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Offering God’s Hope to Families With Prodigals (Part 1 of 2)

Offering God’s Hope to Families With Prodigals (Part 1 of 2)

Representing three generations of prodigals, Pastor Bill Putman and his son, Pastor Jim Putman, candidly discuss the difficult challenges they and their families have experienced, and offer practical advice and encouragement to families with prodigals. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: July 29, 2019

Opening:

Teaser:

Woman: My sister’s a black sheep in our family.  She was raised a Christian, but gave it all up one day.

Man 1: We don’t really talk about Jamie anymore.  I mean, we still pray for her but it’s hard to have hope.

Man 2:  It broke my parent’s heart when Dave left.  He was always in trouble, doing drugs, stealing — you name it.  We don’t even know where he is right now.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Hmm, well, maybe you understand the pain and sorrow in those comments when a child grows up and wanders off or totally goes off the rails. We call them a prodigal. And we’re going to talk about how you can love your prodigal child today. This is Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. And I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, this may be one of the Number 1 topics for parents, right? This is that sore spot, that weak spot in us when we feel like failures because our kids have gone off the rails, whatever that means. And we’re going to help define it, first of all, and then speak to the attitude of the heart. You know, when you look at God’s attitude toward us, it’s amazing because in some ways we’re all prodigals until we make that proclamation of faith and begin a sanctification process. And even along that journey we’re gonna fall. We’re gonna have our difficulties, but the Lord encourages us. He keeps us, hopefully, from stumbling in the future. But it’s going to happen. And he is there to pick us up and to help us. And for us as parents to try to do that, I think it’s that human factor. It’s hard to continue to love someone who’s struggling, especially when it’s our own child. I am looking forward to a really tough topic and discussion today.

John: Yeah, and this is something that affects so many Christian parents. I think, Jim, most of the folks that I know from church and even a number of here at Focus are struggling with this. Dena and I have had some real wrestling with concerns about where is this child going to go, how are they going to land, will they ever come back to the Lord? So these are serious things, but you look to the Lord, you trust him. And we’ll hear more about doing that today with our guests.

Jim: Well, the Bible is so clear. All of us have the responsibility to help restore a brother, sister, son or daughter who is struggling in sin and walking away from their faith. The question is how to go about doing it. And today we have two special guests – pastors actually – Bill and Jim Putman, who are father and son. And I understand, Bill, that you’ve been a pastor for more than 50 years. That’s big!

Body:

Bill Putman: Well, you know, it’s easy to call yourself a pastor, and sometimes those sheep listen and sometimes they don’t. (Laughter)

Jim D.: That’s right. And, Jim, you’re 30 years pastoring!

Jim Putman: Yeah.

Jim D.: So 80 years between the two of you, father and son. That’s incredible! You know, thanks for being here at Focus!

Jim P.: We’re glad to be here.

John: Hm. Well Jim Putman is the co-founder and senior pastor of Real Life Ministries, which is a thriving church in Idaho. And Bill serves as part of the ministry as well.

John: Jim and Bill have each written several books. And they’ve written one together. It’s called Hope For The Prodigal: Bringing The Lost, Wandering And Rebellious Home.

Jim D.: All right – let’s get into it, um, and we’ll get into more of the prodigal story. And for those that may not be believers, that’s simply that great story in the Bible where the son leaves, takes his inheritance and goes and squanders it all and is deemed the prodigal. He comes back with the loving father embracing him…

John: One of my favorite stories.

Jim D.: …And he’s restored. Yeah, it’s a great story for all of us because we’re – like I said – we’re all in that role until we embrace Christ and bend our knee to him and follow him. And that’s part of the human experience.

So let’s go to the definition, I think, of prodigal. I think that’s a good place to go. Bill, um, how do you define prodigal? I tend to look at more the behavior and say if you’re, you know, doing drugs, premarital sex, drinking, acting out in those ways, that’s the classic definition of the prodigal, but you go a bit further.

