim: We were probably engaged now about four or five months at this point.

Jean: Yes, I was gonna take a year to plan my wedding. I had this all planned out. Thankfully though, I was able to spend some time with the Lord and realized that I should not pass this opportunity up, that the Lord was presenting us with this opportunity. But that was so far out of my comfort zone. We moved down to … I had to move down to Southern California and had to finish up my studies—

Jim: You had exams.

Jean: –plan a move, plan a wedding in six weeks. (Laughter)

John: Yeah. (Laughter) And so, there’s a lot of stress and a lot of understanding, I think probably in that situation of what the differences are. You don’t necessarily have time to deal with them though. What was it like when you actually got on the road? Because that isn’t what you had planned, Jean and Jim, knowing you as I do, you thrive on that kind of environment.

Jim: Well, and the extroversion, I loved it. I mean, we were in a new city every day doing this show, talkin’ to high school students about a better path for them to go. And I think what happened, that extroversion, introversion thing, there was a moment probably three or four months into this, I mean, we were together 24/7 (Laughing). And I’m thriving in that. I just love—

John: Yes.

Jim: –this is my bride. I’ve just married her. We’re gonna spend a year together on the road, 24/7! It doesn’t get any better than that. And one night, it was probably about 5 in the evening, Jean said, ‘I’m gonna go to the grocery store.” And (Laughing) I remember saying, “Hey, I’ll go with you.” And she’s going, “No, that’s okay. Why don’t you stay here.” (Laughter) And I was so disappointed. I was goin’, why wouldn’t she want me to go with her? And we had to work through that.

Jean: We did. I did not realize until we got married that I needed personal space. (Laughter) I really didn’t know that about myself. And I think anyone who feels the same way would also discover that. Once you get married, that you are with this person, it may not be 24/7, because you have jobs to go to or are going to college or doing different things. But for us, it was 24/7.

John: Wow.

Jim: We were slammed together.

John: So, was there a lot of discussion that had to accompany this revelation of yours, that I need space and I can’t be around Jim all the time? (Laughter) How did you deal with that?

Jim: Would you rephrase that question?

Jean: You know what? Well, no, that is a great question, John, because I think in a very healthy manner, you would have a great deal of discussion about that. But I think that first year I learned so much about myself and really was not a very good communicator, nor was Jim. So, we have had to learn through the years of marriage how to communicate to one another. So, no, I was just finding out about myself, that I needed time alone.

Jim: Well, yeah and I think expectations is [sic] a huge component and it’s one of the big parts of the devotional time, is thinking through questions. What are your expectations as a wife? What are your expectations as a husband? I think too few couples that are married, probably one to three years, have enough insight or desire to really delve into those questions in a way that makes the relationship stronger. That’d be one of our great, you know, if there’s any wisdom and pieces of advice, is for young couples to really understand each other’s needs and what are the expectations?

I think for Jean, let me speak to yours and you can speak to mine. I think in the expectation category for Jean, I think she felt that I would be there to meet 100 percent of her needs. And I realized I cannot do that. I can’t be her best girlfriend.

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: I can be her husband, but being her best girlfriend, that’s a different person, because I can’t get to that level. Is that fair?

Jean: Absolutely and I think many, many or most people and probably women go into marriage expecting that from our husbands, that they will meet 100 percent of our needs. And again, that’s not even conscious. You know, we wouldn’t say that, but you do go in expecting your husband to always be romantic and always be wanting to chat and (Laughter) always wanting to do whatever it is that you want to do.

John: Uh-hm.

Jean: And even fulfilling that spiritual need and no one can fill 100 percent of your need except Christ. And we just cannot expect that from another person, but we do. I think going into marriage—

Jim: Well …

Jean: –most of us go in very starry-eyed and as with any relationship, it is work.

