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Finding Hope in an Unexpected Pregnancy

Finding Hope in an Unexpected Pregnancy

Leslie Leyland Fields offers encouragement to those who are struggling because of an unplanned pregnancy. She describes her own experiences of becoming unexpectedly pregnant twice during her forties, and how she learned to trust in God's plans for her and her family.
Original Air Date: October 21, 2021

Preview:

Leslie Leyland Fields: It feels impossible. It honestly feels impossible in the moment that you discover you’re pregnant, that you can go through the next nine to 10 months, that you can, again, pour your life out to another child. It feels so far beyond your ability.

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John Fuller: Well I’m sure there are many who can identify with those feelings, and maybe you know someone who’s pregnant, uh, but they never planned to have another baby. Today on Focus on the Family, we’ll have a really honest conversation about surprise children. And your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh, John, there’s about six million pregnancies each year. Uh, they keep this data and somehow about half, 45%, almost three million, are classified as unplanned.

John: Hm.

Jim: And I never knew that.

John: I never knew that.

Jim: I mean, about half of the pregnancies are. Uh, that was my story. My mom had me at 42. I was the oops baby, always introduced, I can remember being four-five years old and my mom saying this is my oops child. I didn’t know why that was special.

John: Oh.

Jim: But sometimes it was a little, “Uh, what does that mean?” But it does mean that. This is an accidental pregnancy, one that was unplanned. This wasn’t what we were thinking at the end of our child rearing years.

John: Hm.

Jim: And, uh, so often on the broadcast we’re talking about teen moms and what they go through, the decisions they have to make, hopefully in a pro-life context and hopefully parents can help those children make those better choices, et cetera. But we often hear from people who have struggled at the latter end of their childbearing years and they’ve asked us, “Could you cover this sometime?” And we’re gonna do it today.

John: Yeah, there’s a whole other set of challenges and issues and emotions associated with being an older parent and you’re done with diapers and the kids are off in school and you finally get your life back and then, uh oh, I’m pregnant. And there, there’s just a lot there.

Jim: There is, John, and I’m grateful we’re gonna cover the topic today.

John: Well Leslie Leyland Fields is our guest and, uh, she’s been here before with us and we’re so glad to have her back. She’s a former, uh, university professor, an author and and international speaker. And today we’ll be talking about one of her books, uh, that really is quite powerful. It’s called Surprise Child: Finding Hope in Unexpected Pregnancy. And we do have copies of that here at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800-A-FAMILY.

Jim: Leslie, welcome back.

Leslie: Hi.

Jim: It’s so good to see you again.

Leslie: I am thrilled to be back.

Jim: Yeah. It’s so fun to have you.

Leslie: It really is. It really is.

Jim: Now, a lot of people, uh, they wouldn’t know this either, but you and your husband, you, uh, fish up in Alaska as your other job, along with everything else you’re doing. It sounds rather exhausting.

Leslie: It, well, some, sometimes it is. I, I really try not to think about it. My life has, has these, all these different compartments but they’re so, they all feed each other.

Jim: I love it. Salmon fisherman, university professor, speaker.

Leslie: Yeah. Now to me it works.

Jim: Do you sleep?

Leslie: No, it works. You know? It all fits together.

Jim: Well the sun doesn’t set up there for a long time, right?

Leslie: Not in the summer. Not in the summer.

Jim: Well it’s good to have you back. Uh, let’s jump into the story. You’re how old when you and your husband find out, oops, we’re pregnant, and what were your emotions?

Leslie: Yeah. I was, I was 42 and I was teaching. I was a English professor at University of Alaska and-

Jim: You, you were an English professor?

Leslie: I was.

Jim: Oh my.

Leslie: Please don’t be quite so shocked at that.

Jim: Okay. Well no, now I’m gonna have to-

John: We’re concerned.

Leslie: Now you’re worried.

Jim: I’ve got to speak a little more clearly and grammatically correctly. Don’t end with an LY. I already blew it.

