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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Transforming Lives and Hearts Through Hospitality

Transforming Lives and Hearts Through Hospitality

Dr. Rosaria Champagne Butterfield encourages listeners to utilize the power of hospitality to share the Gospel with their neighbors in a discussion based on her book The Gospel Comes With a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post-Christian World.

Opening:

Excerpt:

Rosaria Butterfield:  …and we’ve neglected people. You know, we say family of God, but then our Christmas dinner looks like everybody whose last name is…

Jim Daly: The same.

Rosaria: The same.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And that’s not family of God.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Rosaria Butterfield is our guest today on Focus on the Family. Your Host is Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, I’ll never forget how I felt when my high school football coach, Paul Morrow, offered to adopt me. I was 15, and both my parents had passed away, and I was living with my brother. When Paul said he and his wife wanted to adopt me, uh, my heart was uh… it was just like, wow! I can remember thinking, “What in the world does he see in me?” In the end, I offered to turn Paul’s offer down so I could stay with my brother ’cause I thought it would hurt his feelings, but man I wanted to go. The point is this, the simple fact that Paul had invited me into his family and into his home, gave me an incredible amount of hope that I mattered to somebody.

John: Well, you had spent so many years just kind of um, making life on your own terms without the support of family. I can’t imagine that sense of hope and light that came into you.

Jim: Well true, and it just gave me that sense of belonging I guess. Our guest today had a similar experience when they invited her into their home. It changed everything for this woman, and maybe that’s why I identify with it so much. Her name is Rosaria Butterfield. At the time, it was the late 90’s. She was living proudly as a lesbian feminist. She had no interest in God and considered Christians to be the enemy, kind of intellectually inferior, but when a Christian couple, Ken and Floy Smith, offered Rosaria the hospitality of their home, it caught Rosaria’s attention. She ended up accepting Christ as her personal savior, and it completely turned her life around all because of a simple dinner invitation.

John: It is a tremendous act of love to open up your home, and uh, earlier this year we heard that full story from Rosaria and a couple of other broadcasts about hospitality. The conversation we’re airing today is a continuation of those first two discussions. I recommend you listen to those other programs through our app or online. Uh, Rosaria is an author, speaker, pastor’s wife and home school mom, and she’s written the book Gospel Comes With a House Key. And, here’s how we started that conversation.

Body:

Jim: Help us understand why you are so passionate about hospitality. You know, we read that in Scripture, and we think, yeah, be kind, be joyful, be hospitable, OK. And we keep moving.

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: But it is the…

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: …Key…

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: …To unlocking the heart of…

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: …Especially nonbelievers.

Rosaria: It is. And it’s also connected to what it means to be a radically converted person in this post-Christian world.

Jim: Why?

Rosaria: Here’s why – when I share with people what Ken and Floy Smith did for me in my conversion process – now, we – I don’t believe that I’m discipled into conversion. I don’t believe that, you know, it was a casserole that brought me to faith. It was… (Laughter) it was the spirit of God…

Jim: Yeah, this is love.

Rosaria: …Which is a supernatural – you know, the power of heaven coming down to save a sinner like me.

But the highway that that traveled on was Ken and Floy Smith’s tireless Christian hospitality. I was in their home at least weekly for two years. And while in their home, I would argue with them. And after I would argue with them, I would go back to campus where I was a professor at Syracuse, and I would demean them. I would mock them. And I would go back the next week and do it again.

Jim: So you said yes. You go to the home.

Rosaria: I said yes. And…

Jim: And boom.

Rosaria: And week after week, it’s the sort of – it’s the same thing. Lots of people come in. Good food, simple food – sort of like how I cook – simple food, but plenty of it. People come in. They talk. Then at a certain point, the – you know, the Bible’s open, the psalter’s open. They sing the Psalms exclusively – four-part harmony. The aesthetic beauty of the Psalms was compelling to me. And the words, quite frankly, were disgusting… (Laughter) I don’t know what else to say.

Jim: To you at the time, right.

Rosaria: To me at the time, absolutely. And, um – and after years and years of that – and I talk about this elsewhere – something happened. The Bible got to be bigger inside me than I. And that’s what changed. And when I came to Christ, I did not stop feeling like a lesbian, but I knew Jesus was who He said He was.

Jim: Yeah.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And so that’s conceptually what it means. And what it means practically is that for the last 17 years of marriage, Kent and I have just done this thing that we thought was normal. But we, you know, we are in the world, so we know that Christians don’t think it is.

Jim: (Laughter) Right.