Bill: Well, my – my belief is that there are some children that are – are not prodigal but they’re broken, circumstances have happened in their life that caused them to doubt God and their parents or their church, and they’re the walking wounded.

Jim D.: Yeah.

Bill: And then there are those who rebel, those who see and feel and understand but reject what you’re offering, whether it be the offering of God or the offering of your family.

Jim P.: Well, when you look at the national statistics for the church – Barna does those, and I think we see that all over the place – people are going to church one time a month, 20 percent are involved in any kind of Bible study or whatever, kids from those families are leaving the faith.

Jim D.: Well, just to put – I think 18 to 29 year olds it’s, like, 70 percent – it might be 18 to 24 – but 70 percent roughly – Dr. Kara Powell there at Fuller.

Jim P.: Yeah, well, and when you look at it, Christians are almost as likely to get divorced, just as likely to get depressed, just as likely to be addicted. So the question is who’s really a prodigal?

I would say the story of the prodigal sons is more like the name of it because you’ve got – you’ve got the son who ran away, but you’ve got the son who stayed at home but still didn’t love his father, didn’t have the heart of his father, didn’t have, uh, what – you know, I remember he said, “Your son – he’s not my brother – has come back.” He wouldn’t even come into the party.

Jim D.: He was a rules follower, the older brother.

Jim P.: Yeah.

Jim D.: He thought he got there that way.

Jim P.: Yeah. Well, he said, “I’ve slaved for you. I didn’t do this because I love you. I didn’t do this because there’s any relationship.”

So you’ve got those who are outwardly prodigal and those who are inwardly prodigal. So from my perspective,  when you think about this story, I would almost have more hope for the one who is prodigal out there in the world – broken – than the one who thinks he’s fine but doesn’t really have the heart of God. And when I look at Christians, in general – even the ones who don’t leave – because there’s a big debate over how – what’s the percentage of kids who actually leave. If the statistics for the church are accurate, those who stay, I think, oftentimes are still prodigal. They just go to church once a month and, uh, say they’re Christian, but they don’t have a real relationship with Jesus Christ.

Jim D.: Yeah, that’s interesting. The good news for – and I think it’s important to mention this …

Jim: And again, Dr. Kara Powell at Fuller has done that longitudinal research. And, you know, a good deal, about 50 percent, of those who leave do come back by at least age 40. I think they’re studying further into those, uh, 40-plus years to see where those young people are at. But many come back.

Jim P.: Yeah.

Jim D.: And that’s – that’s the hope we all have.

Bill: Well, the question that comes to my mind is, uh, were they ever there?

Jim D.: Well, that’s fair. I mean, uh…

Bill: In other words, did they ever really known love the Father?

Jim D.: Yeah.

Bill: Or did they – they were just raised in a home. He was the one who provided for them. But in a – from the Christian perspective, so many of these people that are sitting on a pew, they really do not know and love the Lord Jesus Christ. And so to say, are they a prodigal or are they a prospect?

Jim D.: Yeah – interesting

Jim P.: Great question.

Jim D.: You also mention in the book this idea – and, again, the terminology – I want to make sure we define it for people who may not be familiar with it but, uh, the spiritual fruit. And for a Christian, that’s the fruit of the spirit as we call it – love, hope, joy, kindness, mercy, patience, goodness, all those attributes of Christ. How do you uh, view the fruit of the spirit or the spiritual fruits of a person? It’s pretty critical to know if you’re walking with Christ that you possess these things.

Bill: Well, I – my son was raised in a home by parents who didn’t have a clue how to be a parent. And… I was molested at 10.

And I thought my parents and my God and my church knew. And it was by a pastor. And I withdrew myself from everybody from that point on to the point of suicide at 21. And then my wife comes from a broken home with a broken parent and a mother who raised her by herself. So we had no clue. And all of a sudden, we have five kids in six years.

Bill: And here we are. We’re parents. We don’t have a model. We don’t have – the model was there, but I had rejected it. We don’t have any clue on what we’re doing except making babies.