Leslie: I, check your adverbs there Jim.

Jim: Yeah. My dingling participle? Is that a … I can’t … Anyway, so I always get nervous with a English professor who’s nearby.

Leslie: No, don’t worry.

Jim: Okay. Oh, wonderful.

Leslie: I’m not teaching grammar anymore so I’ve let go of the grammar police.

Jim: But you’re 42?

Leslie: Yeah.

Jim: And of course you already have four children?

Leslie: Yeah.

Jim: And what were their ages about that time?

Leslie: Yeah. So the youngest was five and this is the very strong hook. He was just about to enter kindergarten. So that was really exciting because that meant no more, you know, childcare.

Jim: You were feeling relief is ahead?

Leslie: Yes. Yes. Finally.

Jim: You’re gonna have some time to get back to normal?

Leslie: Right. Yes.

Jim: And your, your then five-year-old would be going to school and you’d have three-four hours to do things.

Leslie: He’d be going to school. I, I would have four hours of my own every day to do my work. And so that was the big, you know, relief at the end of this long tunnel. Four children, so they were, um, let’s see, Elijah was five, they were 12 down to five.

Jim: Okay.

Leslie: And then, um, yeah, I, I remember not feeling well, feeling exhausted and going to the drug store and picking up that pregnancy test. And I, I remember clearly just standing there looking at that double line. And it, it was like, “No. No. God, this can’t be happening.”

Jim: Yeah. And so you’re taking the test. I can’t imagine. I mean again, this is something my mother went through obviously and …

Leslie: Yeah, right about the same age.

Jim: Yeah, 42. Same age.

Leslie: Is that, 42, yeah.

Jim: So with that, I mean when you see that positive stripe, what went through your heart? What were your first emotions? Were you happy?

Leslie: No, no. That’s no. I, I, I was shocked because we were using birth control and we, we were done. We had given away all our baby stuff. We were onto the next chapter of life.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: And so the thought of starting over … And I had all those fears, I mean in those first few minutes you are crushed with all of these fears and anxieties, and you’re literally thinking 30 years ahead.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: I mean I’m literally in those first few moments figuring out, okay, how old am I gonna be when this child graduates from high school? I’m gonna be in my 60s. What? And, and that means I probably can’t retire, and that means, you know, I’m already projecting 30 years ahead in those first five minutes. And all …

Jim: So you’re already feeling like a failed mom before you even have this child?

Leslie: I am. I’m, uh, yeah. And then I, I feel like a bad mother already because I’m already, like I’m resenting this child. I don’t want this child.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: I’m having all of those negative emotions. And you know, the, I had never experienced those emotions before because my other four children were prayed for, were desired, wanted, uh, pursued, planned.

Jim: Oh yeah. Uh, Leslie, let me ask the question I feel like I’m hearing back through the microphones, is you know, as a Christian woman, someone who puts their faith in Christ, um, some women would be saying, “Why? Why would you be saying that? Why?” You know, God’s blessed you with this child. And I, I appreciate your vulnerability because I think many Christian women, and I’ll speak just to that audience. Now, I know there are non-Christians listening. I hope you receive Christ and those good blessings come your way. But, uh, that honesty is so refreshing. Let’s start with God, then we’ll move to your husband. We’ll keep it in that order. What was that talk like with God? What was he speaking into your heart? What were you wrestling with him about and how did he settle you down?

Leslie: Wow.

Jim: Or did he?

Leslie: Were you, you’re just looking straight into my heart into exactly what happened. I did wrestle with God immediately. You know, all of those fears and anxieties, I am aware that God is with me right now in this moment and I’m, I’m complaining. I’m lamenting. I’m saying all these things to him, and, and yet, there’s also this very clear sense that, oh my goodness God, what are you doing? It’s not what have we done. It’s not what mistake have we made. It’s God. What are you doing here? And even as I said that, I even had a sense of what the answer was. You know, I was teaching full-time. I had four young children. I was so kind of busy and crazy and exhausted. And you know, in some tiny part of my heart, there was a sense of relief of knowing, “Okay God. This is what you want.”