Rosaria: And so we sort of – so think of this book as our coming out party, if you will. Um, so for – when Kent and I got married, we were the only believers in our extended families. That means that we were lonely people.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And – and our commitment to family of God meant that – that we believed that our home was a place where a family of God gathers, not by invitation only, but organically and regularly. So we started practicing daily hospitality with our family of God from the very beginning of our marriage. One of the nice, little, old ladies in the church had bought us one of those little guest books (Laughter) that you fill out. Well, after four months of marriage, we had filled it up entirely. And we looked at each other and said, “We’re gonna throw this sucker away…

Jim: Get a new one.

Rosaria: …And we’re” – no… (Laughter) we’re never gonna get a new one because we’re gonna have God keep these tallies… Jim: Oh, wow.

Rosaria: …Because there’s something about keeping these tallies that is going to spook us…

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: …Because we were noticing then a crisis of loneliness in the church.

John: Hm.

Jim: Rosaria, you talk about the importance of having a solid Christian community – your church…

Rosaria: Absolutely.

Jim: …I believe you’re referring to as part of your support network. So we’ve – you know, we’ve kind of hammered the – the maybe less-informed person and their protective nature and their boundaries perhaps being a bit too staunch, too wide. Let’s talk about the importance of that community helping you.

Rosaria: Yeah. No, and, I think that’s really key – that – that – that none of this happens apart from covenant membership in a Bible-believing church.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Rosaria: …That I am not talking – this is not a hospitality book about how to decorate or how to cook for 50 people or how to take in stray pets, although you’ll get lots of tips about all of those things. This is really about what it means to be a covenant member of a Bible-believing church and to live in such a way that your neighbors take notice.

You know, I – when I lived in Syracuse, everybody knew who had the good snow-blower on the block.  (Laughter) You didn’t have to know anything about those people but to know they had a good snow blower. And you know what? That snow-blower really came in handy. What would it mean if your neighbors, trying to navigate this post-Christian world, said to themselves, “I don’t know what it is about the Dalys. I don’t know what it is about the Butterfields but their church family – that – they organize daily at their house. There aren’t lonely people there.”

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: “There’s no sense that their Christmas is not just people who have the last name Daly or Butterfield. (Laughter) And, you know, I can’t even get a handle on some of the people that are in that house, but they love each other. They help each other. They’ve done really good things for our neighborhood. They’ve been earthly good to us.”

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: What if our neighbors could actually say that? And what if we could then talk about, “Well, you know what? We are a family.”

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And we believe what the Bible says in Mark Chapter 10, Verse 28 to 30. This is where Peter  says to Jesus, “See? We have left everything and followed you.” And Jesus said, “Truly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or lands for my sake and for the Gospel who will not receive a hundredfold now in this time houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands with persecutions and, in the age to come, eternal life.”

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: This is why I say the Gospel comes with a house key. See that hundredfold that Jesus promises there – that isn’t Ephesians 2. That’s not every spiritual blessing. I’m all for every spiritual blessing. I do want that. We need that. We need union with Christ. But this is very material – houses, brothers, sisters, lands, your neighbor who comes to Christ and leaves her lesbian partner – well, she’s lost – houses, sisters, brothers and lands. And the Gospel that you’ve called her to requires no dual citizenship. The Gospel comes in exchange for the life you once loved, not in addition to it.

Jim: Wow.

Rosaria: But if you’re not there – Church, if you’re not there with that hundredfold blessing, then you are leaving her vulnerable to, among other things, a gay rights movement that says, “Well, we’re family. We gather. We don’t ask questions.” And so I think what’s – what happens is that we’ve really gotten off our path. We have started to privilege the family of biology over the family of God.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: We have forgotten that the blood that pumps our veins whole is the blood of Christ, and the blood that organizes our family is the blood of Christ, and we’ve neglected people. You know, we say family of God, but then our Christmas dinner looks like everybody whose last name is…

Jim: The same.

Rosaria: The same.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And that’s not family of God.

Jim: That’s interesting, and it’s a hard thing. It’s a hard rut to get out of. It’s a worldly rut. It’s a human rut, and yet, God is calling us to something more.

Uh, Rosaria, we need to get to some of the examples, and I’m going to manage the end of the time here. So I want to see the proof in the pudding.

Rosaria: OK.

Jim: Share a couple of the stories of the neighbors and what has happened and how their lives have been transformed.

Rosaria: Yeah. Well, I’ll tell you. I – I think the proof of the pudding is in whether Jesus has been glorified.

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: We’ve seen people come to Christ in unlikely situations. We’ve also seen people come to the table in unlikely situations. We’ve had neighbors come up and say, “You know, Kent, I was a little girl once in a Baptist church. And 30 years ago, I heard that Jesus saved sinners just like me, and I just thought that – that was ridiculous, but …  I’m I’m curious. Do you think Jesus is still waiting for me?”