Jim D.: Well, Bill, I mean, this is important because a lot of people come into marriage with brokenness. I would say many, if not, all. There’s some bit of brokenness in this. And sometimes there’s a lot, like in your story. How do you begin to say, “OK. I may come from that background, but I’ve got to move forward?” What were some of the signs in your own parenting that you knew you had a deficit?

Bill: Oh, I felt as though I didn’t have a clue. And so I put my investment in helping other people’s children…

Jim D.: Mm.

Bill: …By being a pastor. And that was my emphasis. And my wife was left trying to be the parent. And until Jim was, uh, needed – it needed for him to be out of the home. And a daughter was, uh, raped. And a daughter was pregnant at 14. And I had a nervous breakdown. And we had $96,000 in uninsured doctor bills 34 years ago. We came to the point where we had to decide that we had to work on our self.

Jim D.: Why? Define that. ‘Cause we’re gonna turn to Jim in a moment here.

Bill: Because, you know, I had the feeling that if I lose my son, I’ll lose the other four children. And if I lose my son, I’ll lose my credibility as a pastor. And if I lose my son, my primary goal was to be a good dad.

And so when my wife and I came to that place, the elders came to us and said, you guys are in trouble, yeah. So they took care of the kids, and they sent us to a conference. And we didn’t go to any of the things. We went to interview people that were significant witnesses to us, asking them what would you do the same, what would you do the difference? And then we would go and talk about that, and we came home with some goals that not just I could have or she could have, but we could share. And that was the beginning of healing in our home.

Jim D.: Well, we’ll come back to that, because I want to hear some of the great advice, like Proverbs – wisdom, it sounds like.

Jim, you’re the son. You’re a wrestler. You’re an athlete in high school. And, uh, doing your own thing. Describe it from your vantage point as the son who is not embracing the faith, breaking your parents’ hearts, I would believe. Uh, what was going on for you at that time?

Jim P.: Well, you know, looking back, part of this is a discipleship problem. My dad had a Bible college degree, but he was a first-generation Christian, and he wasn’t discipled. Discipleship is…

Bill: No, uh, I want to correct that. My parents were Christians, but it wasn’t transferred to me because I rejected them at 10 years old. And when they wanted to try, I wouldn’t listen. And when I wanted to listen, my father was so defeated, he had nothing to say.

Jim D.: OK. Wow. That’s a big statement there.

Jim P.: Um, yeah. I’m not gonna disagree with him in public. (LAUGHTER) Uh…

My version of what Christianity is is a little bit different than just taking people to church and not – and praying at dinner. So they were that, but he was – he didn’t know, uh, what even parenting – for whatever reason, he didn’t know what it was supposed to look like. But he got a Bible college degree because you’re mature, if you have a Bible college degree, in that culture. And so he’s trying to figure out balance. My biggest issue with my dad was my dad was sincere. He was always sincere. He was always trying his best. Now – but I don’t remember a meal growing up where we didn’t get a phone call or somebody didn’t come to the house in the middle of that meal.

Jim D.: So your time was always interrupted by others.

Jim P.: Yeah. And it was because my dad didn’t understand saying, “No,” to the church is not saying, “No,” to God, but he didn’t understand those priorities. Now, as time went on, uh, he starts to figure that out, because he’s asking people, he’s doing all this stuff, but by then it’s too late.

Jim D.: You know, Jim, let me ask you this. And we’ll continue with your description. But so many times, I think we as fathers particularly, we think, well, this is – you know, this is life. This is how life is busy. And the kids will understand. We justify it because we don’t think it’s that harmful. We don’t think it’s going to be a long-lasting impact on them. It’s only going to help somebody tonight and maybe Wednesday night and maybe Thursday night (laughter). But we tend to justify it, is my point. How did you feel as that child, that you weren’t getting that time with your dad? Did you recognize it?

Jim P.: Well, I was angry at the church. Plus, here’s the other part of it. My dad was sincere. He lived out what he said.

Jim D.: Uh-hm.