Jim: Huh.

Leslie: “This is what you want right now.”

Jim: How long was that process though? I mean, was that the first moments?

Leslie: It was the first moment and it didn’t necessarily stay with me the whole part of the journey.

Jim: Oh, your emotions got in the way?

Leslie: Oh, pregnant women don’t have any of those.

Jim: Yeah. So we’ll get to your husband’s response in a second here.

Leslie: Yeah. Yeah.

Jim: But, uh, that maybe a good opportunity. How did your husband react? What, I mean, he had to be shocked as well.

Leslie: He was. He was. And it was, the news was hard for him as well. You know, we’re both Christians. We’ve both given our lives to God. We both want to follow God and be obedient to God, but this was not our plan.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: And we both saw all the long-term consequences of it. And it was concerning to my husband, um, because he, he felt very clearly the, the financial, um, repercussions of that.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: And he was thinking, “Wow. This probably means we can’t retire when we were hoping to retire.” And so we both shared … And, and, I’m so glad, this sounds strange, but I’m so glad that my husband was as anxious as I was because we could really share our fears together.

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: Um, and some husbands might respond beautifully and say, “Oh honey. It’s okay. You know, God’s got this. We’re gonna be fine.” But my husband could join me in that hard place, in, in that dark place.

Jim: Yeah. Well I think we have adequately painted that pain you were in in that moment emotionally and what you’re anticipating physically. And at that point, you were contemplating the giving up of that late career. But a year later your child, the unplanned one, is about a year old and what happens next?

Leslie: Well, I did not give up my teaching career. I decided, “All right God. I have this wonderful baby Abraham who everyone in my family just absolutely fell in love with him.” But I-

Jim: That happens with the oops baby.

Leslie: It, it, yes, it … And I, we’re gonna talk more about that ’cause that’s, that’s the really important part. Right? Um, so I went back to teaching. I was a crazy woman. I shouldn’t have done that. Um …

Jim: But you’re trying to make it work, juggling all the balls again and …

Leslie: I am trying to make it work. I am trying to make it work.

Jim: Yep.

Leslie: Because I, I feel a strong call to teaching. It’s part of my ministry of serving and loving others.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: And I’m 43 and I’m not feeling well. And I think, “Hm, maybe it’s because I’m teaching an extra class this semester. Uh, well of course I’m tired.” And, and um, you can already guess the end of the story. I discovered I am pregnant again.

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: I am pregnant again. Abraham is a year old. I still have a baby and I’m pregnant again. This was … I, I mean, I was on the floor with this one.

Jim: So did you ever say to the Lord, “Lord, what did I miss last time that you wanted to teach me this time?”

Leslie: I did.

Jim: Did you ask that question?

Leslie: I did.

Jim: I was only guessing, but that would my first question.

Leslie: No. I did. And you know what I, actually what I recognized was that the Lord was really, was really speaking to me about my priorities and he was … I saw really clearly or I didn’t get it the first time. I went back to teaching and I probably shouldn’t have. It wasn’t the right time to go back to teaching. And I, I knew that God was calling me to step away for a while. I didn’t know how long for. I thought it was forever.

Jim: Yeah. Leslie, one of the things that you mentioned in the book, and, uh, again, this is extremely vulnerable. I appreciate your honesty. But with that second oops baby at 43, you had a thought that crossed your mind. What was it?

Leslie: Yeah. It was, um, you know, and as we’re talking, actually I was 44. I was 44 when I was pregnant, that second pregnancy.

Jim: Okay.

Leslie: I, um, it, it was a really bad time in our lives. We were going through so much upheaval.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: My husband’s job was in jeopardy. Our house was going through, uh, not just a remodel. It turned out our, most of our house was rotten. It had to be completely rebuilt, so our finances were devastated and I’ve got five children, I’ve got this baby, I’m trying to teach, I’m a wreck. It just was a really, really bad time. And now I’m pregnant.