Jim: Well, for Jean and I, you know, one of the most perhaps desperate moments in our marriage, we were three years, probably about three years married, 2 ½ years married. And I remember coming out of the bathroom getting ready at night, brushin’ my teeth and I come out and Jean was sobbing in bed. And you know, I feel like a rookie. I’m the worst husband; why is my wife sobbing in bed?

And you know, we had to talk about what emotion she was feeling and I didn’t understand it. She was feeling like she wasn’t a good enough wife and that I shouldn’t stay married to her. I mean, there were really I guess confidence issues. Jean, you can describe that. But I didn’t know what to do with that other than to say to her, “Hey, we’re not ever gonna get divorced, so we might as well do this happily, rather than unhappily.” But at the same time of that being a raw moment in our relationship, it also became a concrete moment for our relationship, that we weren’t gonna back out of this commitment we had to each other, no matter what. But it was unexpected on my end. You were probably feeling that.

John: Yeah, describe what—

Jim: What was happening for you?

John: –you were feeling?

Jean: I think again, probably like many people, I am able to keep my emotions pretty hidden or at least, kind of squashed down for a long time. And I think that’s what was happening in those first few years of our marriage. I’ve talked about how I really didn’t know who I was until I was married. I only really saw the positives in myself (Laughing) before my marriage.

Jim: I guess I’m good at point out the negatives.

Jean: And that’s a rude awakening. That is a rude awakening to find out all these negative things about yourself and all your imperfections. And you also do see those in your spouse, as well.

John: Now was this because you felt like you weren’t doing what you needed to as a wife?

Jean: Yes.

John: Was …

Jean: Absolutely.

John: It wasn’t necessarily Jim was point out—

Jean: Oh, no.

John: –all the shortcomings.

Jean: No, not at all, not at all. This was all about me and my insecurities. And I can’t even sit here and tell you what precipitated that and what all I was feeling. I just felt like a failure as a wife.

John: Well, Jim, you’ve shared a little bit of that story, but how did she express that to you? I mean, you …

Jim: Oh, through tears. I mean, again I was flustered, because I thought we were like living at a[n] A plus.

John: Oh.

Jim: I’m movin’ along going, this is great. I love my wife. She’s awesome. And coming out of the bathroom, you know, after brushing my teeth and seeing a girl really crushed and not understanding, okay, the first thing I thought of, what have I done?

John: Hm.

Jim: What role have I played in her sense of coming up short? And we had to just talk that through. And you know, I think that is a process. I don’t know that we’ve gotten over the goal line and meeting each other’s needs in that way. But again, what you find is that if you’re rooted in Christ, you begin to work on those things in a biblical way. And it sounds maybe too trite, but it is true. You start giving of yourself, trying to understand the other person. Help me better understand what’s happening here.

It doesn’t mean I’m perfect. I mean, I’m short-sighted in so many ways. You know, for me, the way I grew up, I think emotionally I tend to pull in. I withdraw. And I am not always that available to Jean and that came out in different ways. That was my thing. I wasn’t perhaps crying in a huddled mass in bed, but I just wasn’t connecting with her–

John: Hm.

Jim: –especially in her points of need over the next 10 or 12 years. There were moments when I failed.

John: So, for the couple listening who might identify with Jean’s point of need, where she’s thinkin’, I can’t stay married to you; I’m not good enough, it seems that so many couples just say, “Oh, okay; you’re right; it’s not working.” What encouragement do you have for ’em? I mean–

Jim: Yeah.

John: –what do you say to that couple?

Jean: I would say, it is so important to have the mind-set that we are in this for long haul. Had Jim come to me that night and said, “Well, okay, you’re right” (Laughter) “Let’sget a divorce.” Now as a Christian woman, I don’t know that I would’ve been able to go that route. I was struggling with that, but you have to have the mind-set that we’re in this in the long haul.

So, okay, we’re not going to get divorced. We can either live miserably or we can work to make this better. And that’s where you have to go outside of yourselves, outside of the marriage relationship in seeking help. And that can be through the Focus on the Family website. There are books, myriads of books, resources—

Jim: Counselors.