John: Hm.

Jim: Wow.

Rosaria: You know…

Jim: It opens up the dialogue.

Rosaria: It opens up the dialogue.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: I’ve had neighbors come and say, “Hey, can we come over and talk? We just heard that our neighbor was diagnosed with cancer, and it seems so unfair. He’s –  a single parent. Where is God in this suffering? Can we just come over and talk about that?”

Jim: Yes.

Rosaria: And then that’s the conversation. The whole family comes over, and they say, “Where’s God?” And that’s what you talk about.

Jim: And in this, the reality is, there’s going to be some tough stuff.

Rosaria: Oh, yes.

Jim: I mean, Jesus didn’t call you to easy.

Rosaria: Yes.

John: Yeah.

Jim: He’s calling you to some messy, messy stuff.

Rosaria: Yes.

Jim: In fact, you had a break-in, right?

Rosaria: Yeah. We sure did. We sure did.

Jim: You had – you had – somebody broke into your house and took things that were precious to you.

Rosaria: Yep, all of my jewelry.

Jim: How did you process that? Did you  have a discussion with your husband, saying, “OK, maybe we need to close this down a little bit. Too many people know what’s going on at our house.”

Rosaria: Yeah – funny (laughter).

Jim: I mean, that’s the fleshly way to look at it.

Rosaria: Yeah. It is. It is. I mean, in addition, we’ve adopted teenagers out of foster care, one out of a gang, you know? How – do you ever look at the holes in your walls and see an image bearer as the – you know, do you look at the children in your neighborhood who eat all the Pop-Tarts and drink all the milk and don’t wipe their feet, and do you think, “That might be my future pastor someday?” (Laughter) You know, these are the questions that you have to go through because that’s what it means. I think, ultimately, when you apply the eyes of faith to the facts of life, it doesn’t make the facts go away, but it does transform them.

John: And just this reminder that we’re talking to Rosaria Butterfield today on Focus on the Family. Her book, The Gospel comes with a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post Christian World is available when you call 800, A, FAMILY. Or, stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. During our conversation with Rosaria, we asked the studio audience if they had any questions for her, and here’s one about hospitality in the midst of a busy schedule.

Chad: Hi. My name’s Chad …

Rosaria: Hi, Chad.

Chad: And I live here in Colorado Springs. And I just wanted to ask you a question. I serve at a church in suburban America. You, as a mother who homeschools and is busy – I’m just curious, like, what do you say to the soccer mom who is very busy already or the classic suburban families who are just so full and just…

Rosaria: Right.

Chad: The constant response I get back is I don’t have time for hospitality so…

Rosaria: Right.

Chad: …How would you respond to that?

Rosaria: Right – absolutely. That’s perfect. I have – in the audience right now is my 15-year-old son. (Laughter) So he might be able to answer this better than I. So yes. I homeschool. At about 4:30, I am done. And they are done also. (Laughter) My son can attest to that, right? You know, I am, like, beating my head against the table.

So really, we are all so grateful to just turn the page on homeschooling at about 4:30. And it just works really well. I’ll tell you what we will never be in my household. We will never be Olympic-level soccer players. (Laughter) I’m just telling you. We do two things. We practice the piano. And we work out at the local Jewish community center. (Laughter) And we walk our dogs. So that  working out…

Jim: You get some exercise.

Rosaria: We get some exercise. We are musically literate. And that’s it. That’s it. But that also means that we are available for after-school care. Every neighbor knows that. And the children whose families are going through hard things – they know it, too. They know they’re welcome for dinner – no questions asked. There isn’t a question about that.

And so for our whole family – but including my children – my two younger children – they’re 12 and 15 – they are stakeholders in this hospitality ministry, in part, because they want to be done with homeschooling at 4:30, too – but also because they care about their friends. They care about their friends who are not yet believers. They care about the boy in the neighborhood who’s getting bullied. They’ve got their ear to the ground with kids in ways that I don’t. And they know how to invite them. They’re the bridge to them. So I would say,  as Christians, there are a lot of good things that we can be doing. And it’s good to do good

But it’s even better to do the best. In the book, I talk about a situation where we were friends with a neighbor across the street who – it turns out he was running a meth lab. That was a really big deal. It meant that our neighborhood became the subject of a – you know, both legal and emotional crisis. The children were confused. I mean, if you’ve ever seen a meth lab be taken apart, it’s like a Gothic novel on a level you can’t imagine. Our house was wrapped in crime scene tape for a year. The children had questions. Neighbors had questions. And so it just was more important. I think what really happened was, in that crisis, the souls of our neighbors and how as a Christian household we could help navigate a Christian perspective on suffering. It was just more important than soccer. It just became a bigger deal.