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: And that added just an unbearable burden and in those moments I suddenly thought, I had this flash like, “Uh, this could go away. I know that this could go away. I could just end this right now before anybody knows. I wouldn’t even have to tell my husband.”

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: And so I had that thought. I had those moments of …

Jim: Where did that go? I mean what happened next? What convinced you not to move that direction? I mean, I think people when they’re honest with themselves and knowing your situation, I mean, of course, as a pro-life organization, as Christians, you know, we always talk about it never being the right solution. But the honesty of having the thought is what I’m really interested in. Obviously you didn’t do it. But I guess why the thought and why you didn’t do it?

Leslie: Yeah. Even within 10 minutes of thinking that though, I mean my soul in turmoil. My mind is turmoil. I am just on the floor before God and I know that this baby, um, isn’t mine. Uh, this child is my body but this his clearly God’s design. I’m not happy about it. I’m angry about it. I don’t know how on earth I’m going to make it through another pregnancy, but I know that this child isn’t mine to get rid of. And I know that God has some kind of purpose and intent through it, and that I was going to have to believe that.

Jim: So Leslie, what I’m hearing, it’s so important, you know, for men and women, but particularly women, because the burden is on them. Um, we can be supportive and we need to be, but that mooring, that anchor that you were attached to your faith in Christ kept you from making that decision I would think, that you recognized this is God’s way and it’s not, it’s not wrong. It’s just inconvenient and terribly disruptive to what I want.

Leslie: Yeah. And at, at the time, and I think every woman experiences this, any woman in an unplanned pregnancy experiences this, it feels impossible. It honestly feels impossible in the moment that you discover you’re pregnant, that you can go through the next nine to 10 months, that you can, again, pour your life out to another child.

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: It feels so far beyond your ability.

Jim: Hm.

Leslie: And the truth is it is. Right. It is beyond your ability. But the Holy Spirit who, who lives inside, it was, was very clear, you know, this child isn’t yours. You don’t get to decide. We, you know …

Jim: That’s an amazing statement to hear and to feel as a believer.

Leslie: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And in some ways it is a relief because you know it’s clear what the step forward is.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: The step forward is not what am I going to do about this baby? The step forward is okay Lord, help me. Help me through this pregnancy.

Jim: Help me. I love that.

John: And maybe you can relate to the dilemma that our guest Leslie Leyland Fields, uh, faced with her unexpected pregnancies. Maybe you have a similar struggle or a crisis in your family that you just don’t know how to deal with. Uh, please know that we’re here to help. Focus on the Family has a team of caring Christian counselors and we’re just a phone call away. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, where you can find out more at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. When you get in touch, be sure to check out Leslie’s wonderful book Surprise Child: Finding Hope in Unexpected Pregnancy.

Jim: Leslie, I love your honesty because I know the struggle is real for many women, choosing between a career or a child, it’s tough. Which is most important? Where are your priorities? But you know, in the end, I think it’s obvious.

Leslie: It is obvious and it’s what is most important right now. And so after that second pregnancy, I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I’m walking away from teaching. I am not, I’m not going back.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: And there was a bit of relief in that clarity. Like, you know, you get up in the morning and we, we want to do God’s will. That day, we want live out God’s will. God, what do you have for me today? So every morning that I got up with this child inside of me, I knew what God’s will for me was that day.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: To love this child that I was carrying, to care for this child and to care for the children that God had given me and the husband that God had given me.

Jim: Yeah. Leslie, you know, so much our culture is screaming the opposite direction right now, and, and feminist groups will say, “You can’t have both. You know, you can’t have a baby and have a career and the better choice is the career because you deserve it,” and this is what women’s rights, it’s what it’s all about is exercising that choice of career over a child. It’s devastating. I think it’s so anthelical to the heart of a woman, that it does tear them apart, even those people that support choice in that way. What do you say to that young woman, that 25-year-old, that 28-year-old who, you know, is having that choice today?