Jean: —counselors to help couples get through that. I love in this devotion, that there are so many plans for an advice for couples for communication. Especially, you’ve got those couples that are wondering if they can even survive their marriage. In this book they talk about the 10-minute plan for couples who really don’t even know how to communicate with one another. And I’ll read from the devotion that the goal was to help this couple in a way that fit their busy schedules. Three times a week they were to spend four minutes reading a recommended marriage book together. Four minutes having a positive discussion with no criticism. And two minutes praying. That was it.

John: Pretty simple plan.

Jean: Pretty simple plan, but it ended up for this couple, really transforming their marriage. And I think that’s what I appreciate about this book, the practical tips to help couples when they don’t even know how to communicate.

Jim: What’s the next step?

Jean: Right.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Let’s post that online, in fact, John–

John: Good idea.

Jim: –and that devotion, people can take a look at it. And I think that’s really the crux of it. How do you keep nourishing your marriage. I think to your question, when a couple feels like they come to the end of the rope and they’re only seeing divorce as an option, you know what? For us that claim Christ, that is not an option.

John: Hm.

Jim: And we’ve gotta transform the mind-set, that we can escape these relationships. It’s just not working for me. Now we know what happens for a variety of reasons and if there’s abuse or those kinds of traumatic things occurring, yeah, you’ve got to get space, perhaps that is the right option and a biblical option. But for those of us that are just struggling in our communication, we don’t understand each other, we’re coming from you know, different planets, you’ve gotta just dig in and do the hard work of investing in your relationship.

John: Well, and for those of us who claim the name of Christ, we’ve got to really pay attention to that spiritual component of the relationship. Now you’re both very, very busy and so (Laughter), yeah, it’s kind of ironic. You’ve written a devotional. I mean, how do you work together, before this devotional, how have you worked together spiritually so you’re on the same path and you’re walkin’ arm in arm and not two distinct orbits, where Jean, you’ve got the boys and the home and women’s groups and prayer groups and Jim, you’ve got the realm here at Focus and other places. I mean, how do you find the time to spiritually nurture your relationship?

Jim: I think one of the great things that Jean and I have shared is a commonness in our faith. We have always been kind of at the same spot, no matter the continuum of a Christian walk. It’s amazing that God knitted us together in that way. So, we started with a very similar core, a foundational core of our faith. We went to similar churches before we were married. We understood Scripture in a similar way.

And I think that has been one of the bedrocks for us. We’ve not had any disagreement um … in terms of our interpretation of Scripture, what Christ has done for us, all those core, core things. And I think that’s been a foundational component of our relationship and actually a breath of fresh air.

So, where the things that we struggle with will be more definitely our personalities and how God has created us and how we’re gonna work through those shortcomings that we each possess to become better for each other. And would you agree with that?

Jean: Absolutely I agree with that. And also, John, to answer your question …

Jim: More directly (Laughter) … that’s all right; that’s the scientist in you.

John: Yeah.

Jean: That the spiritual relationship has to be a priority. It’s so easy to push that to the side. We’re busy. Right, we have the kids. You have jobs, you have all of this. You’re tired. But we have found that we have to be very intentional. And you know, Jim and I have worked on this over the years. We have to be very intentional about reading the Word together and praying together and it is not easy for couples to maintain that. And it just has to be a priority. Just has to be a priority and maybe not doing that even every day. That’s great if you do that together every day, but that’s difficult with busy schedules and—

Jim: And kids.

Jean: –have to connect. You have to connect a few times a week–

Jim: Right.

Jean: –with reading together. And we do that as a family now at night—

Jim: Yeah.

Jean: –a few times a week that we read together with the kids. But you need to pray together. Praying together, oh, my goodness, it is so important for marriages, because you cannot be angry with someone that you’re praying with. You really can’t.