And so, I think it would just be – that’s just the question. It’s the question of – of the legacy you’re leaving, and where you’re going with this. Also, you know, we’re a family made up of adoption and foster care. There have been lots of times in our house when we’ve had to just stop what we’re doing because we are about to adopt a child who stands a foot taller than I do. Two of our children came to us at the age of 17 out of foster care.

Rosaria: We’ve had a lot of well-meaning Christians say a lot of really silly things like, “Isn’t that dangerous?” or “I hope it works out.” I mean, what does that mean, “I hope it works out?” If you’re obeying God, it’s working out, whether there are holes in your walls or not. You know, we’re not going to win the image necessarily, but we want to win the souls.

Jim: Well, Rosaria, also in that context, it’s not about owning the outcomes…

Rosaria: No, it’s definitely not.

Jim: …It’s about being faithful in your journey.

Rosaria: That’s right.

Jim: And that’s important because I think as Christians we tend to wanna own the outcome.

Rosaria: We do. That’s true.

Jim: If we do A plus B, then we get C.

Rosaria: That’s true. And I think we also tend to think that our children are not capable of being engaged in ministry, that somehow we think that for our children, they would be better off if the idols of acquisition and achievement were powerfully theirs, when really, you know, you want your children to know Jesus, to know he’s not some prop you pull out for Sunday morning. And you want your children to know, no, we don’t do this in our strength. We do this in the strength of – of Christ alone.

And so I think it’s just a matter of focus and priority. But I also think – again, I say this in the book – that there are seasons when our house looks different. I mean, when we had just adopted a teenager out of foster care, we weren’t having 25 people over. You know, right now we’re home-studied sufficiently that we have prisoners from a minimum-security prison who are on a five-hour pass at our home at every Thanksgiving and Christmas and Easter and major holiday. Um, these are also brothers in the Lord who have tied into our church, who worship with us when passes allow.

It’s serious, though. If we take a walk with the dogs, we need to tell, the prison guard needs to know exactly where we are. And he’s shown up. He’s shown up while we’re walking the dogs – no kidding.  But when you – when you live openly like this, you know, your children see faith in a different way. You know, when you live Hebrews 13:1 through 3, you just can’t look at a soccer tournament the same way again. And so I think that’s what God does. In ministry, God gives you something better to look at. And that’s helpful.

Jim: That is good.

Yeah. You know, in your book, Rosaria, you talk about  your relationship with your mom, especially at the end of her life. As I read the book, I saw that there was a lot of pain in that relationship, and yet, at the end, there was a lot of joy.

Rosaria: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: Describe what happened and how hospitality became a part of that.

Rosaria: Right. Right, right, yeah, absolutely. Well, so, I was raised by two very committed atheists. And, um, so when I wrote Openness Unhindered – that’s the second of the two books – uh, the two books on sexuality – my mom read both of them. And she said, “Rosaria, I’ve got two things to say to you. If anything was going to make me a Christian, it would be one of your – your two – the two books that you wrote. Um, but I’m not weak like you.”

Jim: The typical statement.

Rosaria: “I’m not weak like you. And so, here’s the other thing I need you to know. I’m dying, and I want to die my way. And I want to know if you’re going to let me die my way because that’ll determine how much proximity you have to me. I’m going to die my way. I have lung cancer, and I have – I don’t know – six weeks left.”

So that’s what my mom said to me. And, you know, this is – this was a very – uh, and I describe it in the book – it was a very difficult relationship. Um, and this was a very scary moment for me because it was no longer theoretical. My mother was dying.

Here’s where a Christian family really comes in. My children – my believing children – those – those are the two youngest of my children – they prayed for her, and they could share the Gospel with her with an openness that was – it was disarming to me.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: But things got very intimate when hospice came, and things got very quiet when hospice came. Um, I was certainly not throwing dinner parties. I wasn’t talking with neighbors. I wasn’t walking the dogs. I had tucked myself into a little chair in the corner of a room. And in that little corner of the room, I would sit with my Bible and my Psalter. And my mother would – has always loved to hear me sing, and so I would sing to her. I had favorites from my Psalter that I would sing.

Rosaria: And – and – and we were in a hospice center, and the nurses would come in and say, “Um, do you mind if we leave the door open? There are some other residents who would like to hear you sing.”