Jim P.: But then as you start to – as you’re in the church, you start hanging out with other people in the church. They’re not. They’re going to church. They have one language at church. They have a different language at home.

Jim D.: Right.

Jim P.: Or at work. And so you’re starting to hang out around these kids, you’re spending the night at their house, you’re doing this stuff, and you start to go, “My dad’s a freak.” Maybe he’s like one of those wacky guys because he’s really committed. You know, he believes in Jesus. He’s talking about Jesus. Every answer is Jesus, right? But  he’s the only one.

Jim D.: How old were you when that distance became palpable for you? You knew you were on a different road, and you were kind of rejecting God.

Jim P.: Well, one of the things that goes with the story is my dad and my mom both had to work. They weren’t paid very well by the church. Five kids. We had a lot of alone time. And when I was a very young child, things got into my house that should’ve never been in a house of an 8-year-old.

Jim D.: And you’re the oldest of the kids?

Jim P.: Yeah.

Jim D.: OK.

Jim P.: And it started things in our – my sister’s and my life, and the neighborhood kids and things that should have never been there because my parents were so busy working, and things got in.

Jim D.: Jim, let me say, though, I mean, how does a parent – now that you are one…

Jim P.: Uh-hm.

Jim D.: How does a parent build a sufficient fortress that those forces don’t get in? I mean, we’re all pulling our hair out with social media and digital stuff and pornography that’s available at the fingertip. How do you succeed at blockading those things?

Jim P.: Well, there are different things now, obviously. Uh, I think nowadays people don’t have as much relationship, so it comes through the media and all the different kinds of things – the television and all that, all the attacks come. Back then, we lived in a culture where we had relationship with a lot of kids, with very little, uh, attention by the parents. You know, kids got to run all over, do whatever. And so through the relationships of the kids in our neighborhood, things got in. And so I had a lot of shame and a lot of guilt in my life added to, “My dad’s overly busy, and I feel like I’m a zero.” And I have to find something that I’m good at. And I don’t – and I’m a pastor’s son, so I don’t want to be good – I don’t care about being good at what he’s good at. That – to me, that was something completely different. So I chose athletics.

The problem was, because of the shame and, um, the anger I felt towards God, what had been – come into my life, my dad, mom, constantly busy, people abusing my parents, you know, because they were pastors, they didn’t preach the right sermon, they didn’t say it the right way, but then they’re not serious about what’s going on in Christianity, but my dad is.

Jim D.: So you would hear and see that?

Jim P.: Well, yeah. You’re in a glass house, but you’re also involved in seeing people have conversations about your parents. There’s all these things that are attached to this. So I’m going, OK, I don’t care about any of that. I don’t like any of that. But I have to have something that I’m focused on. So it became athletics. The problem was that because of the shame and the guilt, because of the anger, didn’t matter how much I won. And I won a lot. It didn’t satisfy. And so…

Jim D.: ‘Cause it wasn’t solving the problem.

Jim P.: No, it – now, it gave me intensity to push towards my goals, but then the more I would achieve my athletic goals, the emptier I felt, like this isn’t the solution either, but I’m not going back. And so then that led to, uh, a lot of alcohol and drugs and premarital sex. All the things that the culture says you need to be a man, I started going after those, but then that just sucked me in deeper into a hole.

Jim D.: Yeah. Bill, let me turn back to you, as Jim was experiencing that departure. I’m not sure what age – 15, 16? How old were you when that…?

Jim P.: Ah, I probably started when I was 13, 14 years old.

Jim D.: 13, 14. You and your wife, how were you emotionally managing that? I mean, we have a rogue child here. What are we gonna do?

Bill: I have a strong wife. `

Jim D.: Right.

Bill: And she has a weak husband. And she would get up at 5:00 in the morning, and she and the Lord would have her devotions. And she would read books to me, and, uh, sometimes she’d get in a paragraph, sometimes a chapter, and my wife was my pastor. I had a couple of mentors that never let me go, never gave up on me. Uh, I – I’m sorry my strong son had a weak father. But, uh, out of all of that, it didn’t start to get well until I went and got some help. And I began to, instead of focus on my defeats, start asking the Lord to rebuild me. And then my wife, she said, “Lord, whatever it takes, that’s what we’re gonna do.” And we didn’t realize how much it was gonna take to reclaim our children.