Jim: Well, and I love the statistics. When you look at the research, you know, couples that pray together and are reading Scripture regularly together, their divorce rate is less than one percent.

John: Ah.

Jim: That’s the evidence right there.

John: That’s huge.

Jim: That’s all you gotta do. I mean, it sounds simplistic, but if you’re doing those things, I think your heart is in a better position to love each other in the way God designed marriage to work.

John: And you know, Jim, as we close here, I’m wondering what final words of advice you might have for that couple. They feel like they’re just so different.

Jim: Differences are gonna happen, maybe even arguments are gonna happen, but always try to find that way through them that will actually make you stronger. And I think if you can do that, you’ve got a healthy relationship.

Jean: And I also think what’s key to that is remembering that we are imperfect people, each of us are imperfect.

Jim: Are you sure?

Jean: And that (Laughter) oh yes, I’m definitely sure. And that your relationship is long-term. It’s for the long haul.

Jim: Don’t give up.

Jean: And to realize that life isn’t easy. It just isn’t and how God uses all of the trials and tribulations. Iron sharpens iron. The Bible talks about that. How God uses all of this to grow us, to grow us individually. So, you know, a lot of it is just perspective, recognizing okay, I can either think this is difficult and I’m gonna hate this and I’m going to get a divorce or you know what? We’re imperfect people. God uses all of it for the good. So, let’s work out this like a team and find some humor in it and realize that your spouse isn’t the enemy.

Jim: And Jean, that is so true and if you can have that mind-set, then you can work toward not just surviving marriage, but a thriving marriage and that’s what is so important and that’s what we so desperately need in our country today and around the world.

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: And uh … I hope you’ve enjoyed this little inside look into our relationship. That’s a little unnerving to do, let me tell you, John. But I hope this devotional book, The Best Year of Your Marriage will feed you with what you need to do marriage better. And again, these are contributors from the various broadcast guests and friends of Focus of the Family over the years. Jean and I are really the editors of it and give our insight here and there. But I think it’s filled with wonderful information on how to communicate, how to love each other, how to see the weaknesses in yourself and how to build upon the strengths. And I think it’s a great gift and also a great devotional and Jean and I, we’ll use the themes in this devotional to strengthen our marriage. I hope you will, too.

Closing:

Closing Voice Track:

John: And I’ll tell you about getting a copy in just a moment. It really has been fun to hear the interactions between Jim and Jean. We see that up close and personal, if you will, here at Focus. I’m glad we could have that kind of fun conversation with you, our listener.

And The Best Year of Your Marriage is available from us. You can get a CD and download of today’s conversation, as well. Find out more about these resources to strengthen your marriage at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio .

And you know, today’s program has highlighted our mission at Focus on the Family to come alongside and provide you with meaningful advice that is built on biblical truth. Now recently we received an e-mail from a new listener to the program and she shared this with us.

She said, “Thanks for your radio show. I listen to “Focus on the Family” every day. I’m newly married and my husband and I plan to start a family soon. We’re both new believers in Christ and I’m encouraged to know that I can turn to your ministry and the resources that you provide when I face difficult challenges, as I’m sure we will. Thanks again.”

Well, we appreciate those kind words and we’re so glad that we can be there for this young couple. Now when you give to Focus, you’re helping us impact that next generation of new marriages and young families. And we’ll invite you to join our support team today by making a generous donation to this work.

Now today when you send a gift of any amount or make that online, we’ll give you a copy of The Best Year of Your Marriage as a resource for you or maybe to pass on to a new couple in your church, in your neighborhood or at work. You can contribute to the work here online at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800-A-FAMILY.

Our program was provided by Focus on the Family and on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back tomorrow. We’ll have Kathi Lipp here with us to give you some encouragement and hope in your mothering journey. Always fun to have Kathi in the studio. I hope you’ll join us then, when we’ll have more trusted advice to help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!