Leslie: I think that the voices in our culture put us in a false dilemma. I don’t think it’s an either-or and we have to see that we have a lifetime ahead of us. When I stepped out of teaching at 45 and I happily and willingly said goodbye to my career, and I thought that was it. Well, interestingly, God literally hand delivered to me another teaching job two years later, but I could teach from home.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: It was a part-time job that I could teach from home. And it was in a graduate program and it was exactly used all of my education, my abilities and my gifts. I’m now 63 and God has so prospered my career and my calling beyond my wildest expectations. And I thought at 45, that’s it. I’m done. I’m not gonna be a professional anymore. But God had other plans for that as well.

Jim: Yeah. And it’s so amazing, and I think God smiles when we show faithfulness toward him. That’s what he’s looking for, will you trust me. And when we do, man, I think the Lord just responds with that blessing, whatever it might be. Just peace in your heart, you know, and I think that believer has that, uh, relationship with Christ available to them. Leslie, let me, uh, capture our conversation because I think it paints that picture so clearly. You’re on a flight with, overhearing some women. What, this really is typical, right. So what happened?

Leslie: Yeah, yeah. Yeah, so I was, um, I was pregnant. This is my second pregnancy. I’m, uh, flying off to a conference and I hear these two women just a couple of rows behind me and they’re talking about potty training. And they’re talking really loudly about all the details of their, of their, their toddler’s potty training. And I remember sitting there thinking, I was just feeling so embarrassed, um, for them and embarrassed for womankind, that, that …

Jim: Well that’s good. Embarrassed for them.

Leslie: Yes.

Jim: I thought you were gonna go the other way.

Leslie: No. No.

Jim: You felt embarrassed for yourself?

Leslie: Uh, no.

Jim: I like that.

Leslie: I, I … Yes. I felt embarrassed for all women that, you know, here the, like this, two women are together. They’re obviously really good friends and like this is, this is what they’re talking about together on a plane so loudly that everybody can hear? And, and I realized in my mind, I, you know, there was this judgment and this, um, kind of again, a, a prioritizing like I was more important because I was heading off to a conference, you know, and they’re discussing potty training. And that’s that voice of the culture sneaking in that says, “Raising children is not nearly as important as going to speak at a conference.”

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: And, and I recognized later that those voices are such a lie. Um, those voices that say, “What we’re doing is hard work of loving and kids and changing their diapers and feeling them in the highchair and carrying them in the backpack and cleaning toilets.” All this is, this is beautiful work in the kingdom of God.

Jim: And it’s brief.

Leslie: It’s brief.

Jim: And those are brief things that pop up, the big chores.

Leslie: Yeah. Yes. Yes. And when you’re, when you’re the woman in the midst of that, you know, it feels like it goes on forever, but it doesn’t.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: So I’m really here at the other end to say that time is going to zoom by.

Jim: Well, and I think Leslie, the, the difficulty I struggle with when I look at the broader culture today, and, and you see the denigrating of motherhood, but the next generation comes through mothers. I mean, dads are wild cards. I know we got our issues and our problems. But if we lose the heart of women for their children, we’re doomed.

Leslie: We are. There is no future. There’s no future of the planet.

Jim: And it feels like we’re getting closer to that.

Leslie: Yeah. Yeah.

Jim: And, you know, it is. The next generation comes through the love and physically through a woman.

Leslie: Yes.

Jim: And, uh, it breaks my heart that young women particularly are not seeing the value of that.

Leslie: We think that when we’re pregnant and, you know, we’re about to birth this child and we’re gonna spend, you know, pour out our, our lives for this child, we think that our life is going to shrink. We see a career as a big life, a life that’s out there. It’s a public life everybody can see and everybody values that. And we think that having a child suddenly confines us to the home and that it’s a small life.