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: And so, um, I would do that. And then a few days later my daughter, who was 10 at the time, she auditioned to play the piano at the hospice center. And she would play hymn tunes. And as I would sing and my daughter would play the piano – um, and the door was open and my mother would listen – um, ambulance drivers would stop and take their hats off and come in and say, “Ma’am, I know the bass part to this – to this psalm. May I sing it with you?” (Laughter) Um, the, um, lesbian-identifying nurse with the haircut that looked a lot like mine and the heart that resembled mine from 20 years ago had a beautiful alto voice. And she would sit with me and sing psalms to my mother.

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: And my mother was a member of a group called the Hemlock Society. That’s the right-to-die society. And she had friends who wanted to know why I wouldn’t just do what needed to be done, push that morphine button, put the pillow in a different place. And I decided at that moment that anyone who was going to call was going to have to call through my cellphone. And so I put the do-not-disturb sign up, and I sang, and I read. And then one day, my mother sat up, and she said, “OK, I’m weak like you. Now what?”

Jim: Wow.

Rosaria: And I said, “Mom, I don’t – I think you know the Gospel. I just don’t think you know the shepherd.” And she said, “OK, that’s probably right. Why don’t you tell me about the shepherd?” And at that moment onward, my mother wanted to hear nothing but Psalm 23 sung to her by her daughter and the word of God read, especially by her son-in-law, whom she, quite frankly, despised until three days before she died.

Jim: Right.

Rosaria: And she made it clear to us, too. I mean, she was not – my mom was not a, uh, you know…

Jim: She didn’t mince words.

Rosaria: I’m a little bit like her. She did not mince words. That’s right.

And then, one day, she said, “OK, I think I understand the shepherd. But what in the world am I going to do with my sin? And please don’t tell me we’re calling in a priest!” And then I shared with her what repentance means, what it means to see that Jesus is already there, sitting at the right hand of God the father, arms open, resurrected, crucified and resurrected, that when we repent of our sin, all we do is prove that God was right all along. And so two days before my mother died, she committed her life to Jesus.

Jim: Wow. That is powerful. And I love…

Rosaria: And that was all the Lord.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: …Because here’s the terrible thing about witnessing to a family member. They know your sin better than you do. You’re the worst witness in the world.

Jim: Right. Yeah, well, which again, uh, points us to Christ, the redeemer of all.

Rosaria: Amen.

Jim: …Even us sinners saved by grace.

Rosaria: Amen.

Jim: And that’s the point. And I hope this has touched, uh, your heart, the listener. You might be in that spot right now, where you’re not sure. We’re here at “Focus on the Family.” Call us. Let us talk with you. We have caring Christian counselors who can help you, uh, sort through what it means to have a commitment to Christ, what it means to lay your life down for him, and then what it will mean to pick it up and to live in such a way that the Gospel can shine through you.

Rosaria,  thank you so much for this wonderful book, The Gospel Comes with a House Key. I think it’s one of the most important messages for the church right now. And it’s just like the Lord to say, “Bring it back to the basics. I’m about relationship. I want you to be about relationship, so together we can save souls for eternity.” Isn’t it…

Rosaria: Yeah, amen.

Jim: …That simple, and yet, that difficult? And you have, uh, put it in reach for all of us through this great book. It’s been great to have you with us.

Rosaria: Oh, it’s my pleasure. Thank you so much. And I just praise God for the ministry here at “Focus on the Family.” And it’s my honor to partner with you when – whenever y’all call me back to Colorado (laughter).

Jim: Yeah, that’s it. It’ll be soon.

John: Well, we hope the conversation today has made you feel more equipped to show Christ like hospitality in your everyday life to neighbors, family members, and everyone in between and as Jim mentioned there, if you’d like to speak with one of our counselors of find out more about becoming a Christian, please reach out us. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And by the way, our team is very busy, we’ll probably have to schedule a time for them to call you for that free consultation.

Jim: And let me mention this, John. The reason we’re able to provide those free consultations, is because of our generous team of donors. If you financially support Focus on the Family, let me say thank you so much for making a difference. If you’ve never given to Focus, would you consider joining the team? Every $24 you give will help someone in crisis. So please, consider giving today, and if you can give a gift of any amount to Focus on the Family, I’ll send you a copy of Rosaria’s great book, The Gospel Comes with a House Key as our way of saying thank you.

Closing:

John: And again, our number is 800, A, FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or online you can donate at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Well next time on this broadcast, encouragement for moms who struggle feeling anxious and stressed.

Teaser:

Mrs. Amber Lia: I’m one mom. I am the best mom for the job because God gave me these kids.

Jim: He chose you.

Amber: He chose me, and so I don’t need to be stressed.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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