Jim D.: Bill, uh, if you’re willing, really talking into those conversations with you and your wife. I mean, again, many people are in that spot. And I don’t think there’s a formula that produces a good child, a perfect child. There are things you can do that have greater predictability that your children will be healthy. That’s for sure. Love – all those important components. But what were those discussions like between you and your wife, as Jim was going astray? I really – uh, because I want to touch the hearts of those listening because they’re having those discussions right now. And they may not recognize that they’re weak, like you did, Bill. I mean, they’re still in the forefront of this battle.

Bill: And I think they’re hiding in their own addictions, whether it be TV or sports or jobs or false goals.

Bobby and I, there were times when all we had left was to hold onto each other and cry in our bed. And then whichever one could get control first would ask the Lord to take our children. But until I recognized that the only one I could change was me, and I began to ask God to make me a miracle and then to bring love back into my marriage, which we’d taken so much time off for our children. And then to be able to come to the place where we were able to turn our children over to the Lord who loved them more than we did. That was the beginning place. But if we hadn’t had the church, and the real deal – there’s a bunch of phonies out there sitting there just so broken. They want to believe, but they don’t. And they want to practice on Sunday, but they go home on Monday, and they screw up.

Jim D.: Well, and…

Bill: And it was true.

Jim D.: …Yeah, but it’s true, I mean, when we talk – and, Jim, you mentioned this – I mean, the things that you see in the church that are hypocritical. The reality is Christians are hypocrites because we can’t live a perfect life. We’re trying. We’re striving. Some do better than others. But the – the real label is we all fall short of the glory of God. We’re sinners saved by grace, so we’re gonna have times that we fail.

But in this regard, um, I like what you’re saying there, that we have to concentrate on ourselves. And that’s what you did. That’s the message today. And this is part 1 of part 2. We’re gonna come back, Jim, and talk more with you about this relationship. But what I’m hearing you say today is it’s really fruitless to try to straighten God out or straighten your kids out. You got to straighten yourself out.

Bill: I would say having that experience at 10 years old where I lost my father God, and I lost my father and I lost my church, the people that I respected, because of the molestation and my withdrawing into myself — my growing up was when I came to Christ after an attempted suicide at 21, it was God that I was afraid of. And it took me years to come to the place where I could understand who he really was as a father and let him be my – my father and that I could begin to copy him instead of trying to live up to unrealistic expectations for myself and putting them on my children or on the church.

Jim D.: There was one point – and this may be a good way to end today, with a little ray of hope. And we will come back next time and talk more, if you’re willing to do that. Um, but there was a wrestling match that you went to I think in Chicago that really changed the tone of your relationship between the two of you. Set that up and – and describe it. Then, Jim, I want your response as the son. What happened?

Bill: Well, he was in national championships in wrestling. And we were so far in debt, but my mother loaned me the money to fly out there and go to the tournament. And when I got there, it was just one more thing I didn’t think was going to work, one more way I could try to support him in his goals and hoping that he would see how much I love him, how much I needed him in my life. And when I arrived the plane was late. And I got there in the middle of the tournament. And he saw me come in through the door. And he ran across all the mats. And he picked me up, and he kissed me. And I would say that that was one of the best times in my life as a dad.

Jim D.: Man, that’s powerful. I feel it. And, Jim, what was going through your heart? Why then? Why did that make such an impression on you?

Jim P.: Well, I mean, to kind of set the context of this, my dad’s dad was an authoritarian, never told him he loved him once in his life. Well, maybe just near the end of his life, that he was proud of him. And, uh, so my dad told me he loved me every single day. So – but, again, that was like – like, a given. Your dad tells you he loves you every single day. He swung the pendulum from being a disciplinarian to being overly loving and trying to – to chase and pursue and all those things.