Jim: Yeah.

Leslie: And I have found the opposite to be true, that my life has grown and expanded. I have become smarter and wiser and deeper of a human being because of my children.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Leslie: Every one of my children has grown and stretched and made my life bigger.

Jim: That’s the reward. And you know, uh, that scripture John 10:10, the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy, but I have come that you would have life and life more abundantly. And even, you know, with your honesty, you said it, you had that moment where the thief almost got his desires. But you slammed the door and now your two children have life and they have a purpose and they have a future and they, I know, have life more abundantly because of the home they’re being raised in. How old are they now?

Leslie: They’re about to turn 18 and 20.

Jim: Oh I love it.

Leslie: 18 and 20. It’s, but they’re still my, you know …

Jim: Oh yeah.

Leslie: I mean, they’re, they’re grown up.

Jim: Yeah. They’re special.

Leslie: They’re special. They are. And you know, these unplanned babies end up being special because I think, because you have to fight harder for them.

Jim: Right.

Leslie: You pray more. You cry more. You cling to God more. And they end up being more.

Jim: I’ll add, just for the first borns and the middle borns, we’re all special.

Leslie: You are. And, and my other four children. Right. Please.

Jim: So don’t, don’t write us.

Leslie: Please. All my other children.

Jim: But God loves you is the point you’re making.

Leslie: Yes.

Jim: Leslie, this has been awesome. Thank you for coming all the way down from Alaska and that wonderland up there to spend time with us to talk about what God has shown you, and your great book, Surprise Child: Finding Hope in Unexpected Pregnancy. This is a book for most women and I’m sure many boyfriends and husbands too. Um, but the girl who’s 16-17, um, that young woman, you know, 27-30, and then maybe, especially, that 40 something who’s having that oops baby. Thanks for being with us.

Leslie: Oh, I’m so glad to be here. Thank you.

John: And as we said earlier, uh, be sure to reach out to us if we can offer our counseling services to you or, uh, other resources. We do, of course, recommend Leslie’s book. It is, uh, full of great stories and encouragement. And we’ve got that at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: And John , let me just remind everybody, like we often do, if you can make a gift to partner with us in the ministry, uh, we’ll send you a copy of Leslie’s book for a gift of any amount, just to help us. Let’s continue to help women make, uh, the Godly choice when it comes to their pregnancies and, uh, the babies that they carry into this new life. And, uh, also, uh, option ultrasound.

John: Hm.

Jim: What a great program that is here at Focus on the Family.

John: Yeah.

Jim: We have been doing this for 16 years. We’ve saved almost a half a million babies. It’s $60 a baby. Man, it makes me teary eyes thinking about it. We have the metrics. We know what we’re doing in this regard, working with these crisis pregnancy centers around the country who are in the trenches every day. Support them if you can. Look them up in the phone book if you have a Christian, uh, pregnancy center near you. Volunteer time, volunteer your resources, help them because they are helping women each and every day make that right choice for life. And what we do is come alongside and provide that ultrasound machine so that they could provide a picture of their baby. And 54% of abortion minded women, abortion minded women, that go into those clinics for a free ultrasound will choose life. You hear God saying, “Do it?”

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: I hope so. $60.

John: Yeah. That can really make such a difference. Uh, donate online or give us a call to learn more about how together we’re helping save pre-born babies every day through option ultrasound. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. And online, once more, we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And this reminder as you, uh, contribute to the work here, we’ll say thank you by sending a copy of Leslie’s book, Surprise Child. Coming up tomorrow, encouragement, uh, for you to be a bold witness for Christ in your everyday life.

Preview:

Jason Benham: See, Satan knows that how you see yourself will determine how you behave yourself. So if he can convince you as a believer that you’re not a full-time minister, that you’re just an insurance salesman or you’re just a real estate guy or you’re just a stay-at-home mom, or whatever, and he can convince of that, then that’s how you’re gonna act.

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Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!