So it didn’t mean anything until prior to that, I had come to the place where alcoholism and everything had taken over. And all the friends that I thought I had weren’t really friends. And I wasn’t a believer. And he – because he never quit on me and he did love me in practice, when the rest of the world falls apart, like the Prodigal son, you know, nobody would give him anything after he’d spent all his money and everything on all these so-called friends,

the guy I’d hurt the most was the only one left standing. And the only reason he was left standing is because he didn’t allow me to pull him off the rock, so to speak. When he started working on himself and his relationship with God and Mom, there was a stability that he had that everyone else I knew out there in the world didn’t have. And as I started to live that life, I was drowning. But the one guy I’d hurt the most was still on a rock, still on – had a relationship with Jesus or something real about that that I couldn’t deny. And even though he should not love me after everything I had done, the humiliation – a lot of times I did it on purpose – he was still the one who showed up. And it, you know, it starts to dawn on you, whether you agree with his faith or not, something’s strong in him that normal people and I didn’t have. And he still loves you. And no matter how I tried to burn down the bridge, he would never let it be burned down, enough that he would take time away and come all the way over to watch something that he really didn’t understand. My dad didn’t understand wrestling. Didn’t…didn’t know…but he wanted to be there for me. And so this being on the rock, focusing on Jesus, being strong enough to keep loving, even when they don’t love you back, is what finally built a bridge that now he could start putting things across. Like, he could start answering my questions on how he knew there was a God. He could start answering questions on how do you know Christianity’s true?

But it was built on a continued relationship that he never let be burnt down, continued love relationship that finally I said, “You know, I will listen to what you have to say. Even though I’m not sure I agree, you have at least earned the place in my life to – to pass over to me the reasons why you believe what you believe.”

Jim D.: There’s so many, uh, good things going on in this relationship. I mean, that’s what I’m sensing underneath all of the tough stuff. I mean, there’s objectivity between the two of you. You really know where you’re at. And so often people aren’t there. I want to come back next time and kind of uncover that, where people are still living in a bit of a cloud. And the ability to see yourself is so critical.

I love this quote – and I’ll end with this – in the book that you wrote, Hope For The Prodigal. You said this, “If our children could become spiritually mature Christians by our parenting alone” – which is so often our attitude – you go on to say, “They wouldn’t need Jesus to be their Savior.” And so many of us as parents are trying to have perfect children. But kids need to walk what God has for them so they can experience his salvation, as you’ve done, Jim.

This has been terrific. What a great opening, uh, to the discussion. Let’s come back again and talk more. Can we do that?

Jim P.: Great.

Closing:

John: Our special guest today on Focus on the Family pastors Bill and Jim Putman, and we’re hearing part of their family story, and we’ll look forward to next time and the continuation of that story. Right now though, order an audio copy of our entire conversation along with their book Hope for The Prodigal when you call 800232-6459. That’s 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Or, stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to learn more.

Jim: John, I wanna recommend our listeners get a copy of the Putman’s great book. It’s so powerful and filled with so much Bible based encouragement for today’s families. We can give you a complimentary copy of Hope for the Prodigal when you send a financial gift of any amount to Focus on the Family. It’s our way of saying thanks for partnering with us to equip and strengthen hurting parents. Hopefully like we’ve done today, and I also want you to imagine how many more could be touched through God’s hand of providence when we work together to bring hope and practical resources like the Putman’s book to hurting families. So please, be generous with you support today.

John: We really appreciate your partnership, and you can donate today at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. We can also connect you with one of our Christian counselors if that would be beneficial to you. Call so we can set up an initial consultation, and they can hear your story, pray with you, and direct you to resources in your local area. Coming up next time, more from our guest about what you can and cannot do for your wayward child.

Teaser:

Jim P.: You can do your part. God’s gonna do his part. If they won’t do their part, then you’re gonna end up in this place where eventually, they have to choose that.

End of Teaser

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!